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“My children are learning things I never imagined
they could learn at this point in their lives. My
preschooler can write his name and recite his
alphabet and numbers. I also have a 15-month
old who is learning his shapes and colors. It’s
just amazing how much Primrose is teaching
my children.” — Jude & Ethan’s Mom, Primrose Parent
The Right Foundation to Build Active Minds, Healthy Bodies, and Happy Hearts®
Primrose students show 1.3 times more yearly growth than their peers
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Primrose School of Carmel 317.848.8771
Primrose School of Gray Eagle 317.577.9480
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Contents Meet the StaffPUBLISHERMary Wynne [email protected]
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CONTRIBUTING WRITERSSusan Bryant, Mary SusanBuhner, Hannah Hilliard, Mindy Irish, Holly Kline, Danielle Myers, Karen Ring
PHOTOGRAPHERBrian McGuckin
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On The CoverElizabeth (10), Charlie (7),
AJ (5) and Asa (2) McGuckin[ ]
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NOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2012 Photo-Inspired Gifts Holiday Season8 | Greetings
'Tis the Season
12 | On the RadarGet your Gobble On!, Joseph and the Amazing
Technicolor Dreamcoat, Pets Healing Vets and more!
16 | Real Moms: Tina Brown,Super Mom
One Mom's Fight to Give Ger Adoptive Son theLife He Deserves
18 | Center Stage: Sending HopeOne Service-minded Teen Turns a Sewing Hobby
into a Much-needed Series of Good Deeds
20 | Home (Alone) for the HolidaysCoping with the Holiday Season as a
Newly Single Parent
22 | Not Good EnoughHelping Our Girls Get Beyond
Their Body Image Issues
24 | Mommy MagicA Lesson in Friendship
26 | Shop Local This Holiday SeasonGreat Options for Finding Unique Gifts While
Boosting the Local Economy
28 | Holiday Fun Guide
30 | Fill Your BucketSo Much To Do, So Little Time!
31 | The NestHoliday Decorations 101
32 | To Do With Your CrewMark your calendars and get ready
for fun family activities
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Photo-Inspired Gifts Holiday Season
There is no gift more meaningful than something that takes thought and comes from the heart. Photo gifts are especially cherished because of the memories they convey. Below are a few tips on creating photo-inspired gifts that are sure to please this holiday season.
Next time you stop over at the Grandparent’s house, grab a shoebox full of old photos from your childhood. Enlist siblings or friends and have fun going through all of the different fashion eras, crazy hair styles and goofy faces as you scan in each photo as a means of preserving them for years to come. After you upload the scanned files to your computer there are several different ways you can pres-ent them. Think about creating a video or slideshow with captions. You could also print a few copies and get creative by mounting them in an old window frame or hanging them in a birdcage. This gift giving idea can be time consuming but nearly cost-free and completely invaluable.
Another great photo-inspired gift option that is practical and sentimen- tal is a custom calendar. You can create a custom calendar through several different online vendors with ease. Simply upload your pictures, select a template and place the photos by selecting those that coordinate with each month. You can also mark specific dates, such as birthdays and special family events, with a photo of your choice. This is a gift that will keep giving all year long.
Why not try creating your own photo wreath as a unique gift option? The supply list is very simple and the wow factor is great! All you need is a Styrofoam wreath from a craft store, decorative paper, photos, brads, scissors, push pins, photo-safe glue and ribbon. First take the photos and cut them into circles and glue onto the decorative paper. Next, you can use pinking shears and cut around the photos leaving the edge of the paper showing. After you have all of the photos cut, simply connect with decorative brads and make a circle. Adhere the photo circle to the Styrofoam wreath with push pins, add a ribbon to hang it with and you have an adorable photo wreath. You can also embellish with pearls, beads or other fun accessories.
Another way to get creative is by creating a personalized photo collage. Start by purchasing a large wooden monogram letter from your local craft store. Print 20 to 30 black-and-white prints and cover the letter in collage fashion by using photo safe glue or Mod Podge to create a fun and personalized decoupage gift!
Make gift giving memorable this holiday season by usingphotos as your inspiration. The possibilities are endlessand the results are sure the please.
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that person that is so difficult to shop for. You are sure to find “one of a kind” gifts right here in Hamilton County. Also, our Holiday Fun Guide is your go-to source for all of the upcoming local holiday events. From a trip to the Christmas tree farm to a train ride to the North Pole, there are so many things to do with your family this holiday season.
We all know that this is a very hectic time of year, so keep in mind that, 'Tis the
season to be JOLLY! We wish all of our Hamilton County Families a happy holiday season filled with memories that will last a lifetime!
I hope that you and your family aregearing up for this special time of year.The holiday season is a time when loved ones come together from near and far to spend quality time and enjoy the company of one another, while making memoriesand creating traditions that will be carried on by our children.
As a mom, I know how busy we all are in these upcoming months, lots of “to dos”to fit into a much busier calendar. Amidst all of the hustle and bustle, be sure tomake time to enjoy all that this seasonhas to offer.
Take some time to read our LocalShopping feature for some great ideas for
GreetingsNOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2012
Jennica ZalewskiAssociate Publisher
'Tis the Season!
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Mark Your Calendar Get Involved Other
On The RadarNOVEMBER/DECEMBER 2012
The perfect holiday treat for the whole family!Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat returns to Booth Tarkington CivicTheatre for the holidays, making its debut at the Tarkington at the Center for the Performing Arts in Carmel. Andrew Lloyd Webber & Tim Rice’s musical adaptation of the well-known Biblical tale shares the trials and triumphs of Jacob’s favorite son, told entirely in song, blending 50s Rock-n-Roll, Country Western, Calypso, Pop and French Chanson.
Witness Joseph in all its glory December 14 through January 5. Show times are Thursday and Friday at 7pm, Saturday at 2pm and 7pm, and Sunday at 2pm. Tickets are $44 for adults and $34 for youth 17 & under. A special group rate is available to families of four at a 25% discount. For more information, visit civictheatre.org or call (317) 843-3800.
And the winner is….Carmel, the best place to live according to Money Magazine’s list of America’s best smallcities.
Five years ago Carmel was a quiet, upscale bedroom community that offered an easy 20-minute commute to downtown Indianapolis. Despite the recession, this for-merly sleepy burb has since transformed itself into the
ideal place to work and play.
Carmel's business district now has the second-larges concentration of office workers in Indiana and an unem-
ployment rate that's just over half the national average.
The city also has excellent schools, a big sports and recre-ation center, a performing arts center, and wide bike lanes. All that, plus a variety of housing options ranging from old-er homes to new subdivisions, and you have an irresistible
draw for families.
Get your gobble on!
The Fishers YMCA proudly hosts the 2nd Annual WISHBONE 5K - presented by Runners Forum - on Thanksgiving morning, Thurs-day, November 22, 2012. The run/walk, which begins at 8:00 a.m. supports the Fishers YMCA “Y FOR ALL” Campaign, helping kids and families in need in the community participate in YMCA camps, programs and membership. Registration is $25 and includes a long sleeve Asics running shirt. Family of 4: just $75! Also, the Fishers Y will host a packet pick-up and Free Family Fun Night the
evening before the race.
To register, visit www.getmeregistered.com/wishbone5k.[ [
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“Pets Healing Vets”
The Humane Society for Hamilton County now offers a free pet adoption program, Pets
Healing Vets, which pairs qualifying veterans returning from active duty with symptoms
of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) or Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) with shelter
animals in need of homes. This is the first program of its kind serving veterans in the
state of Indiana.
