Secret Social Spy Academy

Secret Social Spy AcademyParent Workshop 2013Morning Session 2, Week 2

1Transition GroupWeek 2Continue Big/Medium/Small Problems, Smart/Wacky Guesses, & Zones of Regulation, Reading someones Plan

Superflex Characters: DOF, Blurting Bob, Impulsive Eddie

Thought Bubbles

Jr. Crime time- Learning to solve problems

Friendship unitContinuing to discriminate between friend and non friend (DNEIRF)Role playing expected/unexpected friendship behaviorsFriendship Jeopardy

Lies

2Who is The Destroyer of Fun???

D.O.F. is the unthinkable character who gets in our head and likes to prevent us or others from having a fun time while playing games.

3This may include

Not letting us compromise with others

Insisting that we go first or have a specific color during a game

Not being flexible to try new games: only sticking to the games that you know

Changing the rules midway through the game or adding new rules that make the game more complicated

Makes you think problems are huge and gets you to have big reactions

Using mean or unfriendly words or mean tone

Cheating/peeking at anothers card

Bragging

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NO!!!!!! THEY CHEATED, THEY CHEATED, THEY CHEATED! THIS IS NOT FAIR!!

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HahahahahaI win, you lose!!!

6Team Player Toms Strategies for Defeating DOF!

If you do not get to have something your way during the game, ask yourself, how big a problem is it? If a small problem, then what is a small response: let it go, compromise or negotiate, or pick your next favorite color

Helping to change our brains and the way we think about things so that way we can come up with fair ways to compromise: rock, paper, scissors; roll dice, or everyone just picks a number not already chosen

Switching our brains to see that choosing a new game can be fun as long as the kids around are all having fun

Being flexible and telling ourselves that we tried our best and had fun playing with our friends

Using our words to communicate how we are feeling if we are mad about something

Complimenting others about the great game they had

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Wownice move! You are really good at this game

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Jason and his family are playing a card game, Jason made a mistake and is now losing the game.Man, andI was winning!! Oh well!or

9Nick is losing the game

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This game is dumb, I am not playing anymore!!!

10Jessica just beat Brad in a video game

orYEAH! I WON! I AM THE CHAMPION!!!!!!! HAHAHAHA

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11 Who is Blurting Bob? Blurting Bob is the unthinkable character who gets in our heads and makes us say statements or comments and ask questions when others are already talking or when the teacher is talking . 7/13/2011

7/13/201112Zipit Zack strategies that help defeat Blurting BobWaits patiently until its his turn to talkRaises his hand before talkingStands silently next to people talking and waits for his turn to talkLets others finish talking before taking his turnShows Whole Body Listening with his mouthUses his thought bubbles to hold his thoughts 7/13/2011

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Jason and his family are playing a card game, Jason keeps talking out and interrupting his father.or7/13/2011

Hey who is going Oh, I know. Its my turn. Im sure of it.

147/13/2011Thought Bubbles

15Thought Bubbles

16Thought Bubbles

17Thought Bubbles

18Thought Bubbles

19CRIME TIME

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The SituationRob and Kate were going to play a video. Rob had the remote control. Kate got mad and yelled , Give it to me NOW! I WANT to go first! ROBKate21

THE CRIME SCENE

RobKate22THE CRIME SCENE cont

Give it to me NOW! I WANT to go first! 23THE CRIME SCENE cont WHAT SIZE WAS s KATES REACTION? What is the actual level of the problem?

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THE CRIME SCENE cont WHAT DO YOU THINK THEY ARE THINKING?25

FACE

******26What tone of voice?

Happy toneSad toneAngry tone

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BODY LANGUAGE

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28VERDICT

GUILTYINNOCENT29How could the problem be solved?

LETS ROLE-PLAY!

30Liar Liar

31WHITE LIESA lie that is told to avoid hurting someone elses feelings.It is a partial lie and it does not hurt people. This type of lie usually does not have consequences.

GRAY LIESA lie that is told to be funny or sarcastic . This type of liedoes not hurt people. This type of lie has moderate consequences.

Black LiesA lie that is told to hurt people (blatant lie). This type of lie has severe consequences.

32What type of Lie?WHITE LIESBlack LiesI think your hair looks cool!

33What type of Lie?WHITE LIESBlack LiesI didnt take your toy.

34What type of Lie?Uhyeah mom, this looks yummy

WHITE LIESBlack Lies35When you might use a white lie?

Your friend Tom asks you if you like his new shirt. You think it is pretty ugly.?36When would you might use a white lie?Your Uncle Joe is singing a song and his voice sounds terrible. He asks you whatYou think.

?37When you might use a white lie?Your friend gets a new hairstyle and asks you what you think.

?38What do you say?

What do you think about myHair?Looks terrible,Get a haircut.I love the color!It is totallyuneven!39What do you say?Aunt Beth,It is totally burnt!No way am I eating that Aunt Beth.Looks great, thanks Aunt Beth.

Doesnt this lookDelicious?40What do you say?You did that on purpose!!!!You JERK!Thats ok.

OOPS!!! Sorry Kathy, I wasnt looking where I was going41GRAY LIESTYPE 1: IDIOMSIdioms are words, phrases, or expressions that cannot be taken literally. In other words, when used in everyday language, they have a meaning other than the basic one you would find in the dictionary. 42GRAY LIESTYPE 1: IDIOMSExample:

Break a LegGood luck?43GRAY LIESTYPE 2: SLANG (sometimes referred to as a type of idiom)An informal use of vocabulary

A kind of language occurring in casual and playful speech, deliberately used in place of standard terms for added humor.44GRAY LIESTYPE 2: SlangExample:

Chill outRelax, take it easy?45MAP IT OUT- Social Behavior Map

46MAP IT OUT- Social Behavior Map

47MAP IT OUT- on the fly48THOUGHTSThoughts are words that are in your head. They have not yet been said. They can be questions or statements.

Im getting hungry.

What do they want me to say?

I think my dog is the best.2Thoughts Come FirstWhere am I?

Then they can go in a talking bubble.Where are we?4Talking Comes Next

He seems nice.5

What do you have behind your back?Talking can be questions or statementsIs she asking a question or making a statement?6

I think they are really mean.We get to go to Islands of Adventure and you dont.Sometimes we think and sometimes we talk. 8