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MUSIC FOR A SUMMERS AFTERNOON—2020 LIVE ON FACEBOOK AND FOREVER ON YOUTUBE We had to change the way we celebrated our annual event this year. We asked people to record a song at home during lockdown. Our Informaon Worker Roy put all these together to form 3 aſternoons. Dont worry if you missed this because you can watch it over and over again on Ceartas YouTube. Just click on the links below:- hps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJdK0Y5Xsis hps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYp0kz8fgE8 hps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJkMMCeXrIg Thank you to our very talented Alan who donated 2 jazz themed songs for our Music for a Summers Aſternoon. He makes it look so easy. A big thank you to our Senior Advocacy Worker Gemma and my other half Peter for recording Songbird. I will look forward to asking Gemma to sing at our De Cafes when we can meet face to face again. Our Creave Wring Group shared some of their wrings from the book they produced called I Am. I have been involved in facilitang this group which is run by our Services Manager Sharon and our Advocacy Worker Susie. This group empowers people to use their creave imaginaon and has helped people grow in confidence and the ability to speak up for themselves. Bill from our Killermont De Café sang When Im 64” wrien by Paul McCartney. Apparently Paul McCartney wrote this when he was just 16. Bill is one of our regular musical treats at Killermont. Somemes we have been known to sing-along and somemes we have been known to dance-along. A huge thank you to Roy for the technical help in creang our first digital Music for a Summers Aſternoon. Hopefully Roy and his double bass will be available to play live at our 2021 Music for a Summers Aſternoon. It was a great success. Thank you for all the posive feedback.

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MUSIC FOR A SUMMERS AFTERNOON—2020

LIVE ON FACEBOOK AND FOREVER ON YOUTUBE

We had to change the way we celebrated our annual event this year. We asked people to record a song at home during lockdown. Our Information Worker Roy put all these together to form 3 afternoons. Don’t worry if you missed this because you can watch it over and over again on Ceartas YouTube. Just click on the links below:- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJdK0Y5Xsis https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iYp0kz8fgE8 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HJkMMCeXrIg

Thank you to our very talented Alan who donated 2 jazz themed songs for our Music for a Summers Afternoon. He makes it look so easy. A big thank you to our Senior

Advocacy Worker Gemma and my other half Peter for recording Songbird. I will look forward to asking Gemma to sing at our De Cafes when we can meet face to face again. Our Creative Writing Group shared some of their writings from the book they produced called I Am. I have been involved in facilitating this group which is run by our Services Manager Sharon and our Advocacy Worker Susie. This group empowers people to use their creative imagination and has helped people grow in confidence and the ability to speak up for themselves.

Bill from our Killermont De Café sang “When I’m 64” written by Paul McCartney. Apparently Paul McCartney wrote this when he was just 16. Bill is one of our regular musical treats at Killermont. Sometimes we have been known to sing-along and sometimes we have been known to dance-along.

A huge thank you to Roy for the technical help in creating our first digital Music for a Summers Afternoon. Hopefully Roy and his double bass will be available to play live at our 2021 Music for a Summers Afternoon. It was a great success. Thank you for all the positive feedback.

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Roy Hunter

Ceartas Information Worker

My name is Roy Hunter, and I am the Information Worker here at Ceartas. I am

also one of the OPAL Advisers on the OPAL telephone line.

You have already heard about the role of the Advocacy Worker in helping people

to uphold their rights and move their lives in the direction they want to go in. My

role as Information Worker is different to the role of the Advocacy Workers, as I

am not advocating on someone else’s behalf, instead I am helping that person to

find the information they need to represent their own interests.

This covers a huge variety of subject areas, from Power of Attorney through to

changing energy suppliers, from applying for a Blue Badge through to finding an

exercise class. No two days are the same, and every day is a school day.

OPAL is a bit of a natural offshoot of that role: OPAL is a single point of contact

for anyone in East Dunbartonshire looking for help, support, information and

advice. OPAL is a partnership between Ceartas, Citizens Advice Bureau, Carers

Link and EDVA (East Dunbartonshire Voluntary Action). OPAL has been around for

eight years now, in fact the first OPAL call was on 4th July 2012 so we’ve just

missed a birthday.

