seven habits of highly effective people
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Seven Habits of Highly Effective People
The journey of life
• Our life is a series of choices we make• We are free to choose the course of action in
the space between stimulus and response• While we have control over the choices we
make we have no control over the consequences
The journey of life
Success
• Success is not a destination. Success is a journey
Character Ethic
Based on• Self Awareness• Imagination• Conscience• Independent will
Character Ethic The Character Ethic provides basic principles of effective living Foundation is based on principles of integrity, humility, fidelity, temperance,
courage, justice, patience, industry, modesty With character ethic one can experience true and enduring success in life.
Personality Ethic
Personality ethic relies on human and public relations- Positive mental attitude- Communication abilities
Attitude determines altitude
Smiling wins more friends
The Farm Principle
You will reap only what you sow
You cannot rush your crop to grow without the necessary work to plough, till, sow and maintain prior to harvest
Fundamental character strength is required for long lasting success.
What we are communicates more effectively than what we say!
Principle Centered paradigm
Character Ethic is based on the idea that there are principles that govern human effectiveness
Principles are like light houses They are natural laws that cannot be broken Principles govern human growth and happiness and woven into the fabric of
society
Principles
• Principle of fairness• Integrity, honesty• Respect• Service to others• Principles are guidelines for human conduct• Proven to have enduring value
Seven habits of highly Effective People
Principle centered, character based, inside-out approach to personal and inter-personal effectiveness
Inside-out means to start with the self, your character and your motives
Effective habits
Internalized principles and patterns of behavior
We are what we repeatedly do,
Excellence, then is a not an act, but a habit.
Aristotle
Habits
Habits are the intersection of knowledge, skills and desire.
Habits defined
• Knowledge – What to do and why to do• Skill – how to do• Desire – Want to do
Knowledge on interaction, learning the skills
Upward movement
Working on knowledge, skill and desire we can break through new levels of personal and interpersonal effectiveness.
The Maturity Continuum
The Seven Habits are not a piece meal formula
It is harmony of natural laws
The Maturity continuum moves from independence to interdependence Habits 1,2 & 3 – deal with self mastery. Deal with private victories based on
character Habits 4,5 & 6 – public victories of teamwork, cooperation and communication Habit 7 – Is the habit of renewal. Balanced and regular renewal of the basic
dimensions of life
The Four Dimensions of Interaction
PRIVATE VICTORY
PUBLIC VICTORY
1. Be Proactive
3. Put first things first
1. Begin with the end in mind
4. Think Win/Win
6.Synergize5.Seek first to understand then to be understood
7.Sharpen the saw
Seven Habits
What is Effectiveness?
For Long term beneficial results
There has to be P/PC balance
P – Production
PC – Production Capability
Habit 1
Be Pro-active
Habit 1 – Be Proactive
Our conditioning depends on- Genetic determinism- Psychic determinism- Environmental determinism
Our choices are determined by the above 3 conditioning
Habit 1
Habit 1 says “You are the creator. You are in charge”.
It is based on imagination, conscience, independent will and self-awareness.
Pro-activity defined
- In the space between stimulus and response we are free to make a choice. We should not wait for stimuli and then respond. This is reactive behavior.
We need to be pro-active.
- Taking the initiative- It is more than that.- Proactive people do not blame circumstances, conditions or conditioning for their
behavior. The behavior is a product of their own conscious choice , based on values.
Pro-active people
Pro-active people carry their own weather with them
Reactive people are affected by social environment or social weather.
Theryreact to how society treats them
Proactive people are driven by values and not by circumstances
Circle of Concern
Circle of Influence
Reactive people
Pro-active people
Reactive vs. Pro-active people
Pro-activity
Act, don’t be acted upon.
Drive. Don’t be driven.
Taking the initiative is recognizing our responsibility to make things happen
The best way to predict the future is to create it.
Abraham Lincoln
Habit 2
Begin with the end in Mind
Habit 2 – Begin with the end in mind
All things are created twice
First there is the mental creation
Second the physical creation.
Carpenter’s rule – Measure twice, cut once
If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail.
Habit 2
It is first mental creation based on imagination, the ability to envision
Begin with the end in mind
On a vacation you plan the route
Plan, plan your moves in life
Habit 1 says you are the creator
Habit 2 is the first creation
What do you want be in 3, 5 10 years in your professional career.
Begin with the end in Mind
If you don’t know where you are going, you will go nowhere!
