personality development bootcamp
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PERSONALITY DEVELOPMENT QUICKCOURSE
Unconventional Advice to Improving One’s Personality
Why the Heck Are You Here?
Your teachers told me that you are required to
be here. =P
Why the Heck Are You Here?
This is a time-saver. Ideas hand suggestions here came either from books that many of you will not be
interested to read and thus miss out on great learnings OR are things I had to learn the hard way (sucks for me but
good for you)
Why the Heck Are You Here?
If you think you don’t need to improve your personality then you are the
perfect audience for this. If you actually want to improve your personality you are still the perfect audience for this.
WHAT IS IN STORE FOR YOU?Contemporary lessons based from
various topics such as Cognitive Psychology, Branding, Positivism, Life Coaching, and even Marketing. All of
these designed to help you make better sense first of yourself and then
your role in your environment.
Why the Heck Are You Here?
You’ve got nothing to lose and something to gain.
HOUSE RULES1. Respect is the gold standard. 2. My training orientation is based on adult-
learning thus I expect adult-like behavior. 3. There is a 15-minute break for every 2-hour
block.4. There is a 45 minute lunch break each day5. If you need to go to the john then just go6. Participation is highly encouraged.
DO YOU HAVE A PERSONALITY?
The BIGGER QUESTION is…WILL IT WORK FOR YOU OR AGAINST YOU?
OF COURSE YOU DO!
• The quality or condition of being a person.• The totality of qualities and traits, as of
character or behavior, that are peculiar to a specific person.
• The pattern of collective character, behavioral, temperamental, emotional, and mental traits of a person: Though their personalities differed, they got along as friends.
• Distinctive qualities of a person, especially those distinguishing personal characteristics that make one socially appealing:
• BEING• PECULIAR• PATTERN• COLLECTIVE• DISTINCTIVE
• SOCIALLY APPEALING
LET’S GO ROCK THE BOAT
WHAT WILL YOU DO IN THE NEXT 3 MONTHSHOW ABOUT IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHSWHAT WILL YOU BE DOING BY THE NEXT YEAR?
ARE YOU SURE?
WHAT IF…THINGS DON’T WORK OUT?
Typical Explanation for Behavior
Cognitive Explanation for Behavior
INDEPENDENCE
INTERDEPENDENCE
DEPENDENCE
It’s a thing Called Perception
What you See is What you Get
Beauty is in the Eye of the Beholder
Ponder These:
How much time do you spend JUDGING or ASSESSING others?
Do you spend as much time THINKING how the WORLD
judges or assesses you?
“It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.”
– Charles Darwin
MEDIOCRITY = AVERAGE
a 5 out of 10. What happened to the
other 5?
MEDIOCRITY = VACUUM
Prolonged mediocrity = Unhappiness
SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT
“the quickest one way trip to disappointment”
SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT
I deserve it just because I feel so or I say so.
It must happen the way I want it to happen.
Behavior that Indicates a Sense of Entitlement
You get angry because of heavy traffic even though you know it’s rush hour.
Your curse at the heat when you know you live in a tropical country.
You get annoyed with reports and exams when you know it’s part of being a student.
But isn’t it normal to be annoyed or irritated?
ABSOLUTELY!
Whining is Fun. But utterly USELESS
Unless ...
You do Something
About It
Which Way Are you Looking?
Circle of Influence and Circle of Concern
Proactive vs ReactivePlan StoppersPractical Application 1
BECOME PROACTIVE
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE
CIRCLE OF CONCERN
If you are not part of the solution, you are part of the problem
Be the change that you want to see in
the world
REACTIVE THINKING
CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE
PROACTIVE THINKING
Time To Bring Out the Microscope!
Instead of the usual fearful question “Can I do
it?” try this one…
“Who is going to stop me?”
TWO POSSIBLE PLAN STOPPERS
THE OUTSIDE WORLD
Well meaning friends, family, colleagues, peers
Damn you if you do, damn you if you don’t
TWO POSSIBLE PLAN STOPPERS
YOUR SELFLearned Helplessness: TYING DOWN THE ELEPHANT
The Lost Identity: THE EAGLE AND THE DUCKThe Gold Within: DAEMON
It’s not what you’re parents gave you but
what you do with what you’re given that matters
Where you are right now does not determine
where you go. It only tells where you start from.
PROACTIVE THINKING
Be Proactive
SEE
DO
GET
MEDIOCRE PERSON: This is the best that I can do given my resources (upbringing, family background, etc)EFFECTIVE PERSON: There’s always a way to get it done.
•See Alternatives instead of roadblocks•Focus on what you can influence•Expand, don’t limit your resources
A breakthrough to extraordinary results
A breakthrough to extraordinary results
Practical Application
Create a Resource Finder1.PEOPLE– Find a mentor– Find a muse
2.KNOWLEDGE– What do you know / what do you NEED to know
3.TECHNOLOGY– The Web is the Key
Is your vision 20/20?
Do you have a Vision?Seeing Yourself as a BrandBringing out your TelescopeBringing out your MirrorWriting a Contribution StatementPractical Application 2
Very few people have a specific image of what they want to
achieve. Most people’s sights are only toward the next run, the next increment of money
-Judith M. Bardwick, International Management Consultant
You: The Ultimate
Brand
TWO years ago, what were your top concerns. What were goals were you
trying to achieve, habits you wanted to strengthen or remove, skills you wanted to learn, or relationships to nurture or end.
List the top 5.
Do the same for your goals last year, this year, and the next year.
You have 5 minutes to complete this activity
Time To Bring Out the Mirror
Thinking Like a BrandUse the SWOT Analysis on yourself• What do you stand for? What are your top
three values?• What is easy for you but difficult for others?• What can you improve on?• What compliments do you get that you brush
aside?• What do others have that you don’t?
I DARE YOU TO SWOT YOURSELF!
PHYSICAL• It’s a visual
world out there
• Invest in the details
EMOTIONAL• Will you go
for the Cookie?
• Coffee, Egg, or Carrot
MENTAL• Got talent?• Texting is not
a hobby• Communicate
or Evaporate
SPIRITUAL• What are your non-negotiables?• What do you stand for?
Bringing out the Telescope
Team up with your M&M
Be inspired then aspire
If you try and failed, call it version 1.0
Define terms using YOUR own Dictionary
Be Selfish in order to become Selfless
Define terms using YOUR own Dictionary
Gasoline in a Diesel-run engine and vice-versa
What will Happen?
Why does it happen?
You cannot borrow someone else’s vision.
Why be the next whatever when you can be the BEST
YOU?
Channel your Inner Madonna: Aspire to
be a Hyphenate
CAREER CHOICES
SUPPORT SYSTEM
ADVOCACIES
Forge an Inner Vision
SEE
DO
GET
MEDIOCRE PERSON: I am a product of my environmentEFFECTIVE PERSON: I choose what influences me and I create my image and reality.
•Define the unique brand that is YOU – solid but flexible enough to adapt•Define practical outcomes – everywhere, every time.
Fearlessly Create your version 2.0Fearlessly Create your version 2.0
Practical Application
Create a Resource Finder1.Treat your self as Brand– Research – Find a muse
2.KNOWLEDGE– What do you know / what do you NEED to know
3.TECHNOLOGY– The Web is the Key
Time To Bring Out the Stop Watch!
List down the top 10 activities that receives your time.
Where do all these activities lead you?
Do you think the time you invest in these activities are worth it?
Or do you think it would be better to redirect some of your resources to
other activities?