safety verbal aikido, is defined as using
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Safety Verbal Aikido, is defined as using one's words to prevent,
de-escalate, or end an attempted upon your wellbeing.
People will ALWAYS try to attack you
Physically, Mental or Verbally
Learn this simple technique to solve their problems in life let your words become Habit of Mind not “mushin”
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Dr. George Thompson, the English professor-
turned-street-cop who ultimately taught one
million professionals the art of verbally redirecting
negative behavior, passed away June 7 at his
home in Auburn, New York. He was 69.
Dr. Thompson, known as “Doc” to the legions of
professionals trained in his methodology of Verbal
Judo, developed his tactics by witnessing
seasoned law enforcement professionals — whom
he affectionately called “salty old dogs” — talk
down violence and generate voluntary
cooperation in real-time crisis situations.
Through his Verbal Judo Institute and, recently,
under its new brand of Verbal Defense &
Influence, Dr. Thompson led a legion of global
trainers who taught these tactics to law
enforcement within police forces large and small.
In Memorial
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What is Verbal Judo?Verbal:
Of, relating to, or associated with words:
a detailed verbal description.
Judo:
A sport and method of physical training
similar to wrestling, developed in Japan
in the late 19th century and using
principles of balance and leverage
adapted from jujitsu.
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REGARDLESS IF YOU ARE
Regardless if you are the police person on the beat or sales clerk in a store these principle of Verbal AIKIDO
This kind of "conflict management" involves using posture and body language, tone of voice, and choice of words as a means for calming a potentially volatile situation before it can manifest into physical violence. This often involves techniques such as taking a time-out, deflecting the conversation to less argumentative topics, and/or redirecting the conversation to other individuals in the group who are less passionately involved.
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Simple Secret
• It’s okay if someone insults, resists, or attacks
you. Try to laugh it off.
• Show that is has no meaning, no sting.
• If you fight back and resist the affront, you
give it life and credibility.
• If you defend yourself, you invite
counterattack.
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An Example
• Look what happened when Richard Nixon declared, “I am not a crook.”
• If, instead of lying or defending himself, he had early on admitted the truth without anger or sarcasm.
• He might actually have survived politically.
• Imagine if he had said, “We got caught in a stupid move and we’re going to make it right.”
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Verbal Karate
• Verbal Karate is lashing out—using harmful and destructive words.
• Verbal Karate is the use of unprofessional language, because you are using words to express your personal feelings.
• You are not connecting with your audience and you are off target
• Verbal Karate is easy—but it doesn’t work in oral communication!
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Verbal Karate
• Verbal Karate burns bridges and alienates people.
• It may make you feel good about yourself temporarily, i.e. telling someone off.
• You strut away thinking, “I told them!”
• And then, you usually have to come back and apologize.
• Be careful – people never forget verbal abuse. It sinks deeper and lasts forever!
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What Not To Say
• “You wouldn’t understand” – There’s no harm in
warning people what you’re about to say is
complicated – even put the onus on yourself and say,
“I hope I can explain this…”
• Just don’t prejudge their ability to comprehend.
• If pressed into revealing something you don’t want
to, don’t lie. Be empathetic in telling them, “I am not
willing to answer that.”
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What Not To Say
• “Because those are the rules” – That one is sure to cause heartburn!
• If you are enforcing the rules for good reason, don’t hesitate to explain it to them.
• Your audience might not agree, but at least they will have been honored with an answer.
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What Not To Say
• “It’s none of your business” – This phrase angers people because it brands them as outsiders and cuts them off.
• And, it looks like you don’t have a good reason for answering their question.
• Rather than telling them it’s none of their business, explain why the information cannot be revealed.
• If someone barks at you, don’t be a jerk…just explain yourself firmly and tell them why.
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What Not To Say
• “What do you want me to do about it?”
If you say this you can count on two problems: the one you started with and the one you just created by appearing to duck your responsibility.
• Instead, offer to sort out the problem and offer a solution. Maybe an apology works.
• “I’m sorry. I really don’t know what else to tell you or what to recommend, and I wish I did.”
• A concerned tone will enhance your credibility and convey that you’re not secretly just trying to pass the buck.
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What Not To Say
• “Calm down” – this is criticism of people’s behavior
and implies that they have no right to be upset.
• Rather than reassuring them that things will
improve—which should be your goal—you have
created a new problem.