The mission of the program is to help rehabilitate veterans suffering from Post Traumatic Stress
Disorder (PTSD) or Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) by pairing them up with carefully selected shelter dogs or cats in need of a home. This
program is a win-win situation for abused or unwanted animals to receive a new lease on life and veterans who can enjoy the comfort
and loyalty of a loving dog or cat waiting at home for them.
For more information, visit www.petshealingvets.com.
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On The Radar Do it for yourself.
The 500 Festival kicks off May in a big way with one of its pre-
mier events, the OneAmerica 500 Festival Mini-Marathon. The
Mini-Marathon is the nation’s largest half-marathon, having sold
out with 35,000 participants for the past 11 years. Don’t miss
your chance to register for the 2013 race on Saturday, May 4 in
downtown Indianapolis. From international athletes to groups of
family and friends, the Mini-Marathon provides competition and
camaraderie for all. If 13.1 miles is too long, try 3.1. The Finish
Line 500 Festival 5K participants experience many of the same
benefits of the Mini-Marathon – same day, same fun! Following
the races, participants along with their family and friends can
gather in the 500 Festival Post Race Party at Military Park in
downtown Indianapolis to celebrate their success.
Hamilton County Kicks Off the Holiday Season
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Holiday on the Square in CarmelNovember 17 from 4:30 - 6:30 p.m.Holiday entertainment, Holiday farmers market, Santa, his elves and live reindeer provide a festive atmosphere for the City’s Holiday lighting ceremony on Civic Square. For more information, visit: www.carmel.in.gov/
Fishers Tree LightingNovember 29 from 6:30 - 8 p.m.Join family and friends at Fishers Town Hall for the lighting of the Holiday tree and decorations! Enjoy a visit with Santa, caroling with Sister Cities' Dickens Carolers, refreshments and other surprises. For more information, visit: www.fishers.in.us/
Westfield in LightsNovember 30 from 5:30 - 8:30 p.m.Westfield’s 3rd annual tree-lighting festival will be held downtown onNorth Union Street.For more information, visit: www.dwna.org/site/
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by: Karen Ring, mom of 2
Tina Brown: Super Mom
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Tina Brown of Noblesville knows a thing or two about being a mom. She has raised two children of her own and has taken on the role of stepmom to husband Steve’s two children. Tina added foster mom to her list of parenting credentials in 2007 and in 2011 she became an adoptive mom for the first time to a very special boy named Aiden.
The journey that led Tina to Aiden began five years ago… long before Aiden was born. Tina was at a point in her life when her children were gaining their independence and planning lives of their own. With this chang-ing dynamic at home, Tina began pouring more of herself into her job as a nurse to chil-dren with special needs. Eventually, Tina re-alized that, as much as she loved her job, she did not want it to define her and so she set out to find the next calling in her personal life. The path she chose was becoming a foster parent, which would let her combine her love of parenting and her experience working with special needs children. “Every child should have the opportunity to live a normal life with good role models,” Tina states.
Steve was on board with Tina’s decision and the couple began opening their home to children of all ages. As a foster mom, Tina has dealt with a variety of special needs, but nothing would prepare her for the call she received from the foster care agency in 2010. They were calling about a little boy named Aiden, who, at just 13 months of age, had been involved in a car accident that resulted when his mother attempted to drive while un-der the influence of narcotics. Aiden’s mother passed out at the wheel and the car slammed
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into a concrete barrier while going 80 miles per hour. Aiden’s mother and the other adult passenger were uninjured. Aiden, who was not properly secured in his car seat at the time, was not so fortunate. For him, the impact was devastating, jolting his tiny body forward and then back with such force that his skull detached from his spinal cord. This child, who had just recently learned to walk, was now a quadriplegic.
The foster care agency did their best to explain the extent of Aiden’s injuries. Unde-terred, Tina and Steve agreed to meet with Aiden the next day. When Tina walked into Aiden’s hospital room, she looked past all of the tubes and wires, took one look into his eyes and she admits, “I fell in love”. Even
though Tina is a nurse, the Browns were required to go through 30 days of training before Aiden could be released into their care. Not even this training could prepare Tina for what lay ahead.
On March 25, 2010, the Browns were able to take Aiden home. Much like a mother bringing a newborn baby home from the hospital, Tina’s sleep schedule and daily routine changed dramatically. Aiden required treatments around the clock. Tina’s day now began at 1:00am with the first in a series of treatments and ended with a bedtime of 10:30pm. The hours in between were a jug-gling act of feedings, catheter changes, treat-ments and therapy sessions. On top of all of this, Tina continued to work full-time.
One mom’s fight to give her adoptive son the life he deserves
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Despite the lack of sleep and daunting care schedule, Tina was adamant that Aiden had found them for a reason and he was there to stay. Initially, when Tina and Steve discussed becoming foster parents, they agreed that they did not intend to adopt. In Aiden’s case, how-ever, the fact that his biological mother had been at fault in causing his injuries meant there would be no home for him to return to. The extent of the care he required left very few options for him. “He would have ended up in a nursing home,” Tina confesses. She was not about to let that happen. Steve agreed.
On July 29, 2011 the Brown’s adoption of Aiden was finalized and Tina was ready for action. She used any spare moments she could find to research advances in the treatment of spinal cord injuries. She had one mis-sion for Aiden – a full recovery.
Just one month after the adoption, the Browns took Aiden to Cleveland, OH, where he received a diaphragm pacer implant, a revolutionary procedure that stimulates Aiden’s diaphragm, allowing him to breathe on his own for extended periods of time. This meant Aiden was able to take a break from the constant barrage of tubes and wires imposed by the ventilator that had been doing all of his breathing for him. Tina could now carry her son in the same manner she had carried her previous children. More importantly, she could snuggle with Aiden and hold him close, something the ventilator made it nearly impossible to do before.
This newfound freedom from the ventilator also made leaving the house much less of a chore – something that is key in Tina’s mind. “I refuse to allow [Aiden] to just be cooped up at the house all day,” she says.
While the pacer was a huge step in Aiden’s recovery, Tina was not about to stop there. She continued her research and sought out advice from friends she had gained in the spinal cord injury (SCI) community. Tina’s findings led her to the Kennedy Krieger Institute in Baltimore, MD, where Aiden underwent two weeks of intensive therapy.
The experience was amazing, introducing Tina to ad-vances in SCI treatment such as the Functional Electrical Stimulation (FES) bicycle, which uses a computerized stimulator to control Aiden’s muscle contractions, allowing his legs to power the bicycle.
After just three days of treatment, Aiden showed remark-able progress, exhibiting movement in his shoulders and arms. Tina now had a new goal – to acquire an FES
bicycle for Aiden. Unfortunately, with a hefty price tag of $21,000, this goal would not come easily. With determination on her side, Tina has raised nearly half of the money for the FES bike through Aiden’s Breath, the charitable organization she founded on Aiden’s behalf.
In the meantime, Aiden continues his traditional therapy, making trips to the Kennedy Krieger Institute whenever possible. He is also enrolled in the earlyeducation program at Hinkle Creek Elementary School in Noblesville.
What Tina strives to make people understand is that despite the extent of hisinjuries, Aiden is mentally just like any other three year old – he has favoritemovies he likes to watch, he isn’t shy when it comes to telling his mom, “No!” and he is full of love. “He gives you that look that lets you know how much he loves you,” Tina says. She adds, “It is that gratitude, that love, that keeps me going. Knowing that everything we do for him is making him better and help-ing him grow physically and mentally…with the hope that one day he will walk again.” The road to recovery will be a difficult one, but Tina is up for thechallenge.
