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School Age Matters E-Newsletter January 2019 5 Ways to Support Siblings in Special Needs Families By Alyson Krueger Does your child with Down syndrome have siblings? If so, read up! This is an article discussing much needed support for siblings. Joanie 1. Talk openly about the situation Dr. Emanuele says It’s essential for parents to clearly explain what is going on to siblings and answer questions they may have. “Some siblings may not fully understand what is happening with their brother or sister. They may feel guilty about it, that they somehow caused it. Or they may feel like they aren’t as important as their brother or sister because they don’t get as much attention.” It’s essential for parents to listen to concerns the other children may have, and reassure them that you love them. “Let them know, ‘I hear you, I see you,’ ” she added. Parents don’t have to use formal jargon like ADHD or autism or OCD. But they need to describe the behavior that kids might find concerning, and make it clear that it isn’t willful. Kleinhandler found it helpful to explain to her daughters that the disease was just like a bully pressuring their sister to do things she wouldn’t otherwise. Speaking in terms of strengths and weaknesses is often helpful, suggests David Anderson, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute. “One sibling might have difficulties with emotional dysregulation”—getting emotional or melting down when things don’t go his way, he said. “But another might not be too good at basketball. So maybe your brother gives you a few extra shots in basketball, and he might need some slack because he has difficulty staying calm when you’re playing board games.” It works for parents, he adds, because it avoids targeting the kid with special needs. Joanie Elfers School Age Maers Coordinator [email protected]

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School Age Matters E-Newsletter

January 2019

5 Ways to Support Siblings in

Special Needs Families By Alyson Krueger

Does your child with Down syndrome have siblings? If so, read up! This is an article discussing much needed support for siblings. —Joanie

1. Talk openly about the situation

Dr. Emanuele says It’s essential for parents to clearly explain what is going on to siblings and answer

questions they may have. “Some siblings may not fully understand what is happening with their brother or

sister. They may feel guilty about it, that they somehow caused it. Or they may feel like they aren’t as

important as their brother or sister because they don’t get as much attention.”

It’s essential for parents to listen to concerns the other children may have, and

reassure them that you love them. “Let them know, ‘I hear you, I see you,’ ” she

added.

Parents don’t have to use formal jargon like ADHD or autism or OCD. But they

need to describe the behavior that kids might find concerning, and make it clear

that it isn’t willful. Kleinhandler found it helpful to explain to her daughters that the

disease was just like a bully pressuring their sister to do things she wouldn’t

otherwise.

Speaking in terms of strengths and weaknesses is often helpful, suggests David

Anderson, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute. “One sibling might

have difficulties with emotional dysregulation”—getting emotional or melting down

when things don’t go his way, he said. “But another might not be too good at

basketball. So maybe your brother gives you a few extra shots in basketball, and

he might need some slack because he has difficulty staying calm when you’re

playing board games.” It works for parents, he adds, because it avoids targeting the kid with special needs.

Joanie Elfers

School Age Matters

Coordinator

[email protected]

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2. Spread the support around

When you have a child with special needs who needs a great deal of

support and encouragement, the other children may feel that their

achievements are taken for granted, they not getting as much praise as

the struggling child.

So it’s important, as Dr. Anderson puts it, to “spread the sunshine

around.” If you’re, say, really trying to reinforce one sibling’s behavior,

instead of ignoring another sibling’s bid for attention, look for

something very soon afterwards that’s positive about what that sibling

is doing, and give him the same level of positive reinforcement.”

3. Set aside time for each child

All kids, especially those who have a brother or sister who takes a lot of

attention, need one-on-one time with parents. It can be challenging to

fit in, but even small amounts of time, on a regular basis, can help a

child feel loved and valued, explains Mandi Sliverman, a clinical

psychologist at the Child Mind Institute.

“Parents have to remember to give every sibling attention,” noted Dr. Silverman, “”It may not be equal, but it

has to be meaningful and consistent.” She suggests spending 10 uninterrupted minutes with each child

before he or she goes to sleep, reading or coloring or doing a puzzle together.

