Motivating Yourself and OthersMotivating Yourself and Otherswith Paul Claytonwith Paul Clayton

Motivation takes Motivation takes place with the place with the perception of perception of

control.control.

Motivation stops when we useMotivation stops when we use

HAVE TOHAVE TOGives the perception of Gives the perception of

non-controlnon-control

Avoid the words HAVE Avoid the words HAVE TO and use.TO and use.

You have a choice. When You have a choice. When speaking to others.speaking to others.

It would be in my best It would be in my best interest. When dealing interest. When dealing with yourself.with yourself.

Do it NowDo it Now

Thinking causes in activity.Thinking causes in activity. What ever you focus on expands.What ever you focus on expands.

Daily To-Do ListDaily To-Do List Prioritize tasks on your daily Prioritize tasks on your daily

list.list.

””1” = Top priority items1” = Top priority items

““2” = Important things but 2” = Important things but don’t have to get done don’t have to get done today.today.

““3” = Nice if they got done 3” = Nice if they got done but could be put off but could be put off indefinitelyindefinitely

Number them in order of Number them in order of priority with #1 as most priority with #1 as most important.important.

Group Like Things togetherGroup Like Things together

Connected Energy ChartConnected Energy ChartHigh NegativeHigh Negative

1.1. AngryAngry2.2. FearfulFearful3.3. AnxiousAnxious4.4. Defensive Defensive 5.5. ResentfulResentful

Low NegativeLow Negative1.1. DepressedDepressed2.2. ExhaustedExhausted3.3. Burned OutBurned Out4.4. HopelessHopeless5.5. DefeatedDefeated

High PositiveHigh Positive1.1. InvigoratedInvigorated2.2. ConfidentConfident3.3. ChallengedChallenged4.4. JoyfulJoyful5.5. ConnectedConnected

Low PositiveLow Positive1.1. RelaxedRelaxed2.2. MellowMellow3.3. PeacefulPeaceful4.4. TranquilTranquil5.5. Serene Serene

Emotions Emotions

In order to perform at our best we must In order to perform at our best we must access pleasant and positive emotions: access pleasant and positive emotions: enjoyment, challenge, adventure and enjoyment, challenge, adventure and opportunity. opportunity.

Negative emotions drain you Negative emotions drain you

A few thoughts about EmotionsA few thoughts about Emotions

Some emotions are caused by a chemical Some emotions are caused by a chemical imbalance in the system.imbalance in the system.

1.1. HormonesHormones2.2. DrugsDrugs3.3. Alcohol Alcohol 4.4. Other issues e.g. lack of sleep, wrong foods Other issues e.g. lack of sleep, wrong foods

Where Do Where Do Emotions Come From?Emotions Come From?

Who Controls Your Who Controls Your Emotions?Emotions?

Quick ReviewQuick Review

Your Mind Is The Control Tower Of All Your Mind Is The Control Tower Of All You Do.You Do.

Every Word You Use TranslatesEvery Word You Use Translates

1.1. Into an Action Into an Action

2.2. A feeling or emotionA feeling or emotion

3.3. Or BothOr Both

What is What is Happiness?Happiness?

Our happiness is Our happiness is the distance the distance between our between our expectations of expectations of ourselves, others ourselves, others and and realityreality..

HappinessHappinessRealityReality+ Belief System + Belief System (B.S.)(B.S.)

= Happiness Level= Happiness Level

Happiness LevelHappiness LevelReality

Above Expectations

At Your Expectations

Below Your Expectations

Very Happy

Happy

Unhappy

Your Happiness is based on your expectations

You have Several Choices You have Several Choices

Reality

Accept the Things you cannot change

Change the things you can

Try and Change something

you cannot change

Happy

Upset Unhappy

Angry

EmotionsEmotions

SituationBelief

SystemFeelings

Our Belief SystemOur Belief SystemWhat we expect or think What we expect or think

that we should or must that we should or must have from reality and have from reality and

ourselves.ourselves.

Avoids WordsAvoids WordsSHOULDSHOULD

MUSTMUSTHAVE TOHAVE TO

Replace them with Replace them with

Desirable Desirable

What are your expectations of?What are your expectations of?

FamilyFamilyClientClientChildrenChildrenWorkWork

Negative EmotionsNegative EmotionsTHE SITUATION +THE SITUATION +

IRRATIONAL THOUGHTIRRATIONAL THOUGHT ==

A NEGATIVE FEELINGA NEGATIVE FEELING

Anger Or Annoyed Anger Or Annoyed

Situation

Should-Must-Have To Desirable

Anger Annoyed

General Irrational General Irrational ThoughtsThoughts

There must be justice all of the There must be justice all of the time.time.

Everyone must be nice to me.Everyone must be nice to me.Things must always go my way.Things must always go my way.Everyone must understand me.Everyone must understand me.

When You Are UpsetWhen You Are Upset.. Breathe DeeplyBreathe Deeply Write Down What Your expectations Were.Write Down What Your expectations Were. Ask Yourself Why People, Places and Things have to follow Ask Yourself Why People, Places and Things have to follow

your expectations.your expectations. AcceptAccept RenewRenew Grant me the serenity to accept the Grant me the serenity to accept the

things that I can not change, the things that I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the differencethe wisdom to know the difference ..

StressStress

Stress Takes place in the mind of the Stress Takes place in the mind of the beholder.beholder.

Stress does not come from what you are Stress does not come from what you are doing but rather you are saying you are doing but rather you are saying you are doing.doing.

Burnout Burnout

Lack of positive feed back. Lack of positive feed back. Lack of trying new things.Lack of trying new things. Lack of a purpose greater then the job. Lack of a purpose greater then the job.