Every child should have theopportunity to live a normal life withgood role models.“ “
[ [For more information on Aiden’s road to recovery and how you can help, visit: http://www.aidensbreath.org.
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Sending hope
Katia and her grandmother Sandra Corya make
dresses for little girls who live in orphanages in
Guatemala, Haiti and other places around the
globe. Katia’s grandmother Sandra has been
sewing dresses and donating them for years.
Katia became interested in sewing and now they
enjoy creating the clothes together. “I dance six
days a week and my grandmother and I get to-
gether usually on Sundays [to make the dress-
es],” said Katia.
So far this year they have sent out two shipments
of dresses; one went with Indiana University
Hospital’s medical missionaries to various places
and another lot of dresses went to Guatemala.
Katia and Sandra are preparing another group of
dresses that will go to Haiti later this year.
Haiti is the poorest country in the Western Hemi-
sphere according to The World Factbook and
80% of the population lives below the poverty
line. Katia and her grandmother are certainly
helping to fulfill a basic need by sending their
by: Holly Kline, mom of 3
Center Stage
Seventeen year-old Katia Hamamouche is a student at Westfield Washington High School, a hardworking
dancer at the Academy of Gregory Hancock Dance Theatre in Carmel and a childcare assistant and camp
counselor. As if all of this weren’t enough, Katia
also happens to be a service-minded teenager
who somehow finds the time to turn a sewing
hobby into a much-needed series of good deeds
that make a difference throughout the world.
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dresses to orphanages in Haiti. “I’ve never been
to Haiti,” said Katia, “but I hope to take my grand-
mother there someday.”
Annette Leone of Berea, Kentucky is someone
who has been to Haiti; she traveled there with her
church group and witnessed firsthand how acts of
kindness can impact children who may be strug-
gling.
Annette doesn’t know Katia or Sandra but she is
impressed by their dedication and she reflected on
how appreciative the people of Haiti are when they
receive donations.
“The kids are so incredibly thankful,” said Annette.
“For the whole six-hour drive from the airport in
Port-Au-Prince to our village the kids along the
roads would wave to us like celebrities. Our tour
guide said ‘You represent hope to them.’ Prob-
ably those dresses [that Katia makes] do too. They
know that someone from far away cares about
them.”
“We went to one orphanage in Haiti and I’m sure
any orphanage would be really thankful for the
dresses,” Annette added. “Just like anywhere, lit-
tle girls like little girl things. They like to be pretty.”
Not only do the dresses from Katia and Sandra
help clothe the girls in need in Haiti and other
places, but they also provide an extra benefit—the
excitement of receiving brand new possessions.
“New stuff is a big deal to the kids in Haiti,” said
Annette. “They are used to lots of hand-me-down
items so new clothing would be very exciting.”
Katia and her grandmother sew the dresses in siz-
es ranging from 4T for toddlers up to 14 for older
girls. Katia’s mother and grandmother buy all the
fabric and so far they have received one donation
from Katia’s dance teacher that helped to offset
the cost of supplies. “My grandmother has been
sewing her entire life,” said Katia, “so she has a
large supply [of sewing items] that we can use.”
Katia will enter her senior year at Westfield Wash-
ington High School this fall and is already making
plans for her life after graduation. “I am planning on double majoring in
Special Education and Dance and minoring in Speech and Hearing,” she
said. I have thought long and hard and have finally realized this is what I
want to do for the rest of my life.” Katia is definitely someone who knows
what she wants to do and is thankful for the opportunities she has been
granted. “At the Academy of Gregory Hancock Dance Theatre I am lucky
enough to have the opportunity to be a member of his pre-professional
company G2. As a member of G2 I get to perform alongside the profes-
sional company of GHDT. Gregory Hancock Dance Theatre is the resident
company at the Tarkington in Carmel,” Katia said.
Katia has clearly used her gratitude and focus to turn a fun hobby into acts
of charity that make a difference in children’s lives around the world. Katia
has not received any feedback from the places that receive the dresses but
the little girls who wear the new clothes are not far from her mind. “I hope
that the girls that receive them gain some self confidence and hope for
their futures,” said Katia.
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I hope that the girls that receivethem gain some self confidence andhope for their futures.— Katia Hamamouche, student
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Coping with the holiday season as a newly single parent
If the upcoming holiday season marks your
first year as a separated or divorced parent,
finding any joy during this time may be especially
difficult. The holidays can be a stressful period for
any family, but for a family that is no longer intact,
the inevitable changes can feel overwhelming.
For some perspective on how to best handle this
situation, we asked the opinions of those who
have been through the experience personally, as
well as professionals who help others through
the process every day. With the advice of our
local parents, family law attorneys and marriage
and family therapist, getting through this holiday
season as a newly single parent is definitely “do-
able.”
From the moms“I think the hardest part for me was learning that I
didn’t have to cram in every holiday tradition with
my kids in our shortened time together. I realized
that just spending time with them was the most
important thing,” says Jennifer Kendrick, Fishers
mom of three. “Also, I made sure I stayed busy
when the kids were away. I made plans to do
something just for myself to keep me occupied
through that first set of holidays.” Kendrick found
that by planning ahead with her ex-husband, they
were able to keep some of the same routines the
children were used to before the divorce.
Making decisions in advance with your ex-spouse
about how you will divide the holidays is critical
according to another Fishers mom, who says,
“Have a plan, embrace the plan and don’t change
the plan. Thanksgiving is not the time to think
about what you’re doing at Christmas. Trying
to make adjustments at the last minute is very
stressful.” She also advises, “Know what your
triggers are that will get you down and have a
plan in place to help you through those times. For
me, Christmas was not that hard. It was easy to
focus on my son having a good time. New Year’s
Eve was harder. It’s such a ‘date night’ and a
time when you reflect on the last year. So now I’m
planning on taking a vacation at New Year’s so it
becomes something I can look forward to instead
of dread.”
From the attorneys“It can be very difficult for kids the first major
holiday after a divorce,” says Lanae Harden,
family law attorney at Harden Jackson LLC in
Carmel. “Parents should do their best to split up
the holidays in a manner which will be as least
disruptive as possible for the child.” Harden is
aware that ex-spouses are not always coopera-
tive or considerate in this regard. “I can’t tell you
how many times I have been called right before
the start of the holiday season by a frantic client
whose ex-spouse is not cooperating about the
holidays,” she says. “If your settlement agreement
or court order is clear, there should be no discus-
sion, just implementation, of the schedule. If your
order is ambiguous, you should start dealing with
the problem months in advance so you have an
opportunity to get in front of the court prior to
the holiday season. The best way to handle a
potential problem about the holidays is as follows:
1) call your attorney well in advance; 2) have
your attorney negotiate with opposing counsel to
come up with a reasonable compromise; and 3) if
the conflict cannot be resolved, your attorney can
ask for a 15- minute hearing on the court’s calen-
dar to resolve the issue, if a hearing is requested
well in advance of the holidays. It is unreasonable
to expect that the court, given their busy dockets,
can schedule a hearing immediately before the
holidays. Sometimes it is just impossible given the
timing to get in before court. In those instances,
be the adult. Make sure the other side under-
stands your position and that you will be address-
ing this matter with the courts after the holiday
if you cannot get into court before the holiday.
Therefore, with the threat of future litigation, the
other spouse may back down.”
