I pray to Allah that he brings your family together and brings home peace and tranquility.

No doubt living in such an environment is really difficult and emotionally stressful. It takes a toll on both your mental and physical state of well being. Before anything, I would really want to ask you “How is your family’s behavior with you?” Are they pre-occupied with their own miseries or does their behavior becomes a hindrance for you in your life? The reason of my asking this is, usually, in such a stressful atmosphere people tend to either keep quiet and suppress all the anger/hatred within them and become really gloomy in their life, occasionally bursting over on others [OR] they become a rebel and develop this who cares attitude in life.

In either of the cases, though it is totally understandable and the person is not to be blamed for, yet as Muslims it doesn’t befit us to be either a rebel or a sadistic/arrogant person. I am not playing the “Akhlaq” card here and I am not trying to make you feel bad about it. However, as, Muslims when we become too gloomy or like a rebel, it affects our Ibadah, it affects our hearts. With such attitude we can never ever feel the sweetness of Iman and closeness of Allah swt, which in itself contains greater happiness and contentment than any of the worldly pleasures. So I would really urge you to not fall in either of the extremes, yes, it is very tough to not let all this negativity creep In our heads but in the end this is why there are such big rewards waiting for us in the next life. InshaAllah, I hope I made some sense here.

Now, coming to your question of dealing with a broken family. You can use it as a means to please Allah. Yes, there is a lot of tension in the house, constant fights and stress, it wouldn’t be easy to be acting all according to the Quran and Sunnah. But, Insha'Allah, the greater the struggles the bigger the rewards.

There would be days when you just want to run away and break all your relationship with your family and just be at peace somewhere alone. But, if instead you are patient and forbearing then you will have great rewards

Anas ibn Malik reported that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Anyone who wants to have his provision expanded and his term of life prolonged should maintain ties of kinship." [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Al-Bukhari]

'Abdu'r-Rahman ibn 'Awf heard the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, "Allah, the Almighty and Exalted, said, 'I am the Merciful (ar-Rahman). I have created ties of kinship and derives a name for it from My Name. If anyone maintains ties of kinship, I maintain connection with him, and I shall cut off anyone who cuts them off.'"[Al-Adab al-Mufrad Al-Bukhari]

There would be days when your mother’s behavior would be so bad that you would want to retaliate and you would want to shout at her, but, pause. Wait. Think. Think about your Akhirah, Think about her place in front of Allah. No matter how she behaves she is still your mother and if you won’t get any peace of heart from her by being good to her you would surely have a high status in Jannah. Think Big.

'Ata' ibn Yasar said that a man came to Ibn 'Abbas and said, “I asked a woman to marry me and she refused to marry me. Another man asked her and she agreed to marry him. I became jealous and killed

her. Is there any way for me to repent?” He asked, “Is your mother alive?” “No,” he replied. He said, “repent to Allah Almighty and try to draw near Him as much as you can.”

'Ata' said, “I went to Ibn 'Abbas and asked him, 'Why did you ask him whether his mother was alive?' He replied, 'I do not know of any action better for bringing a person near to Allah than dutifulness to his mother.’” [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Al-Bukhari]

A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father [Bukhari]

Continue to be patient with them and keep on striving on being in good terms with them. If you do so then surely Allah’s help would be with you

Abu Hurayra said, "A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, 'Messenger of Allah! I have relatives with whom I maintain ties while they cut me off. I am good to them while they are bad to me. They behave foolishly towards me while I am forbearing towards them.' The Prophet said, 'If things are as you said, it is as if you were putting hot ashes on them and you will not lack a supporter against them from Allah as long as you continue to do that.'" [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Al-Bukhari]

`Abdullaah bin `Amr bin Al-`Aas reported, the Prophet PBUH said The person who perfectly maintains the ties of kinship is not the one who does it due to having it recompensed by his relatives (for being kind and good to them); rather, the one who truly maintains the bonds of kinship is the one who persists in doing so, despite his relatives severing the ties of kinship with him [Bukhari]

Don’t let the circumstances around you get the better of you. Don’t let the general nuance of the society make you do things which would hurt your Akhirah. You can either let the situations around you consume you and make you a rebel, attracting displeasure of Allah

But as for those who believed and did righteous deeds, He will give them in full their rewards, and Allah does not like the wrongdoers.[3:57]

or you can be patient and find love of Allah with you

O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient. [2:153]

In conclusion, I just want to tell you that it would be really hard to be all good in such an environment and some of the days you might just explode but it is OKAY if you do so, turn back to Allah and ask his forgiveness. Always remind yourself that your true goal is the Akhirah and if Allah wants to test me with this then let it be so I’d be patient so that I have Allah by my side. Remind yourself of the words of Allah and remind yourself of how high Allah has held parents, so much so that he put them right next to him.

And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. [17:23]

The only circumstance when you are allowed to disobey your parents is when they call you to Shirk or disobedience of Allah but even then you are not allowed to be disrespectful to them

But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do. [31:15]

Keep reminding of yourself of the fact that no matter how badly they treat you, they are still your parents, and keep reminding yourself that the reward of good is always good, no matter what the world says.

Is there any reward for good other than good? [55:60]

Make a lot of dua to Allah that he grant peace and blessing on your home and on your family.

"Our Lord! Forgive me and my parents, and (all) the believers on the Day when the reckoning will be established." [14:41]

Insha'Allah, I hope I was able to help you.

I pray to Allah that he gives peace of heart to your parents and blesses your home with harmony and blesses you with patience and perseverance.

Allahu A’lam