Motivate:

1James W. Robertson, II, BS, LSW Program Director, SMAcoachjayrob@gmail.com507-250-6444

Surviving in the Youth Work Trenches

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“What’s My Motivation”

Motivation is

Starts with a motive

Your Motive is WHY!!

Your Why get you EXCITED!!

“Excitation”

Creating conditions ripe for learning

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Let’s Start with WHY!!WHY did YOU get into Youth Work?

Your WHY is “The Center of YOUR Youth Work”

Purpose & Intentionality

If your Why is off…Your Work is off!

Verna’ Myers says:

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“Authenticity is standing in your own truth.”

Do you feel as if you are standing in your own truth?

What is Heart Impact

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• It is the ability to connect with others by:

• Gaining an understanding of what matters to others

• Gaining an understanding of how others are affected by STUFF!

What Heart Impact Really Does:

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• It helps me stay in my “WHY”

•Connects me to the reason I am there.

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The 4 Questions of Heart Impact

• How am I connected to this purpose?

• What is the purpose for my behavior?• What do I love about what I do?

• Is what I am doing feeding my heart?

Purpose

Innovation

Motivation

Direction

Where?

Where are you taking your WHY?

Focus on Your WHY?

• Body • Mind

• Heart • Social

Burnout

Depletion

4 Personal Resource Areas:

• Movement• Run• Exercise

• 30 Sec Activity

• 5 P Focus• Focus on

• Present• Priority• Positive• Process• Purpose

• Why is the Focus• Four Thought

• Assess Thinking• Assess Emotion/Connection• Assess Need• Assess Ability

• Learning in Relationship• Don’t Need to Be’s

Tool 1:Four-thought Assessment

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1. Assess your level of thought (Give me a second…)a) Suspend thoughts for 4 seconds, let first wave of emotion pass b) Stop thinking about your stuff

2. Assess how the level of emotion or connection (How we feeling?)a) Understand where you are emotionallyb) Understand their state of mind

i. Are they mad, frustrated, annoyed, sad, in shock3. Assess what the other person is asking for (What’s needed?)

a) R.U.N. the situationb) Reframe, Unhook, New Action

4. Assess my ability to meet this person’s needs and take appropriate action (Can I help?)

Tool 2:R.U.N

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1. Reframe the situation a) in a way that helps you have maximum control of your feelings, b) so that you understand it clearlyc) while considering your limitations to solving the problem

2. Unhook yourself froma) undue responsibility b) toxic feelingsc) preconceived perceptions

3. New Action – Take any new actiona) according to what is appropriate based on the information you have b) New action consists of new feelings, perceptions, expectations,

thinking, behavior

The GROW ModelCoaching team members to improve

performance

A. One key role of any leader is to coach team members to achieve their best.a) As "coach", you will typically help your team members to

i. solve problems,ii. make better decisions,iii. learn new skills or iv. otherwise progress in their role or career.

B. One proven approach that helps with this it the GROW model. a) GROW is an acronym standing for

i. Goal – ii. Current Reality –iii. Options –iv. Will.

C. The model is a simple yet powerful framework for structuring a coaching session.

The GROW Model

Coaching team members to improve performance

A. Define and agree the goal or outcome to be achieved.

a) Define goals that are:i. Specific ii. Measurable iii. Realistic

B. In doing this, it is useful to ask questions like:

a) "How will you know that you have achieved that goal?“b) "How will you know the problem is solved?”

Establish the Goal:

1. First, you start with a the map: With this, you help your team member decide where they are going (their Goal)

A. This is a very important step:

a) Too often, people try to solve a problem without fully considering their starting point,

b) Often they are missing some of the information they need to solve the problem effectively.

i. As the team member tells you about his or her Current Reality, the solution may start to emerge.

B. Useful coaching questions include:

a) "What is happening now?”b) "What, who, when, how often”c) "What is the effect or result of that?"

Examine Current Reality:2. Describe and establish where they currently are (their Current

Reality).

A. It's time to explore what is possible – what possible options for solving the problem.

a) Help your SA generate many good optionsb) Discuss those options.

B. Offer your own suggestionsa) Let your team member offer his or hers first, b) Let him or her do most of the talking. c) Don’t solve the problem

C. Typical questions used to establish the options are:a) "What else could you do?”b) "What if this or that constraint were removed? c) "What are the benefits and downsides of each option?”d) "What factors will you use to weigh up the options?

Explore the Options: 3. Then you explore various ways (the Options) of making the journey, by

examining Current Reality.

A. Your SA will now have a good idea of how he or she can achieve their Goal.

B. Final step as coach is to get you team member to commit to specific action.

a) In so doing, you will help the team member establish his or her will and motivation.

C. Useful questions:a) "So what will you do now . and when?b) "What could stop you moving forward?”c) "And how will you overcome it?”d) "Will this address your goal?”e) "How likely is this option to succeed?”f) "What else will you do?"

Establish the Will:4. In the final step, establishing the Will, ensures your team member is

committed and is prepared for the conditions or obstacles they may have to face.

G.R.O.W. Box

GOutcome

•What is the Goal?• How do this e/affect me?• What gets in the way?• How this make me feel?

WAct

•What Will I do or commit to?• How do I get out of the box?• What outcome am I looking

for?

OStrategize

•What Options do I have?• What will my actions do?• What did the person do?

RIdentify

•What is the Reality?• Why am I in the box?• What is the problem?• Am I seeing this the right way?

1. Useful questions:

"So what will you do now . and when?"What could stop you moving forward?""And how will you overcome it?""Will this address your goal?""How likely is this option to succeed?""What else will you do?"

The GROW Box

GOutcome

• What is the Goal?• ___________________• ___________________• ___________________

WAct

• What Will I do or commit to?• _______________________• _______________________• _______________________

OStrategize

• What Options do I have?

• ___________________• ___________________• ___________________

RIdentify

• What is the Reality?•_________________________•_________________________•_________________________