relationship series free to be me - session 4
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WATCH WHAT YOU SAY;your words have influence.
Women’s Relationship Series - Session #4
Last Week
We considered how we thought, our process of thinking
How so many negative thoughts enter our mind
How negative thoughts influence our actions
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto hearers
Ephesians 4:29 (KJV)
What we say
What we say
Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.
Ephesians 4:29 (Message Bible)
WHAT YOU SAY TO YOURSELF
From the same mouth come [both] blessings and curses.
James 3:10 (NASB)
You make me sick!
Dirty
DirtyRaped or molested
STD like herpes or HIV
Your self-talk may be filled with guilt or shame.
Confirmation Bias
Actively seek things that confirm our thoughts, decisions, or beliefs
We attempt to avoid things that will disconfirm our thoughts, decisions, or beliefs
Negative Self-Talk Examples
Negative Self-Talk Comments
Nothing ever goes right for me
I can’t remember names
I just know it won’t work
I don’t have talent
I can never afford things I want
You can’t trust anyone anymore
Session ExercisePart 1
1.Write down 3 negative self-talk statements(statements no longer than ten words each)
2.Turn your card over blank side up
3.Pass them all the way to your left to the FTBM staff
Session ExercisePart 2
1.Read the negative self-talk statements on the card
2.Respond on the blank side, as if you are in the position of God
3.Responding to the little girl on screen who had these negative self-talk statements about herself
Steps to Stopping Negative Self-Talk
1. Identify the damaging things you say about yourself
2. Challenge negative statements when they come up
3. Understand and challenge the confirmation bias
4. Practice self-affirmation
HomeworkWrite Romans 8:37 on a sticky note and post it where you can see it first thing in the morning for 3 weeks
Say Romans 8:37 out loud every morning to you about you
Take one of your favorite pictures of yourself and put that near the scripture
Write down one of the positive responses that you heard tonight or that God has placed in your heart
Say the positive response to your picture daily and throughout the day
Homework ExampleNegative:
“If I only had more money”
Positive:“God provides more than enough money for me and
my family. We live abundantly in his overflow.”