• Not only are they already upset at you to begin with,
but now they need to defend their reaction to you.
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What Not To Say
• “I’m not going to say this again” – that is
almost always a lie, because you probably are
going to say it again!
• If you need to emphasize the seriousness of
your words, say, “It’s important that you
understand this, so let me say it again. And
please listen carefully.”
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What Not To Say
• “Why don’t you be reasonable?” – instead, allow people to be more reasonable by being reasonable with them.
• Use language of reassurance like “Let me see if I understand your position,’ and then paraphrase their own words.
• This lessens tension and enables them to feel your support.
• Now you can help them think more logically and less destructively because you are listening to them, not insulting them.
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Be Empathetic
• Empathy is the quality of standing in another’s shoes and understanding where they are coming from.
• Empathy absorbs tension. It works!
• The ultimate empathetic question is, “Let me be sure I heard/understood what you said.”
• Now, no matter how upset they are, they will have to hush and listen because they want to make sure you heard what they wanted you to hear.
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Empathy/Paraphrasing
• By paraphrasing the question back to them, you have taken control of the conversation because you are talking and they are listening.
• And, it you have not heard them correctly, it gives them an opportunity to correct you.
• You have made them a better listener because no one listens harder than to their own point!
• Paraphrasing is gentle. It tones down the volume and makes a diatribe a conversation.
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Making a Positive Initial Contact
Verbal & Non-Verbal Cues (smiling, nodding, eye contact, upbeat, enthused and respectful
telephone voice, etc)
Greeting(standard, and welcoming including your name and an offer to assist)
Stature(straight posture, professional appearance)
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Active Listening Techniques
Listen from the beginning and to the entire
dialogue (when entering office or initially answering the telephone)
Pick up non-verbal cues indicating stress, rising
temper, defensiveness while listening (folding of
arms, pacing, raising voice, etc)
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Developing Professionalism
Use existing processes, systems to
eliminate perceived bias
(treat everyone the same)
Share information typed, e-mailed or
shared via a printed document (relies on
process and removes attention from you as
a person)
Develop guards for your verbal triggers
(understand your breaking point and guard
against it)
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Knowing When Words Fail
Become aware of the stages of escalation of a
problem
– Misunderstanding (I don’t know what you mean
or How does the online process work?)
– Denial (Yes I did submit my application yesterday
– at 11:59 pm)
– Anger (This is ridiculous, I can’t believe this!)
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Knowing When Words Fail
What to do when they stop listening to you
(misunderstanding, denial and anger over ride
reasonable solutions and further
conversation)
– Articulating your forced responses (“I’m really sorry
that you have missed the deadline, the position closed
on...which means…you have a couple of options…)
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Addressing Difficult People
• Ask the person what exactly he/she is upset about,
in order to show that you are interested in
communicating rather than in arguing. The burden of
responsibility is now back on them.
• Agree with or acknowledge one of their reasonable
points verses generalizations (ex: it took days to get
my voice mailed returned verse you all Never return
telephone calls)
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Addressing Difficult People
• Discuss without a defensive tone (resist the urge
to participate in an argument, being silent while
someone is ranting is a good way to not be pulled
into an argument
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Dealing with Difficult People
• Remove the person from your environment (Please
take a seat in the front office or we’ll need to
reschedule your appoint)
• Confront the person about his/her behavior directly
(Ask “Are you raising your voice in order to intimidate
me?” or “Will speaking harshly to me resolve this
situation?”)
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Dealing with Difficult People
• Release it (the Buddha example – “If someone
offers you a ‘gift’ and you decline it who is left
with it?)
• Change it - use behavioral conditioning (ignore
or confront negative behavior and reward
positive behavior)
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5 Universal Truths
According to the master of the Verbal Judo , instead of focusing on how people are different, we should focus on how people are the same.
1. All people want to be treated with dignity and respect.
2. All people want to be asked rather than being told to do something.
3. All people want to be told why they are being asked to do something.
4. All people want to be to be given options rather than threats.
5. All people want a second chance.
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Tactical Communication
LEAPS keeps you SAFER 8 to 5 Concept
Active Listening Concepts Moving
Beyond Words Concept
Making Initial Contacts Concept
Managing Verbal Resistance Concept
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Know What You Can Do...(and do it!)
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• All of these things create safety issues that the professional must assess immediately.