It’s rare in Indiana for children to spend the entire
holiday with one party says family law attorney
Kena Hollingsworth, of Hollingsworth & Zivitz, PC
in Carmel. “The Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines
outline a holiday parenting time schedule wherein
the parents share the holiday/winter break.” Hav-
ing to spend a portion of the holiday apart from
children can be very emotional for parents (and
kids) who are used to “the way it’s always been”.
Although it may be easy to idealize past holidays,
Hollingsworth says “No one really has a ‘Norman
Rockwell’ Christmas. A divorced or separated
family is no different from a family still intact in this
way.”
HOME [Alone] for the HOLIDAYSby: Susan Bryant, mom of 2
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Finding the patience to get along with an ex-spouse, his new
partner or your former in-laws can seem a monumental task,
but knowing that this effort ultimately is in the best interest
of your child helps many parents cope. The best way to look
at a difficult situation, according to Harden, is to understand
that you are being flexible not to benefit an ex-spouse, but to
benefit your children.
Hollingsworth adds, “It’s so incredibly difficult as a parent
to hide your feelings of sadness, despair, discouragement,
jealousy, whatever the case may be.” She cautions against
children bearing witness to all these feelings, however. “It
is not the job of the child to be a parent’s friend or support
system. That’s what friends, counselors and other family
members are for.”
Harden reinforces the same sentiment. “Of course, it is
impossible for a single parent to always be upbeat in front of
their child,” she says. “If your child notices that you are sad,
it is perfectly acceptable to say that it is natural for you to
be sad about the breakup of the family.” She warns against
creating an “us versus them” situation with an ex, and un-
derscores how important it is to let a child know they can still
love the other parent despite any feelings you may have.
From the therapistTrying to placate the various wishes of current and ex-family
members over the holidays can be exhausting and stress-
ful. Grace Layton, licensed marriage and family therapist,
gives this advice: “If grandma is throwing a fit that she is not
going to get to see her grandchild on Christmas day, that is
grandma’s issue. All you can do is explain that holidays are
tough on kids of divorce and you and your ex are making
your best effort to provide your child with a peaceful, happy
holiday. If that comes at the expense of grandma, then that is
what it takes.”
Layton says it’s also important to remember that children
can have several special days with parents and extended
family over the holiday season rather than being forced to go
several different places on one day. “If you are celebrating on
a day other than the actual holiday, pretend it is the holiday
and don't act resentful toward the other parent for having the
“real” day. This only increases a child’s internal conflict and
stress. Pinning your child against their other parent or making
your child feel sorry for you is never in their best interest.”
Children can be very sensitive and perceptive to what their parents are going through and
often feel guilty for spending time away from them. Layton cautions parents to be aware
of the messages they send about the time they will be alone. “If you speak over the
phone to your child on the holiday, let them know you are having a wonderful time even
if you are miserable. There is nothing worse than a kid feeling bad because their parent
is having a bad day. They end up blaming themselves,” says Layton. “Although you may
wish the kids were there with you, emphasizing this gives the child way too much respon-
sibility for a parent’s happiness. Do not act like your happiness depends on them being
with you. (Even if you think it does.) Instead, explain that you're having a lovely day, you
hope they are having the same, you look forward to celebrating with them soon and you
love them very much.”
The fundamental point Layton makes is that children take their cues from parents. If a
parent seems to be managing these new changes well, kids will get the message they
can, too. “Talk about being excited to start a new tradition or how fun it will be for the
kids to celebrate the holidays two times, etc. And start to believe it yourself.”
Have yourself a merry little ChristmasWith so much energy and effort devoted to making sure you are doing what’s best
for your kids and trying to get along with a person you’re no longer married to, all our
contributors agreed that making time to care for yourself during the holiday season is ab-
solutely essential. Staying busy and being positive, although easier said than done, really
are the keys to getting through a holiday that is less than joyous.
“The first year is really about healing and surrounding yourself with people who will help
you do that,” our Fishers mom adds. “What I’ve learned through my experience is that
I am much stronger than I ever imagined and my child has been far more resilient than I
expected.”
HOME [Alone] for the HOLIDAYS
Parents should do theirbest to split up the holidays ina manner which will be leastdisruptive as possible forthe child.— Lanae Harden, family law attorney at Harden Jackson LLC
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Saying SomEthing
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good about youRSElF, thEn
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— Sarah Bryant, age 12
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This was an interesting observation I heard recently – especially coming from
my own daughter. As with most moms and dads, encouraging self-esteem
has been on my parental radar since day one. It was disheartening to learn
that the bonding process for young girls often begins with mutual flaw-find-
ing. Indeed according to one study, girls’ self-esteem peaks at age nine.
(source: NYU Child Study Center.) How do our little girls go from seeing ev-
erything their growing bodies can do to focusing only on its imperfections?
Media and marketing influences“It’s interesting to see how girls interpret the media messages directed at
them,” says Shawn Jackson, Executive Director of the Grace Academy, a
leadership and self-development program for girls ages 14 to 17. “During
our workshops, which often focus on body image and self-esteem, we have
girls keep a journal for one week to write down every example of when
they feel women are being portrayed in negative, unrealistic or unhealthy
way in magazines, television, movies etc. What one girl finds problematic,
another one doesn’t. Having them discuss their impressions with each other
can be very impactful.”
Finding examples to fill such a journal would not be difficult with the mag-
nitude of advertising targeted to young girls and the standard of physical
beauty being portrayed meeting such narrow criteria. While the average
U.S. woman is 5’ 4” and 140 pounds, the average model is 5’11” and 117
pounds. Girls are often unaware that the models seen in magazines have
bodies that have been airbrushed and photo shopped to an impossibly
unattainable degree. With advertisers anxious to sell products promising to
melt away pounds, smooth cellulite, whiten teeth and correct unruly hair,
there is certainly no incentive to make young girls feel good about
accepting themselves the way they are.
Unfortunately boys are not immune to the issue of body image either. In fact,
in a University of Wisconsin article entitled “Muscle Madness” the author
writes, “One study suggests that a trend in toy action figures’ increas-
ing muscularity is setting unrealistic ideals for boys much in the same way
Barbie dolls have been accused of giving an unrealistic ideal for girls. When
G.I. Joe first appeared in 1964, he had a body most boys could aspire to
and achieve. Today's G.I. Joe action figures are so muscular they would be
difficult to emulate without the use of steroids.”
Parental swayIf you’ve ever tried to crash diet or compulsively exercise to fit into a dress
for a class reunion or wedding, you’re in good company with many women.
Unfortunately, while the event may pass, the message this approach sends
to our daughters lingers. “Moms who crash diet or follow the latest exercise
trends are focusing on appearance, not health,” says Jackson. “Even if your
daughter doesn’t comment on what you’re doing, she’s still watching.”
In the same manner, while a mother might refrain from criticizing her daugh-
ter’s body, she may engage in a running dialogue about what’s wrong with
her own. When adult women relate by trading comments about their flaws,
they set the standard for what is considered normal and acceptable, and
daughters follow suit. “A mother’s role is so important in developing a girl’s
self-image,” says Jackson, who includes mothers in her workshops to help
them understand how they influence their daughter’s body perception. She
adds, “Fathers also play an important role. Not only how a dad talks to his
daughter, but how his daughter sees him talk to her mother.”
The link to eating disordersWhile many girls are able to keep their perceived body flaws in perspective,
for other girls these issues can escalate into eating disorders like anorexia,
bulimia and binge eating. Donna McCurdy, mother of three in Fishers says, “I
see my 17 year old daughter worry about her friends that talk nonstop about
their weight and what they eat. Some of her friends feel pressure from their
family to lose weight.” McCurdy is smart to be concerned, as the National
Eating Disorders Association reports that more than one in three normal
dieters progresses to pathological dieting.
