ndc london - look at the man in the mirror - the smart way for change in personality

Look at the WOman in the Mirror - The smart way for change in personality

Sabine Bernecker-Bendixen@SabineBendixen

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www.sof-it.de www.project-laas.com

NDC London 2016

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http://www.sof-it.de

http://www.project-laas.com

About me:Freelance Consultant & author

main topics: communication, Team & Culture, Leadership, Changes

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Continuous Lifecycle Conference

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NDC London

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Speaker Experience


Publications

heise-online.dedevops.com

Entwickler Magazin

entwickler.dePHP Magazin

eclipse MagazinJAXenter.de

WiP: infoQ.com


„If it gets better, when it gets different, I don´t know.

But that it has to be different, when it should get good, I know!“

Georg Christoph Lichtenberg (1742-1799), mathematician, professor of experimental physics, philosopher

Why DevOps is a good example:- no one-size-fits-all approach

- the possibility to find / develop the most fitting set up for you, your team, your work & company


- a lot of soft / social skills are necessary to do DevOps

Change in personality -

the aggressor to our comfort zone!?

from: pfoten-leser.de

from: roomido.com


…even if the change seems to be a small one!


Change happens anyway-

• day by day

• with or without you

• But no matter which way you choose - it will always affect your life, your work - your success

• So better give change YOUR direction!


“If you can´t see how your industry will be affected by upcoming ideas, change will hit you from

behind!“Shai Agassi, Founder of Better Placeat CeBIT Global Conferences 2015


Some gifts for you!NDC 2016 copyright @SabineBendixen

“Life is like a box of Chocolate, you never know what you´re gonna get!“

From Forrest Gump (Tom Hanks)


The heart as a Symbol...

- for life (the organ which is pumping the blood through our bodies)

- for LOVENDC 2016 copyright @SabineBendixen

Time to say:

• for being here

• for being interested in sharing ideas

• for being curios about other people and their opinions

I love you!


Do you love...

• what you do

• how you do it

• with whom you are doing it

• ?


YES or NO:Both is GREAT!

• changes are important to keep what you love!

If YES: If NO:

• Changes are necessary to return / come to love what you are doing!


Please note:

Change is not automatically the same as progress!

Very often change is needed to keep at least the

status quo!


If you are ahead of the others,

from: spiegel-online.de


…and you now start to relax too much,


…the others will overtake you sooner or later!


We all are able to change our personality!


Good news!

So, why the hell do

we talk that much about the difficulties of changing ourselves

instead of simply doing it?


...because of: - experiences

- anxieties- laziness

- wrong ways- lack of motivation

- horror stories, we have heard- no idea about what to do

- possible failures- being the best anyway

- having always done it this way- lack of self-confidence

- and many more excuses….NDC 2016 copyright @SabineBendixen

One big mistakes: step 3 and 4 before 1 and 2

organizational

change

changing tools

cultural change

individual change

START


Better :the more sustainable way...

personal change

cultural change

organizational change

changing tools

Start Goalprocess & progress

closing ranks / merging


Sometimes big names are:

-motivating or

- frightening!

a scary beast in another one´s eyes!

With giving the „baby of change“ a big name - like DevOps -

this cute little thing may turn into


The biggest mistake:

Wanting to change everyone and everything at once!


You can´t change anybody anyway - except yourself!


Please return the boxes!NDC 2016 copyright @SabineBendixen

the symbol of the box...

• our own limitations

• We are living in a box!

• the box as our comfort zone


Introducing 3 quotes:

• “Example is not the main thing in influencing others. It is the only thing!“ Albert Schweitzer (1875-1965)

• “We are who we choose to be!“ Green Goblin from Spider-Man

• “You cannot live your life to please others. The Choice MUST be YOURS!“ White Queen from Alice in Wonderland

Albert SchweitzerNDC 2016 copyright @SabineBendixen

Start with the (wo)man in the mirror

• I´m starting with the man in the mirror - I´m asking him to change his way and no message could have been any clearer,

• if you wanna make this world a better place - take a look at yourself - and then make a change!

Michael Jackson, Man in the mirror, 1987


First steps for your own change:


Have a look at your own box - your limitations!

private life workinfluencing

A holistic approach


1. Identify your own goals2. Which are the main and important

skills to reach these goals?

from BILD Zeitung, Summer 2000


Self-perception and feedbackAnalyze your self-

perception!

Get feedback! Ask questions & listen!

Ask many - questions & people!

Make a comparison between: self-perception : feedback : what

you need to reach your goal!=

What you have to work on!

Not knownto others

Known toothers

Known to yourself Not known to your-self

OPEN BLIND

HIDDENUN-

KNOWN

johari-window, 1955 by Joseph Luft &Harrington Ingham


Are you really ready for it?Are you willing to leave / expand your comfort zone?

comfortzone

where the magic

happens

Trust

Courage

your way


The expanded version!

One decision to be done:

• “Do, or do not. There is no ´try`!“ Yoda from Star Wars


Slight steps of personal change - huge effects

YOU

the actual ´you`

a good range of change

a small step for you

a huge effect on others

too big

much too big


only 1 or 2 steps at once

few steps at oncelead to success

success motivatesyou

others will recognize it

it will motivate &encourage them

they will follow in gentle steps

that will motivate you



The flowchart of change in personality!

YOU

realizing that smth. isn´t ok!

Thinking about what is to change and how!

Starting the process!

The time lag

Others

hear you talk about it! start realizing it!

start thinking about it!

The time lag

Be patient!NDC 2016 copyright @SabineBendixen

Think aloud!


Be aware:“Don´t ever let somebody tell you you can´t do something, not even

me. You dream, you gotta protect it! People can´t do something themselves, they wanna tell you you can´t do it. If you want

something, go get it. Period!“

Chris Gardener (Will Smith), The Pursuit of Happyness


With the first multipliers

the influence on others will

increase rapidly!


Never ever push - always pull!

Pressure causes counter-pressure!


This slight way of change needs to be prepared very well and it

takes some time! personal ch.

cultural ch.

organizational change

changing tools

Start Goalprocess & progress

merge


Building a strong fundament

will cause more sustainability!


With being the good example you show that change is possible and

that it is nothing to be afraid of!

During your process a lot of changes have happened to your team as well!

Good experiences have been created!

You all have learned from failures!

“All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.“

from Lord of the Rings: The fellowship of the Ring

Stop talking!Start with yourself!

Because someone has to!NDC 2016 copyright @SabineBendixen

Thank you very much for listening!


We want you as:- speaker- sponsor- attendee!

May, 12-13

@DevOpsDaysKiel

www.devopsdays.org/events/2016-kiel/

from Resident Evil: After Life / 2010

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