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Media SafetyMedia SafetyBecoming Omnipresent GuardiansBecoming Omnipresent Guardians

Maplewood K-8 PCEP Parent MeetingMaplewood K-8 PCEP Parent MeetingApril 10, 2012April 10, 2012

“Officer Aaron” GreenmunEdmonds Police Department

(425) [email protected]

Rules to live by…Rules to live by…

Universal “Parental Unit Pledge”

“If I am ever in a dangerous situation, I promise to come to you for a safe way out

if…

you don’t overreact”


• Honesty is paramount – even if it means bad news.

• Remember that knowing what is happening is sometimes more important than our gut reactions to it.

• Parenting is sometimes like poker. Kids will troll for your reactions by divulging pieces of a scenario to get your reaction. Keep your poker face on.


• They know more than we want them to. This has always been true and always will be.

• It is better to be your child’s advocate, resource, and parent than their friend. You won’t always be the one they come to first, but you never want to be the one they won’t come to last.


• Lead by example.• Check the I-Phone at the

door.• Be present with your kids

and insist on the same.• Unless you want your

Angry Birds score on your tombstone, hang-up and live your life

Now for the painful part…Now for the painful part…

• Your household is not a democracy.– You are the parent and must be one– It is easier to build a skyscraper from the bottom up –

start young– This means clear media boundaries, with a foundation

laid early that you get to know everything they do and say online and via text message

– Trust is earned, and privileges can be given and taken away based on rules of a household being followed

Tools to help you seem smarter Tools to help you seem smarter than you arethan you are

• Parental controls: software-based


• Parental controls: hardware or OS-based


• Parental controls: hardware or OS-based (cont.)


• Parental controls: vendor-based


• Text Acronym Definitions– http://www.netlingo.com/acronyms.php– http://www.txtdrop.com/abbreviations.php


• Other Parent resources:

• http://www.kids.getnetwise.org/tools

• http://www.fbi.gov/stats-services/publications/parent-guide

• http://www.pta.org/topic_internet_safety.asp

• http://www.mymobilewatchdog.com/

For those of you who are For those of you who are struggling with the struggling with the

Big Brother-ness of all thisBig Brother-ness of all this

• Would you want access to your child’s…

• Bank accounts?

• School records?

• Medical records?

• Bedroom?

• Storage box for his private stuff?

• Car?



• Do you control your child’s access to…

• Gun cabinets?

• Liquor cabinets?

• Family vehicles?



• Do you limit your child’s…

• Time spent watching TV?

• Access to strangers?

• Exposure to material not yet appropriate for their age?

Protecting Kids OnlineProtecting Kids Online• Remember that the computer is not a TV, it can be used as a means to access an entire virtual world.

• Passwords on the computer accompanied by household rules become the locks and clear boundaries for acceptable use of the computer.

• Setting clear rules and empowering kids to “help” set the rules (depending upon their age) encourages communication about this area.

• Decide if you want to limit access to certain Internet content and activities.

• Then decide if you want a keykey for access to theirtheir car on the information superhighway.

Protecting Kids OnlineProtecting Kids Online• Set the rules from the start and post them. Consider signing them along with your kids.

• Make sure that they know that they can come to you.

• Rule #1: If they are in a dangerous situation, they can call you if you promise not to overreact

• Computers with Internet access are in open areas of the house…not in bedrooms.

• You are an administrator, your child is not.

•Wireless internet?

•Make it secure

•Consider using a fixed terminal with monitoring software installed

Computer RulesComputer Rules• Who is going to be the last person to know if someone else has your password?

• Change your password regularly and make it hard.

• Regularly explore your computer and Internet browser and review what has been viewed.

• Set rules about locking the taskbar, deleting browser history, access settings and so on.

• Learn the Alt + Tab trick so you can hide the Solitaire game from your boss.

Computer RulesComputer RulesExploring the ComputerExploring the Computer

• Documents List. On Windows-based computers, hit “Start” then “Documents” or “My recent Documents” = last 15 opened files

• Recycle Bin = deleted files

• Browser History File = websites visited

• Computer rules should include that you are the only person who can delete items from any of these areas

• Computer rules include mass media storage and storage devices

• These include I-Pods, RAM Memory sticks, memory cards and so on

While we are talking about it, While we are talking about it, some e-mail etiquette reminderssome e-mail etiquette reminders

• Blind your CC – don’t hand out your address book

•Know that E-Mail is frequently misinterpreted (no body language, voice inflection, etc.)

• Is it really necessary to send the message via E-Mail (can I walk there faster)?

Oh yeah, the other thing…Oh yeah, the other thing…


• facebook likes their privacy settings to be a pain in the ass, although they are simpler than they used to be

• Check them often

• Only one profile per person

• You must have unrestricted access to your child’s profile, therefore you are their “friend” whether they like it or not


• Facebook resources:– http://www.facebook.com/safety/groups/parents/


• Discuss, agree on and post rules governing use of facebook

• Remember that posts don’t go away

• Police, employers and others can see postings

• Like e-mail, postings are often misinterpreted

• If you don’t want your mom, kids, fellow parents, and community members to see it, you shouldn’t post it

Things to Watch ForThings to Watch For• Secretiveness

• Addictive Behavior

• Suspicious Phone Calls

• Copyright Violations, cut and paste homework

• The sudden blank screen

Remember…Remember…

• What technology giveth…the parent can take away!

Media SafetyMedia SafetyBecoming Omnipresent GuardiansBecoming Omnipresent Guardians

Maplewood K-8 PCEP Parent MeetingMaplewood K-8 PCEP Parent MeetingApril 10, 2012April 10, 2012

“Officer Aaron” GreenmunEdmonds Police Department

(425) [email protected]

media safety becoming omnipresent guardians maplewood k-8 pcep parent meeting april 10, 2012...

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