How can a parent determine if their child might have an eating disorder?
An obsession with losing weight, eating alone or in secret, hoarding food,
visiting web sites that promote binging or other unhealthy habits and ob-
sessing over appearance are among the warning signs. A “wait and see”
not good enough.Helping our girls get beyond their body image issues
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by: Susan Bryant, mom of 2
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approach to addressing a potential eating disorder is a mistake, as the toll
of deleterious eating habits can quickly affect a growing body. According to
the American Academy of Pediatrics, hospitalizations for children under the
age of 12 with eating disorders have risen dramatically in recent years. The
rate of males being diagnosed with eating disorders has also substantially
increased.
Toward a better body imageAlthough girls may be bombarded with messages that their body doesn’t
measure up, what they hear at home can have the greatest impact on how
they view themselves. As McCurdy says, “We are our children’s great-
est teachers. They learn by example and listen to what we say even when
we think they aren’t. We must talk to our girls about this subject because
they’re talking about it with their friends every day.”
Discussing body image with your daughter should be an ongoing dialogue.
Here are some suggestions to keep up the conversation:
Explain how puberty and genetics affects body types. Help your daughter
understand that weight gain is a normal part of development, especially dur-
ing puberty. Discuss how body shape is influenced by genetic factors.
Talk about self-image. Ask your daughter what she likes about herself and
describe what you like about her.
Use positive language. Take “fat” and “thin” out of your vocabulary. Discour-
age hurtful nicknames and don’t joke about people who are overweight.
Counter negative media messages. Expose your daughter to women who
are famous for their achievements, not their appearance.
Praise achievements. Help your child value what she does over what she
looks like.
Set a good example. Remind your daughter that you exercise and eat
healthy because it’s good for your health, not just to look a certain way.*
Real “ girl power”“There is a natural tendency for some girls to dim their own light,” says
Jackson. “When a girl receives a compliment such as ‘you have such a
pretty smile’ her immediate reaction is often to reply with something like
‘but my teeth aren’t white enough.’ Accepting a compliment with a simple
‘thank you’ is very hard for many girls. It’s hard for their mothers, too.”
We hear the catch phrase “girl power” frequently in our current culture.
Unfortunately, this “power” is often represented as a brassy attitude and
polished image rather than any real influence or substance. No power is
gained when women see their value only in physical terms, feel they fall
short when compared to an impossibly high beauty standard or choose to
support each other only in their shortcomings. When we can teach a girl
to confidently accept her strengths, keep her weaknesses in perspective
and recognize that her happiness isn’t dependent on what she looks like,
she will truly be powerful – and an example for the next generation.
*Source: www.mayoclinic.com
Helping our girls get beyond their body image issues
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One of my favorite quotes about friendship is by Albert Sch-weitzer: “In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”
I was recently talking with my oldest daughter about friendships. I started to tell her that there are lots of different kinds of friends. As she entered upper middle school, I advised her to be aware and really take note of those friends she can trust. There will not be many; but a select few will stand by her side at all times. I reminded her it is not the quantity of friends, but the quality of them. This is a strange concept for kids to transition into since in elementary school they all played together just fine. As my children grow and evolve as people, their friendships evolve and change as well.
This discussion with my daughter got me thinking about my own friendships, particularly those with other moms. As my
daughter has grown, I have also grown – as a mom and as my own person. In fact, I am not at all the same mom that I was when I had her thirteen years ago. Back then, my house was qui-et and manageable with just my husband and myself and our one child. Over a decade later, we have added to our family two more daughters, two dogs, a cat and a handful of fish. My changing role as a mom has brought with it a greater awareness of my own friendships. With little time to myself, I had to ask myself, “Who do I actually enjoy spending time with? Who makes me a better mom, person and friend?”
Following the advice I had recently given my oldest daughter, I was only able to name a select few that I trust at this point in my life. Slowly over time, the afternoon play dates ended and my time was filled with helping with homework, projects, and carpool. My long days at home with my kiddos were now chopped up into fragmented moments divided between spending time with them and juggling their activities. Now more than ever, when I spend time with friends I want it to fulfill me and inspire me, not bring me down or make me doubt myself.
As I was discussing friendships with my daughter, it dawned on me that motherhood is not that different than moving from elementary school to upper middle school. The transition in motherhood is a little subtler, but the shift is an important one for us as well. As we get older and navigate through motherhood, we need and want to spend time with those people we love and trust the most. It is this small group that will help us, advise us and be honest with us along the journey.
We begin to realize the need to weed out those friends who make us doubt ourselves by dishing out backhanded compliments or turning friendship into a constant competition. While it is easy to fall prey to these “frenemies,” it is important to recognize them for who they are. They are those “friends” who engage us in a con-stant game of tug of war – push and pull, push and pull. Usually, they like drama and like to make you feel guilty over little things. It is this type of friend that will get you off track and delight in your loss of focus.
MommyMagicby: Mary Susan Buhner, mom of 3
A Lesson in Friendshipdeveloping friendships that will last a lifetime
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I recently read that we are the sum of the five people we spend the most time with through-out our lives. That is a powerful statement and worth taking a moment to contemplate. Do those friends who you spend the most time with help you grow? Do they inspire and encour-age you and build you up rather than tear you down? If so, then chances are you are doing the same for others. What I want out of friendship and what kind of friend I want to be to others is pretty simple – kind, encouraging, loyal, respect-ful, just to name a few traits. Equally important is knowing that my daughters possess these traits and look for these attributes in friendships they seek out as they grow up and invest in others.
As moms, we get so busy and sometimes forget to take care of ourselves and our friendships. These relationships are vital to our wellbeing. It is okay to be choosy when deciding who you spend time with when you actually do have some free time. After all, it is not the quantity of friends you have, but the quality of them.
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to try this year. As moms, we should support,
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we can be by seeking out ways to live in the
dash!
MommyMagicby: Mary Susan Buhner, mom of 3
As moms, we get so busy and sometimes forget to take care of ourselves and our friendships.
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Mary Susan Buhner
is a Life Coach for Moms and author of “Mommy
Magic: Tricks for Staying Sane in the Midst of Insanity.”
Visit her website at: www.Mommy-Magic.com
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Shop Local This Holiday Season
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Great options for finding unique gifts while boosting the local economy
Holiday shopping lists are on everyone’s mind this time of year. Instead of dashing in and out of the impersonal depart-ment and discount stores, why not give the local economy a boost and commit to buying at least a portion of your Christmas and holiday gifts from locally owned shops? Hamilton County and the surrounding area boast many independent retail stores that carry a wide assortment of unique and fun gifts that aresometimes even produced locally.
Below we list some great ideas that both reward local businesses and help you stock up on great gifts that can be handed out as needed – for neighbors, colleagues, coaches, teachers and more.
When you’re looking for gifts that everyone likes, food and drinks are the obvious go-to option. Instead of buying a gift card from the closest chain restaurant, visit nearby independent farms (yes, even in winter), coffee shops and bakeries for special gifts for the hard-to-buy-for people on your list.
Head over to Spencer Farm at 7177 East 161st Street in Nobles-ville and browse their country gift store. Bring the kids and let them indulge in a frozen snack at the Sweet Shop while you shop for gifts. Spencer Farm is a great place to find homemade treats and out-of-the-ordinary holiday gifts. Wreaths are handmade on site as are the delicious fudge and the large selection of jams and jellies that come in standard flavors as well as some tasty unexpected selections like Plum Cherry. Spencer Farm also carries homemade, frozen unbaked pies that would make nice Christmas party hostess gifts.