• Know your limits
• Know when to call police, or at least other office assistance
• Non escalatory interaction is easier to deal with than de-escalation
• We all know what the looks like…right?
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WORD COMP• ANTICIPATE VS EXPECT
– (L. anticipare) means to see beforehand and move to prevent
– (L.expectare)means to wait for-suggesting greater rigidity of response
– Consider approaching three males on a corner-expecting the one on the right to give you the most trouble-2 min later, the one on the right is most troublesome-when you expect trouble you generate it!
– KNOW…your audience will reflect back to you what you put out-three times in intensity (we all are generally able to protect ourselves from the perceived threat-what about the one we didn’t see coming?
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GOOD NEWS!
• NO ONE EXPECTS THE IMPOSSIBLE-USE YOUR BEST CONCEALED WEAPON-YOUR BRAIN-AND RECOGNIZE.....
• That the goal to professional intervention is to gain-
• Voluntary compliance
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Allow attitude to drift-focus on behavior
Say what you want
do what I say
I have the last act
I give you the last word
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Autogenic(tactical)breathing(BASED ON TECHNIQUES DEVELOPED BY CALIBRE PRESS AND GARY KLUGIEWICZ)
*Three times:
* In through the nose for 4-count
* Hold for 4-count
* out through the lips for 4-count
* Hold for 4-count
* Attitude is contagious* Panic is contagious
* calm is contagious
* Can “INFLICT” BREATHING ONTO OTHERSWWW.KILLOGOY.ORG COPYRIGHTED BY DAVE GROSSMAN-AUTHOR OF “ON KILLING”
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Contagious Mindset
• Consider that your body language as you make contact is the First Impression-cannot erase this!
• Basic Concepts are simple-
Treat others as you would want to be treated if you were the victim/complainant/dissatisfied customer- If you were a victim, how would you want to be handled? Your wife? Your mother? Your child?
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Peace phrases• I can appreciate that…..
• Can you work with me, sir………
• You don’t need this kind of trouble
• For your safety and mine………..
• What’s the matter……….
• Someone gave you some bad info………(careful)
• How can I help you………..
• If you cooperate with me, it will be noted in my report………
• Sorry to hear that, sir………..
• Can I chat with you for a moment?............
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Why Peace Phrases?
• Makes you feel good-keeping your cool
• Springboard-deflect over the insults, focuson goal
• Dis-empower your opponent
• Sound good
• Buy time –for answers from other departments or for assistance to arrive-CRISIS HOSTAGE NEGOTIATORS WORLDWIDE SAY-TIME IS YOUR FRIEND
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L.E.A.P.S. Concept
1. Listen
2. Empathize
3. Ask
4. Paraphrase
5. Summarize
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S.A.F.E.R. Concept
• Security
• Attack
• Flight
• Excessive Repetition
• Revised Priorities
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Tactical 8 Step Concept
1. Appropriate Greeting with Name, if Known
2. Identify Yourself / Department, if Unknown
3. Explain Reason For The Contact
4. Any Justifiable Reason For… If Needed
5. Ask for Identification if Unknown / Required
6. Additional Information – Wellness Check
7. Decision Stage
8. Appropriate Close
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Tactical 5 Step Concept
1. Ask
2. Set Context
3. Give Options
4. Confirm Noncompliance
5. Act – Disengage and/or Escalate
Is there anything I can say …to get you to …
I would like to think so.
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Traits of a Professional• High Visibility
• Quick Decisions
• Codified Body of Knowledge
– Imminent Jeopardy
– Preclusion
• Continuous Training
• Adapt to Change
• Ethical Standard of Conduct
• Licensed; Badge A Symbol Of Public Trust
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GVC3 Revisited
Communications 3 C’s
1. Compliance
2. Cooperation
3. Collaboration
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Force Continuums vs. Intervention
Options
1. Professional Presence
2. Dialog (Moving Beyond Words)
3. Control Alternatives
4. Protective Alternatives
5. Deadly Force
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S.A.F.E.R. Concept
• Security
• Attack
• Flight
• Excessive Repetition
• Revised Priorities
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Three Kinds of People
NICE
DIFFICULT
SNEAKY
You Must Be Skillful With All Three.
