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Mentoring for Success getting the most from yourself & others

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what is mentoring?

It’s all about trust

•High degree of trust and mutual regard

•Mentee is helped to realise his or her potential

•The mentor learns and develops through the process

“Mentoring is to support and encourage people to manage their own learning in order that they may maximise their potential, develop their skills, improve their performance and become the person they want to be” (Eric Parsloe)


mentor v manager

•Managers are concerned with the objectives of both

team and organisation

•Mentors help your mentee to learn within the context of

a supportive relationship


find your perfect partner

•What skills or characteristics would you look for in a mentor?

•When finding mentors for placement students – what do you advise

your employers?

•Opportunities for developing staff

•Previous placement students and graduates

•Don’t just think manager!


toxic mentor (Clutterbuck)

•You know better than the mentee what's in his or her interest

• Be determined to share your wisdom with them -

• Decide what you and the mentee will talk about and when; change dates and

themes frequently to stop complacency

• Do most of the talking

• Highlight how trivial their concerns are compared to the weighty issues you

have to deal with

• Remind the mentee how fortunate s/he is to have your undivided attention

• Never show nor admit any personal weaknesses

• Never ask them what they should expect of you

•Never, never admit that this could be a learning experience for you, too


find your perfect partner

•What would you expect the mentee to contribute to the

relationship?


toxic mentee (Clutterbuck)

• Bring a long shopping list of things you want the mentor to do for you

• Expect the mentor to be available for you, whenever you want them

• Regard the mentor as your prime source of gossip to pass on

• Expect the mentor always to have the answer

• Expect the mentor to decide when to meet and what to talk about

• Boast about the relationship to your colleagues at every opportunity

• Never challenge what the mentor says - s/he is paid to know best

• Blame the mentor whenever advice doesn't work out

• Enjoy the opportunity to have a good moan or whinge


why use a mentee / mentor matching service?

• Where might you find your perfect partner?

•Managed structure – bringing people together•Face to face but maybe something else to help build rapport•Build rapport - very important – need to be ready to share some of yourself


preparing for your first date

• Have a clear idea of what they are looking for

-evaluate own skills, aspirations, likes and dislikes

• Know what to say about themselves

-Strengths and weaknesses

• SMART Goals


• Communicate – etiquette

• Positive attitude

• Active listening

• Questions, questions

THE first date


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• Active listening

• Questions, questions

THE first date

• Communicate – etiquette

• Positive attitude


• Invest time in learning about the mentor’s organization and their professional roles

• Honour commitments made to the mentor and respect the basic privacy and confidentiality inherent in the communication that occurs within the relationship.

• Express your appreciation for you mentor’s time, information, counsel, and sharing of opportunities with you

Keeping the ‘fire’ burning!


• Actively request information and counsel from the mentor on a periodic basis

• Accept that the relationship maybe temporary

• Invite your mentor to a campus event or activity

• Dress professionally and appropriately for all meetings with your mentor

Keeping the ‘fire’ burning!


why we looove mentoring

Career advancement –

sponsorship, exposure, visibility, coaching, protection and challenge, more promotions, higher salaries, more job satisfaction, reduced turnover

Psychosocial support –

friendship, confirmation, acceptance, confidence building and counseling

(Allen et al., 2004; Clutterbuck, 2004; Klasen & Clutterbuck, 2002; Kram, 1985; Wang et al., 2008).…

Mentee Gains


• Career revitalisation, • Ability to reflect, • Intellectual challenge, • Increased interpersonal skills, • Social recognition from peers and

managers, and • Personal satisfaction(Clutterbuck, 2004; Young & Perrewe, 2000)

Mentor Gains



• Mentoring for your students• Mentoring for your graduates/alumni• Mentoring for yourself and your

colleagues – colleges, universities, companies,

Can you afford not to get involved in mentoring?



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