Traders Point Creamery is another great choice for unique edible gifts. Treat in-laws or your best friend to a gift card which you can buy at Traders Point or online at www.tpforganics.com/store. Gift
cards can be used to buy products at their Farm Store or to buy a meal at their Loft Restaurant or just an ice cream dessert at their Dairy Bar. Traders Point is located at 9101 Moore Road in Zionsville.
Chances are you know someone who is a coffee lover, so wow your recipient with delicious coffee from Noble Coffee & Tea Company, LTD in Noblesville. Located on the square at 933 Logan Street, Noble Coffee & Tea offers coffee made from locally roasted beans. Buy a cup for yourself and pick up a few bags of coffee beans as gifts for people on your list who know a thing or two about good quality coffee. Noble carries many unique flavored coffees, such as French Caramel Crème, Cinnamon Nut Roll, Thin Mint Cookie and many others. “We will probably do a Jingle Bell Java for Christmas,” said Manager Stacy Sweitzer.
Sweet Home Cupcakes is next door to Noble Coffee & Tea; order a dozen as a low-cost way of extending holiday wishes to a neigh-bor or friend. Homemade, local bakery items are a real treat and will taste much better than big chain offerings that have been sitting on trucks or shelves for days.
Maybe instead of food you would like to find a distinctive item for the kitchen. Head to Carmel City Center at 720 S. Rangeline Road in Car-mel and impress your mother-in-law or sister with a unique and high-quality serving dish from Addendum Gallery. Addendum also sells the popular TableTopics cubes which are clear cubes filled with questions on cards that are designed to start interesting conversations; stock up on these inexpensive gifts to hand out at workplace gift exchanges or give to a staff member or teacher at your child’s school.
Nature’s Karma is also located at Carmel City Center and offers gifts with tons of character. Browse their Tibet Collection Jewelry;
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the pieces are both handmade and Fair Trade. The interesting, dangling earrings and chunky bracelets are perfect for both teenage girls and women of all ages, as are the store’s collection of clutch purses made from recycled materials.
Gallery 116 at 8597 E. 116th Street in Fishers is another great place to find one-of-a-kind items for anyone on your list. Stop at the front of the store to browse a great selection of handmade pottery and unique jewelry like the cleverly designed earrings made from flattened coins. Then, head further into the store to check out the Gail Wiener photo let-ters. Gail is a local artist who photographs letters and/or images depicting letters. The letters can be purchased individually or Gallery 116 offers several signs made from the letters. There are Butler Uni-versity signs as well as Purdue, IU and others. The photo letter signs are perfect for dads, coaches, kids or anyone who wants to hang something truly original and attractive on the wall.
Another distinctive local shop is Delaney’s Studio and Gifts located at 8989 East 116th Street in Fishers. Plan on staying for a while; there are dozens of great gifts that are reasonably priced and a lot more attractive than what is offered at most chain stores. Browse through the ample selection of cute home décor items and clothing. Office col-leagues will love the impossible-to-steal stapler that is on the shelf at Delaney’s; the stapler is heavy with a pewter-like base and an oversize, boldly deco-rated top.
Looking for a great kid gift but tired of the same old cheaply made discount store toys? Skip the chains and visit locally owned bookstore, The Wild, located at 884 Logan Street in Noblesville. The Wild has a great selection of books for babies on up to teens and you don’t have to walk miles around a gigantic store to find them. The Wild also sells interesting learning toys for kids of all ages.
For the kid who likes to do rather than have, visit Kiln Creations at 60 North 9th Street in Nobles-ville. Kiln Creations offers the opportunity for kids and adults to paint their own pottery; buy a gift certificate and you have a great stocking stuffer for any kid on your list.
Shopping local is a fun and rewarding experi-ence and you receive the extra bonus of great customer service and quality items.
Happy shopping!
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Country ChristmasSat., November 17 — Weds., December 19
Continue a family tradition and take a hayride to the field to choose and cut your own Christmas Tree. You will also find a wide selection of freshly cut trees, fresh wreaths and garland at the greenhouse. Sip hot cider and browse through our gift shop featuring our custom made wreaths and other unique items.
Times: 10:00 AMPhone: 317-773-3344Location: Stonycreek Farm, Noblesville
www.stonycreekfarm.net
Fishers Parks and Recreation: Santa's MailboxMon., November 19 — Mon., December 10
Santa has dropped off a very special mailbox that will send your letters directly to his workshop. He has promised to reply to each letter he receives. All letters must include a self addressed stamped envelope so Santa can get back to you without delay! For fourth grade and younger. (All letters mustbe received by December 10th at 4pm)
Times: 9:00 AM - 4:00 PMPrice: FreePhone: 317-595-3150Location: Fishers Recreation Office and Fishers Town Hallwww.fishers.in.us
Polar Bear Express TrainFri., November 30 — Sat., December 15
The Polar Bear Express has delighted children of all ages since 1995. So popular is this event that we now operate this train for THREE WEEKENDS. Our traditional program has always begun inside Fishers Station where an illustrated, railroad-related Christ-mas story, "Polar Bear Junction" has been read. A real train ride follows the reading.
Price: see website for ticket pricingPhone: 317-773-6000Location: Fishers Train Station, Fishers
www.itm.org/events/polar.htm
Conner Prairie by CandlelightFridays & Saturdays,December 7 — December 22
'Twas the night before Christmas more than 175 years ago and you and your family are in Prairietown helping prepare for the holidays! Visit different homes in Prairietown on this family-friend-ly, 60-minute guided tour. Candlelight Tour Reservations: Please call 317.776.6006 or 800.966.1836.
Times: 5:30 PM - 9:00 PMPrice: Included with general admissionPhone: 317-776-6000Location: Conner Prairie, Fishers, IN 46038
www.connerprairie.org
Breakfast with SantaSat., December 1
Ho Ho Ho! Santa Claus is coming to town this December to The Mansion at Oak Hill. Don’t miss the opportunity to experience the magic of Santa with your children. Reservations are necessary and can be made by calling The Mansion at 843-9850.
Times: 9:00 AMPrice: $18.50 per personPhone: 317-843-9850Location: The Mansion at Oak Hill, Carmel
www.oakhillmansion.com
Holiday FUN
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The Holly Jolly JamboreeSun., December 16
Come be merry with us as we welcome Mrs. Claus and the Jolly Old Elf himself, Santa Claus. The Claus’s will be available for pic-tures throughout the program. Jingle John of Silly Safaris will be presenting his Animals of the North Pole program that will include several animals that like the cold weather, including a reindeer! Crafts and cookies will also be available!
Times: 2:00 PM - 4:00 PMPrice: FreePhone: (317) 774-2500Location: Cool Creek Nature Center, Carmel
www.hamiltoncounty.in.gov
Central Indiana Dance Ensemble Presents The NutcrackerFri., December 7 — Sun., December 9
Become a part of the magic as Clara and her Nutcracker Prince battle mice and the evil Rat King and journey through the Land of Snow. Join us for our Sugar Plum Fairy Dessert Parties before each matinee show, which feature a picture with a cast member, dessert, and a craft. See website for more information and to purchase tickets 317-844-7453.
Times: see website for timesPrice: $22 for students (up to 18) and $30 for adultsLocation: Zionsville Performing Arts CenterPhone: 317-844-7453
www.cidedance.org
5th Annual Christmas on the FarmSat., December 15
Come join us for sleigh hayrides around the farm, music and carol-ing, craft-making opportunities for the kids, and a Green Market that is chock-full of fun holiday gifts and stocking stuffers. The cel-ebration is not complete without a visit with Old St. Nick and his live elk. Once the cold sets in, come warm up in The Loft restau-rant, delightfully decorated with fresh greenery and holiday bows.
