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Managing Conflict in the
Local ChurchBy: Reverend Quintin Few, Sr.
First Baptist Church of Suitland, Pastor
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Objectives:
Help church leaders understand the need to manage
conflict
Identify escalating levels of conflict
Learn Biblical strategies to resolve conflict that bring
glory & honor to Christ
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Conflict
A serious disagreement or argument, typically a
protracted one (www.dictionary.com)
Fight, battle, or war (Merriam-Webster)
a: Competitive or opposing action of incompatibles :
antagonistic state or action (as of divergent ideas,
interests, or persons) b: mental struggle resulting from
incompatible or opposing needs, drives, wishes, or
external or internal demands (Merriam-Webster)
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The Need for Managing Church
Conflict
1. The church is made up of redeemed sinners
2. The church is under the attack of Satan
3. The church is affected by influences of the world
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Five Levels of Conflict
LEVEL 1— A Problem to Solve
LEVEL 2— Self Protection
LEVEL 3— It’s About Winning
LEVEL 4— Fight or Flight
LEVEL 5— Destroy the Enemy
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LEVEL 1—A Problem to Solve
1. Tackling the problem
2. No personal attacks
3. Not digging up old problems
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LEVEL 2—Self Protection
1. Worried about saving face
2. Disputers keep records of wrong
3. Casting doubt or judgment on the other party
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LEVEL 3—It’s About Winning
1. People lining up to take sides
2. The soul motivation is to win
3. Language becomes vague
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LEVEL 4—Fight or Flight
1. Fighting for your position
a. The fight centers on principles
b. No room for compromise
2. Fleeing the situation altogether
a. Unable to see any resolution in sight
b. Relationships are damaged
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LEVEL 5—Destroy the Enemy
1. Positions are locked in
2. The genesis of the problem is lost
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Strategies to Manage Conflict
Following Matthew 18: 15-33
Collaborative problem solving
Seek an interventionist
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Following Matthew 18: 15-33
Conflict cannot be resolved through avoidance
Establish the facts
Christ gives the Church the authority to resolve conflict
The church must practice unlimited forgiveness
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Collaborative Problem Solving
Ground Rules:
Willing to take time to understand other’s point of view
Develop & maintain spirit of cooperation, NOT
competition
Accept that differences are OK
Work towards mutual solution
Communicate clearly
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Collaborative Problem Solving, cont…
Steps to Take:
Identify the problem or issue
Focus on the interest and needs
Deal with the offense as soon as possible
Invent options
Make the agreement
Reach a consensus
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Seek an Interventionist
1. When to use an interventionist
a. When parties agree on a mediator
b. When leadership has a desire for God’s glory
2. Importance of neutrality
a. Must be intentional
b. Interest is only to honor Christ
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Biblical Examples of Conflict
Resolution
A. Old Testament
1. Abraham & Lot (Genesis 13: 5-10)
2. Moses & the tribe of Reuben (Numbers 32: 1-18)
B. New Testament
1. Paul & Philemon
2. Jesus (Mark 10: 35-44)
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Take Home Message…
Jesus said, “Blessed are the
peacemakers: for they shall be called
the children of God” Matthew 5:9.