Liza Long, who has 5 children, including one with bipolar disorder, sets aside time for each of her children to

have dates with her. They get to choose what they want to do, and it’s something they look forward to. “I try

to plan dedicated time with each of the kids because so much of our attention will go to my son with mental

illness,” Long said. “You have to be really sensitive to that.”

4. Try to treat all children the same

Dr. Emanuele says she sometimes sees parents who have a child with special needs worrying that their

other children aren’t getting a “normal” upbringing. They feel guilty and as a result they may let them get

away with bad behavior or have whatever they want.

“Sometimes parents will be permissive with the other kids because they feel bad,” she said. “But these

children still need to learn to be responsible for their decisions and their negative behavior, and that can’t

slide.”

5. Look at the positive

Keep in mind that growing up with a special needs sibling teaches valuable skills and empathy, notes Dr.

Silverman. “Sometimes children who have siblings with special needs have a level of compassion that makes

them especially good friends, and they have a lot of friends, because they are patient and positive and

understanding.”

Long said her kids are unusually empathetic to kids who are struggling with emotional or behavioral issues.

Click here to the full read the article online

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Empowerment Classes

Teen Kitchen Skills (ages 13 - 17)

January 23-February 20 (Wednesdays) | 6-7pm

DSAGC Hatton Foundation Community Room

Instructed by Chef Miles Meeden

Chef Miles and volunteers will help participants

learn to cook a new recipe each week! Teens will

learn basic kitchen and cooking skills while

interacting with same age peers.

**This class if FULL. Email Emma Ganiban to be

put on a Waiting List: [email protected].

Sky Zone (ages 6—22)

Monday, March 18 | 5:30-6:30pm

Sky Zone, 11745 Commons Drive, Springdale, OH 45246

Come jump with friends on Sky Zone’s wall-to-wall trampoline courts! $10 for 1 hour, socks not included.

Payment will take place at Sky Zone.

Register

Social Opportunities

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21 Series

Securing your Family’s Future

Monday, January 21 | 6:30-8pm

DSAGC Hatton Foundation Community Room

Presented by Jim Singler, Calfee

Do you find yourself asking questions like: How can I start now to prepare for my child’s future? Why do I

need a will? What is a power of attorney? Should I have a trust or an ABLE account? What kind of trust

should I set up? What is a letter of intent?

Join us as Jim Singler covers topics such as:

Estate Planning: Discussion of Healthcare Powers of Attorney, Living Wills, General Powers of Attorney,

Last Wills and Revocable Living Trusts

Special Needs Trusts: What are they? What different types are there?

Able Accounts

Guardianship

Register

Racial Disparities in Health Outcomes among

African- Americans with Down Syndrome

Thursday, February 21 | 6:30-8pm

DSAGC Hatton Foundation Community Room

Presented by Dr. Anna Esbensen and Dr. Lauren Wang

African-Americans with Down syndrome are reported to experience significantly shorter lifespans than their

Caucasian peers. This presentation provides the audience with updated life expectancies based on

Tennessee administrative databases, and an understanding of how racial disparities in health and

hospitalizations contribute to these disparate life expectancies. The doctors will discuss ways to promote

better health outcomes.

Register

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After you buy your ticket to the dance, you can sign-up for our Let's Get Fancy event for some pre-Winter Dance pampering! Ladies can get their hair, nails and make-up done by professionals. Gentlemen can get their hair gelled,

get tips on how to tie a tie and learn about appropriate cologne application.

After getting *glam*, a limousine will escort the group to the dance in style. Please note, the limo will only transport TO the dance. Participants must have purchased a ticket to the Winter Dance and have a parent/guardian meet

them at the Newport Syndicate.

Friday, February 1 Females arrive at 3:30 PM; Males arrive at 5 PM

4623 Wesley Avenue, Suite A Cincinnati, OH 45212 *ages 15 & up

"Let's Get Fancy" is FREE to attend, but you must RSVP to Emma Ganiban at [email protected]!

There are only 20 spaces available (10 female & 10 male) and will fill on a first come, first serve basis.

**Registration closes on January 18

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In the SPOTLIGHT!