Phone: 317-733-1700Location: Traders Point Creamery, Zionsville
www.tpforganics.com
Piney Acres Christmas Tree FarmSat., November 17 — Sun., December 23
Piney Acres Farm creates a holiday tradition for the whole family to enjoy. Take a wagon ride out to the field, where you can pick out that perfect tree. Enjoy warm refreshments and find those last-minute gifts in our Christmas Shop.
Time: Daily noon - 8pm (opens at 10am on Sat)Price: Tree prices varyPhone: 317-326-1700Location: Piney Acres Farm, Fortvillewww.pineyacresfarm.com
1836 Daytime Outdoor AdventureSaturdays, December 1 — December 22
Celebrate the holidays in wintertime Prairietown as we open the outdoor grounds for outdoor holiday fun and celebration on select days this December. Take a horse-drawn wagon ride(additional fee), warm up by the bonfire and visit the Campbell home where the holiday party never ends.
Price: Free for members & youth under 2 $12/adults,$9/youth (ages 2-12)Phone: 317-776-6000Location: Conner Prairie, Fisherswww.connerprairie.org
Holiday FUN guide
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by: Mindy Irish, mom of 4
Have you ever caught yourself saying, “I wish there were two of me so I could get all of this finished” or “If I only had five more hours in my day”? I’ve said it a time or two myself! Just recently, I learned to stop trying to fit more into my daily 24 and instead be more realistic about how I use my time.
Back in the day, before smartphones appeared, I was the “Queen of Chicken Scratch”, as my husband would call me. I’m very task oriented, so I’d make a to-do list on a random piece of paper of all that I needed to accomplish or purchase. Usually, as I made my way through completing half of the list, I wouldn’t like how messy it had gotten, so I’d rewrite the list and then keep adding to it. When my list was at home and I was out and about, I’d call home to leave a message for myself on my answering machine so I’d be sure to add that next must-do item to the lineup. Actually, my list in and of itself was taking so much of my time just to manage and reorganize.
I also formerly used a paper calendar. It was a cute, 5x7 monthly overview that I’d try to squeeze all of our family’s activities onto. Once again, the “Queen of Chicken Scratch”, I’d write, rewrite, scratch out, and if I was away from the calendar, I’d have to create yet another note for myself to remember to record that event once I got back home. Sound familiar? With all these notes to self, some days I wasn’t sure if I was coming or going!
Then one day this chicken scratching all changed! I took initiative and signed myself up for an online chal-lenge to get organized and my time started to multiply! I’m busy – we’re all busy – but how we manage each day is up to the individual. If I was going to get to all that I had been called to and effectively take care of a family, my systems had to change!
And so they did! I learned to put the pencil and paper down and from that day forward my chicken scratch was laid to rest. I picked up my smartphone and started putting my calendar and to-do list on the phone. I found an app that would help me tackle my to-do list and I began using my phone’s calendar to track the family’s events. Now when I’m away from home, it’s all with me. No more phone calls to the answering machine. No more writing and rewriting lists. Technology is fabulous…and has created more hours in my day!
When using my to-do list, it’s quite possible to still feel the need for a 28 hour+ day, but the key is to only put on the list what is in alignment with my goals and priorities at the moment. It’s not about trying to tackle everything; it’s about only planning to get to what really matters to me. You’ve heard it before, “Don’t prioritize your schedule; schedule your priorities.” Or as I would call them, your filters!
So what happens when I start to feel overwhelmed and see the tasks calling a need for a second me or a longer day? I realize I’ve put too much on my agenda. We weren’t created to be “so busy” all the time! When I get that feeling, I recognize I’m out of alignment. I get realistic and I resort back to reorganizing the to-do list in accordance with my priorities. Trying to get to less...it brings out a peaceful balance and the best in me! Happy mommy, happy family!
If there’s one secret I can tell you about this “organizational makeover”, it is that it is about NOT being scheduled all the time. I love organization and getting tasks completed, but I’m finding more joy in the down days, the unscheduled, no-tasks-on-the-agenda moments. I’m all about staying organized and pushing on towards the goals, but I know the balance of quiet, restful, and stopping-to-smell-the-roses times are equally important parts of our lives. Especially now that we’re in the midst of the 2012 holiday season, it’s not about doing more; it’s about doing less really well. This, I feel, is the key to finding our bal-ance in the meaningful life we’ve been given! Live Big!
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The holiday season is here! Time and money can getstretched pretty thin this time of year, but even with a busy schedule and a limited budget, creating a warm, welcoming home for guests and family to enjoy is easier than you think.
The color palette of the fall season offers a com-forting sense of warmth and family. Using versatile items when decorating such as mums, cornstalks, leaves, gourds and pumpkins will last all season long. Incorporating holiday specific items such as turkeys, pilgrims and even owls extend the look for Thanksgiv-ing. Get your kids involved in decorating, too by hav-ing them make pilgrim hats large enough to fit their dining chairs. If you’re hosting the holiday this year, write names on the hats and use them instead of place cards. Looking for a great centerpiece? Take your pumpkins from Halloween, hollow them out and place a fresh flower arrangement inside for an instant updated look. Create your own color palette of rich hues with eggplant purple and berry burgundy accented with a metallic gold shimmer. Use items like cranberries and twigs on your dining room table to fill glass containers; paired with pillar candles this will create an amber ambiance fit for the feast. This royal color palette can easily transfer into the winter holiday season after the turkey is gone by updating with small decorative items and adding loose ornaments into the décor. Update your napkins and you’re ready for the next holiday.
With December and January including Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa and New Year’s, decorating options abound. When putting up the holiday décor this year, think about using long-term items that can be left out all the way until February. Sparkling snowflakes make great table décor as placemats, coasters or candleholders. White flocked winter trees, twinkling white lights and snowmen can all be left up well after the stockings are put away. For your front door, consider a winter wreath with silver accents and snowballs made out of foam balls which can transition right into February. Use traditional décor, such as a Christmas tree or Hanukkah candelabra, but keep it minimal knowing that after December it will be put away.
Remember, if you are going to make any new holiday décor purchases, think about how these items can be reused, how holiday specific they are and if they can be easily updated. This approach not only stretches your holiday budget, but saves you time taking décor down, packing it all away and putting other items back up.
Here are some tips for decorating any holiday throughout the year:
Less is MoreKeep décor centralized rather than spreading items throughout the home. Select a few key places to create holiday drama. Your front porch, foyer or entry area, kitchen table-scape or dining room table-scape are all great areas that will get seen and utilized most over the holidays.
Think BasicPurchase items that can carry over from one season to another. Clear glass containers can easily be updated for any holiday just by changing colored candles inside them. Basic white dishes to dress a table can be used countless times. Stainless steel is a uniform finish that pairs well with any color palette; use this for silverware or place card holders.
Make it YoursPersonalize your décor with your family’s monogram, last name or photograph. For an inexpensive project idea, take ceramic plates, grab a stencil and permanent marker to draw on them and then bake plates in the oven. Each member of your family now has a personal plate to use over and over.
From falling leaves to falling snowflakes, use these ideas to inspire you all holiday season long.
by: Danielle Myers, ASID, RID, mom of 2
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November | thurs 08Drop-In Craft: Turkey Time
For families with children of all ages. Come to the library and make
a fun turkey craft! Drop in anytime between 6:00-7:30 p.m. No
registration is required.