The Plan
Habit 2 is based on the principles of Personal Leadership
Leadership is doing the right things. Management is doing things right.
We need to have a long term vision, a goal.
Scripting your success
Create a Personal mission statement
What do you want to achieve in your personal, professional and social lives?
Your actions will flow from your personal mission statement
“To have a quality life at home, to become a VP with the next 12 years and to increase my circle of friends to 500+”
Mission statement
To write a personal mission statement we need to start at the center of the Circle of Influence
Here we have our vision and values. We have principles and our paradigms.
At the center we have security, direction, wisdom and the capacity to act.
Mission statement
Identify roles & goals
Son/father/husband, professional/subordinate/boss, friend
Roles and goals give a organized direction to your personal mission
Habit 3
Put first things first.
Habit 3 – Put first things first
Habit 3 is the second creation. It is the fulfillment and the actualization of Habits 1 & 2
Habit 3 is effective self –management.
Time Management vs. Self Management
Time management focuses on things and time
Self management focuses on achieving results or on maintaining the P/PC balance.
The Management MatrixUrgent Not Urgent
IACTIVITIESCrisesPressing problemsDeadlines
IIACTIVITIESPrevention, PC activitiesRebuilding relationshipsRecognizing new opportunitiesPlanning, recreation
IIIACTIVITIESInterruptions, some callsSome mail, Some MeetingsPopular activitis
IVACTIVITIESTrivia, busy workSome mailSome phone callsTime wasters
Important
Not Im
portant
Quadrant II
• Quadrant I – Stress, burnout• Quadrant III – Short term focus, crisis management• Quadrant IV – Irresponsible• Quadrant II – where we should spend a large time of our life – Planning, exercising,
focus on opportunities, maintain P/PC balance
Quadrant II
• Learn to put “first things first”• Learn to say no• Learn to manage yourself effectively
Objective of Quadrant II
To manage our time effectively
Coherence – Balance between roles & goals
Priorities and plans
Desire and your discipline
Bringing focus to your life. On prevention rather than crises management.
Roles & Goals• Personal • Family• Professional• Social
Long term vs. Short Term planning
Mission Statement
Roles Goals
Roles Goals Plans
Long term organizing
Weekly term organizing
The First 3 Habits
The first 3 habits are towards achieving a private victory, or achieving a personal independence
Habits 4,5,6 are focused on interdependence
PRIVATE VICTORY
PUBLIC VICTORY
1. Be Proactive
3. Put first things first
1. Begin with the end in mind
4. Think Win/Win
6.Synergize5.Seek first to understand then to be understood
7.Sharpen the saw
Seven Habits
The Emotional Bank Account
Emotional bank account determines the amount of trust in a relationship
- Deposits in the Emotional account of kindness, courtesy, commitment we build a reserve
Six major deposits
• Understand the individual• Attending to little things• Keeping commitments• Clarifying expectations• Showing personal integrity• Apologizing sincerely
Habit 4
Think Win - Win.
Habit 4 – Think Win-Win
Win-Win is based on 5 dimensions• Character• Maturity• Abundance mentality• Relationships• Agreement
Situation 1 - Win-Win
In a library there are 2 old- One wants the window open to let in some
fresh air- Another wants it closed to prevent the draft
The librarian’s solution- Open the window in another room
Both men were happy!
Situation 2 - Win-Win
Behind opposing positions are common interests.
Focus on interests and not on positions (Getting to Yes
In 1978 Israel occupied Mount Sinai since the 6 day war of 1967
Egypt wanted every bit of Mount Sinai back while Israel insisted on keeping it. It appeared incompatible
Win-Win
• Israel was interested in its security• Egypt in its sovereignty
• Solution – Mount Sinai returned and made a de-militarized zone.
• Reconcile interests rather than positions.
Habit 5
Seek first to understand then to be understood.
Habit 5 – Seek first to understand then to be understood
• Empathetic listening – seek to understand• We listen with an intent to reply not to understand• Empathy is not sympathy. Sympathy is a form of agreement• Empathy is fully, deeply understand the person emotionally and intellectually
Habit 6 - Synergize
• Work as a cohesive whole• Synergy when there is resonance• When the whole is greater than the sum of its parts
Habit 7
Renewal.
Habit 7 - Renewal
• Sharpen the saw
Four dimensions of renewal
Sharpen the saw
• Quadrant II activity• Improves the P/PC balance
Management is common sense, which is not very common.
