Prevention and Partnerships…

How to Play Well With Others

Presented by:Jill Nugin, EdMNathaniel Nugin, EdMArmy Community ServiceFort Carson, CO 12 August 2009

Presentation Objectives

Review regulatory prevention program requirements

Tailoring programs to specific populations

Prevention Partnerships Adapting to our changing mission What are we doing? What is

working?

Regulatory “Requirements”

IAW AR 608-18 Ch3 Sec 1 there are various training requirements that the FAPM is required to coordinate. ACS FAP staff will provide primary and secondary prevention programs and MTF staff is responsible for tertiary prevention programs. They include:

Community Education Safety Education Commander Education Spouse Abuse Prevention Troop Education Victim Advocacy Services Education for Professionals Family Life Education Parent Education and Support

To Stay or Not to Stay in Our “Lane”????

When thinking about “Domestic Violence” it is important to consider all of those factors that influence relationships, between couples and parents and children.

Don’t get stuck in a narrow lane. It is important for the families we serve that we see a broad view of prevention.

Primary Prevention Programs

Stress Management Family Wellness PREP Marriage Enrichment New Parent Support Programs Nurturing Parenting Programs Financial Strategy Seminars Strengthening Step Families Infant Massage Boot Camp for New Dads

Secondary Prevention Programs

Teen Mom Support Group Anger Management Single Parent Support New Mom Support Group EFMP diagnosis specific Group Waiting Families Group

Tertiary Prevention

These are programs and services that are available through the MTF , specifically through Family Advocacy Social Work Service. This will include assessment, intervention and treatment programs and are put in place after an allegation has been made.

Targeting programs to meet Installation needs

SWS Data IPT trends Risk Reduction stats Deployment Cycle

Support Leader feedback

MP/civilian police reports

Customer requests Needs assessments Others????

There are many sources that help us with identifying specific populations so that we can target our prevention efforts.

Targeting Efforts Often you will be able to access historical

or even anecdotal data about your installation that will lead you to the need for certain programs.

Trends after redeployment (increase in divorces)

Newly arrived units Training densities (JRTC, NTC) Multiple deployment casualties/injuries Wounded Warrior surges (high risk

Soldiers)

Targeted Approach Examples

Divorce: developed at returning unit request as they identified this as an issue.

Communicating with Children: Required per the DCS, adapted for installation.

Building Resiliency: Installation request, initially for female Soldiers, expanded for Rear Detachment Commanders and Family Readiness Group Leaders.

Child, Youth & School Services

Fort Carson, Co.

Communicating with Children“Keeping the Child in mind”

Building Resiliency

Chief, Social Work ServicesEvans Army Community

Hospital

Building Resiliency Building Resiliency

involves two things simultaneously, in a stressful situation….

Self Soothing

Self Confronting

Female Soldier Resiliency Workshop

•Anyone entering Ft. Carson through the B Street Gate drives past signs bearing the Warrior Ethos. None of them differentiates between men and women. This workshop is not intended to differentiate, but to highlight the importance of resiliency.

•Why females Soldiers? While all Soldiers share many things, there are ideals, beliefs, values, needs and experiences that are unique to women as there are some that are unique to men. Frank and open discussion of some subjects has been shown to be difficult if not impossible in mixed groups. This is part of the rationale behind holding these workshops for specific segments of the Ft. Carson family. The first was held this past June for FRG Leaders. Plans are underway for Rear Detachment personnel.

•Our hope is that this event provides you a much deserved respite from what is certainly one of the most important professions in our world. Please use this opportunity not only to learn, but to teach, to share, to grow.

Army Community Service29 Sept 08

Female Soldier Resiliency • Resiliency Workshop for Female Soldiers• 30 September 2008• 0900-0910 Introduction by Garrison Commander• 0910- 0915CSM Kilpatrick, Garrison CSM• 0915-0920 Pat Randle, Army Community Service Director• 0920-0930 Melissa Nugin “Poetry Reading”• 0930-0940 Nathaniel Nugin, Administrative Tasks/Logistics• 0940-1105 Kirsten Holmstedt, Guest Speaker• 1105-1130 Book Signing• 1130-1230 Lunch; Chaplain Roberts• 1230-1400 Breakout Sessions, 2-40 minute sessions• * Parenting, Rita Wiley; Carriage House (50) • 1230-1310 * Finances, Fred Lewis; Cripple Creek (30)• 1315-1355 * Relationships, Battle Buddies, Jill & Nate Nugin; Pavilion (50)• * Single Soldiers, TerriAnn Naughton; Broadmoor Room (20)• * Wounded Warriors, Latoya Lucas; 3rd Floor Board Room (20)• * Panel- Sexual Assault/Sexual Harassment; 2nd Floor Board Room