Before the holidays, Ryan passed his driving exam! He worked very hard for this and achieved an amazing accomplishment.

Ryan’s family and the DSAGC is very proud of him!

If you have an inspirational story that you would like highlighted in our SAM

E-Newsletter, email Emma Ganiban: [email protected]

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DSAGC Family Resources

Support at Every Age

Community Participation Fund

Hospital Care Packages

Community Groups

Our School Age Matters Coordinator, Joanie Elfers, is available to assist parents and help provide direction

as they learn about the IEP process, effective teaching strategies and making social connections. She can

serve as an advocate at any school or IEP meetings your child has throughout the years. She can be reached

at [email protected].

Joanie and our Outreach Coordinator, Mariclare Hulbert, are available to deliver “Peer Presentations” in the

classroom setting to enhance both the student and teacher’s understanding of Down syndrome. You can also

access our “More Alike Than Different” video here.

We have a limited amount of scholarships available for individuals with Down syndrome to participate in

community activities (such as camps, soccer, swim lessons) and therapies. There is also funding available

for parents to attend educational meetings or conferences. We pay half of the request (up tp $200 per

year). You must live within our 12 county area to be eligible. Please contact Lisa Steele

at [email protected] for more information.

Is your child (18 years and younger), with Down syndrome, spending three or more days in the hospital? The

Down Syndrome Association of Greater Cincinnati would love to support you during this difficult time. Click

here to receive a Hospital Care Package.

The vision of the ‘Community Groups’ is to provide support, connections, information, and be a resource to

families while creating a warm, welcoming, empathetic environment. A Community Group is designed to

create opportunities for families that have children with Down syndrome to network and share common

interests, concerns, challenges, and information.

Each Community Group is considered an extension of the DSAGC, but autonomy and decision making

authority is given to the groups so they can effectively meet their unique purpose and goals for serving

families and individuals in their community. Click here to see a full list of Community Groups.

DSAGC Teen Club: Serving teens ages 13 - 18 through social opportunities and networking

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$5.7 million NIH Research Funding to

the Thomas Center and Colleagues The Thomas Center for Down Syndrome at Cincinnati Children’s Hospital Medical Center is proud to announce receipt of two federal

research grants supporting children with Down syndrome. Both grants were awarded by the Eunice Kennedy Shriver National

Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD). Anna Esbensen, PhD, Research Director of the Thomas Center,

received a 5-year, $2.6 million grant to continue her work on evaluating cognitive outcome measures for children 6-17 years with

Down syndrome. If you are interested in more information, please contact us as 513-803-3641 or email Emily Hoffman at

[email protected] (see information flyer below). Dr Esbensen is also collaborating with Angela Thurman, PhD, at the

University of California-Davis MIND Institute, on a 5-year, $3.1 million grant to evaluate language outcomes in children 2-8 years with

Down syndrome. More information will be coming soon on how to participate in this project.

Dr. Susan Wiley, co-director of the Thomas Center for Down Syndrome, also partnered with Drs Raouf Amin and Stacey Ishman from

the Divisions of Pediatric Pulmonary Medicine/Sleep Medicine and Pediatric Otolaryngology – Head and Neck Surgery at Cincinnati

Children’s Hospital. They received funding to expand their current study on the neurocognitive and school performance effects of

removal of adenoids and tonsils for snoring to focus on children with Down syndrome. This study will enroll children with Down

syndrome undergoing tonsil and adenoid removal for snoring or sleep apnea. This study includes 7 centers across the U.S.

(Philadelphia, Cleveland, Dallas, Boston, Ann Arbor, Norfolk, and Cincinnati). If you are interested in more information, please contact

us at 513-636-0607 or email Belinda Carter at [email protected].

These projects could not have been funded without the strong collaboration between families, the DSAGC and the Thomas Center.

