MARRIAGE IN AFGHANISTAN

By: Jade Schilling

2nd Block

Wedding lasts from around 6:00pm-11:00pm Guests sit at tables

• Bride’s guests on right side

• Groom’s guests on left side

Throne-like chairs in front for couple

Arranged marriage Ceremony is sometimes

the first time the bride and groom meet

CUSTOMS AND TRADITIONS

http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909

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For bride:• Age (can’t marry until

16)

• Physical appearance

• Character

• Family background

For groom:• Age

• Physical appearance

• Education

• Ability to support wife

• Reputation

• Character

• Family background

SPOUSE CRITERIA

**can marry first cousin, if there is a suitable one**

http://www.muslim-marriage-guide.com/afghan-marriage-traditions.html

• First, letter is sent from male’s parents to a

member of the female’s family

• (to be)Groom’s father and elders go to (to be)

bride’s house• They bring gifts for to-

be-bride• Groom’s father (or

respected man from groom side) tells of their purpose and

demand• Elder man from bride’s

side receives the demand

ENGAGEMENT

http://awwproject.org/2010/05/a-family-matter-part-i/

http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html

Amount of time between the engagement and the wedding ceremony depends on

financial ability of groom’s family Groom (or groom’s family) provides:

• House

• Dowry (wedding gifts/payment)

• Expenses of wedding ceremony

• Gifts for bride

BEFORE THE WEDDING

http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html

Henna

• First put on bride-to-be (by groom)

• Groom then leaves

• Henna is then put on the rest of the girls who are not

married

Lunch

• kind of like the equivalent of a rehearsal dinner in

America

• Large group of people

• Many gifts are brought to the groom and bride

Bride’s House Groom’s House

BEFORE THE WEDDING

http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/special-coverage/454711-wedding-traditions-in-muslim-communities-special.html

http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.html

Marriage Ceremony

• After the lunch, elders start going to the bride’s house

• Soon after, everyone follows

• Groom arrives on a decorated horse

• Musicians play tambourines

http://www.nerdygaga.com/3723/wedding-traditions-and-meanings/

http://culturalembrace.blogspot.com/2011_02_01_archive.html

http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.htmlhttp://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm

Marriage Ceremony

• Once everyone is there, a marriage speech is given

• Guests dance to the music• Mullah (holy man) is the one who marries the

couple• Couple sit on a sofa• Couple has shawl placed over their heads and

they hold a mirror• Tradition is called ““mirror and Qur’an.”http://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909 http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm

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Marriage Ceremony• The wedding cake is first cut

and tasted by the newly married couple

• It is then given out to the guests

• Guests dance for a while• They dance the national dance

of the Afghans, the Attan• People congratulate the

couple on their marriagehttp://finechinagirl.com/2009/07/05/cake-boss-carlos-bakery-hoboken/

http://www.afghan4life.com/afghan-girl-very-nice-mast-mily/attan-dance-2012-afghan-wedding-attan-dance-2012-video_584f2dde1.html

http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.htmlhttp://www.kwintessential.co.uk/articles/afghanistan/Afghan-Wedding-Traditions/4909http://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm

Bride and Groom go to new home When bride arrives, an animal (sheep or

goat) is sacrificed for Allah Bride hammers nail into door because it

is a good omen for the marriage A few days later (either 3 or 7) relatives

and friends bring gifts for bride

AFTER THE CEREMONY

http://www.onislam.net/english/culture-and-entertainment/traditions/411646-afghan-muslim-wedding.htmlhttp://islam.about.com/od/marriage/p/wed_afghan.htm

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