OPAL has been a very interesting part of my work since the Covid-19 outbreak, because we are acting as the single

point of contact for all the people who are shielding of self-isolating and need shopping and prescription deliveries

from the volunteers operating across the area. In the course of that, we are also able to give information about the

current restrictions and advice in place, and about other services that people might require.

You can call OPAL on 0141 438 2347 from Monday to Saturday, 9am – 5pm, or email us at [email protected] any time. What I like about my job is that it is so varied and constantly challenging. As well as supporting OPAL callers and

people who contact me directly, I also support my Advocacy colleagues when they are seeking information. I take

part in the ABI Café for people with an Acquired Brain Injury, because I have a personal interest in that. I am asked

to write pieces for newsletters like this, or for the website and social media.

One of the most enjoyable aspects of my job has to be our annual Music For A Summer’s Afternoon celebration. On

the last Friday in June – normally the day of the Kirkintilloch De Café – we put on a musical performance in Kirkintil-

loch Baptist Church and serve afternoon tea to all our group members.

We have done that every year since 2013, unfortunately this year because of the pandemic we were unable to hold

any sort of gathering. However, during lockdown there have been a lot of musicians unable to perform in public and

looking for other ways to entertain people. So, we asked them to give us a well-known song on video, and we have

edited them all together to come up with three short music programmes, which are available on Ceartas’ Facebook

page or YouTube channel.

Ceartas on Facebook Live: https://www.facebook.com/ceartasadvocacy/live Ceartas on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/ceartasadvocacy

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CEARTAS IS A MEMBER OF

DEEP NETWORK

People with dementia have produced a powerful collection of short films.

They showcase the myriad ways in which people are living with dementia.

They contain messages of joy, sadness, hope and wisdom, and show that while diagnosis of dementia might be life-changing, it need not be life-ending.

People with dementia from groups across the UK have worked together to create a power-ful and moving suite of short films. With funding from The National Lottery Community Fund, the largest funder of community activity in the UK, the people with dementia in these films are not just the subjects of the camera’s gaze, but its authors.

A thread running through many of the films is the power of peer support. All of the groups involved are members of a network of groups of people with dementia called DEEP. Their stories are all different, with dementia in the foreground and background, sometimes at the same time.

”You don’t see what I see” says Tracey – these are films that provide a window into people’s worlds.

So, come on into people’s inner worlds. You will watch films about memory, stigma, word-finding problems, difficulties with spatial awareness and perception, intertwined with tales of mermaids, super- powers, music, sleep, horses and poets. Make some popcorn and enjoy!

You can view all of the films here: https://www.dementiavoices.org.uk/deepmoments/

Would you like to make a film about your experience of living with dementia? If so, let me know and we will help you record this. It could be about your experience of diagnosis. Your experience of joining De Café or strategies you use to adapt to changes.

“Those with dementia are still people and they still have stories and they still have character and they are all individuals and they are all unique. And they just need to

be interacted with on a human level”

Carey Mulligan

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CEARTAS DE CAFÉS ARE MEETING BY ZOOM

We are now running regular De Café’s by Zoom for Killermont in Bearsden, Kirkintilloch, Lenzie and Bishopbriggs. To meet by Zoom you need to have a mobile phone with a camera, Ipad/tablet or laptop/computer with a camera. This may be a daunting thought for many people. I approached East Dunbar-tonshire Voluntary Action to recruit a volunteer to make guides to help people get started.

We are grateful and want to thank Pamela, who has compiled “how to use” guides with words and images to help you connect.

Zoom guide for Android Smartphones

Zoom guide for iPads

Zoom guide for MacBook

Guide to using Facebook

I asked Pamela why she wanted to volunteer for Ceartas and she re-plied "My job as a librarian is to help people discover stories and share their own. I volunteered to write these guides in my spare time because I wanted your groups to keep sharing their stories."

If you would like any of these guides please contact me on

0141 775 0433 or [email protected]

Tel: 0141 775 0433 Email: [email protected]

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Please feel welcome to join in our Zoom De Cafes. If you regularly attend one and can’t make

it on the day you are welcome to join in another one.

If you have been nervous about joining in one of the De Cafes because of technology maybe

you could ask a family member or a friend to help you. They would be very welcome.

We can send out a user friendly guide to using Zoom on request.

If you would like to practice before attending a Zoom I am happy to set up a practice one to

one to help build your confidence. I know how frustrating technology can be when you are

not familiar with it. Once you get the basics, it really is very

straight forward.