We are honored to work in a city with so many dedicated families, a strong Down syndrome association, and a wonderful partnership

Research Studies

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Webinars

1.5 Professional Training Contact Hours - Certificate of Participation Provided.

30% Group Discount Available when Registering 5 or More Participants

Contact Seneca for Group Discount Information

Sexual Harassment Prevention & Response

Monday, January 14th 3:00 p.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

Friday, January 18th 11:30 a.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

Thursday, January 24th 1:00 p.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

Tuesday, January 29th 10:00 a.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

Preventing Abuse, Neglect & Exploitation Webinar Dates & Times

Wednesday, January 16th 3:00 p.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

Thursday, January 17th 2:00 p.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

Sexuality & Developmental Disabilities Webinar Dates & Times

Wednesday, January 9th, 2:00 p.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

Practical Approaches to Behavior Management Webinar Dates & Times

Wednesday, January 16th 1:00 p.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

Tuesday, February 12th 1:00 p.m. (Eastern Standard Time)

NEW WEBINARS ADDED DAILY

Don't see a date or time that meets your needs?

Contact us at [email protected] and we will schedule a time that fits into your

busy day!

Click here to register!

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Community Opportunities

The DSAGC does not endorse, recommend or support any particular regime,

therapy, activity, camp or treatment. We welcome articles and information from

parents, professionals and other interested parties.

2019 Sessions

January 12 January 26 February 2

February 16 March 2 March 16 March 30 April 13 April 27 May 4

May 18 June 1

June 15

4 - 5:30 PM The Club at

Harper’s Point

[email protected]

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Safety Training: Self-Awareness and Self-Care

Learn what is public versus private behavior, how to dress for the

weather, first aid, how to be aware of your surroundings and more!

Register by contacting Bri Combs at 513-785-2884 or

[email protected]

Date: Tuesday, February 5 at 10:30am

Tuesday, February 5 at 6:00pm

Location: Butler County Board of Developmental Disabilities

282 N Fair Ave, Hamilton, Ohio 45011

Sensory-Friendly Performance: Sunday, March 31, 2019 at 10:30am

Location: Arnoff Center for the Arts (Procter & Gamble Hall)

$20 per ticket!

Click here for the full schedule and to purchase tickets

In our continuing mission to bring dance to every member of our city, sensory friendly

performances accommodate children, families and adults who have found visiting the

theater overwhelming due to their specific needs.

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January Calendar

Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

1

Office Closed

2 3 4

Movement

Class (ages 2

- 5)

5

6

TEEN CLUB - Painting

7 8 9 10 11

Movement

Class (ages 2

- 5)

12

Advocates In

Action (ages 18

& up)

Buddy Up

Tennis (ages 5

& up)

13 14 15 16 17 18

Movement

Class (ages 2 -

5)

19

AAFN - Open

House and

Resource Fair

20 21

21 Series -

Securing Your

Family's

Future

22 23

Teen Kitchen

Skills (ages

13 - 17)

24 25

Movement

Class (ages 2

- 5)

26

Motivation in

Education

Conference

Buddy Up

Tennis (ages 5

& up)

27 28 29 30

Teen Kitchen

Skills (ages

13 - 17)

31

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February Calendar Sunday Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday

1

Let's Get

Fancy!

Movement

Class (ages 2

- 5)

Winter

Dance (ages

15 & up)

2

Grandparents

Group -

Luncheon

Buddy Up

Tennis (ages 5 &

up)

3 4 5 6

Teen Kitchen

Skills (ages

13 - 17)

7

8

Movement

Class (ages 2

- 5)

9

10

DSAGC

Community

Group

Leaders

Workshop

11 12

Butler/

Warren -

Story Time

and Craft

13

Teen Kitchen

Skills (ages

13 - 17)

14 15

Movement

Class (ages 2

- 5)

16

Buddy Up

Tennis (ages 5 &

up)

AAFN - Dinner

Meeting

17 18 19 20

Teen Kitchen

Skills (ages

13 - 17)

21

21 Series -

Racial

Disparities in

Health

Outcomes

among People

with Down

Syndrome

ADULT Kitchen

Skills (ages 18

& up)

22

Movement

Class (ages 2

- 5)

23

O.W.N. Day

(ages 18 & up)

Physical

Therapy (ages 0

- 1)

24 25 26 27 28

ADULT Kitchen

Skills (ages 18

& up)