NORTHVIEW CHURCHWEDDING GUIDELINES

CONTENTSIntroduction p. 1Wedding Services p.2Northview Church Marriage Requirements p.3Wedding Checklist p.4&5Venue Availability and Fees p.6Campus Fees p.7-14 Anderson Binford Carmel Fishers Greater Lafayette Kokomo WestfieldVenue Guidelines p.15Becoming One p.16Forms p.17

1. Wedding Application Form2. Marriage Preparation Inventory Divorce Issues3. Wedding Information Sheet4. Premarital Commitment

Resources p.23

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INTRODUCTIONCongratulations on your upcoming marriage! As you know, marriage is God’s idea. He was the one who created man and woman and put them together in a covenant relationship that we call marriage. We hope that your wedding day is very special, and we want to help you make your marriage a wonderful, lifelong commitment. God intended marriage to be a relationship of oneness, intimacy and profound connectedness.

The Wedding Guidelines explain how weddings at Northview Church work. We believe that marriage is a holy and sacred institution created by God. As a church, we believe that it is a responsibility that God has entrusted toourcare.TheNorthviewWeddingGuidelinesandstandardsreflecttheweightynatureofthisspecialrelationship.

Thisstandardreflectstheuniquenessofourchurchandwillnotbetrueofeverychurchyoumaycontact.

Please carefully read the following and don’t hesitate to contact us if you have any questions.

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WEDDING SERVICESWEDDING SCHEDULER

Annette Parker will serve as your Wedding Scheduler and is the initial contact for weddings at all Northview campuses.

Phone: 317.846.2884 Ext. 1004 Email: annette,parker@northviewchurch.us

WEDDING DIRECTORS

A Wedding Director at Northview is assigned to your wedding to assist you during the rehearsal and ceremony. The couple will meet with the Wedding Director to discuss details about the facility, equipment use and the order of the ceremony. The director does not assist in planning the wedding; he or she directs the rehearsal and weddingtoensuretheyrunsmoothlyandconfirmsthesetupandcleanupofyourwedding.

PASTOR

A Northview Pastor will be assigned to facilitate your wedding. You will need to arrange this with the Wedding Scheduleratleast4monthspriortoyourwedding.Requestsforpastorstoofficiateanoffsiteweddingwillbeconsidered on a case-by-case basis.

AUDIO TECHNICIANS

An Audio Technician will be assigned to your wedding to ensure your audio needs are met during the wedding rehearsal and ceremony, including operating sound during the ceremony and setting up the audio equipment. The Audio Technician will contact you at least 30 days before your wedding to discuss any needs or concerns you may have.

VIDEO ENGINEER

If needed, a Video Engineer will be assigned to your wedding to display visual graphics you may have for your wedding ceremony. The Video Engineer provides multimedia, DVD and PowerPoint services but does not videotape the wedding. The Video Engineer will contact you at least 30 days before your wedding to obtain any computerfilesneededforthisservice.A30-daytimeframeisneededtoensurethatbothparties’equipmentiscompatible.Ifthisserviceisnotdesired,pleaseinformthechurchofficeassoonaspossible.

SETUP & MAINTENANCE

Northview provides setup and maintenance/cleanup for your wedding, including the ceremony space, reception space, bridal and groom’s rooms and restrooms. This does not include setting up or removing decorations. A setup/cleaning fee will be required based on which Northview Campus you choose for your wedding.

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NORTHVIEW CHURCH MARRIAGE REQUIREMENTSThe following requirements apply to all couples who are being married at Northview or by a Northview Pastor, regardless of the wedding location.

• There must be a minimum of four months between the time that your wedding date is reserved and theactualdateofyourwedding.Thisprovidesampletimetoadequatelyfulfillthechurch’spremaritalrequirements.

• You or an immediate family member must be a Northview member, having been adult water-baptized from any church after receiving Christ as your Savior. This needs to be taken care of at least four months before yourweddingdatetofulfilltherequirements.

• YoumustaffirmandadheretoNorthview’sPremaritalCommitment,whichyouwillsigninyourmeetingwith your Campus Pastor.

• You must complete Becoming One, Northview’s prep-for-marriage course.

• You must attend the church’s Weekend Services weekly, unless ill or traveling.