Like anything, it’s easy when you know how ………..

Contact me on [email protected] to join in...

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Thank you to Calum our Volunteer Musician

Thank you to Calum who was one of the musical volunteers for our Music for a Summers Afternoon. He is a mem-

ber of a local folk club and is an accomplished musician. He has volunteered to record songs by request from our

De Café members and upload them on his YouTube channel. Calum told me he “loves a challenge”.

So far three members have received recordings of their favourite songs with a personal introduction from Calum.

Julie used to sing “I want to be Billy’s girl” to the song “I want to be Bobby’s girl”. Frances has the most beautiful

singing voice and often sings “Galway Bay” for us at our De Café.

Let me know if you would like Calum to record and dedicate a song especially for you.

If you would like to listen to the songs recorded by Calum and many more. Click on

the links below:-

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u2DL9ebpllg

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VuTc_lwGJ6A

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t5z3BOREdlo

I would love to share stories of your favourite songs and why they mean so much to you in our next newsletter. It

could be songs from your childhood. Songs you sang in the car going on holiday. Songs you sang to your children

and grandchildren. Songs that make you want to get up out of your chair and dance. Songs that remind you of

somebody or somewhere special. Maybe you have a special piece of classical music that you like or maybe you

like the sound of trains. It would be lovely to share your stories with other members.

‘I’ll be your long haired lover from Liverpool” by Jimmy Osmond was the first record I ever had and it reminds me

of when I lived at home. I played it on repeat on the record player. What was your first record?

YOUR CHANCE TO RECEIVE A FREE PLAYLIST OF YOUR FAVOURITE MUSIC

Our friends from Playlist For Life are offering to help you compile your music which is personal and meaningful to you. All this takes is a few phone calls where they help you to find the music and they will put this on an MP3 Player for you and pop it in the post with some earphones. It’s as simple as that and it is absolutely FREE. Contact me if you are interested as this is only available until the end of July. [email protected] 0141 775 0433

Thank you,

Jean loved it

Hi Michelle .....Thank you

so much for our special

song Bobby’s Girl ...from

Calum ...we both enjoyed

it ....love Julie

How fantastic is that

Michelle!! I will show

it to Frances today.

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DE CAFÉ—STARTING A CONVERSATION

Please help our research friends at Stirling University by taking part in this conversation — it

might even be fun. The workshops will take place over Zoom.

Let’s start a conversation about De Café and what it means to you:

Lockdown has meant that many of us are having to find different ways to keep in touch and people are feeling isolated. Lockdown has also meant that we don’t have access to our usual support Groups and are having to find other ways to keep ourselves busy.

This is a perfect time to think about what this Group means to you! Life Changes Trust is a charity that provides support to this Group and also recognises its benefits. The Trust have asked us to build a picture of what you like about the Group; how it helps you or your family; and if there is anything you think is missing or would work better. As you know, there are many ways to start a conversation, and we would like to offer a selection of creative ac-tivities for you to do at home, with the help of family, and support of the team. Each of the workshops will give you an opportunity to share your thoughts on the Group, and will also give you a chance to create something personal that you can keep as a wee ‘minder’:

Group Discussion – Using words and images to think about your involvement in De Café. This will be led by someone who will share images like a cake or a cup and ask if it reminds you of your experiences with the Group. Individual Discussion – We will ask you about the benefits of the support you receive and its impact on your quality of life. Creating a Living Memory – Using an object that has personal meaning to you, create a story about the Group and any specific memories it evokes. Creating a Memory Jar – Using any small objects or words to create a memory jar that captures your memories of lockdown. Musical Memory – Creating a playlist of songs that evoke a particular memory of this Group. All of the activities and workshops will have detailed instructions (and materials), and will be led by someone offering support and advice, either on a one to one basis or in a group discussion with other members of De Café. Dates are still being planned but will start in July 2020 and anyone wishing to get involved should contact Cate Pemble [email protected] or 01786 467623 Please note that your input will remain confidential and will only be used for the purposes of building a story of what works well in your Group. It also gives us the opportunity to share some of the good work at De Café with other Groups, and help us to plan for the future.

