_ministry_so you said i do #2_responsibility & formation
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As we build on the So You Said I Do Marriage series we deep dive into the area that I think can change a marriage most quickly and most noticeably. No, it’s not “what your partner needs to hear....” It is about you and making a choice to take full personal responsibility for our attitudes and actions. The bible begins and ends with a perfect marriage. That’s the last of them. My marriage, your marriage and all our relationships are in some way broken. Brokenness, as this message outlines, can adversely affect a marriage. When we live out of smallness of spirit, fear and insecurity, we are tempted to deny God the role and pleasure of being our all in all. We then learn unresourceful and unhelpful behaviours that simply do not serve and bring life to our Marriage. There is hope. Take full responsibility for your own attitudes and actions. Do the work to be validated personally. Get you insides right, so to speak. Bring your whole (and healing) self back to your marriage, family and relationships to serve and invest in their future. Do the personal work, it’s worth it. #leadershift RohTRANSCRIPT
The bible begins with a perfect picture of marriage
and ends in a perfect picture of marriage.
#WISDOM::
PERFECTIMPERFECTPERFECT
Marriage is closest thing to heaven or hell an individual
can experience.
EDWIN LOUIS COLE::
brokenness is the recognition of our flawed humanity AND
being optimistic about purposeful formation.
DEFINITION::
are tempted to believe that God is NOT enough
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19 But the people refused to listen to Samuel. “No!” they said. “We want a king over us. 20 Then we will be like all the other nations,
with a king to lead us and to go out before us and fight our battles.
1 SAMUEL 8:19 NLT
live life with a nagging sense of self doubt.
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Saul replied, “But I’m only from the tribe of Benjamin, the smallest tribe in Israel, and
my family is the least important of all the families of that tribe! Why are you talking like
this to me?”1 SAMUEL 9:19 NLT
are afraid of opportunity & responsibility.
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And finally Saul son of Kish was chosen from among them. But when they looked for him, he had disappeared! 22 So they asked
the Lord, “Where is he?” And the Lord replied, “He is hiding among the
baggage.” 23 So they found him and brought him out, and he stood head and shoulders
above anyone else. 1 SAMUEL 10:21b-23 NLT
make decisions based on poor self image & the fear of people
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15 “It’s true that the army spared the best of the sheep, goats, and cattle,” Saul admitted. “But they are going to
sacrifice them to the Lord your God. We have destroyed everything else.” 17 And Samuel told him,
“Although you may think little of yourself, are you not the leader of the tribes of Israel? The Lord has anointed you king of Israel....... 24 Then Saul admitted
to Samuel, “Yes, I have sinned. I have disobeyed your instructions and the Lord’s command, for I was afraid
of the people and did what they demanded.1 SAMUEL 15:15; 17; 24 NLT
Video >>SEINFELD
Men. Insecure & angry.
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Women. Controlling & Clingy.
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I will look after me. For you.Please look after you. For me.
JIM ROHN::
PERSONALRESPONSIBILITY
17 And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well
pleased.”MATTHEW 3:17 NIV
PERSONALVALIDATION
when there is a mess up it takes a
step up to fix up.
