Keeping relationships healthy is when confusion or problems come up...they should be deal with immediately because that little bad seed can grow to be a horrible issue that could burden the entire relationship in the long run or end it. There are occasional mistakes in all relationships but as long as they're solved things can work out. Most people insist that the most important part of a relationship is actually communication but I consider sharing the most important part of a relationship. Communication is simple the ability to share express and listen to your partner at all times. Fairness is much more important then simply communicating because fairness keeps balance and harmony in the relationship. Make a list of emotional qualities to counterbalance your tendency to be critical in response to someone's criticism of you. To get you started, here are some possibilities: receptivity openness tolerance patience. If one of these qualities fits for you, a beginning step is to started, here are some possibilities: receptivity openness tolerance patience

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If one of these qualities fits for you, a beginning step is to practicing it. If your partner becomes critical, and you find yourself beginning to react, STOP. Here are the steps:

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Take some deep breaths. This will help calm your nervous system.

In your mind, say the quality you are trying to embrace (tolerance) over and over again.

Practice being tolerant by getting an image in your mind's eye of someone you know or admire who is tolerant.

Make sure your facial and bodily reactions match the picture in your head.

Say something that expresses tolerance. For example, "I hear you", " I'm listening" or "I want to."

Sheldon Z. Kramer

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