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Randy Travis—Forever and Ever

You may think that I'm talking foolish You've heard that I'm wild and I'm free

You may wonder how I can promise you now This love, that I feel for you, always will be

You're not just time that I'm killing

I'm no longer one of those guys As sure as I live this love that I give

Is gonna be yours until the day that I die – oh, baby

I'm gonna love you forever, forever and ever, amen As long as old men sit and talk about the weather As long as old women sit and talk about old men

If you wonder how long I'll be faithful

I'll be happy to tell you again I'm gonna love you forever and ever, forever and ever, amen

They say that time takes it's toll on a body Makes the young girls brown hair turn grey

But honey, I don't care, I ain't in love with your hair And if it all fell out, well, I'd love you anyway

They say that time can play tricks on a memory,

make people forget things they knew. well, it's easy to see it's happening to me

I've already forgotten every woman but you – oh, darling

I'm gonna love you forever, forever and ever, amen As long as old men sit and talk about the weather As long as old women sit and talk about old men

If you wonder how long I'll be faithful well, just listen to how this song ends

I'm gonna love you forever and ever, forever and ever, amen I'm gonna love you forever and ever, forever and ever, forever and ever,

forever and ever amen

Lindsay and his wife Grace enjoy listening to Randy Travis, Always and Forever, Amen. I think you will agree there are some lovely lyrics. Here is the link if you want to listen to the song on YouTube:- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgJXbIP83A8 What song do you like because of the lyrics?

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LIMERICKS

PHONE A FRIEND AND READ THESE TO CHEER THEM UP

An elderly man called Keith Mislaid his set of false teeth They'd been laid on a chair He'd forgot they were there Sat down - and was bitten beneath

“This belt is a fine old Lochgelly That renders your hands red and swelly

Some call it a tawse It comes down on your paws

And mashes them to jelly. (Roy, our Information Worker’s grandfather wrote this)

A lively young damsel named Menzies Inquired: “Do you know what thenzies?” Her aunt, with a gasp Replied: “It’s a wasp, And your holding the end where the stenzies.”

There was an old man of the isles Who suffered severely from piles

He couldn’t sit down Without a deep frown

So he had to row standing for miles

There was a young man from Larkhall Who went to a masquerade ball Dressed up as a tree But he failed to foresee His abuse by the dogs in the hall

There was a young Scotsman named Fisher Who was fishing for fish in a fissure

Then a cod, with a grin Pulled the fisherman in

Now they’re fishing the fissure for Fisher

POST IN YOUR LIMERICKS OR ITEMS FOR FUTURE NEWSLETTERS TO:-

Ceartas Advocacy, Unit 5-7, McGregor House, 10 Donaldson Cres, Kirkintilloch, Glasgow G66 1XF

Or email:- [email protected]

Or you can phone in on:- 0141 775 0433

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I recall, in Primary 7, being punished in this manner for having made 3 spelling er-

rors in the weekly spelling test! Looking back, I don’t think the punishment fitted

the crime!

In 1967 as a newly qualified teacher, like all my college friends, I ordered my own

strap just before taking up my first teaching post. When it arrived from Lochgelly in

Fife (the main supplier for all Scotland) I had no idea how to use this terrible weap-

on of torture. So, just in case I found the necessity to administer such a punish-

ment, I thought I’d better try it out. My newly married husband very obligingly vol-

unteered his hand for a practice target. It’s amazing what young love will do! Inter-

estingly, when he found my strap stored in our loft just before the recent De Cafe

Zoom meeting, the first thing he said was, “Don’t think of trying that out on

me!”

I am ashamed to admit that I did use the strap. But very rarely, and only when I knew that the pupil in question had been deliberately and repeatedly disobeying classroom rules. Once used in a class, the strap never needed to be used again. Just removing it from the desk drawer and placing it in view was effective in subdu-ing any potential disruption. A stern look worked too!

Fortunately we have moved on from such barbaric practices! Positive encourage-

ment has always worked best although clear boundaries regarding behaviour need

to be in place and adhered to, in order to enable learning to flourish. I know “kids

will be kids” and there will always be chancers who push the boundaries, in school

as at home.

Were you a chancer? Or can you remember those who were?

Was a stern look enough to stop you misbehaving?

Did you always want to please the teacher?

Did you ever get lines?

Hopefully you can look back on your school days with fond memories?

What were these good memories? Share them with a friend or family member

or send them in to me and I will put in next newsletter.

