“A DIVINE HOOKUP”

Pastor Marvin C. Gregory

OBJECTIVES Give God Given Scripture Based

Guidance Give Exciting Tools To Maintain or

Restart Romance in the Marriage Teach Married & Singles The

Concept Of Marriage Develop Communication and Conflict

Management Stop Divorce!

YOUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD

1John 4:8He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.

In Order To Know, Love He/She Must Know God!

To “Know” Biblically (,,) RelationsIntimacySex

PRAYING TOGETHER Amos 3:3

Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

Step 1 - Pray Together: Set aside time each day to pray with your spouse. Make sure you choose a time that is best for the both of you’ll

with no distraction. This may be first thing in the morning or right before bed. Make sure to ask God to fill you’ll with His Holy Spirit and give you’ll strength for the day ahead. To bring us closer together as you care for each other through out every day. Ask God to make you sensitive about what the day ahead holds for your partner. Your loving affection goes beyond the physical realm to the emotional and spiritual realm. This develops true intimacy with each other and with God.

MEN: THE ROLE OF A CHRISTIAN HUSBAND

Savior

Sanctifier

Satisfier

HUSBAND: THE SAVIOR Discuss what Husbands role as a Savior: Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Ephesians 5:26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

Ephesians 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

Ephesians 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

Ephesians 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and

cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

Ephesians 5:30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

Ephesians 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall

be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

Ephesians 5:32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the

church.

Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife

even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (KJV)

SAVIOR: CONT.

HUSBANDS: THREE SAVIOR PRINCIPLES Sacrifice

Discuss sacrificeExercise: (Wife: write down a list of of sacrifices your husband has made to because of your needs and or desires

PRINCIPLE TWO: SUFFERING FOR YOUR WIFE Suffering:

Biblical love is generated by the need of the person being loved, not necessarily the feelings or wishes of the one doing the loving.

Matthew 26:39 And he went a little further, and fell on his face, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.

PRINCIPLE THREE: SUBSTITUTING FOR YOUR WIFE

Christ substituted His right for our wrong!Often men feel they are right because of

the way we think. Simple & Positional. We tend to come to conclusion based on facts and figures which make logical sense;

Wives think differently.Substituting means taking the “I’m

wrong” approach when your consious mind say you are right! Christ substitute His sinlessness for our sin!

SANCTIFIER: Ephesians 5:26 That he might sanctify

and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

Ephesians 5:27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

Sanctification is the term used that describes the process of Christian growth from the moment we are saved until we get to Heaven; to sanctify your wife you must set her apart to be HOLY; this require spiritual leadership. He must be his wife's pastor!

PRINCIPLE THREE: SATISFIER Ephesians 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as

their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

Meeting her needs While dating , did you meet the need? Did you discover after marriage “she was more needy” ?

Ephesians 5:29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: Words of affirmation Studying what she likes or doesn’t like Quality time Giving gifts Acts of service Physical Touch

Questions about Husbands?

THE ROLE OF THE WIFE The Three “S”s of a Godly Wife

SubmissiveSoftnessSilence

SUBMISSION (NOT A DIRTY WORD!) Ephesians 5:22-24 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own

husbands, as unto the Lord.

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

(KJV)

SUBMISSIVE "Wives, be submissive to your own

husbands so that even if some husbands are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God."[1](1 Peter 3:1-4)

SOFTNESS Proverbs 14:1 Every wise woman buildeth her house:

but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.

Proverbs 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but

grievous words stir up anger.

SILENCE Proverbs 31:26 She openeth her mouth

with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

Proverbs 21:9 It is better to be living in an angle of the house-top, than with a bitter-tongued woman in a wide house.

Proverbs 27:15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day And a contentious woman are alike:

SEX IN THE CITY Genesis 1:27 And God created man in his own

image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.

Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them: and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it; and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the birds of the heavens, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

Genesis 2:24Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

(ASV)

SEX IN THE CITYMarriage

Proverbs 5:18 Let thy fountain be blessed; And rejoice in the wife of thy

youth.

Proverbs 5:19 As a loving hind and a pleasant doe, Let her breasts satisfy

thee at all times; And be thou ravished always with her love.

Proverbs 5:20 For why shouldest thou, my son, be ravished with a strange

woman, And embrace the bosom of a foreigner?

Proverbs 5:21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of Jehovah; And he

maketh level all his paths.

SEX IN THE CITY (CON’T)What can I do with my spouse?