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Difficult People
A Difficult Person will always tell you no,
the first time you tell them to do something,
but somewhere around the second, third,
or fourth time,
when handled properly,
9 out of 10 will comply
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“Showtime”
Showtime is a term used to mentally prepare
the officer (tactical mind set) for the task at
hand. It reminds the
officer to use only his professional face and,
to use words that will generate
voluntary compliance.
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Know Your Weaknesses
Name It:
Define It:He Who . . .
Mr. “Wanna Bet”
Challenges My Authority
Own It!.
The Path To Strength Is Built On
Recognized Weaknesses.
Hot Buttons
or
Triggers
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Anatomy of a Verbal Assault
• Why people verbal assault you?
• Professional and Personal Face
• Who has access to your Personal Face
• Ego is the On Ramp to Personal Face
• What is Personal Face
• What types of verbal attacks do people use to verbal assault you?
• How to render the verbal assault impotent?
• Preparing to meet Pete
A concept created by Doug Haig, Verbal Judo National Trainer
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Types of Verbal Assaults
• Authority
• Profanity
• Personal Threats
• Family Safety
• Other Staff Members
• Physical Features
• Age
• Sex / Sexuality
• Skill / Competence
• Education
• Economic Status
• Religion
• ETC.
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How To Handle Verbal Abuse
• “I ‘preciate that, but . . .”
• “I understan’ that, but . . .”
• “I hear that, but . . .”
• “I got that, but . . .”
• “I’m sorry you feel that way, but . . .”.
Note: Combination Phrases Work Best
Natural Reaction = Confrontation
Vs.
Studied Response = Deflection & Redirection
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Reasons To Use
Deflection Techniques
• It Makes You Feel Good!
• Springboard-Focus Technique
Playground
America• It Disempowers the Other
• It Sounds Good!
preciate that, But P L Goal
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5 Types of Deflectors
• Funny Word Blocks
• Serious Word Blocks
• Polite Threat Word Blocks
• Mobilizing the Audience Word Blocks
• Sudden Assault (Time Out) Word Blocks
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Funny Word Block Rules
• Quick
• Appropriate
• Not a Counter Punch
Note: Must be delivered with the right face, tone, and body
language with an non aggressive use of distance
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Three Principles Of Verbal Judo
• Say What You Want,
DO What I SAY unless safety is threaten.
• I Have The Last ACT,
I GIVE You The Last Word!
• REspect Vs. Respect.
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Personal vs. Professional Face
Officer Contact
Ps Face Ps Face
Pr Face Ps Face
Win Win.
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Ethical Interventions
• Professional – Pre Incident Prevention– Raise / Maintain Personal Ethical Presence
– Performance of your Personal Ethical Presence
– Impacted Other Officers by your Personal Ethical Presence
• Direct – Contact Officer Override– Level One: Verbal
– Level Two: Positioning
– Level Three: Physical
• Delayed – Post Incident Remedies– Make an Apology, when and if appropriate
– Debrief Incident – Improve Future Behavior
– Supervisor Notification / Report Writing
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L.E.A.P.S. Concept
1. Listen
2. Empathize
3. Ask
4. Paraphrase
5. Summarize
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Communication
The Opposite of Talking
Should Be Listening,
But for Most People
It Is Waiting…
Waiting To Interrupt!.
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L.E.A.P.S. Concept
Listen
– Open & Unbiased
– Hear Literally
– Interpret Accurately
– Act Appropriately.
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Listening Components
• Words
• Tone of Voice
• Facial Expressions
• Body Language
• Context of the Situation
• Distance / Positioning
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L.E.A.P.S. Concept
Empathize
– To See Through The Others
Eyes
– Construct A Verbal Means To
Relate To The Subject
– You Do Not Have To Agree5
Simply Understand The Others
Perspective.
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Tactical Empathy
Tactical Empathy refers to
the active intelligence gathering of
a professional investigator who
is attempting to learn
what a person is thinking
in an attempt to learn how to generate voluntary
compliance, cooperation, and collaboration.
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L.E.A.P.S. Concept
Ask (Five Types of Questions)
– Fact Finding
– General
– Direct
– Leading
– Opinion Seeking.
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L.E.A.P.S. ConceptParaphrase - The Sword of Insertion
“Let Me Be Sure That I Understand
What You Just Said.”
HIS Meaning Dressed In Your Words,
So That You Can BOTH Understand It.
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Paraphrase
1. Sword of Interruption
"Let me be sure I understand what you just said!"