Looking back to your schooldays,

can you remember ever “getting the belt”?

Or did you call it the strap? ….or the tawes?

If so, can you remember what you had done to deserve

this?

Some of you may admit how badly you behaved in

school and feel that you did deserve the belt! Others

may think differently!

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UNDERSTANDING GRIEF

“Little by little, we let go of loss… but never of love”

It is important to pause and acknowledge some people have recently experienced grief. Death is part of life but that does not mean it is easy. There is no “quick-fix” to take away the pain, heartache and loss one experiences when somebody they love dies. For those who have arranged funerals since Covid you may feel sad you were not able to say goodbye the way you would have wanted to. This may exacerbate your grief along with the isolation you are experiencing in these unprecedenting times. Some people find it hard to talk to family members as they feel everyone is coping with their own grief and they don’t want to burden them. Some people want to talk about there loss but feel there is no one to listen. There are a number of helplines where you can call confidentially just to talk over how you are feeling . They will listen and offer practical advice and help if you ask for it. Sometimes you just need to talk over how you are feeling without fear of judgement. Here are some numbers:-

The Silver Line—0800 470 8090 https://www.thesilverline.org.uk/

The Silver Line is a befriending service for people over 60. They also provide a free 24 hour support line.

Cruse Bereavement— 0808 808 167 https://www.cruse.org.uk/

Cruse Bereavement helps people who are struggling with the effects of grief on their telephone support line. They also have lots of resources they can send out to you regarding specific aspects of grief. There are 5 recognised stages of grief and many people experience these at different times. Knowing these can help you understand your feelings and emotions. It’s important to know that everybody experiences this differently. Bargaining, depression, anger, denial and acceptance. Click on this link for more information:-https://grief.com/the-five-stages-of-grief/#:~:text=The%20five%20stages%2C%20denial%2C%20anger,some%20linear%20timeline%20in%20grief. Debbie Augenthelar who is a Psychotherapist has written a book called “You are not Alone” on her experience of grief containing useful information for grievers and those who want to support. She has free information and advice which you can access on her website https://www.debbieaugenthaler.com/ .

Take time for your thoughts

Think of the person you are missing and fill in the blanks—do this as often as you like

Always know that………………………………………..…………………………...…………………. I laugh when ………………………………………………...……………………...…………………… I regret ……………………………………………………..……………………...……………………….. I wish ……………………………………………………..………………..…………………………………. I hope that you …………………………………..………………...……………………………………. I love you because ………………………..……………………...……………………………………. Thank you for the ……………………...…………………………..………………………………….. You are special because……………………………………………….………………………………. A favourite memory I will always have is ……………………………………………………...

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Help with grief and loss during Covid-19 IDEAS & GUIDANCE

Charity Garnett is a palliative care nurse working in mid-Wales. She has been work-ing to improve community support for peo-ple who are grieving. Her dad died when she was 15, so she knows the grieving ground well. She shares her professional advice on what to be prepared for when you’re griev-ing and a guide to what can help, especial-ly during Covid-19.

FROM NUMBNESS TO GUILT AND EVERYTHING IN BETWEEN: COMMON RESPONSES TO GRIEF

Grieving is a normal process following the death of someone we love. However, with the effects of the pandemic, we may need to adjust our usual coping strate-gies and the ways that we mourn. We may also need extra support.

Most of the ways that we usually cope with grief as individuals and as communities may not be possible for a while — for example, getting together to remember the person who has died, hugs or handshakes, getting out in nature, going to religious gatherings, or families and communities getting together in large groups.

We all experience grief in our own way. However, there are some feelings and re-actions that many people experience:

Numbness and disbelief— “it hasn’t really happened”. Feeling very weepy or being unable to cry at all. Feelings of anger towards others or the situation. Thinking you have seen or heard the person or searching for them. Anxiety, loneliness, depression or feelings of “I can’t cope”. Feelings of guilt. We might feel worried that their death was in some way our

fault. Difficulty sleeping, eating, concentrating, and finding your memory affected. Feeling physically low and concerned about your health. Regret about all the plans and dreams that you had before. Challenges to your beliefs. Low motivation for doing anything. Even taking basic care of yourself can feel

like a huge challenge. Finding everyday situations and relationships difficult to cope with.

