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Seeking Seeking WholenessWholeness in in a a
FragmentedFragmented world world
Mass Bay DistrictSpring Conference
April 25, 2009Rev. Dr. Terasa Cooley
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Context - Fragmented Context - Fragmented LivesLives
Feel forced to choose between work, family, congregation
One area of life doesn’t seem connected to others
Disconnected from families of origin, sense of place, foundational values
Increased choices leading to paralysis
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Context - Fragmented Context - Fragmented CultureCulture
Isolation among “thought” groups
Political polarization
Identity divisions
Distance between “haves” and “have-nots”
Generational divisions
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Context - Fragmented Context - Fragmented CongregationsCongregations
Uneasy peace among theologies
Don’t know how to openly address conflict and disagreement
Feel torn between serving those already with us and being open to growth
Unclear about ultimate mission and purpose
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Leadership Leadership ChallengesChallenges
From Fiduciary to Strategic to Adaptive
Technical solutions no longer suffice
Transparent yet effective decision-making
“Responsive / Decisive / Inclusive”
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Adaptive vs. TechnicalAdaptive vs. Technical
AdaptiveTechnical
•Clear Problem and Solution
•Protect from outside threats
•Restores Order
•Clear Authority
•Defined time frame
•Seeks right question•Both problem & solution require learning & experimentation•Shared leadership•Generates Disequalibrium & Challenges Values•Surfaces Conflict
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Polarity ManagementPolarity Management
+ +
- -
• Individual Community
ChoiceFreedomCreativitySelf-actualization
NarcissismSelfishnessLack of cohesionLoneliness
ConnectionGrowthComplementaritySpectrum of skillsNew perspective
Group thinkHomogeneityCompromisePower imbalance
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AssumptionsAssumptions
That adaptive behavior requires self-awareness
That we seek to overcome polarization
Addressing fragmentation is a spiritual effort
Answer to busyness is meaning-making
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AssumptionsAssumptions
Being liberally religious requires great effort
Conflict among perspectives is healthy
The purpose of the church is to serve a mission, not to make people happy
Leadership demands the awareness of a larger vision
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We Find Ourselves at We Find Ourselves at the Center:the Center:
I
WeThou
Who am I? What do I need? How am I responsible? What do I feel called to? What is innate in me? What are my patterns?
How do we stay connected? What can we ask of one another? How do we disagree?
Who or what do we serve? How do we place ourselves in
service of something larger?
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We Find Ourselves at We Find Ourselves at the Center: the Center: Faith Theology
Spiritual PracticeLived Experience
SurroundingCulture
Family WorkCommunity
Tradition
Institution
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The Enigma of the The Enigma of the SelfSelf
Is the “self” a figment of our imagination?
Are we a vehicle for genetic transportation
Nature vs. nurture
Overcoming “shoulds” and “oughts”
Csikszentmihalyi: “A trait of the transcendent self is the mastery of wisdom and spirituality”
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The Self in BalanceThe Self in Balance
Gratitude
AccountabilityHumility
For what / whom am I thankful?
What do I need to let go of?
What do I need to claim?
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ExerciseExercise
•Spend ten minutes utilizing your spiritual practice dwelling with these questions:
•For what / whom am I particularly grateful right now?
•What do I need to take responsibility for?
•What do I need to let go of?
•How do these questions comes together for you?
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The Spiritual SelfThe Spiritual Self
Calling
Hope
Powerlessness
What gift can I offer the world?
What have I learned when I
realize I’m not in control of the
world?
What are your “convictions for
good”?
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ExerciseExercise
• In pairs:
•What would you do if you could take six months and do whatever you desire?
•What is calling to you within this desire?
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The Polarities of The Polarities of CommunityCommunity
Maintain Self ------------------------ Connect to Others
Allow Freedom ---------------------- Help One Another
Take Risks --------------------------- Maintain Safety
Sacrifice --------------------------------- Benefit
Comfort -------------------------------- Challenge
Stranger --------------------------------- Friend
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Balance of Balance of CommunityCommunity
Growth
SacrificeEvolution
What do people gain in community that could never be found alone?
How do we learn to give up some of what we want for the good of
community?
Can we embrace the inevitable change that takes place within a
community?
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ExerciseExercise
• In pairs, describe an experience you had within your congregation which helped you grow, even as you had to give something up?
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Balance of Balance of CommunityCommunity
Self- Knowledge
Group AwarenessCovenant
What do I bring (expectations, assumptions)
to this experience?
What have we learned about ourselves as a community?
How do we want to be together as a community?
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ExerciseExercise
• Within congregational groups: explore a time in congregational life when you felt this balance was achieved, or not achieved.
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Moving toward “Thou”Moving toward “Thou”The purpose of our religious communities is to move us to something beyond ourselves
Each community has a particular calling, not about being all things to all people
Developing a relationship with “our neighbors” grows our calling
Vision grows out of being, doing, and then perhaps seeing
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The Balance in “Thou”The Balance in “Thou”
Discernment
TransparencyMission
How do we know what to pay attention to?
Are we letting purpose come through us?What is the calling of
this congregation?
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ExerciseExercise
• In pairs representing two congregations, explore a time that has been life-giving to your congregation.
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Attending to “Thou”Attending to “Thou”
Making Sacred
Listening Values Centered
How do we get in touch with the sacred quality
of our work?
How do we create a space for telling our
stories?
What are the inherent values we want to
bring to life?
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ExerciseExercise
• One congregational team: Tell the story of a time when your congregation faced a very complex set of decisions.
• What were the values you were trying to embody?
• How can we honor them?
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Religious Community Religious Community can:can:
Help us understand ourselves more deeply: our loves and longings, our potential and our limitations, AND
Help us live in community: finding both affirmation and challenge through giving and receiving, AND
Help us understand ourselves as part of a larger whole in which we live and find our being.
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The Purpose of The Purpose of Unitarian Unitarian
UniversalismUniversalism• At our best, Unitarian Universalist congregations provide a balance in seeking
• what is meaningful in the lives of individuals
• how we come together in healthy community
• to serve a larger purpose in our communities and in the world
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ResourcesResourcesMargaret Benefiel, Soul at Work: Spiritual Leadership in Orgnanizations, Seabury Press, 2005.
Mark Lau Branson, Memories, Hopes, & Conversations: Appreciative Inquiry and Congregational Change, Alban, 2004.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, The Evolving Self, Harper Perennial, 1994.
Barry Johnson, Polarity Management, Human Resource Development Press, 1992.
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Resources, cont’dResources, cont’dMarty Linski and Ron Heifetz, Leadership on the Line, Harvard Business School Press, 2002.
Gerald May, The Awakened Heart, Harper Collins, 1991.
Kathleen Norris, Amazing Grace, Riverhead Books, 1998.
Parker Palmer, A Hidden Wholeness, Jossey-Bass, 2004.
Charles M. Olsen, Transforming Church Boards into Communities of Spiritual Leaders, Alban Institute, 1995
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Resources, cont’dResources, cont’dParker Palmer, A Company of Strangers, Crossroads, 1983.
Parker Palmer, Let Your Life Speak, Jossey-Bass, 2000.
Martyn Percy & Ian Markham, eds., Why Liberal Churches are Growing, T & T Clark, 2006.
Paul Rasor, Faith Without Certainty, Skinner House, 2005.