Man Up:Man Up: Applying the Definition of Authentic Manhood

to Real Life

Definition of ManhoodDefinition of Manhood Reject passivity

Where is Adam?Where is Adam?1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said to the woman, “Indeed, has God said, ‘You shall not eat from any tree of the garden’?” 2 The woman said to the serpent, “From the fruit of the trees of the garden we may eat; 3 but from the fruit of the tree which is in the middle of the garden, God has said, ‘You shall not eat from it or touch it, or you will die.’” 4 The serpent said to the woman, “You surely will not die! 5 For God knows that in the day you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.” 6 When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate. 7 Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked; and they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loin coverings.

Definition of ManhoodDefinition of Manhood Reject passivity

…she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked….

Accept responsibility Though Jesus was in the form of God, He did not

count equality with God a thing to be grasped [to cling to, or use to His own advantage], but instead He emptied himself, taking the form of a servant, and being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. (Phil. 2:6-9)

Definition of ManhoodDefinition of Manhood Reject passivity

Accept responsibility

Lead courageously The devil took Jesus to a very high mountain and

showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and their glory. And he said to Him, “All these I will give you, if you will fall down and worship me.” Then Jesus said to him, “Be gone, Satan! For it is written, “‘You shall worship the Lord your God and Him only shall you serve.’” Then the devil left Him, and behold, angels came and were ministering to Him. (Matt. 4:8-11)

Definition of ManhoodDefinition of Manhood Reject passivity

Accept responsibility

Lead courageously

Invest eternally … look for the greater reward Jesus said, “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on

earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” (Matt. 6:19-21)

…for the joy that was set before him, Jesus endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.” (Heb. 12:2)

Mission Possible, Part 1Mission Possible, Part 11) Teams of 5-6: Brainstorm what passivity looks like

For sphere specified on Chart 1 (10 min.)

Move to Chart 2 … expand on first team’s list (10 min.)

We will focus the brainstorming in five areas of life, including:

Faith,

Family,

Work,

Church,

Community

Mission Possible, Part 2Mission Possible, Part 2

2) Brainstorm what “accept responsibility” looks like Pick 1 passivity item … list it on fresh chart (left column)

Write what desired outcome looks like (middle column)

Write 1+ steps you can take toward desired outcome

[If time permits, repeat for 2nd and 3rd passivity items]

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Current State Desired Outcomes Step(s) I can take

1. Aaa2. Bbb3. ccc

Aaa Bbb ccc

Aaa Bbb ccc

Scenario: describe the scenario / context here

Example - WorkExample - Work

Current State Desired Outcomes Step(s) I can take1. Clearly communicate

my highest priority work

2. Explain what has been done on requested deliverable without blaming others

3. Directly ask whether I prioritized the work correctly

Own my decision for how I prioritized the work

Demonstrate a willingness to be teachable if I made the wrong choice

Deliverable created by subordinate was low quality

Not enough time to rework it

Desire to blame person to whom work was delegated

Other work is higher priority

Scenario: My boss is angry because a deliverablehe requested from me is late

Example - FamilyExample - Family

Current State Desired Outcomes Step(s) I can take1. Pray2. Seek out a clear

vision to impart3. Plan a memorable

event to teach it4. Plan ways to involve

other men in showing him encouragement

Get engaged as his teacher

Son learns clear vision for godly manhood

Son is motivated to pursue godly manhood

Son feels supported by me and other important men in his life

Unsure what to teach or how to teach it

Lack confidence in my own manhood

Tempted by thought that later is OK

Tempted by thought that others will do it for me

Scenario: I am doing little to purposefully teachmy son about growing into manhood

Your ExampleYour Example

Current State Desired Outcomes Step(s) I can take

1. Aaa2. Bbb3. ccc

Aaa Bbb ccc

Aaa Bbb ccc

Scenario: describe the scenario / context here

Applying the Definition Applying the Definition of Manhood to Real Lifeof Manhood to Real Life

Reject passivity

Accept responsibility Lead courageously

Invest eternally … look for the greater reward