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“GRIEF IS LOVE WITH NOWHERE TO GO”: WHAT HELPS US GRIEVE

Grieving is a gradual process that can take a long time, it’s important that you give yourself space to grieve and take care of yourself. It’s normal to feel like you are doing better, then feel like you’ve gone back to square one again. Grief can come in waves, you may feel okay one minute and then very low the next. You can also have good days and bad days.

Sometimes, if you had a challenging relationship with the person who has died, it can be more, not less, difficult. You may be grieving the relationship you wish that you’d had, as well as the person who has died. The best advice is to be where you are, and don’t think you should be feeling anything different to what you are feeling.

HERE ARE SOME SUGGESTIONS FOR THINGS THAT MAY HELP:

Make a special place in your house or garden where you can remember the person who has died. It helps to have a physical space that can be a focus for your love, and your grief. You can put pictures of your person and anything else that was special to them there. Lighting a candle can also be a physical reminder of your love for them.

Reach out to friends and family. It is so important to talk about it, even if it is on

the phone, or through a window, or online. If it is not possible to have a normal funeral or memorial service, see if you can

gather online. You could also ask everybody who would have attended to light a candle or listen to a piece of music at the same time so you can still find a way of connecting emotionally.

People will want to help but may not know what to say or do – tell them.

“Please can I talk about what happened?” or, “please can we talk about some-thing normal or distract me.” Ask for what you need, there is no right or wrong approach.

Write a journal. Writing your feelings down can help to give them shape and

movement. Singing or drawing pictures of how you are feeling can also help give the feelings a channel. Grief needs to move.

Grief and trauma are felt in the body as much as the mind. Try to move your

body in any way that feels good. Stretching, yoga, exercise, dancing, even just a little bit, can help emotions seem less “stuck”.

You may feel that you didn’t get a chance to say goodbye properly or say all

the things you wanted to. Writing a letter to the person who has died can cre-ate an opportunity to express those feelings.

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Sometimes anger is easier to feel than grief. The death of a relative or friend can affect families very strongly, and misunderstandings are easy, especially if you are communicating by telephone or text message. Try to give each other the benefit of the doubt, and avoid arguments if possible.

Spend time with or in nature, even if it is just through the window, maybe look-

ing at how it changes all the time. This time will pass too. Meditation, mindfulness, faith or any other spiritual practice can help bring per-

spective and comfort and help the feelings be less overwhelming. Trying to keep some kind of routine can be helpful. Try to eat regularly even if

you don’t feel hungry and try to keep a sleep rhythm. Small achievable tasks can help, but don’t expect too much of yourself.

Plan for what you will do when you are able to go out again — both to remem-

ber the person and also any places you want to visit to remember them. Don’t push yourself into major decisions if possible — there are no right times

for doing a anything, only your own pace. Don’t rush to dispose of or distribute clothing and possessions — do this when

you feel ready. Try to let children share your grief and encourage them to express their feel-

ings. Talking, reading, drawing and playing games can be helpful. Plan for anniversaries, such as Christmas and birthdays, and the anniversary

of your person’s death. Do something meaningful to mark the occasion like letting off balloons, sharing memories, having a meal with family. Looking at photographs or videos. Going for a walk in their favourite place.

Recall happy memories — this may be painful, but can also be comforting.

Looking at photographs and keeping personal mementoes may help. Be gentle with yourself. You may feel very alone or lonely. We are all in this together and we, as a

community, will do whatever we can to support you. If it becomes difficult for you to manage day-to-day tasks, you may wish to seek professional help from your GP or other relevant organisations.

It may not be possible for the funeral to be held as you might have hoped for in normal times. But once it is safe for people to meet together again, try to find ways of honouring your grief and your love in a way which is meaningful to you.

For more from Charity Garnett follow her on Twitter @charitygarnett3.

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Ceartas Keeping In Touch

The sixties were a time when

ordinary people could do extraordinary

things…… Twiggy

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CAPITAL CITIES—MATCH THE CAPITAL TO COUNTRY

NEW DELHI

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LONDON

TRIPOLI

WELLINGTON

OSLO

WARSAW

MOSCOW

PRAGUE

LONDON

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PARIS

BUDAPEST

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ROME

TOKYO

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BRUSSELS

BRASILIA

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Answers

New Zealand, Norway, Russia, , France, Hungary, Iceland, Ireland, Italy, Japan, Australia, Austria, Bel-

gium, Bulgaria, Pakistan, South Korea, India, Turkey, United Kingdom, Libya, Czech Republic, England,

Finland, Poland, Brazil

Tel: 0141 775 0433 E: [email protected]

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Guidelines on Face Coverings from Scottish Government

In enclosed spaces, where physical distancing is more difficult and where there is a risk of close contact with multiple people who are not members of your household, you should wear a face covering.

