Principles of Principles of Restoration and Restoration and

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Where Does Peace Begin?Where Does Peace Begin?Where Does Peace Begin?Where Does Peace Begin?

Since wars begin in the minds of men, it is in the minds of men that the defenses of peace must be constructed.

UNESCO Constitution Preamble

Since wars begin in the minds of men, it is in the minds of men that the defenses of peace must be constructed.

UNESCO Constitution Preamble

We Need Spiritual Renewal.

I see no hope for I see no hope for permanent world permanent world peace. We have tried peace. We have tried and failed miserably. and failed miserably. Unless the world has Unless the world has a spiritual rebirth, a spiritual rebirth, civilization is civilization is doomed.doomed.

Dag HammarskjoldSecond UN Secretary-General

The Reality of Human Nature

Original Original NatureNature

UndevelopedUndeveloped

Selfish Nature Well-developed

The Conflicted SelfThe Conflicted SelfThe mind is two-fold: the pure and The mind is two-fold: the pure and also the impure.also the impure.

Hinduism, Maitri Upanishad 6.34Hinduism, Maitri Upanishad 6.34

I do not do the good that I want, but the evil I do not want is what I do.

Christianity, Romans 7.15

I do not do the good that I want, but the evil I do not want is what I do.

Christianity, Romans 7.15

Every person has both a bad heart and good heart.

Native American Religions, Mohawk Tradition

Every person has both a bad heart and good heart.

Native American Religions, Mohawk Tradition

LostLostLostLost RestoredRestoredRestoredRestored

OriginalOriginalPositionPosition

CurrentCurrentRealityRealityCurrentCurrentRealityReality

Indemnity = Spiritual RestorationIndemnity = Spiritual Restoration

How Do We Change Our Nature?How Do We Change Our Nature?

An effort to reverse An effort to reverse or restore or restore something that was something that was lost.lost.

Taking Taking responsibility by responsibility by taking actions to taking actions to correct flaws, correct flaws, weaknesses and weaknesses and bad habitsbad habits

An effort to reverse An effort to reverse or restore or restore something that was something that was lost.lost.

Taking Taking responsibility by responsibility by taking actions to taking actions to correct flaws, correct flaws, weaknesses and weaknesses and bad habitsbad habits

Step 1: Reconcile with God

Prayer and meditationPrayer and meditation Offerings to GodOfferings to God Study of ScriptureStudy of Scripture Sexual purity, celibacy, separation from the Sexual purity, celibacy, separation from the

world world Submission and obedience to God Submission and obedience to God

Step 2 : Reconcile with Each Other

If you are offering your gift at If you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember the altar, and there remember that your brother has that your brother has something against you, leave something against you, leave your gift there before the altar your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come your brother, and then come and offer your gift.and offer your gift.

ChristianityMatthew 5:23-24

If you are offering your gift at If you are offering your gift at the altar, and there remember the altar, and there remember that your brother has that your brother has something against you, leave something against you, leave your gift there before the altar your gift there before the altar and go; first be reconciled to and go; first be reconciled to your brother, and then come your brother, and then come and offer your gift.and offer your gift.

ChristianityMatthew 5:23-24

God’s God’s WordWord

Learn, Learn, believe believe and and practicpractice God’s e God’s Word.Word.

Practice Practice God’s Word God’s Word in in relationship relationship with others.with others.

Honor GodHonor GodHonor GodHonor God Love each Love each otherother

Love each Love each otherother

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Success in both areas is needed to move closer to the goal of peace.

Success in both areas is needed to move closer to the goal of peace.

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Importance of Reconciliation

Anyone who claims Anyone who claims to be in the light to be in the light but hates his but hates his brother is still in the brother is still in the darkness. Whoever darkness. Whoever loves his brother loves his brother lives in the light.lives in the light.

ChristianityI John 2.9

Importance of a Good Example Let there arise out of

you a group of people, inviting to all that is good, enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong; they are the ones to attain happiness and prosperity.

Islam

Qur’an 3.104

Importance of Unity

Let your aims be Let your aims be common, common,

And your hearts of one And your hearts of one accord,accord,

And all of you be of one And all of you be of one mind,mind,

So you may live well So you may live well together.together.

HinduismRig Veda 10.191.4

Importance of Each Person

When the personal When the personal life is cultivated, the life is cultivated, the family will be family will be regulated; when the regulated; when the family is regulated, family is regulated, the state will be in the state will be in order; when the state order; when the state is in order, there will is in order, there will be peace throughout be peace throughout the world.the world.

Confucianism: The Great Learning

Archetypes of ConflictArchetypes of ConflictABELABEL

Abel loved God, but could not win the heart of his brother who was consumed with resentment.

Abel had God’s blessing and would not share it.

CAINCAINCain was consumed with resentment over perceived injustice, not seeing his brother from God’s point of view.

Unable to control his anger, he killed his brother.

Archetypes of Conflict

God wanted Cain and Abel to love each other.God wanted Cain and Abel to love each other.

If you do what is right, will you not be If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? accepted?

But if you do not do what is right, sin is But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door . . . but you must crouching at your door . . . but you must master it. master it.

Judaism: Genesis 4

God wanted Cain and Abel to love each other.God wanted Cain and Abel to love each other.