Times: 6:00 PM - 7:30 PMPrice: FreeLocation: Carmel Clay Public Library, CarmelWebsite: www.carmel.lib.in.us
November | thurs 152nd Annual Pre-Holiday Shopping
Enjoy a posh and chic night of 'Pre-Holiday' Shopping from localvendors. Stroll through the amazing assortment of items to kick offthe holiday season. An assortment of drinks and appetizers will beserved. We will also have a cooking demonstration and chocolateand wine tasting.
Times: 5:30 PM - 8:30 PMPrice: Free admissionPhone: 317-517-9920Location: Ritz Charles, CarmelWebsite: www.2ndannualholidayevent.eventbrite.com/
December | weds 19Christmas Cookies and a Story
Children will use Christmas-themed cookie cutters to create their own cookies out of cookie dough. While they bake, we will read Christmas stories! Next, we will design the cookies with red and green frosting and sprinkles. Children can taste one of their cookie creations and even have some to take home! For ages 3-7.
Times: 1:00 PMPrice: R$10/NR$15Location: Billericay Park Building, FishersWebsite: www.fishers.in.us/parks
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November | mon 05Monday Madness: ElectionExcitement
For children in grades 1-5. We know what Mondays are like, so here’s a way to shake off the day: Join us for Monday Madness at the library! Feel free to bring a friend and meet new ones too. You’ll laugh together, do on-your-feet activities, hear funny stories, and get creative with crafts.
Time: 4:00PM and 6:30PM
Location: Carmel Public Library, Carmel
Website: www.carmel.lib.in.us
November | tues 06Gobble up the Holidays
Crafts and stories about Thanksgiving and Native Americans. For Grades K and up. Registration requested 579-0304. Also on 11/13 and 11/20.
Times: 5:00 PM
Price: Free
Phone: 579-0304
Location: Hamilton County East Library, Fishers
Website: www.hepl.lib.in.us/
Family Night Hike, DeerJoin us to learn more about the white-tailed deer that call Ritchey Woods home. Discover many wonderful things about our largest mammal and hopefully find a few, too! Registration required by 11/5.
Times: 4:00 PM - 6:00 PM
Price: R$4/NR$6
Phone: 317-595-3458
Location: Ritchey Woods Nature Pre-serve, Fishers
Website: www.fishers.in.us/
West Side StoryDavid Newman, Conductor Celebrate this film icon as the ISO plays Leonard Bernstein’s electrifying score live with the re-mastered film shown on the big screen with the original vocals and dialog intact. Winner of 10 Academy Awards®, the film, directed by Robert Wise and Jerome Robbins, features Robbins’ breathtak-ing choreography, screenplay by Ernest Lehman, book by Arthur Laurents and lyrics by Stephen Sondheim.
Date: Sunday, November 18, 2012
Times: 7:30 PM
Price: Tickets from $30-$85Location: The Palladium, Carmel
Website: www.thecenterfortheperformin-garts.org/
Noblesville Happy Thanksgiving!Intermediate school age "tween" pro-gram. For grades 4-6. Celebrate Turkeys, thanksgiving and harvests. Stories, crafts, and treats! Grades 4-6. Registration is required. Call 770-3216.
Times: 4:30 PM
Phone: (317) 773-1384
Location: Hamilton County East Library, Noblesville
Website: www.hepl.lib.in.us
Do-It-Yourself and Save:Tasty TreatsFor children in grades 4-5. If you like tasty treats, come to the Storytime Room to learn how to make your favorite treats at home for a fraction of the cost at a restaurant. Savings add up quickly when you make these treats yourself. Regis-tration is required and begins Monday, November 19, online, in person, or by calling 844-3363.
Times: 4:30 PM and 6:30 PM
Phone: 317-844-3363
Location: Carmel Public Library, Carmel
Website: www.carmel.lib.in.us
Fishers Parks and Recreation: Holiday Card Making WorkshopTake this opportunity to share some holiday spirit! Create greeting cards that will be distributed to local senior com-munities. All supplies are provided. For all ages. Registration required.
Times: 5:30 PM - 7:30 PM
Price: Free
Location: Billericay Park Building, Fishers
Website: www.fishers.in.us/parks
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Luminary WalkSpend a relaxing evening taking a walk through the winter wonderland atCentral Park. Enjoy carolers and hot chocolate as you take in the ambiance of more than 1,000 luminairies lighting the path through the wetlands, floating over the lagoon, and spanning acrossthe boardwalk. A beautiful sight of the 161-acre park is sure to be a memoryfor you and your family.
Times: 6:00 PM - 9:00 PM
Price: Free
Phone: 317-573-5243
Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel
Website: www.carmelclayparks.com/
December | fri 07A Symphony Holiday inNoblesville
It’s the most wonderful time to enjoythe Noblesville Symphony! The Anderson University Chorale returns for a joyous evening of traditional Christmas favorites. We will highlight music from the movie “Home Alone” and present a Musico-logical Journey Through the 12 days of Christmas. And of course the night wouldn’t be complete without our annual audience sing-along.
Times: 7:30 PM
Price: $5-$25
Phone: 765-644-2111
Location: Noblesville High School Audi-torium, Noblesville
Website: www.noblesvillesymphony.org/
December | thurs 13Candy Cane HuntDespite his busy winter schedule, it is rumored that Santa is going to hide hundreds of candy canes around Holland Park! Join us as we search for hidden candy canes. Afterward, warm up with hot cocoa while completing a craft! For ages 6-10 and a parent. Registration required by 12/6.
Times: 4:00PM and 5:00PMPrice: R$4/NR$6Location: Billericay Park Building, FishersWebsite: www.fishers.in.us/parks
December | fri 14Earthly Adventures, Winter TreesWhen you think of trees in winter, what comes to mind? There aren't any leaves...or are there? Think evergreens! We'll even use some pine needles as our paintbrushes. For parents and children, ages 3-5. Registration required by 12/7.
Times: 9:30 AM or 1 PMPrice: R$6/NR$9Location: Fishers Parks & Recreation Office, FishersWebsite: www.fishers.in.us/parks
Storytime ExpressStorytime Express All aboard! Jump on the literacy train for a fast-paced, interac-tive mix of stories, rhymes, and songs paired with a simple craft. Each week has a different theme and younger siblingsare welcome. Ages 2-5
Times: 11:00 AM
Price: Free
Phone: 317-573-5243
Location: Monon Community Center, Carmel
Website: www.carmelclayparks.com/
December | sat 29Race to the New YearStart your New Year’s resolution to get in shape at Cool Creek Park! The Hamilton County Parks and Recreation Depart-ment is partnering with Washington Township Parks and Recreation and Westfield Parks and Recreation for this fourth annual 5K run and walk. Awards will be given in seven age groups. Early registration ends December 27th. For more information, please call 317-574-1074.
Times: 9:30 AM - 11:30 AM
Price: $15 until 12/17 $20 thereafter
Phone: 317-574-1074
Location: Cool Creek Park, Carmel
Website: www.hamiltoncounty.in.gov
Countdown to NoonCelebrate the final day of 2012 at The Children's Museum of Indianapolis with activities, music, and a Water Clock countdown to noon that will allow families to experience the excitement of a count-down at a reasonable hour for the young ones.
Times: 10:00 AM - 1:00 PM
Price: Free with museum admission
Phone: 317-334-3322
Location: The Children's Museum, Indianapolis
Website: www.childrensmuseum.org
For more ways to have fun this holiday season, see our Holiday Fun Guide on pages 28-29
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