positive on purpose - create a life you love
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HOW TO STOP
COMPARING
YOURLIFE TO
OTHERS &
CREATE A LIFE
YOU LOVEWITH BECKY FIELDS
Who Am I?
• Mother of 2 wonderful children• Graduated from University of
Oklahoma with Finance Degree• Vice President of Private Banking
Lending Group
My banking career started 15 years ago…
Dreaming big!!
A SETBACK IS A SETUPFOR A COMEBACK.
Bill Goldner – My Dad
Les Brown-World renowned motivational speaker
“A bend in the road is not the end of the road”
“If life has you down on your back, don’t stay there! If you can look up, you can get up.”
BEFORE THINKING INTO RESULTS PROGRAM…
Limiting Beliefs:• Just a banker• Just a single mom• Just good with numbers,
not a good writer
“You can put a quote or stat here.”
Comparison Trap of Facebook• Highlight reel vs Behind the scenes footage• Perfect moms• Perfect couples• Perfect Pinterest meals
Studies show Facebook and depression go hand-in-hand due to social comparisons.- Forbes
“Comparison is the thief of joy.”-Theodore Roosevelt 26th President of the United States
You have seeds of greatness in you. Your journey is your journey. You are unique and have a gift only you can bring to the world.
What about you?Rate Yourself
1) I never compare myself to other people.
2) I have a specific dream & vision for my future.
3) I need help with creating a vision for my future.
How to Create A Life You Love1) Choose to Stay Positive2) Choose Your Thoughts
My Commitment To You:
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My purpose tonight is to give you ONE tool to help you create a life you love.
Your Commitment To Yourself:
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• Take notes• Identify an action step you can take
this week• Stay away from the words of doom
How To Create A Life You Love
1) Choose to Stay Positive
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What you think about You bring about
Staying Positive
“You can either complain that rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice that thorn bushes have roses.”
- Abraham Lincoln – who failed 10 times in a big way before becoming President
• No rose colored glasses, ignoring the bad
• Taking negative experiences head on to move forward through them
• Taking advantage of what we have & use it to overcome adversity
Increased life spanLower rates of depressionGreater resistance to the common coldReduced risk of death from cardiovascular diseaseBetter coping skills during hardships and times of stress
“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances.
The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find
them, make them.”George Bernard Shaw
--Raised in poverty and became one of world’s most well-known playwrights, authoring over 60 plays
What you think about you bring about….why?
• Electronic switching station• Big word alert – Reticular Activating
System• Words have power
Try This!!!
$200 billion/year• Cost to companies due to
stress-related illnesses(National Institute for Occupational Safety)
Practical Steps to Stay Positive:
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1) Affirmations2) Meditation3) Gratitude Journal
I am so happy and grateful now that…
Fortune 500 CEO’s who meditate:AppleSalesforce.comGoogleYahooNBA Coach Phil Jackson
How To Create A Life You Love
2) Choose Your Thoughts
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Use reason & imagination to create the results you want.
Higher Faculties:Reason – ability to think and form original ideasImagination – first stage of creation
It’s all about the numbers…RESULTS!• Weight• Score• Bank
Account
• Sales Volume
• Income• GPA
Did you know?According to Forbes Magazine, 40% of Americans set New Year’s Resolutions8% achieve them
• You can’t let what’s going on outside of you get in your way.
• When you let your results impact your thoughts, you’ll get the same thing over and over again.
Thoughts
FeelingsActions
ResultsStart Here-
You Choose!
Practical Steps to Change Results:
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1) Accountability2) Track new habits3) Pairing
Hire a coach, personal trainer
When I brush my teeth, I take my vitaminsWhen I go for a walk, I practice gratitude
How to Create A Life You Love1) Choose to Stay Positive2) Choose Your Thoughts
A SETBACK IS A SETUPFOR A COMEBACK.
Your Call To Action:a
What one thing are you going to do?
What’s Next?a
1) Complete your survey2) Take your notes with you3) Schedule your action step
