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Crucial ConversationsPresented by: Heather Hubbard
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Objectives Recognize crucial conversations both before they happen
and while they are happening
Determine why we handle crucial conversations poorly, why it matters if we handle them well, and how these conversations foster accountability
Learn tools to handle crucial conversations better
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Crucial ConversationsBackgroundDefinitionsWho and what?Why are they different?Examples
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How do we handle them?▪ Well▪ Avoid▪ Poorly
▪ Genetics▪ Pressure▪ Self-defeating actions
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Why Do we Care?AccountabilityProductivityCareerRelationshipsHealth
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Misconceptions and Mistakes
Misconception:It’s all about policies, processes, structures, or systems.
Mistake:False Assumption – speak up and suffer the consequences or suffer in silence…
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Dialogue –Free flow of meaning (not words): feelings, beliefs, theories, experiences
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Where do We Start?
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Stay Alert & Look for Clues
PhysicalDry/Watery Eyes
Upset Stomach
Sweaty Palms
Shaking
BehavioralRaising Voice
Finger Pointing
Quiet
Out of Body Experience
EmotionalScared
Hurt
Angry
Frustrated
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Safety is an issue…now what?Step out/step inCommon outcomeShare respectApologizeContrastUnderstand the Backstory
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From Facts to Action
Facts Story Feel Act
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Nothing in the world is good or bad, but thinking makes it so.
~William Shakespeare
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Putting it all together
How did we do?
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Contact InformationHeather Hubbard
Senior Auditor
Department of Homeland Security, Office of Inspector General
Cell: 972-589-0563
Office: 214-436-5235
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References Patterson, K., Grenny, J., Switzler, A., & McMillan, R. (2012). Crucial Conversations:
Tools for Talking When the Stakes are High. New York: McGraw-Hill.
Executive Read. (2015). Book Summary of Crucial Conversations Tools for Talking When the Stakes Are High - Key Points Summary/Refresher with Crib Sheet Infographic [Kindle Edition].
Covey, S. M. (2014). The Speed of Trust: The one thing that changes everything. Simon & Schuster.
Stone, D., & Heen, S. (2015). Thanks for the feedback: The science and art of receiving feedback well (even when it is off base, unfair, poorly delivered, and frankly, you’re not in the mood). NY, NY: Penguin Books.
Connors, Smith & Hickman (2004). The OZ Principle: Getting Results Through Individual and Organizational Accountability. NY, NY: Penguin Group.