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Odyssey: Family is complete Publication Date: June 9, 1994 Page: 01 Section: A News Edition: Final Metro By JOHN G. SCHUMACHER Journal staff Some parents say they would go to the ends of the earth for their kids. In the case of Mike and Janel Gieringer, that's almost literally true. The Gieringers traveled 12,000 miles, to the former Soviet Union, to adopt twin 4monthold boys last month. They endured months of waiting, endless hassles, mountains of paperwork, $20,000 worth of travel and adoption expenses and several days of excruciating lastminute uncertainty before the adoption was final. But now they have a family. "We named them Adam and Zachary because they're everything we wanted, from A to Z," Janel said. As she cradled one of her sons in her arms, there was no doubt about her feelings. "It was worth it," she said. "It's not for the weak of heart. I didn't think we'd see the end of the tunnel." The Gieringers' odyssey began last summer when they decided to adopt. They had already endured two miscarriages and the death of their 16dayold daughter of meningitis. Already 31 years old, Janel did not want to be raising an infant when she was 40, and she feared it could take a long time to have a baby. Plus, the miscarriages and death had taken an emotional toll. Adoption would be the way they would go. But once they started calling adoption agencies, they received a shock. The supply of babies for adoption here is so low that agencies would not even accept their names for a waiting list. And once they got on a waiting list, it could be five or six years before a baby became available, they were told. Other options seemed unappealing. They could find a single mother willing to give up her child for adoption, or perhaps pay a surrogate mother. But they did not want anyone attempting to reclaim the child after the adoption was complete. Then they talked to a colleague of Mike's, who had adopted a child from the Philippines. She filled them in on the basics of international adoption. Mike and Janel began calling international adoption agencies listed in a magazine called Ours. They linked up with Maine Adoption Placement Service, an international adoption agency based in Maine. They entered a program that would lead to an adoption from Kazakhstan, an independent state that was formerly part of the Soviet Union. The paperwork onslaught began. They had to provide notarized copies of birth certificates, their marriage license, employment verification, a letter of intent

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Odyssey: Family is complete  Publication Date: June 9, 1994  Page: 01  Section: A News  Edition: Final Metro    By JOHN G. SCHUMACHER Journal staff  

Some parents say they would go to the ends of the earth for their kids. In the case of Mike and Janel Gieringer, that's almost literally true. The 

Gieringers traveled 12,000 miles, to the former Soviet Union, to adopt twin 4­month­old boys last month. 

They endured months of waiting, endless hassles, mountains of paperwork, $20,000 worth of travel and adoption expenses and several days of excruciating last­minute uncertainty before the adoption was final. 

But now they have a family. "We named them Adam and Zachary because they're everything we wanted, 

from A to Z," Janel said. As she cradled one of her sons in her arms, there was no doubt about her 

feelings. "It was worth it," she said. "It's not for the weak of heart. I didn't think we'd 

see the end of the tunnel." The Gieringers' odyssey began last summer when they decided to adopt. 

They had already endured two miscarriages and the death of their 16­day­old daughter of meningitis. Already 31 years old, Janel did not want to be raising an infant when she was 40, and she feared it could take a long time to have a baby. Plus, the miscarriages and death had taken an emotional toll. 

Adoption would be the way they would go. But once they started calling adoption agencies, they received a shock. The supply of babies for adoption here is so low that agencies would not even accept their names for a waiting list. And once they got on a waiting list, it could be five or six years before a baby became available, they were told. 

Other options seemed unappealing. They could find a single mother willing to give up her child for adoption, or perhaps pay a surrogate mother. But they did not want anyone attempting to reclaim the child after the adoption was complete. 

Then they talked to a colleague of Mike's, who had adopted a child from the Philippines. She filled them in on the basics of international adoption. Mike and Janel began calling international adoption agencies listed in a magazine called Ours. They linked up with Maine Adoption Placement Service, an international adoption agency based in Maine. They entered a program that would lead to an adoption from Kazakhstan, an independent state that was formerly part of the Soviet Union. 

The paperwork onslaught began. They had to provide notarized copies of birth certificates, their marriage license, employment verification, a letter of intent 

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to adopt, photographs of each of them, tax returns, results of medical exams, police records checks ­­ the list seemed endless. A social worker visited for an intense study of their relationship and worthiness to adopt. 

Finally, they had tracked down everything they needed and were set to leave April 21. But in March, a Kazakhstan government official decided his department should review all adoptions. The program ground to a halt, and the Gieringers' hopes sank. 

Those hopes rose again in April when they saw a local newscast about a couple in Sussex, Mark and Kim Albrecht, who had adopted a child from Kirov, Russia. They called the Albrechts, who were happy to help. 

The next day, the Gieringers called the agency the Albrechts used, World Child Inc., based in Washington, D.C. 

Since they had already accumulated the necessary documents, things began moving quickly. Two days later, they signed a contract. The next day they began receiving photos of children available for adoption. 

They heard a pair of twins was available, healthy except for cleft palates. Somehow, it just seemed right, and they agreed to adopt the twins before even seeing their photographs. 

"I don't really know. Faith and trust, I guess," Janel said, when asked how they could choose their children sight unseen. "My aunt and uncle have twins, and my sister and I always joked one of us would have twins. I always saw myself as having twins." 

Just one week later, they boarded a plane for a 20­hour flight to Moscow. They rode another 350 miles by train to the orphanage in Voronezh, where they met the boys who would become their sons. 

They found out a little about the boys' birth parents. The young couple are married, and this was the wife's first pregnancy. They gave up the babies because of the cleft palates. Good medical care is scarce in the former Soviet Union, making surgery to correct the problem unavailable. The boys are likely to undergo surgery in Milwaukee when they are 1 year old. 

"I think they are good parents," Janel said of the birth parents. "They recognized their inability to solve the problem. Giving them up was probably the hardest thing for them to do." 

Three days of red tape and paperwork followed, with nothing to do but wait. One day everything was complete, and the next day another official would say there was another form to sign. 

Finally, all systems were go. But then, another hurdle. A Russian journalist was filming a documentary at the orphanage, and the Gieringers became part of it. Food was served. Women sang. Mike was asked to change a diaper on a doll. 

"I just wanted to sign the papers and get the hell out," Mike said, "and here we are eating doughnuts and drinking tea." 

But soon filming ended, and they signed the papers that made them a family. They returned to Moscow, untangled some more paperwork and flew home May 19. 

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At home in Lisbon, the Gieringers have become a family of four. Two cribs sit in a bedroom, two cradles sit in the living room. Toys are strewn about. Balloons and dozens of cards, some from people they hardly know, decorate the house. 

Janel has taken a leave of absence from her job as an attorney. Mike, 30, has returned to his computer programming job. Their two dogs, Ember and Snickers, are jealous. The Gieringers' life has become far more hectic as the babies, who turned 5 months old on Thursday, make their demands. But Mike and Janel wouldn't have it any other way, because finally they are parents. 

The Gieringers offered some advice for people considering an international adoption: Be patient. Be persistent. Find an adoption agency you're comfortable with. Ask a lot of questions. It's tedious, time­consuming and expensive. 

"But it's worth it in the end," Janel said, stroking Adam's head.