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Loving Confrontation

Dealing With Offense


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Behold, the Lords hand is not shortened, cannot save; Nor His ear heavy, That it canhear. But your iniquities have separated yyour God; And your sins have hidden His f

from you, So that He will not hear. For youare defiled with blood, And your fingers winiquity; Your lips have spoken lies, Your tohas muttered perversity. Isa. 59:1-3


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Sin, separates us by its very nature. Sin is relation breakingGen.3 death IS

separation and the first sin was the first

in relationship Cains sin was a break not just against G

against his brother. Gen.4


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Sin is the fracturing of ALL our relationswith God first and others second.

The first commandment was to Honor Gabove all and place nothing before Him

Love is the opposite of sinlove is the of the breach between two parties. in

we were yet sinners.Christ died


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Leviticus 19 speaks to relationships andthey are tied to the law of God.

You shall not hate your brother in yourYou shall surely rebuke your neighbor, a

bear sin because of him. V.17

This is parallel with love thy neighbor a

thyself


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Avoidance causes us to bear sin.

Avoidance causes further separation

Avoidance causes a breakdown in worship

Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, an

remember that your brother has something agyou, leave your gift there before the altar, and way. First be reconciled to your brother, and thand offer your gift. Mt.5:23-24


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Moreover if your brother sins against yand tell him his fault between you and

alone. If he hears you, you have gained

brother. Mt.18:15


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Love counteracts sin and its effects, loves GOE

All of the law can be summed up in love

Teacher, which is the great commandment in law? Jesus said to him, You shall love the LoGod with all your heart, with all your soul, and

your mind. This is the first and great commandAnd the second is like it: You shall love your neas yourself. On these two commandments hanLaw and the Prophets.


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This love thing has been overlooked in lieureligion. Its easier to perform an external

religious act than it is to love. But Jesus di

religious when it came to our sin and sepa

LOVE got REAL! My sin wasnt an inconvenfor Him, nor was it just awkward or

uncomfortableLOVE said He had to die!


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Why because LOVE demands a relationshi

Love seeks out and lays down its own wilcomfort for the need of another.

Love says NO! to separation, it will not alloanything to break the bond it shares withanother.

We are ok with separationGod is not. HJEALOUS!


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So what do we do about separation in ouIn our walk with God? In our relationship

marriages? Our children?

LET LOVE ARISE and repair the breaches t

separate!


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Leviticus 19 speaks to relationships andthey are tied to the law of God.

You shall not hate your brother in yourYou shall surely rebuke your neighbor, a

bear sin because of him. V.17 This is parallel with love thy neighbor a

thyself


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It takes great love to confront someone It takes great love to be gentle and kind

wronged and see Gods highest purpos

worked out.


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A most sober warning by Jesus in thesedays:

And then many will be offended, will beone another, and will hate one another

many false prophets will rise up and demany. And because lawlessness will abothe love of many will grow cold. But heendures to the end shall be saved. Mt.2


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The 3 results of an offended heart are: 1.Betrayalthe loss of loyalty and covena

faithfulness

2. Hatredselfishness and superiority: los

covenantal oneness

3. Cold Loveloss of covenantal passion a

vision


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Failure to confront our offenders meanwill betray the relationship, we will ma

talk behind their backs to others, expos

their weaknesses. In time we become f

revenge and bitterness and seek some

get even. Or even worse, we just pull aw

and are content to live separated from

we have been called and joined to.


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No one plans this. No one says I think become hard and cold today But yet m

find themselves in that very condition m

because we failed Mt. 5 or Mt 18!

Opportunities for offense abound! Dail

are given the challenge to walk in love

offense.


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The only solution is to have the unoffenheart of Jesus.

He was woundedyet never offended!

A wounded spirit is different than a offespirit. A wound becomes an offense wh

handled in a Christlike manner.

THINK! Jesus linked apostasy NOT to wr


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A brother offended is harder to win thastrong city, And contentions are like the

of a castle Pr.18:19


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Beware of false teachers but even moredeceitful than a false leader is a heart w

is offended. (Jer.17:9)

You will swear your not hurt, and you k

you are living with an offended heart.

You have lost your fire, you become crit

cynical, harsh and cold. You are waxing


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Offended hearts are not thankful for anand become angry and disappointed at

everything.

Husbands.

Wives..

Many of our offenses are built around f

expectations.


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What if God offends you? 2 Kings 5 Namaan a Syrian General wa

offended by God

Why would God offend us? To give us Mgrace!

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