love and logic matt kendra anne carol becky. norms that teachers must address when forming a...
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Love and Logic
Matt KendraAnneCarol Becky
“Norms” that teachers must address when forming a discipline plan…
Norm 1: Students have rights Don’t let them feel like you are violating those
rights
Norm 2: The future is not an extension of the past Old management strategies that worked for your
parents (or you!) don’t necessarily work now
Norm 3: “It’s not my fault!” Some students may need to be taught how to
place blame on the appropriate source
Norms Cont…
Norm 4: Achievement determines worth What we do is an extension of who we
are, not what we are worth
Norm 5: I see, I want, I believe I deserve Students are used to deserving
privileges Much more value in getting what you
have earned
Common Myths of the Classroom…
Myth 1: Students must be warned in advance of the consequences for violating rules. Specific consequences don’t deter students Use fair, appropriate consequences in each situation
students can tell you if it isn’t fair
Myth 2: When students break the rules, consequences must follow immediately. Time to cool down Come up with appropriate consequences Don’t put stress on yourself to deal immediately
Myths Cont…
Myth 3: It is not necessary for students to like their teachers. However they should respect them. What would you do to shine for someone
you love?? Perform for who you love—and if you
don’t love yourself yet, perform for your teacher until you do
Purpose of Love and Logic
Puts Teachers In Control Teachers wait to deal with misbehavior
Teaches Kids To Think For Themselves Teachers question instead of talking Students do the talking Students come up with their own solutions “The brain that does the thinking grows the
dendrites”
Purpose Cont…
Raises The Level Of Student Responsibility Students take responsibility for their
misbehavior and their learning Student ownership
Prepares Kids To Function Effectively In A Society Filled With Temptations, Decisions, And Consequences Students deal with problems as they
would in the “real world”
Purpose Cont…
Develops Better Relationships With Kids Teachers are no longer the “bad guys” Teachers and students are on closer
levels Leads to improved cooperation
The Three Rules of Love & Logic…
Use enforceable limits
Provide choices with limits
Applying consequences with empathy
Using Enforceable Limits…
Tell the kids how you run your life not how they run theirs
The students will have to make their own decisions and live with the consequences
Provide Choices w/ Limits…
Give two choices you likeDelivery is important Give them ownership of their choice Examples
Your welcome to _____ or _____. Would you rather _____ or _____.
Wording (Changing Your Garbage to Gold)…
Unenforceable Statements Open your books to
page 54. You can’t go to the
restroom until I finish the directions.
Turn your assignment in on time or you’ll get a low grade.
Enforceable Statement I’ll be working from
page 54. Feel free to go to
the restroom when I’m not giving directions.
I give full credit for papers turned in on time.
Savings Account…
You give choices The choices add up You make a (withdrawal) choice that
overrides
Applying Consequences with Empathy…
There is a problem Identify who’s problem it is Show empathy Offer a positive relationship message
Consequences Vs. Punishment…
It takes pain to make changes Outside to inside Inside to outside
Punishment causes outside to inside pain, which causes feelings of revengeConsequences are internalized. The child has caused their own pain with their choices
Four Principles…Enhancement of Self Concept
Expectations Two main ideas
It is fragile and easily broken It is conservative & resistant to change
StrugglingShared Control
Cooperation Choices with limits
Must be legitimate Equally acceptable to giver/receiver Give all with equal “pizzazz”
Principles Cont…
Give Consequences with Empathy Sometimes pain must come before a
change will be made Student’s choice
Shared thinking Questions-think of level (Bloom’s) and
involvement in learning If we provide adequate time students
will often come to same conclusion as the adult
“I don’t have time to work with children in the Love and Logic way.”
Love & Logic teachers consistently report less time is spent on discipline as skills increase.
Finding Time for Love and Logic Discipline…
So What Do We Do?
We stick with it! You control the discipline problems,
they do not control you.
Trick to controlling the time you spend on discipline is related to your ability to:
Building positive relationships Set enforceable limits through
enforceable statements Share control Stop behaviors in their infancy,
avoiding the need for consequences Delay Consequences
Why We Delay Our Approach…
Student is emotional, not thinking right
Teacher more stressed taking time away from activities
Student gains control by controlling teachers activities
Basic Rules…
Meet with students on your timeOwn termsShort, sweet interactionsAsk brief questions
Anne, Kendra, Matt reading… = )
Dealing with kids that feed off each other…
Make a list of students involved and prioritizeDivide & ConquerOption for disruptions Move the leader Go to first student Go to next student Continue until student thinks he/she can
stay and behave
Implement the “One Sentence Intervention”…
Notice positive and personal attributesDo this a couple of times a weekExperiment w/ “____, will you stop doing that just for me?Heart to heart w/students after school to solve entire problem