People must - by law - wear a face covering in retail environments and on public transport and public transport premises, such as airports, train and bus stations. This applies to open air train stations, but not to bus stops.

Physical distancing, hand hygiene and respiratory hygiene are the most important and effective things we can all do to prevent the spread of coronavirus. The wearing of face coverings must not be used as an al-ternative to any of these other precautions.

What is a face covering?

A face covering can be any covering of the mouth and nose that is made of cloth or other textiles and through which you can breathe. Religious face coverings that cover the mouth and the nose count as face coverings for these purposes. You may also use, if you prefer, a face visor but it must cover your nose and mouth completely.

When applying or removing the covering, it is important that you wash/sanitise your hands first and avoid touching your face. After each use, you must wash the face covering at 60 degrees centigrade or dispose of it safely.

Shopping - A face covering must be worn by all people using a shop, which is any indoor estab-lishment which offers goods or services for sale or hire, when the shop is open.

You do not need to wear a face covering in hospitality premises such as cafes, coffee shops, restaurants or pubs. Or in money services businesses such as banks and building societies.

Transport: A face covering must be worn by all passengers and staff or operators in the following settings:

train services including the Glasgow subway

bus services and the Edinburgh tram

taxi and private hire vehicles

bus stations, railway stations (including open air stations) and airports

ferry services (unless the ferry is open to the elements and physical distancing can be achieved, or the vessel is large enough that physical distancing can be achieved)

airline services

Tel: 0141 775 0433 E: [email protected]

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Places where you must wear a Face Covering

As instructed by Scottish Government Guidelines

Shopping -

A face covering must be worn by all people using a shop, which is any indoor establishment which offers goods or services for sale or hire, when the shop is open.

You do not need to wear a face covering in hospitality premises such as cafes, coffee shops, restaurants or pubs. Or in money services businesses such as banks and building societies.

Transport:

A face covering must be worn by all passengers and staff or operators in the following settings:

train services including the Glasgow subway

bus services and the Edinburgh tram

taxi and private hire vehicles

bus stations, railway stations (including open air stations) and airports

ferry services (unless the ferry is open to the elements and physical distancing can be achieved, or the vessel is large enough that physical distancing can be achieved)

airline services

Make your own face covering using material and rub-

ber bands. Follow this link:-

https://www.gov.scot/publications/coronavirus-covid-19-phase-3-staying-

safe-and-protecting-others/pages/face-coverings/

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Exemptions to wearing a Face Covering

As instructed by Scottish Government Guidelines

Face covering exemptions Some people are not required to wear a face covering. These include:

children under 5 years of age

police constables or workers such as paramedics acting in the course of their duty

staff such as drivers or checkout assistants who are physically separated, by means of, for example, screens, from passengers or customers

shop workers if they maintain a 2 metre distance from customers or members of the public

You may also have a reasonable excuse not to wear a face covering if, for example:

you have a health condition or you are disabled and a face covering would be inappro-priate because it would cause difficulty, pain or severe distress or anxiety or because you cannot apply a covering and wear it in the proper manner safely and consistently. Individual discretion should be applied in considering the use of face coverings for other children in-cluding, for example, children with breathing difficulties and disabled children who would struggle to wear a face covering

you need to eat or drink or if you are taking medication

you are communicating with someone else who relies on lip reading

a relevant person, such as a police officer, asks you to remove your face covering

https://www.gov.scot/publications/coronavirus-covid-19-phase-3-staying-safe-and-protecting-others/pages/face-coverings/

Guidelines on 17.7.2020

If you have an exemption from wearing facemasks you may want to wear a badge or a lanyard although this is NOT compulsory. You can order these from the websites bellow:-

https://www.euansguide.com/news/face-mask-exempt-badges/

Hidden Disabilities Exemption Badge - https://hiddendisabilitiesstore.com/hidden-disabilities-face-covering.html

These cost 55p each.

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How to make a Face Covering

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-52609777