Self-ControlSelf-Control

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•Why is it important to stay Why is it important to stay calm? What suffers when calm? What suffers when we don’t?we don’t?

•What role do the pre-What role do the pre-frontal lobes play?frontal lobes play?

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•Why can one small hassle drive Why can one small hassle drive us over the brink?us over the brink?

•Describe a time when this Describe a time when this happened to you.happened to you.

•What effect does cortisol have?What effect does cortisol have?•What other stresses had What other stresses had

preceded the incident you preceded the incident you recalled?recalled?

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•What are the “Just Say No” What are the “Just Say No” circuits?circuits?

•Why are some people resilient Why are some people resilient while others get upset?while others get upset?– Which are you?Which are you?

•How does this relate to self-How does this relate to self-control?control?

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•How can bad moods be How can bad moods be used to our advantage?used to our advantage?

•Describe a time when Describe a time when you were able to channel you were able to channel negative emotion into a negative emotion into a positive action.positive action.

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•What hazards can arise What hazards can arise from over control?from over control?

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•What does emotional What does emotional competence mean? What competence mean? What does it look like?does it look like?

•How is self-regulation How is self-regulation created?created?

Self-Control:Managing disruptive emotions & impulses effectivelyManaging impulsive feelings & distressing emotions wellStay composed, positive & unflappable even in trying momentsThink clearly & stay focused under pressure

Managing one’s internal states, impulses & resources

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•Why do bosses create Why do bosses create stress at work? What stress at work? What may they be trying to may they be trying to accomplish?accomplish?

•What can they create What can they create instead?instead?

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•Why are stress Why are stress management techniques management techniques helpful? What can they helpful? What can they create?create?

•What stress management What stress management techniques do you use?techniques do you use?

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•What work relationship has What work relationship has the greatest impact on our the greatest impact on our emotional & physical health emotional & physical health & why?& why?

Talking Talking Point 10Point 10

•What is the relationship What is the relationship between your brain & between your brain & your health?your health?

•What role does cortisol What role does cortisol play?play?

•Have you ever Have you ever observed / experienced observed / experienced this relationship this relationship between emotions & between emotions & physical illness?physical illness?

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•How does self-awareness How does self-awareness pay off? What benefits pay off? What benefits does one reap?does one reap?

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•Do you know any Do you know any unflappable imploders? unflappable imploders? Describe him or her.Describe him or her.

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•What can you learn about What can you learn about self-control from cops? self-control from cops?

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•What is the difference What is the difference between good stress & bad between good stress & bad stress in terms stress in terms – of behavior?of behavior?– of biochemistry? of biochemistry?

•What state allows for peak What state allows for peak performance?performance?

Good StressGood Stress

• States:States:– overwhelmedoverwhelmed– paralyzedparalyzed– demoralizeddemoralized

• BiochemistryBiochemistry– parasympathetiparasympatheti

c nervous c nervous systemsystem

– cortisolcortisol

• States:States:– mobilizedmobilized– motivatedmotivated– high energyhigh energy– maximal effortmaximal effort– positive moodpositive mood

• BiochemistryBiochemistry– sympathetic nervous sympathetic nervous

systemsystem• catecholaminescatecholamines

– adrenalineadrenaline– noradrenalinenoradrenaline

Bad StressBad Stress

Trustworthiness: Displaying honesty & integrityAct ethically & are above reproachBuild trust through their reliability & authenticityAdmit their own mistakes & confront unethical actions in othersTake touch, principled stands even if they are unpopular

Managing one’s internal states, impulses & resources

Conscientiousness:Maintaining integrity & taking responsibility for personal performanceMeet commitments & keep promisesHold themselves accountable for meeting their objectivesAre organized & careful in their work

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•Describe someone you Describe someone you consider to have integrity. consider to have integrity. How do they behave?How do they behave?

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•Have you ever been asked Have you ever been asked to behave unethically on to behave unethically on the job? How did you the job? How did you handle it?handle it?

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•Why is impulse control, Why is impulse control, self-restraint important? self-restraint important? What does allow to occur?What does allow to occur?

•Describe a time when Describe a time when impulse control kept you impulse control kept you from doing something self-from doing something self-destructive.destructive.

Talking Point 18Talking Point 18How conscientious are you?How conscientious are you?

• punctualpunctual• careful in doing workcareful in doing work• self-disciplinedself-disciplined• scrupulous in attending to scrupulous in attending to

responsibilitiesresponsibilities• follow the rulesfollow the rules• help outhelp out• concerned about co-workersconcerned about co-workers• get to work on timeget to work on time• never abuse sick leavenever abuse sick leave• always get things done on always get things done on

deadlinedeadline

• absence of empathyabsence of empathy• lack of social skillslack of social skills• hold others to own hold others to own

standardsstandards• overly judgmentaloverly judgmental• critical of co-workerscritical of co-workers• strained relationshipsstrained relationships• relentless conformityrelentless conformity• damper on creativitydamper on creativity

Adaptability:Flexibility in handling change & challengesSmoothly handle multiple demands, shifting priorities & rapid changeAdapt their responses & tactics to fit fluid circumstancesAre flexible in how they see events

Innovation: Being open to novel ideas, approaches & new informationSee out fresh ideas from a wide variety of sourcesEntertain original solutions to problemsGenerate new ideasTake fresh perspectives & risks in their thinking

Managing one’s internal states, impulses & resources

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•Have you ever resisted Have you ever resisted change on the job? What change on the job? What emotions were involved?emotions were involved?

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•Describe a time when you Describe a time when you experienced a “creativity experienced a “creativity killer.”killer.”– surveillancesurveillance– evaluationevaluation– over-controlover-control– relentless deadlinesrelentless deadlines

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•What is the relationship of What is the relationship of emotion to innovation?emotion to innovation?

•Of self-control & Of self-control & innovation?innovation?

Self-Control:Managing disruptive emotions & impulses effectivelyManaging impulsive feelings & distressing emotions wellStay composed, positive & unflappable even in trying momentsThink clearly & stay focused under pressure

Trustworthiness: Displaying honesty & integrityAct ethically & are above reproachBuild trust through their reliability & authenticityAdmit their own mistakes & confront unethical actions in othersTake touch, principled stands even if they are unpopular

Managing one’s internal states, impulses & resources

Conscientiousness:Maintaining integrity & taking responsibility for personal performanceMeet commitments & keep promisesHold themselves accountable for meeting their objectivesAre organized & careful in their work

Adaptability:Flexibility in handling change & challengesSmoothly handle multiple demands, shifting priorities & rapid changeAdapt their responses & tactics to fit fluid circumstancesAre flexible in how they see events

Innovation: Being open to novel ideas, approaches & new informationSee out fresh ideas from a wide variety of sourcesEntertain original solutions to problemsGenerate new ideasTake fresh perspectives & risks in their thinking

Managing one’s internal states, impulses & resources