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WEDDING CHECKLISTTimeline Task Date Completed

At least 4 months before the wedding

Check facility availability with the Wedding Scheduler.

Fill out and return completed Wedding Application Form (included).

Confirmthatyourweddingdateis secure.

Become members of Northview Church if you are not already members.

Continue attending Weekend Services at Northview.

Contact the Wedding Scheduler to arrange the Pastor who will be facilitating your ceremony.

Contact the Wedding Scheduler to set up an appointment with a Northview Campus Pastor to review your Wedding Application and Premarital Commitment. (This does not necessarily have to be the Pastor who facilitates your ceremony.)

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1.5 months before wedding

Meet with a Northview Campus Pastor to review your Wedding Application and Premarital Commitment.

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1-2 months before wedding

Attend Becoming One marriage preparation class.

Turn in $100 wedding deposit to the Wedding Scheduler at least 45 days before your wedding. (Make checks payable to Northview Church.)

Obtain marriage license (Marriage licenses are valid for 60 days in Indiana.)

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30 days before wedding Turn in FULL payment to Wedding Scheduler. (Make checks payable to Northview Church.)

The Audio Technician will contact you to discuss audio needs.

The Video Engineer will contact you to discuss video needs and equipment.

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Confirmdetailsaboutyourwedding with the following staff:Wedding DirectorAudio TechnicianVideo EngineerPastor facilitating the ceremony ___________________

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VENUE AVAILABILITY AND FEESAvailability Guidelines for All Northview Campuses

- All Northview Campuses are only available for weddings on Friday and Saturday. Each Northview Campusalsohasspecifictimesthattheirspaceisavailable.Seebelowfordetails.

- No weddings will be scheduled on weekends when a holiday is on a Friday, Saturday, Sunday or Monday: New Year’s Day, Easter, Mother’s Day, Memorial Day, Father’s Day, July 4th, Labor Day, Black Friday, Christmas Eve, Christmas and New Year’s Eve.

- No weddings will be scheduled on dates where there is already a major event (example: cross-country race) at the Northview Campus you choose.

Fees for All Northview Campuses

- A $100 wedding deposit is due to the Wedding Scheduler at least 45 days before your wedding. Full payment is due 30 days before your wedding date. Please make all checks payable to Northview Church and send to the Wedding Scheduler.

- EachNorthviewCampushasspecificfeesassociatedwithrentingtheirspace.Seebelowfordetails.

- Fees paid directly to third party:

· Pastor’s honorarium - $100 and up is customary

· Becoming One premarital class - $115 due upon registration

· Musicians - The services and fees for musicians are arranged directly by the couple. Northview does not provide referrals for musicians; they must be secured by the couple.

- Optional Fees:

o Video Engineer- $75

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CAMPUS FEES

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ANDERSON CAMPUSSpace Time Available Fees

Auditorium

Ceremony Only

Seats: 350

- Friday: available from 4:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.

- Saturday: The ceremony can begin between 10:30 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.

- Rehearsal must start no later than 6:30 p.m. the day before the ceremony.

- The Auditorium is available for decorating no earlier than 12 p.m. one day before the ceremony and must be scheduled with the Wedding Director.

TOTAL: $475

- Setup and Maintenance: $100

- Technology and Production: $175

- Wedding Director: $200

- Rental of the Auditorium also includes bridal/groom’s rooms for getting ready.

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BINFORD CAMPUS(Coming Soon)

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CARMEL CAMPUSSpace Availability Fees

Chapel

Ceremony Only

Seats: 100

- Friday: The ceremony can begin from 4:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.

- Saturday: The ceremony can begin between 9:30 a.m. - 2 p.m. (All photographs must be completed by 3 p.m.)

- Rehearsals may not start before 6 p.m. the day before the ceremony.

TOTAL: $475

- Setup and Maintenance: $100

- Technology and Production: $175

- Wedding Director: $200

- Rental of the Chapel also includes bridal/groom’s rooms for getting ready.

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FISHERS CAMPUSSpace Time Available Fees

Auditorium

Ceremony Only

Seats: 460

- Friday: available from 4:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.

- Saturday: The ceremony can begin between 10:30 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.