(20)• 1400-1430 Balance & Harmony, Wellness Center, Pavilion• 1430-1600 Pampering Session/Relaxation Stations• * Chair Massage; Pavilion• 1430-1510 * Women at the Well; Carriage House• 1515-1555 * Aromatherapy; Pavilion• *Breathing Techniques/Muscle Relaxation; Cripple Creek• 1600-1615 Closing; Chaplain Roberts & Evaluations; ACS, Pavilion

Prevention Programs and Partnering

Partnering and Collaboration are crucial when developing prevention programs for several reasons:

Manpower: Most FAP’s are not staffed sufficiently to be able to do everything that is required.

Expertise: Most installations have a variety of folks who have expertise in areas the FAP may not.

Relationship Building: Working with other agencies builds positive relationships that benefit in other areas.

Other reasons??

Partnering Possibilities Installation Chaplains Military Family Life

Consultants MTF/Social Work Child and Youth

Service/School Liaison Community

Assistance Centers Local Child Welfare

Community Vet Center

Victim Advocates Unit Prevention

Leaders SRC Staff Local Law

Enforcement/MP ASAP Others??

Good Partnership Fits Spouse Abuse Prevention/Marriage

Enrichment: Chaplains, MFLC, SWS Child Abuse Prevention: CYSS staff,

Chaplains, CYSS Consultants, Local Child Welfare

Family Life Education: MFLC, SRC staff, VA Center, Financial Readiness Staff

Others??

Adapting to a Changing Mission

The changing mission of the military has significant impact on the way Family Advocacy Program provide Prevention Programs

Changes Deployment and mandated reintegration

programs Younger families, more are new to the

military as turnover increases Wounded Warrior families Families stay at installations longer (life

cycle) Increases across the board in high risk

behaviors Media scrutiny, focus on negative

behaviors i.e.., DUI, Suicide, Homicide

Prevention Program Possibilities

Marriage Enrichment-5 Love Languages

CARE Team Training Boot Camp for New Dads &

Nurturing Fathers Kid’s Chat Reintegration Training

Reunion Challenges forReunion Challenges forMilitary MarriagesMilitary Marriages

Reunion ExpectationsReunion Expectations

Negotiating ChangeNegotiating Change

Communication TechniquesCommunication Techniques

Handling ConflictHandling Conflict

Strengthening CommitmentStrengthening Commitment

Reunion ExpectationsReunion Expectations

What kind of adjustments are necessary What kind of adjustments are necessary when you first return from deployment?when you first return from deployment?

Any “standard” amount of time it takes Any “standard” amount of time it takes for things to get back to normal? for things to get back to normal?

Do things always get back to normal?Do things always get back to normal? What advice would you have for a What advice would you have for a

couple experiencing their first reunion?couple experiencing their first reunion?

How Do You How Do You Communicate?Communicate?

What’s your style?What’s your style? Your partner’s?Your partner’s? Withdraw or Withdraw or

Pursue?Pursue? When do you do it When do you do it

the best?the best? When is it hardest?When is it hardest? What speaks What speaks

louder, verbal or louder, verbal or non-verbal?non-verbal?

Fun and FriendshipFun and Friendship

How did you meet How did you meet your spouse?your spouse?

Fun things you did?Fun things you did? Friends first?Friends first? Last time you had Last time you had

fun together.fun together. OK to have some OK to have some

interests that are interests that are different? different? Examples??Examples??

THE THE FiveFive LOVE LANGUAGES LOVE LANGUAGES

Presenters:Presenters: Nathaniel Nugin, EdMNathaniel Nugin, EdM Jill Nugin, EdMJill Nugin, EdM Army Community ServicesArmy Community Services Fort Carson, ColoradoFort Carson, Colorado

The Five Love LanguagesThe Five Love Languages Your love language and that of your Your love language and that of your

spouse may be as different as Chinese spouse may be as different as Chinese and English.and English.

We may be sincere when expressing our We may be sincere when expressing our love to each other, but that might not love to each other, but that might not be enough.be enough.

