roles and relationships family placement activity students who are: the oldest child go to table 1....
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Roles and RelationshipsRoles and Relationships
Family Placement Family Placement ActivityActivity
Students who are:Students who are: The oldest child go to table 1.The oldest child go to table 1. The youngest child go to table 3.The youngest child go to table 3. The middle child go to table 6.The middle child go to table 6. The only child go to table 4.The only child go to table 4.
Each group is to list the advantages and Each group is to list the advantages and disadvantages of their birth order on the disadvantages of their birth order on the poster board. Each group will present their poster board. Each group will present their findings.findings.
Birth OrderBirth Order
The order in which children are born into a The order in which children are born into a family influences the development of the family influences the development of the children.children.
Oldest children bear the burden of the parents’ Oldest children bear the burden of the parents’ heaviest expectations and also of the parents’ heaviest expectations and also of the parents’ inexperience in raising children.inexperience in raising children.
Second or third children are generally treated in Second or third children are generally treated in a more relaxed way by the parents.a more relaxed way by the parents.
Youngest children often have a more difficult Youngest children often have a more difficult time in making the transition to adulthood.time in making the transition to adulthood.
Oldest ChildOldest ChildUsually set up as an example to the other Usually set up as an example to the other children.children.Treated more like an adult by his/her parents.Treated more like an adult by his/her parents.A high achiever.A high achiever.Given and accepts more responsibility than Given and accepts more responsibility than the other children.the other children.Usually college-bound.Usually college-bound.Independent.Independent.Affectionate.Affectionate.
Middle ChildMiddle Child
May work extra-hard May work extra-hard to get recognition.to get recognition.
Is usually a Is usually a peacemaker.peacemaker.
Is somewhat average Is somewhat average in schoolwork, but is in schoolwork, but is an all-around good an all-around good student.student.
Is usually a calm, Is usually a calm, even-tempered adult.even-tempered adult.
Youngest ChildYoungest ChildGets a lot of attention, Gets a lot of attention, along with a lot of bossing.along with a lot of bossing.
May be spoiled.May be spoiled.
Usually matures quickly.Usually matures quickly.
May be undisciplined and May be undisciplined and irresponsible.irresponsible.
Is easy-going about Is easy-going about school.school.
Likes to associate with Likes to associate with someone who takes someone who takes charge of situations.charge of situations.
Sibling Sibling RivalryRivalry
Competition among children of the same Competition among children of the same family for their parents’ affections or for family for their parents’ affections or for dominance.dominance.
It can occur at any age, even into adult life.It can occur at any age, even into adult life.
Next to the parent-child relationship, the Next to the parent-child relationship, the sibling relationship is probably the strongest.sibling relationship is probably the strongest.
Relationship QualitiesRelationship Qualities
MutualityMutuality
TrustTrust
Self-DisclosureSelf-Disclosure
RapportRapport
EmpathyEmpathy
Shared InterestsShared Interests
MutualityMutualityBoth people contribute to the feelings and Both people contribute to the feelings and actions that support the relationship. They actions that support the relationship. They understand what they want from each otherunderstand what they want from each other
Example: After a long day with her active Example: After a long day with her active one year old son, Kerry felt that she did one year old son, Kerry felt that she did nothing but give and give to him. Then her nothing but give and give to him. Then her son smiled at her and cuddled in her life for son smiled at her and cuddled in her life for a bedtime story. Kerry knew she was a bedtime story. Kerry knew she was receiving something priceless.receiving something priceless.
TrustTrust
The belief that others will not reject, The belief that others will not reject, betray, or hurt you.betray, or hurt you.
Examples: friends and family members Examples: friends and family members trust each other to keep personal trust each other to keep personal discussions private. Cast members of a discussions private. Cast members of a school play trust each other to learn their school play trust each other to learn their lines. lines.
Self-DisclosureSelf-Disclosure
The willingness to tell someone personal The willingness to tell someone personal things about yourselfthings about yourself
Telling more about yourself lets the Telling more about yourself lets the relationship deepenrelationship deepen
RapportRapport
A feeling of ease and harmony with A feeling of ease and harmony with another person. another person.
No matter what you feel comfortable with No matter what you feel comfortable with someonesomeone
Shared InterestsShared Interests
Shared interests form a stronger base for Shared interests form a stronger base for building a relationshipbuilding a relationship
Signs of weak relationshipsSigns of weak relationships
A relationship can be poisoned by A relationship can be poisoned by exploitation: using another person unfairly exploitation: using another person unfairly for personal benefitfor personal benefit
An exploiter tends to be self-centered and An exploiter tends to be self-centered and have little trust in others.have little trust in others.
RolesRoles
Roles are either given or chosenRoles are either given or chosen
Given: son/daughter, brother/sister, Given: son/daughter, brother/sister, studentstudent
Chosen: husbands/wives, football player, Chosen: husbands/wives, football player, cheerleadercheerleader
Role ExpectationsRole Expectations
The behavior you anticipate from a certain The behavior you anticipate from a certain role.role.
Stereotypes: a standardized idea about Stereotypes: a standardized idea about the qualities or behavior of a certain the qualities or behavior of a certain category of people. Someone who is tall category of people. Someone who is tall might be asked if they are a basketball might be asked if they are a basketball player.player.
Role TreeRole Tree
On a paper create a role tree to illustrate the roles and On a paper create a role tree to illustrate the roles and responsibilities you have.responsibilities you have.
The tree trunk is the primary role. Teen male/Teen The tree trunk is the primary role. Teen male/Teen femalefemale
Large branches are the secondary roles. Son/daughter, Large branches are the secondary roles. Son/daughter, sister/brother, student, friend, team membersister/brother, student, friend, team member
Small branches are main characteristics or Small branches are main characteristics or responsibilities of large branches. For son/daughter responsibilities of large branches. For son/daughter helping with chores, giving love and support to families.helping with chores, giving love and support to families.
Leaves off small branches describe specific Leaves off small branches describe specific responsibilities such as walk the dog, wash dishes. responsibilities such as walk the dog, wash dishes.