- Rehearsal must start no later than 6:30 p.m. the day before the ceremony.

- The Auditorium is available for decorating no earlier than 12 p.m. one day before the ceremony and must be scheduled with the Wedding Director.

TOTAL: $475

- Setup and Maintenance: $100

- Technology and Production: $175

- Wedding Director: $200

- Rental of the Auditorium also includes bridal/groom’s rooms for getting ready.

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GREATER LAFAYETTE CAMPUSSpace Time Available Fees

Auditorium

Ceremony Only

Seats: 460

- Friday: The ceremony can begin from 4:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.

- Saturday: The ceremony can begin between 10:30 a.m - 6:00 p.m. (with all photographs completed by 7:00 p.m.).

- Rehearsal must start no later than 6:30 p.m. the day before the ceremony.

- Rehearsal space is available for decorating no earlier than 12 p.m. one day before the ceremony and must be scheduled with the Wedding Director.

TOTAL: $475

- Setup and Maintenance: $100

- Technology and Production: $175

- Wedding Director: $200

- Rental of the Auditorium also includes bridal/groom’s rooms for getting ready.

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KOKOMO CAMPUSSpace Time Available Fees

Auditorium

Ceremony Only

Seats: 400

- Friday: available from 4:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.

- Saturday: The ceremony can begin between 10:30 a.m. - 6:00 p.m.

- Rehearsal must start no later than 6:30 p.m. the day before the ceremony.

- The Auditorium is available for decorating no earlier than 12 p.m. one day before the ceremony and must be scheduled with the Wedding Director.

TOTAL: $475

- Setup and Maintenance: $100

- Technology and Production: $175

- Wedding Director: $200

- Rental of the Auditorium also includes bridal/groom’s rooms for getting ready.

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WESTFIELD CAMPUSSpace Time Available Fees

Auditorium

Ceremony Only

Seats: 460

- Friday: The ceremony can begin from 4:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.

- Saturday: The ceremony can begin between 10:30 a.m - 6:00 p.m. (with all photographs completed by 7:00 p.m.).

- Rehearsal must start no later than 6:30 p.m. the day before the ceremony.

- Rehearsal space is available for decorating no earlier than 12 p.m. one day before the ceremony and must be scheduled with the Wedding Director.

TOTAL: $475

- Setup and Maintenance: $100

- Technology and Production: $175

- Wedding Director: $200

- Rental of the Auditorium also includes bridal/groom’s rooms for getting ready.

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VENUE GUIDELINESThe following guidelines apply for all Northview Campuses:

• All wedding guests, along with food and drinks, must stay in the area designated by the Wedding Director.

• The wedding party must remove all personal decorations immediately following the ceremony and reception.

• No confetti, rice, birdseed etc., may be thrown within the church building. Only birdseed may be thrown outside the church building.

• No alcohol is permitted on church property.

• No smoking is permitted within the church building.

• Sexually suggestive, violent and/or profane music is not permitted during wedding ceremonies or wedding receptions held at Northview.

• Northview Church is not responsible for lost or stolen property.

• Northview Church does not staff or have nursery facilities available for weddings.

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BECOMING ONEBecomingOneisafaith-basedrelationshipeducationclassthatwillhelpyouandyourfiancélaythefoundationfor a great marriage. Research shows that couples who prepare for marriage are 30 percent more likely to go the distance in their marriage.

Becoming One includes an eight-hour relationship skills class and materials, a customized online relationship assessmentandfivemeetingswithamarriagementorcouple.

When: Becoming One is offered four times a year and meets on a Friday from 6:30 p.m. - 9 p.m., and on a Saturday from 9 a.m. - 4 p.m.

Cost: $115.

Register at www.northviewchurch.us/get-involved/events/

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FORMS

Name

Street

City/State/Zip

Phone ❍ Home ❍ Work ❍ Cell

Email

Fiancé

Northview member: ❍ yes ❍ no

Have you been previously married?* ❍ yes ❍ no

Children? ❍ yes ❍ no

*If previously married, complete the attached form on divorce issues and turn in with application

Please check the area you wish to use for your ceremony: ❍ Anderson ❍ Binford ❍ Carmel ❍ Fishers ❍ Kokomo ❍ Greater

Lafayette ❍Westfield

Proposed wedding date: _______/_______/_______ Time:_____________

Proposed Rehearsal Date _______/_______/_______ Time:_____________

Will the reception be held at Northview? ❍ Yes ❍ No

Reception Location ___________________________

Have you completely read the Northview Wedding guidelines? ❍ Yes ❍ No

1. Please explain why you want to get married.

2. Please explain why you want to get married in a church.

3. Did you attend a church while growing up? If so, when and where?

Wedding Application Form

Thisshouldbefilledoutindividuallybythegroomandbride.