2. The other’s perceived Meaning in Your Words.
"You're feeling ________, because of ________. True?”
Be Disinterested!
It means to put the other person’s perceived MEANING into
your WORDS and give it back to them to modify or clarify.
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The Art Of Paraphrasing
• You Can Interrupt And Not Generate Resistance.
• No One Will Listen Harder Than To His OWN Point of
View.
• It Creates Empathy - The Other Will Believe You Are
Trying To Understand.
• It Often Makes The Other Modify Their Initial Statement
After Hearing Their Meaning In Different Words.
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L.E.A.P.S. Concept
Summarize
– Creates Decisiveness & Authority
– Reconnects Communication When
Temporarily Interrupted.
– Checks on Understanding
– Improves Memory Retention
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Communication
MEANING
HELP
FEAR
VIOLATED
MY STUFF
TIME
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Voice
• 33 - 40%
• How you Say It
If there’s a contradiction between
Content & Voice,
which should you believe?
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Voice
• Tone = Attitude
• Pace = Speed
• Pitch = High or Soft
• Modulation: Ebb & Flow
The Voice is a Window of a Subject’s Intentions.
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It’s Not What You Say,
It’s HOW You Say It!
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Other Non - Verbals
• 50 - 60%
• Body Language
• Proxemics: Spatial Relations
If there’s a contradiction between
Voice & ONV,
which should you believe?
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Other Non - Verbals
Proxemics: Spatial Relations
Where you are in regards to the other person.
And, will it enhance or inhibit communication?
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Proxemics
• Remaining Alert
• Control of Distance
• Personal Danger Zone
• Relative Positioning
• Contact Cover
• Multiple Subjects
• Cutting Herd Tactics (Divide & Control)
• Reasonable Arc Concepts
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Unaware (White) Total Relaxation in a
Safe Place
Unaware (White) Total Relaxation in a
Safe Place
DESCRIPTION COLOR CODE OFFICER RESPONSEDESCRIPTION COLOR CODE OFFICER RESPONSE
Relaxed but Alert (Yellow) Scanning for Possible
Threats
Relaxed but Alert (Yellow) Scanning for Possible
Threats
Ready to Act (Orange) Focusing on Possible
Threats
Ready to Act (Orange) Focusing on Possible
Threats
Action State (Red) Respond to Threats:
Disengaging and
or Escalating
Action State (Red) Respond to Threats:
Disengaging and
or Escalating
Blind Panic (Black) Indecisive and/or
Excessive Response
to Threat
Blind Panic (Black) Indecisive and/or
Excessive Response
to Threat
1.1.
2.2.
3.3.
4.4.
5.5.
Developed by Jeff Cooper, clarified by Bob “Coach” Lindsey
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PublicPublica.a.
SocialSocialb.b.
c.c. PersonalPersonal
d.d. IntimateIntimate
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Verbal Judo vs. Verbal Karate
Verbal Karate
• Unprofessional
• Express Personal Feelings
• Self-Referential Language -
“I - me”
• Not in Contact
• Off-target Reactions
Verbal Judo
• Professional
• Use of Words to Achieve
Professional Objectives
• In Contact with Audience
• Skillful Communication That
is On-Target.
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Tactical 8 Step Concept
Performance Tips
• Use Interrogatory Tone of Voice
• Pause first after saying, “The Reason I Stopped You is ...
• Pause again after asking, “ Is There any Justifiable Reason for …
• Forecast for Weapons before asking for Identification or allowing them to access possible weapons
• Harmonize Decision and Close Steps
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P.A.V.P.O. ConceptThe Rhetorical Perspective
Perspective – Know / Control
Audience – Read
Voice(s) – Adopt
Purpose – Desired Results
Organization – Beginning/Middle/End
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Tactical 5 Step Concept
1. Ask
2. Set Context
3. Give Options
4. Confirm Noncompliance
5. Act – Disengage and/or Escalate
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Tactical 5 Step Concept Performance Tips
• Use Interrogatory Tone when Asking
• Use Declarative Tone when Setting Context and Shut Down Your Reasons before Continuing
• Use Service tone when Giving Options
• Be ever more polite tone on Confirmation
• Confirmation: “Is there anything that I can say … to get you to … I would like to think so.