If you do what is right, will you not be If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? accepted?

But if you do not do what is right, sin is But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door . . . but you must crouching at your door . . . but you must master it. master it.

Judaism: Genesis 4

What Should HappenWhat Should HappenABELABEL

Be humble even Be humble even though blessed by though blessed by God.God.

Forgive and be Forgive and be toleranttolerantin the face of abuse.in the face of abuse.

Serve his brother to Serve his brother to melt his melt his resentment.resentment.

Be ready to Be ready to mediate.mediate.

CAINCAINOvercome Overcome

resentment of past resentment of past rejection.rejection.

Recognize his Recognize his brother’sbrother’svalue.value.

Rejoice in his Rejoice in his brother’s success.brother’s success.

Move on from Move on from hatred, be ready to hatred, be ready to reconcile.reconcile.

Path of ResolutionPath of Resolution

Jacob said, “If I have found favor Jacob said, “If I have found favor in your sight, then accept my in your sight, then accept my present from my hand, for truly to present from my hand, for truly to see your face is like seeing the see your face is like seeing the face of God.”face of God.”

Judaism: Genesis 33.10

Implications for Implications for Peacebuilding Peacebuilding

and Conflict Resolutionand Conflict Resolution

Implications for Implications for Peacebuilding Peacebuilding

and Conflict Resolutionand Conflict Resolution

Greatest Act of Love: Greatest Act of Love: Winning Over One’s EnemyWinning Over One’s Enemy

To give even to those who have To give even to those who have done onedone one

great harm is the key to peace.great harm is the key to peace.

Converts the enemy into a Converts the enemy into a

friend.friend.

Reverses ancient patterns Reverses ancient patterns

of abuse and revenge.of abuse and revenge.

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We never get rid of an enemy by meeting hate with hate; we get rid of an enemy by getting rid of enmity.

We never get rid of an enemy by meeting hate with hate; we get rid of an enemy by getting rid of enmity.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Martin Luther King, Jr.

Loving EnemiesLoving Enemies

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Jesus did not condemn any of his enemies. His power was the power of love

Jesus did not condemn any of his enemies. His power was the power of love

Sun Myung MoonSun Myung Moon

Loving EnemiesLoving Enemies

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When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won.

Mahatma Gandhi

When I despair, I remember that all through history the ways of truth and love have always won.

Mahatma Gandhi

Loving EnemiesLoving Enemies

The CThe Choice We All Face:oice We All Face:Resolve or Repeat Past Resolve or Repeat Past

Conflicts?Conflicts?

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PastPast

FutureFuture

Unresolved problems will be passed on to future generations, and in most cases be bigger and more difficult to solve.

Unresolved problems will be passed on to future generations, and in most cases be bigger and more difficult to solve.

Principles of Conflict Principles of Conflict ResolutionResolution

Take responsibility for one’s Take responsibility for one’s contribution to the conflict.contribution to the conflict.

Consider how one might have Consider how one might have dealt with the problem dealt with the problem differently.differently.

Self reflection and Self reflection and reorientationreorientation

Principles of Conflict Principles of Conflict ResolutionResolution

Work to understand whatever Work to understand whatever caused the other to feel hurt caused the other to feel hurt and violated.and violated.

Be open to reconciliation.Be open to reconciliation.

Seek to correct past injusticesSeek to correct past injustices

Take action.Take action.

Principles of Conflict Principles of Conflict ResolutionResolution

Give up the urge to Give up the urge to retaliate.retaliate.

Forgive, and accept Forgive, and accept forgiveness.forgiveness.

Resolve to change Resolve to change oneself, realizing oneself, realizing that this is the only that this is the only way to help the way to help the other to changeother to change..

Reconciliation and renewal

Conflict Resolution in Conflict Resolution in MarriageMarriage

Take responsibility Take responsibility for one’s contribution for one’s contribution to the conflict.to the conflict.

Consider how one Consider how one might have dealt with might have dealt with the problem the problem differently.differently.

Self reflection and Self reflection and reorientationreorientation

Conflict Resolution in Conflict Resolution in MarriageMarriage

Address whatever Address whatever caused the other to caused the other to feel hurt and feel hurt and violated.violated.

Be open to reconcile.Be open to reconcile. Seek to correct past Seek to correct past

injustices as a injustices as a priority.priority.

Take action

Conflict Resolution in Conflict Resolution in MarriageMarriage

Reconciliation and RenewalReconciliation and Renewal

Give up the urge to Give up the urge to retaliate.retaliate.

Forgive, and accept Forgive, and accept forgiveness.forgiveness.

Resolve to change Resolve to change oneself, realizing oneself, realizing that this is the only that this is the only way to help the way to help the other to changeother to change..

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Implications for Ambassadors for Implications for Ambassadors for PeacePeace

Implications for Ambassadors for Implications for Ambassadors for PeacePeace

Show concern for both sides.Show concern for both sides. Respect the integrity of both Respect the integrity of both

sides.sides. Gain trust from both sides by Gain trust from both sides by

treating each fairly.treating each fairly. Guide both sides to move beyond Guide both sides to move beyond

a position of blame and a position of blame and accusation against the other.accusation against the other.

Aim for a win-win outcome.Aim for a win-win outcome.