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Self Discipline

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Clerics

Agate Studio

Self deception and self discipline

TDS Mei 2014

Aditia Dwiperdana

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Self discipline

The ability to do what you need to do when you need to do it.

Self-betrayal

• An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another is called an act of “self betrayal”.

Self-betrayal

• An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another is called an act of “self betrayal”.

• When I betray myself, I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal.

Self-betrayal

• An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another is called an act of “self betrayal”.

• When I betray myself, I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal.

• When I see a self-justifying world, my view of reality becomes distorted.

Self-betrayal

• An act contrary to what I feel I should do for another is called an act of “self betrayal”.

• When I betray myself, I begin to see the world in a way that justifies my self-betrayal.

• When I see a self-justifying world, my view of reality becomes distorted.

• When I betray myself, I enter ‘the box’.

In the box: Below the line

Ownership

Accountability

Responsibility

Blame

Excuses

Denial

Self betrayal

• Over time, certain boxes become characteristic of me, and I carry them with me

Self betrayal

• Over time, certain boxes become characteristic of me, and I carry them with me

• By being in the box, I provoke others to be in the box

Self betrayal

• Over time, certain boxes become characteristic of me, and I carry them with me

• By being in the box, I provoke others to be in the box

• In the box, we invite mutual mistreatment and obtain mutual justification. We collude in giving each other reason to stay in the box.

What doesn’t work in ‘the box’

• Trying to change others

• Doing my best to ‘cope’ with others

• Leaving

• Communicating

• Implementing new skills or techniques

• Changing my behavior

To get out of the box

We get out of the box when we cease to resist other, liberate our self-justifying thoughts and

feelings.

Out of the box: Above the line

Ownership

Accountability

Responsibility

Blame

Excuses

Denial

Self discipline

Stay true to yourself.

Know what you want to do.

Do it.