• You Can Go Back to 5.2 if You Meet a Lessening of Resistance on the Subject’s Part
• Acting includes Disengaging and/or Escalating
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Tactical 5 Step Chant
1. Ask
2. Tell Them Why
3. Give Them Options
4. Confirm
5. Act
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E.R.P.P.The Four Appeals:
Sources Of Persuasion
ETHICAL
RATIONAL
PERSONAL
PRACTICAL
PERSUASION
YOUR ALLIANCE IS YOUR
ETHICAL APPEAL AND IT IS
THE MOST POWERFUL
This is the second most
powerful appeal and it is the
GREED PRINCIPAL –if they
have something to win or lose –
then you have something to
USE!!!
This appeal is GVC by
using an off beat
strategy.
This is reasonable
and logical2. But
people don’t care
about logic when
they are upset.
1
2
4
3
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Tactical 5 /Step Voices
• V1 – Interrogatory Voice
• V2 – Declarative Voice
• V3 – Service Oriented Voice
• V4 – Collaborative Voice
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5 Step Hard Style
AskEthical Appeal
Set
ContextRational Appeal
OptionsPersonal Appeal
ConfirmPractical Appeal
ACT
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5 Step Hard Style
AskArt Of Representation
Set
ContextArt Of Translation
OptionsArt Of Mediation
ConfirmV4 A4
ACT
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5 Step Hard Style
AskV1 A1
Set
ContextV2 A2
OptionsV3 A3
ConfirmV4 A4
ACT
Explain
0/10
7/10
8/10
Close Down
1.Positive Tone
2. Pos./Neg.
3. Specific
Command
= Ps Face
9/10
4. Greed
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5 Step with Voice & Appeal
AskVoice 1 Appeal 1
Interrogatory Tone Ethical
Set
ContextVoice 2 Appeal2
Declarative Tone Rational
OptionsVoice3 Appeal3
Service Tone Personal
ConfirmVoice4 Appeal4
Confirmation Practical
Most Courteous
Tone
ACT
Explain
0/10 will do as
asked
7/10 will do
it when you
explain why
8/10 will
do it if there
is something
in it for them
C
1. Use Pos. first
over Neg
2. Be Specific
3. Use the
Greed Principle
Command
= Ps Face
9/10 watch for
A lessening of
Resistance5go
Back & rephrase
context
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Crisis Intervention Concept
Pre-Intervention Preparation
1 . Calm yourself , autogenic breathing .
2 . Center yourself , get focused.
3 . Develop a strategy for intervention.
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Crisis Intervention Concept
Crisis Intervention Format
1 . Attempt to get person’s attention.
2 . Check on their perception of reality.
3 . Attempt to establish a rapport.
4 . Explain your perception of reality.
5 . Move towards resolution .
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P.A.C.E. ConceptHow to Diagnose a Verbal Encounter
Problem – your perspective / their perspective
Audience – relationship / experience / your role
Constraints – obstacles: ignore/step around/use
Ethical Presence – professional presence projected
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Verbal Judo Street Maxims
• It’s Not Enough To BE Good, You Have To LOOK
Good & SOUND Good, or It’s NO Good!
• Never Step On One’s Personal Face!
• The Goal Is To Be RESPECTED On The Streets!
• People Are Like Steel - When They Lose Their
Temper They Are Useless!
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Principles Of Disinterest
• Always Keep Professional Face
• Always Treat Others As You Would Want To
Be Treated . . . Under Identical
Circumstances
• Never Inflate People With Adrenaline
• Flexibility Is Strength - Rigidity Weakness
• Redirect Rather Than Resist.
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Six Levels of Stabilization
1. Presence
2. Verbal
3. Standing
4. Wall
5. Ground
6. Special Restraints
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Closure Principle
Leave people better than
they were feeling
at their worst
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Types of Debriefing
• Immediate Subject / Scene
Debriefing
• Immediate Team Debriefing
• Formal Debriefing Process
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TALKING THE TALKWALKING THE WALK
The challenge to be who we represent• Superior Service Thinking for others as they would 48-72 hrs later• Proactive Having a plan and knowing when to act• Innovative The courage to support challenging tactics
• Unbiased Treating everyone with respect• Professionalism Doing the best job possible for ourselves, our families and
those we serve
• Respect Earned on the job and in the house
• Integrity Effective strategies for maintaining personal composureand maximizing skills
• Dedication The ability to deflect and counter negative energy and focus on positive behavior
• Ethics Actively engaged in upholding the public trust
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