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Practical Ways to Find Joy EverydayChristine Hammond, LMHC

1Practical Ways to Find Joy Everyday

This Could Be Me

This could be me

My personal story of exhaustion and how God helped me to overcome it.2

Joyless into JoyfulTurning yourCrazy schedule into stabilityUnrealistic expectations into functionalOverstretched boundaries into healthy

Joyless into Joyful

Turning yourCrazy schedule into stabilityUnrealistic expectations into functionalOverstretched boundaries into healthy3

A stable (not a crazy) schedule brings joy to your life.

A stable (not a crazy) schedule brings joy to your life.4

Crazy Schedule

Crazy Schedule

Is this what your schedule looks like?5

Time MatrixUrgentNot UrgentImportantCrisisQuality TimeNot ImportantDistractionsTime Wasters

Time Matrix

Borrowed from Steven Covey.Everyone has the same amount of time each day.All items can be divided into one of four categories.Determine which category is the best fit.Organize your day accordingly.Use this for work and home.6

Stable Schedule:

Crisis

Stable Schedule: CrisisTerrors surround the wicked and trouble them at every step. Hunger depletes their strength, and calamity (crisis) waits for them to stumble. -Job 18:11-12

Urgent Important Immediate priorityReserve 30-60 minutes each day Examples: work emergenciesAccidentsSicknessstranded kidsmandatory attendance meetingscleaning up spillsdeadline-driven projects

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Stable Schedule:

Quality Time

Stable Schedule: Quality TimeFor everything there is a season, atimefor every activity under heaven.- Ecc. 3:1

Not urgent Important ScheduleKeep these items from turning into crisisExamples: annual medical examsExercisecleaning the kitchenRestTherapyquality time with kids & friendswork trainingsfuture deadlinesGardeningdevotional reading

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Stable Schedule: Distractions

Stable Schedule: DistractionsI am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible. 1 Cor. 7:35UrgentNot importantDelegateSomeone else has decided the urgency Examples:Interruptionssome phone calls or textsmeaningless reportslow priority emailsunnecessary meetingshelicopter parentingperfectionistic cleaning

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Stable Schedule: Time Wasters

Stable Schedule: Time WastersDo notwastetimearguing over godless ideas and old wives tales. Instead, train yourself to be godly. 1 Tim. 4:7

Not urgent Not important Done only if the other three quadrants are completedExamples: workplace gossipnewsletter emailsreading blogscompleting surveyssurfing the webwatching TVwashing windowsplaying video games10

A stable (not a crazy) schedule brings joy to your life.

A stable (not a crazy) schedule brings joy to your life.11

Functional (not unrealistic) expectations brings joy to your life.

Functional (not unrealistic) expectations brings joy to your life.12

Unrealistic Expectations

Unrealistic Expectations

Can come from any one of these items: SchedulesChoresFriendsKidsHusbandJobCleaningLaundryShoppingClothesShoesIn-lawsChurchSchoolsTeachers Neighbors

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Worst:

Stepford WivesBody Image

Worst Expectation: Stepford Wives Body Image

Society has even gone so far as to incorrectly intertwine body-image with self-image. The conclusion is that the fitter/more beautiful you are, the better you will feel about yourself. It is a lie; many people with fit bodies still have a low self-image.

Thank you for making me sowonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marveloushow well I know it. Psalms 139:1414

Mirror, Mirror, on the wall

Mirror, Mirror, on the wall

What are you saying to yourself about your body?Redirect your negative self-talkStop comparing yourself to othersManage your stress and anxiety effectively dont take stress out on your body

Fix yourthoughtson what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. - Phil. 4:8b

Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you wont need to compare yourself to anyone else. For we are each responsible for our own conduct. Gal. 6:4-5

Obviously, Im not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christs servant. Gal. 1:10

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Functional Expectations

Functional Body Image Expectations

Celebrate what your body has doneBe compassionate with your physical limitationsYour body is more than a numberEnjoy your bodys movementEliminate friends with unhealthy body imageFocus on joy rather than looks

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Functional (not unrealistic) expectations brings joy to your life.

Functional (not unrealistic) expectations brings joy to your life.17

Healthy (not overstretched) boundaries brings joy to your life.

Healthy (not overstretched) boundaries brings joy to your life.18

Overstretched Boundaries

Over Stretched Boundaries

A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls. Proverbs 25:28

Self-control is not just about what you eat! Rather, a person with self-control is a person with boundaries in their life. Boundaries in:Speaking to others and how others speak to youWhere you will and wont goHow you will and wont dressWhat type of work you will and wont doWho is and isnt your friendWhat you will and wont watch

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Difficult People

Difficult People

Which difficulty do you have little tolerance for?

IndecisiveKnow-It-AllAgreeableComplainerSilentAggressiveNegativistLierAbuserAdvantage takerEmotional rollercoasterAvoiderPassive-aggressiveConstantly depressiveExcessively arrogantIgnorerIllogicalParanoidObsessive-compulsiveAddictSuicidalApatheticRudeExcessive talkerNot empatheticNot intimateNon-stop anxiousInsecureExtreme selfishnessExaggerator MinimizerThiefVery IrresponsibleGossipManipulator Argumentative NaggerHyperactive Creepy Hypersexual Flamboyant

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FoolsA wise person chooses the right road;a fool takes the wrong one. You can identify foolsjust by the way they walk down the street! - Ecc. 10:2-3

Scripture calls difficult peopleFools

A wise person chooses the right road;a fool takes the wrong one. You can identify foolsjust by the way they walk down the street! - Ecc. 10:2-3

Other verses about handling difficult people: Again I say, dont get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights.A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people.Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those peoples hearts, and they will learn the truth. - 2 Tim. 2:23-25A fool is quick-tempered, but a wise person stays calm when insulted. - Prov. 12:16Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others. - Prov. 12:15Unfriendly people care only about themselves;they lash out at common sense. - Prov. 18:1Dont waste your breath onfools, for they will despise the wisest advice. - Prov. 23:9Fools base their thoughts on foolish assumptions,so their conclusions will be wicked madness;they chatter on and on. - Ecc. 10:13-14a

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See Things from their Perspective

See things from their perspective

Why do they react immediately in anger, become defensive or lie?

Separate the person from the issueListen more than you speakIdentify the type of difficulty they haveAccept them for who they areSee the best in themBe aware of their negative traitsWalk in their shoes

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Healthy Boundaries

Establish Boundaries

1. Realize that your needs are important.2. Be firm and kind.3. Have realistic expectations.4. Walk away when needed.5. Remind yourself youre in charge.

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Healthy (not overstretched) boundaries brings joy to your life.

Healthy (not overstretched) boundaries brings joy to your life.24

Practical Ways to Find Joy EverydayChristine Hammond, LMHC

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