We must be willing to learn our spouse’s We must be willing to learn our spouse’s primary love language if we are to be primary love language if we are to be effective communicators of love.effective communicators of love.

We must also understand our own We must also understand our own primary love language.primary love language.

Love LanguagesLove Languages Basically five emotional love Basically five emotional love

languageslanguages Each has numerous dialectsEach has numerous dialects Each person develops a Each person develops a

primary LL based on unique primary LL based on unique psychological makeup and how psychological makeup and how love was expressed to themlove was expressed to them

Most important to speak the Most important to speak the love language of your spouselove language of your spouse

The Five Love LanguagesThe Five Love Languages

Words of AffirmationWords of AffirmationQuality TimeQuality TimeReceiving of GiftsReceiving of GiftsActs of ServiceActs of ServicePhysical TouchPhysical Touch

CARE TEAMTRAINING

“When you allow your friend to talk about the one who died, you are a healer.”

Why Be A CARE Team Member??

• What is my motivation to do this?• What are my strengths?• How will I care for myself?• How will this job affect my family, my

children?• Will this increase my own stress

about my spouse? • What are my support systems?

Boot Camp for New Dads Program began at Fort Carson in Feb 2000. Taught for Dads, by Dads (in our case our

male troop educator). Meets at lunch time, first 3 Wed of each

month. Session on How Dads learn to be fathers,

caring for Mom, caring for Baby. Is often a CRC recommendation for a dad

with a child abuse/neglect allegation.

Boot Camp adaptation

When a large unit returns from deployment, there is often a request for a unit specific Boot Camp for all Soldiers who have become fathers during the deployment. Done in one session, at the unit.

Kid’s Chat Kids Chat was developed at Fort Carson in

response to concerns that the children of Soldiers needed an opportunity to share how they were feeling about deployments. There had been an increase in MP reports concerning teens and CYS was reporting an increase in negative behaviors in the classrooms. FRG leaders and Rear D Commanders asked ACS/FAP to address these concerns…….and Kids Chat was born.

What Kid’s Chat looks like Children are divided in to 3 age groups, 5-8, 9-

12 and 13 and up. Each group is facilitated by 2 or more staff.

Each group has specific curriculum, and it can include games, crafts, stories and discussion

While the kids meet, parents are invited to participate in a discussion group about their concerns, facilitated by FAP.

After 90 minutes, the groups meet for refreshments (unit provided) and parents get feedback, as appropriate.

Kid’s Chat can be done before deployment, during or getting ready for reunion.

“…a man’s got to know his limitations”

A Network of Partners

ACS Mob & Dep ACS FAP

Coordinator DV Trainer Financial Readiness Sexual Assault

Trainer New Parent Support CYSS ASAP Vet Center DVBIC

UMT JAG Preventive Med Unit Rear Det FRSA’s Volunteers Soldiers and

Families Ed Svcs ACAP BOSS DFMWR

DAY-1• Positive Outlets

– Education Services– DMWR– ACAP

• Communication– w/Spouse– Single Soldiers– Divorcing– w/Children

• Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI)• Soldier Battlemind I

– Breakout Groups• Spouse Battlemind

DAY-2• Money Matters• ASAP• Medical Threat• Legal• Domestic Violence Prevention• Sexual Assault Awareness and

Prevention• Suicide Prevention

FT. CARSON ACS REINTEGRATION UNIVERSITY

Breaking it down…

Day One Positive Outlets- Ed Center, DFMWR, ACAP Communicate w/Spouse- FAP Coordinator Communicate (Single Soldiers)- FAP / Vet Center Communicate (Divorce)- MFLC Communicate w/Children- CYSS TBI- DVBIC Spouse Battlemind- Mob/Dep Soldier Battlemind- UMT Battlemind Breakout Groups- Vet Center/MFLC

…and More

Day 2 Domestic Violence- FAP Trainer ASAP- Ed Coordinator Medical Threat- Preventive Medicine Legal- JAG Money Matter- Financial Readiness

Program Sexual Assault- Trainer Suicide Prevention- UMT

Prevention Wrap-Up

Be creative…most things that you develop for families are prevention.

Use all of the installation and community resources that you can!

CASE……copy and steal everything (with permission of course!)

Have fun with prevention!

Questions?

Jill Nugin (719) 526-0445DSN 691-0445

Jill.Nugin@us.army.mil

Nathaniel Nugin (719) 526-4590DSN 691-4590

Nathaniel.Nugin@us.army.mil