# in Wedding Party ________# Expected Guests ________Future Contact information_________________________Preferred Name _________________________ Address _________________________________________________________

4. Have you accepted Christ as your personal Savior? If so, how has this decision affected your life?

5. What brought you to Northview Church?

6. How long have you been attending Northview?

Remarks:

Name

Datedivorcewasfinal

Please give careful thought to these questions, answering them honestly and thoroughly. Our intention is not to put you through unnecessaryorfrivoloussteps,buttoinsurethatyouhavefacedissuesthatcouldhaveanegativeinfluenceonyourcurrentrelationship.These questions/answers will be addressed as part of your mentoring process.

1.Whofiledfordivorceandonwhatgrounds?

Is your ex-spouse remarried? ❍ Yes ❍ No

2. Summarize the problems in your previous marriage(s) that led to your divorce(s).

3. What part of the above problems were your responsibility? What steps have you taken to resolve these issues?

4 In what ways have you sought forgiveness from your former spouse and children for your contribution to the breakup?

5. Describe the relationship you have now with your former spouse.

6. What steps have you taken to work through the pain of your divorce? How long has this taken?

Marriage Preparation Inventory Divorce IssuesThisshouldbefilledoutindividuallybythegroomandbride.

7. If you have children, what are their names and ages?

Name Age

Name Age

Name Age

Name Age

Name Age

8. Will your children take a new last name? ❍ Yes ❍ No If yes, what will their new last name be?

9. Have you discussed your plans for remarriage with your children? If yes, what is their opinion?

10. If there are children from a previous marriage who will be living with you after your marriage, how do think this will affect the relationship with your new spouse?

11. In what way(s) do you feel this marriage will be different from your past marriage(s)?

Remarks:

Preparation for the New Relationship

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PREMARITAL COMMITMENTWe believe that marriage is God’s creation and that He created marriage to be a covenant relationship between one man and one woman. In the marriage relationship we see a glimpse of the covenant relationship that God has established with His people through His son, Jesus Christ. We agree, through the grace and strength of God, to live according to the premarital standards expressed by God in the Bible. By signingbelow,weaffirmourpersonalfaithinJesusChristandexpressourdesireandcommitmenttoliveaccording to the following:

- WeaffirmthatwehavebothplacedourtrustandfaithinJesusChristfortheforgivenessofsinsand have received Him as our Savior and Lord. (2 Corinthians 6:14)

- We agree to build our premarital relationship and future marriage on the principles that are found in God’s Word. (2 Timothy 3:16-17)

- We believe that God has established the marriage covenant as a lifelong commitment and are committed to a lifelong marriage. (Matthew 19:4-6)

- We agree that maintaining a sexually pure life honors God and is what He desires for our relationship. Thus, we submit our premarital relationship to His will and commit to maintain personal integrity by abstaining from sexually stimulating contact from now until our wedding day. (Hebrews 13:4)

In the presence of God, I make this commitment:

___________________________ Groom

In the presence of God, I make this commitment:

___________________________ Bride

I have explained the Northview Premarital Commitment and have witnessed the signing:

___________________________ Northview Pastor

“Unless the Lord builds the house, the builders labor in vain.” (Psalm 127:1)

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RESOURCES“The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate”

By Gary Chapman

“Hidden Keys of a Loving, Lasting Marriage”

By Gary Smalley

“His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage”

By Willard Harley Jr.

“Intended for Pleasure”

By Ed Wheat

“Love and Respect”

Emerson Eggerichs

“Sacred Marriage”

By Gary Thomas

“Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts”

By Les and Leslie Parrott

“The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work”

By John Gottman

“The Total Money Makeover”

By Dave Ramsey