““Everything has been said before, but since Everything has been said before, but since nobody listens, we have to keep going back nobody listens, we have to keep going back

and beginning all over again.”and beginning all over again.”

——Andre GideAndre Gide

• Crucible - Crucible - any life altering event, any life altering event, positive or negative, that changes your positive or negative, that changes your view of the world.view of the world.

• Adaptive capacity - Adaptive capacity - your ability to take your ability to take that event and learn and grow in a that event and learn and grow in a positive way.positive way.

• 3 Major Influences:3 Major Influences:

1.1.NewspapersNewspapers

2.2.TelevisionTelevision

3.3.Other peopleOther people

1. Change your interpretation of facts.1. Change your interpretation of facts.

• “Our experiences are much less important than how we choose to think about them.”

How many BMW’s do you have in How many BMW’s do you have in your organization?your organization?

Actions:Actions:

2. Check Your Focus!2. Check Your Focus!

3. Create your own mental space.3. Create your own mental space.

• Turn off your car radio.Turn off your car radio.• Turn off your crackberry, cell phone, Turn off your crackberry, cell phone,

television, etc.television, etc.• Go for a walk.Go for a walk.• Spend some quiet time in nature.Spend some quiet time in nature.• Apply the 20/80 rule to listening.Apply the 20/80 rule to listening.• Rest your mind!Rest your mind!

• It’s not what you say, but what you It’s not what you say, but what you repeatedly say.repeatedly say.

Action: Make a Action: Make a language shift. language shift.

1.1.Talk yourself up.Talk yourself up.

2.2.Speak with strength.Speak with strength.

3.3.Ask the right questions.Ask the right questions.

• You cannot always control your feelings, You cannot always control your feelings, but you can control your words and your but you can control your words and your actions.actions.

• Action: Make a Action: Make a behavior shift.behavior shift.

1.1.Change your reference group.Change your reference group.

2.2.Start an attitude crusade at your home or Start an attitude crusade at your home or office.office.

Emotional IntelligenceEmotional Intelligence1.1. Self-awarenessSelf-awareness

2.2. Self-regulationSelf-regulation

3.3. MotivationMotivation

4.4. EmpathyEmpathy

5.5. Social skillsSocial skills

What’s your sentence?What’s your sentence?

Examples:

• “No one can make you feel unimportant unless you let them.”

• “We shall overcome.”

• “I’ll be sober in the morning; but you, Madam, will still be ugly.”

Some Take-away practices:Some Take-away practices:

• Read books/listen to CD’s—choose what’s on your mind!

• Practice visualization—strive for significance vs. success.

• Write down your goals—review them weekly.

Final Quote:Final Quote:

““Do or do not. There is no Do or do not. There is no try.”try.”

——Yoda, Yoda, Star WarsStar Wars