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote: It is good for a man not to

touch a woman.

1 Corinthians 7:2 But, because of fornications, let each man have his own wife, and let each

woman have her own husband.

1 Corinthians 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife her due: and likewise also the wife

unto the husband.

1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife hath not power over her own body, but the husband: and likewise

also the husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife.

1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be by consent for a season, that ye

may give yourselves unto prayer, and may be together again, that Satan tempt you not because of your incontinency.

SEX IN THE CITY (CON’T)“Divorced? Can You Remarry”

1 Corinthians 7:6 But this I say by way of concession, not of commandment.

1 Corinthians 7:7 Yet I would that all men were even as I myself. Howbeit each

man hath his own gift from God, one after this manner, and another after that.

1 Corinthians 7:8 But I say to the unmarried and to widows, It is good for them if

they abide even as I.

1 Corinthians 7:9 But if they have not continency, let them marry: for it is better

to marry than to burn. (ASV)

DIVORCE

Romans 12:16 Be of the same mind one toward another. Set not

your mind on high things, but condescend to things that are lowly. Be not wise in your own conceits.

Romans 12:17 Render to no man evil for evil. Take thought for

things honorable in the sight of all men.

Romans 12:18 If it be possible, as much as in you lieth, be at peace

with all men. (ASV)

MARRIAGE

Deuteronomy 24:1 If a man takes a wife, and after they are

married she is unpleasing to him because of some bad quality in her, let him give her a statement in writing and send her away from his house.

Deuteronomy 24:2 And when she has gone away from him,

she may become another man's wife.

DIVORCE (CON’T)

Deuteronomy 24:3 And if the second husband has no love for her and, giving her a

statement in writing, sends her away; or if death comes to the second husband to whom she was married;

Deuteronomy 24:4 Her first husband, who had sent her away, may not take her

back after she has been wife to another; for that is disgusting to the Lord: and you are not to be a cause of sin in the land which the Lord your God is giving you for your heritage.

Deuteronomy 24:5 A newly married man will not have to go out with the army or

undertake any business, but may be free for one year, living in his house for the comfort of his wife.

(BBE)

SONG OF SOLOMAN

Song of Solomon 4:1 See, you are fair, my love, you are fair; you have the eyes of a dove; your hair is

as a flock of goats, which take their rest on the side of Gilead.

Song of Solomon 4:2 Your teeth are like a flock of sheep whose wool is newly cut, which come up

from the washing; every one has two lambs, and there is not one without young.

Song of Solomon 4:3 Your red lips are like a bright thread, and your mouth is fair of form; the sides of

your head are like pomegranate fruit under your veil.

Song of Solomon 4:4 Your neck is like the tower of David made for a store-house of arms, in which a

thousand breastplates are hanging, breastplates for fighting-men.

Song of Solomon 4:5 Your two breasts are like two young roes of the same birth, which take their

food among the lilies.

Song of Solomon 4:6 Till the evening comes, and the sky slowly becomes dark, I will go to the

mountain of myrrh, and to the hill of frankincense.

Song of Solomon 4:7 You are all fair, my love; there is no mark on you.

Song of Solomon 4:8 Come with me from Lebanon, my bride, with me from Lebanon; see from the

top of Amana, from the top of Senir and Hermon, from the places of the lions, from the mountains of the leopards.

Song of Solomon 4:9 You have taken away my heart, my sister, my bride; you have taken away

my heart, with one look you have taken it, with one chain of your neck!

Song of Solomon 4:10 How fair is your love, my sister! How much better is your love than wine,

and the smell of your oils than any perfume!

SONG OF SOLOMON CON’T

Song of Solomon 4:11 Your lips are dropping honey; honey and milk are under your tongue; and the smell of

your clothing is like the smell of Lebanon.

Song of Solomon 4:12 A garden walled-in is my sister, my bride; a garden shut up, a spring of water stopped.

Song of Solomon 4:13 The produce of the garden is pomegranates; with all the best fruits, henna and spikenard,

Song of Solomon 4:14 Spikenard and safron; calamus and cinnamon, with all trees of frankincense; myrrh and

aloes, with all the chief spices.

Song of Solomon 4:15 You are a fountain of gardens, a spring of living waters, and flowing waters from Lebanon.

Song of Solomon 4:16 Be awake, O north wind; and come, O south, blowing on my garden, so that its spices

may come out. Let my loved one come into his garden, and take of his good fruits. (BBE)

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