Quality RelationshipsLOWENFIELD ALLEYNE

Topics Relationships Matter

Quality vs. Quantity

Add Value

Reciprocate

Discuss don’t Discard

Bond

Relationships Matter It is impossible for one to exist without a relationship. Some examples are:

◦ Creator and Creature◦ Employer and Employee◦ Parent and child◦ Teacher and Student

The level of commitment to the relationship will ultimately determine the quality of the relationship

The quality of the interaction between the parties will affect the growth of the relationship

Quality vs. Quantity Quality is a measure of excellence

Quantity is the amount of a thing

The worth or value of a relationship should never be defined by the quantity of time the parties spend together but rather the quality of the quantity of time.

A meaningful relationship is one that grows as time goes.

Don’t just count the years; add value to the years

Add Value You can add value to your relationships by being the person you’d like the other person to be:

◦ If you want someone that is honest; be honest◦ If you want someone that is dedicated; be

dedicated◦ If you want loyalty; be loyal

To add value you need to be in the know◦ Know the other party’s likes and share in or initiate

them◦ Know the other party’s fears and assist with

overcoming them◦ Know the other party’s shortcomings and help to

strengthen them

Reciprocate Relationships are about selflessness not selfishness

Give that which you would like to receive

Share the spotlight◦ ‘Big up’ and you’ll get your ‘big up’ in other words if

one party does something that is worthy of recognition or praise then acknowledge it.

Love requires love as its recompense/reward◦ If you find yourself in a rut in your relationship; love

your way out of it

Be ready to forgive because someday you’ll need forgiveness

Discuss don’t Discard Be open with/about how you’re feeling towards the other party

Sometimes it isn’t about how it is said or what was said but how what was said made you feel

◦ Never forget that the other party to the relationship is a human being and should be treated as such

There is never an appropriate time to raise your voice or show your authority in a relationship

◦ Each party is intellectually capable to have a discussion just ensure that you choose an appropriate time

Bond

Spending time together is the best glue that can hold a relationship together

Always seize opportunities to share activities

Pleasantly surprise the other party in the relationship

Remember and celebrate milestones

Be careful of frequent activities that keep both parties apart

Make being in each other’s company fun, entertaining and meaningful

Thank You