Milby Mentor Program 2011

Habit 1 : Be proactiveHabit 2 : Begin with the end in mindHabit 3 : Put first things firstHabit 4 : Think win-winHabit 5 : Seek first to understand, then to be

understoodHabit 6 : SynergizeHabit 7 : Sharpen the saw

The 7 habits can help you: 1. Get control of your life 2. Improve your relationships 3. Increase your self confidence 4. Be happy!

Habit #1Be ProactiveA proactive person takes responsibility for his/her life.

Reactive people make choices based on feelings, moods and emotions

Self-awareness

Conscience

Imagination

Willpower

I can stand apart from myself and observe my thoughts and actions.

I can listen to my inner voice to know right from wrong.

I can envision new possibilities.

I have the power to choose.

1. Know what they stand for and have a strong set of values.

2. Listen to their “better” selves.3. Realize they have choices and take

responsibility for those choices.4. Bounce back when something bad

happens in their lives.5. Always look at all the options.6. Focus on things they can do something

about, don’t worry about the other things.

Habit #2 Begin with the end in mind

Define your mission and goals in life.

Effective people shape their own future with their personal mission statement as their guide.

What qualities do I want to develop in myself?

What contributions do I want to make to others and my community?

What kind of things will I need to have for the kind of future I want?

You must know where you want to go, who you want to be, and what you want to achieve in life.

You need a mission statement.

A mission statement is a personal credo or motto that states what your life is about.

Habit #3 Put First Things First

Understand the difference between urgency and importance

Learn to put first things first in your life

Goals

Important

Planner

Role

Urgent

A specific thing you are trying to accomplish

An activity you find valuable and that contributes to your mission, values and high-priority goals

A person who consciously looks ahead and plans with specific goals in mind

The position you occupy in relation to another

An activity you or others feel requires immediate attention

Review Terms

Do one thing that would make a significant difference in the roles you listed. Share with your group what you have identified in the previous activity, write one goal next to each role.

Last week, you were asked to…

By the end of this session, you will…. Understand Win-Win

Understand how courage and determination create win-win relationships

Understand how to create win-win agreements

Habit # 4

Think Win-Win

Important Terms What kind of person are you? Lose-lose

Lose-Win

Win-Lose

Win-Win

•People with this paradigm approach differences with fear.

•People with a lose-win mindset are easily intimidated and readily give in or go along with others

•These people achieve what they want at the expense of others

•These people believe that everyone can win

Life is an “All-You-Can-Eat” Buffet With your group, talk about an experience where you had a win-lose mentality. How did you feel about it? What were the short-term and long-term consequences? Would you do things differently now?

Life is an “All-You-Can-Eat” Buffet With your group, talk about an experience

where you practiced lose-win or someone acted in a lose-win way toward you. What were the short-term and long-term consequences? How do you feel?

The following exercise will help you start living Habit 4 Discuss a specific situation that you may

face in the next seven days that will require win-win thinking- it might be during a music lesson, at work, in a challenging class, or at home with your family. How will you prepare yourself to think win-win?

Competition Gives Way to Cooperation

List some activities in your personal life and school life that encourage:

Competition: Cooperation:

Win-Win AgreementsDesired Results

Mowing the lawn.Keeping the lawn maintained.Watering the flowers.

Guidelines Saturday,A.MKeep grass2-3” in length

Resources Lawn mowerHuman powerWater, hoses, sprinklers, etc

Accountability Look at lawn together, Saturday , P.M Both of us are pleased.

Benefits/Consequences

$ Weekly. Compensation in $ . Use of car Saturday evenings. No money. No car.

Win-Win Agreements Based on previous activity, Complete the chart for student/teacher win-win agreements.

Desired Results

Guidelines

Resources

Accountability

Benefits/Consequences

Your assignment…. Identify one situation in your personal life

and school life that could be better for both people if win-lose were replaced by win-win thinking– if cooperation replaced competition.