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Imagine explaining a situation to
someone. You think you’ve explained
well. Then you realize that that have
totally got the wrong end of the stick,
they truly have not understood you at
all. Imagine the frustration and the
irritation that you feel…
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Every day, ever hour we
communicate. Even when we’re not
communicating…..
Yet, most problem in coaching room
– is communication. Vey often we are
not so good at it.
Sometime – hearing – story sally
and robyn semi retired/ semi retarded
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"The single biggest problem in
communication is the illusion that it
has taken place." George Bernard
Shaw
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Think of a situation – write down using
format and tell person next to you
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Intro
Anais Nin said... we don't see things
the way they are. We see things the
way WE are.
Why? Because of the model of mind.
We are seeing things through out own
frame of reference.
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Walking through italy, as one does on
a beautiful spring day
Walkig through forest
Old man sitting on a bench. Listening
to wonky old radio. Hat, big
moustache.
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As we walked past, me – shame – hope
he has family to care for him
A few teps later. Friend did you see that
disgusting old man, how he leered at us
Woah – did we see the same guy?
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The language we use to talks about
our lives also creates a certain reality.
e.g boss on a chair…
bad things - -ve
good things – feel better – I tend to do
this, which is probably why I’m still
with him…
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the words we use inside our heads create
a reality for us. Look at the stories that go
round in your mind. By stories I mean the
sentences you use over and over.
I hate my job
I hate my boss
Hare is an evocative word, isn’t it?
I am so tired. My son pointed out – every
day at lunch… oops time to change that
language
Start by looking at the stories you
consistently tell yourself. Especially when
those stories leave you feeling bad. These
stories, made of of the same words or
phrases over and over, are creating a
certain reality for you.
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Client little jobs
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Client I don’t know
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Change the words to change your
reality. It is particularly useful to
change the words to less emotive
ones For example
I hate my boss - my boss has high
standards
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You are describing the same situation in
each case, but with different words. And
the outcome is a different mental picture
with a better emotional response. And a
different reality.
Words create your reality.
Describe the same situation with different
words, and your experience of that
situation will be different.
The words you use create your reality.
Change your words and change you life!
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Stories you repeat to yourself
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The words we say come across
differently
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Often we we communicate, we
unconsciously attack the other
person.
Unique - take phrases that were
originally supposed to help people,
and we can really irritate people with
them...
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Excuse me, what are you thinking?
I understand but....
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Sometimes language gets in the way
of our intenstions
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Client used this often – you don’t
understand.
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When a difficult conversation isn't
working the way you want it to, take a
step back and check your
language......
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At lunch, want to leave country
Mom
Lawyer
Medic student
Estate agent
Accountant
brother
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What was going on here
Some listening for opportuity for
business
Listening from our own agenda
Mom
Listening for danger – og no how can
I keep him here
Listening for how they could benefit –
brother
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Many gave advice. Arrogant??
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What were you listening for?
Chance to reply
Sound intelligent
Seem funny
To defend yourself
Understand
To external distractions
To inner thoughts – not listening at all
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To see how I can benefit
To judge
To size up the other
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David rock – Listen for potential
Other is resourceful. Has capacity to
solve questions and find solutions
Respectfully see how you can make
yourself useful to them.
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Consciousy choosing how youre
going to listen - empowering
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Consciousy choosing how youre
going to listen - empowering
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Stephen Covey. Client you don’t
understand
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You did this – makes other defensive
As soon as they become defensive
you’ve lost the game
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Show them a benefit as to why they
must find a solution
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Makes them accountable
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much cleavage.
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Most important takeaway
Share with partner
Share with me
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Imagine explaining a situation to
someone. You think you’ve explained
well. Then you realize that that have
totally got the wrong end of the stick,
they truly have not understood you at
all. Imagine the frustration and the
irritation that you feel…
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