several ways to create happiness in life by capt waqas

8/6/2019 Several Ways to Create Happiness in Life by Capt Waqas

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Research seems to back up the saying "Success is a journey, not a destination.

Are you frequently in a bad mood or just plan unhappy? There areeasy ways to beatthe

blues oreven a bad day. Good moods or a peppy personality is not a disposition you are

born with or without. You arenot doomed to stay unhappy therest of yourlife. Your

level ofhappiness is a learned skill. Its easy to learn. Do you wantto improve your

mood or become morehappy and optimistic? This article willhelp you gethappy

- Decide that happiness is part of your character

"Character is higher than intellect... A great soul will bestrong to live, as well as to think." - Ralph Waldo Emerson

We would all like to have more happiness in our lives. This desire is so universal that

countless hours of research have been spent on discovering the root causes of happiness. It

would be nice if you could read a few magic words, understand it, and instantly have

happiness in your life. For some reason it doesn't seem to work like that. You can read

about happiness until you are blue in the face, but it won't do a bit of difference until youdecide to take action in your life.

You are the only one who can make that decision. How you react to circumstances in your

life depends greatly on your self-image. The values you hold, and the way you see yourself

help define your character.Train yourself to look at negative emotion as a guide post. When

you experience them, you know you are headed in the wrong direction. With a strong

character, you can steer yourself away from feelings which will have you moving down the

wrong path. When you feel that something is not right, trust yourself. Do the right thing,

and happiness is sure to follow.

: You Can Only Have 1 Thought at a Time

This is the key to feeling optimistic,enjoying yourlife, and fulfilling yourvision for a

delightfullife: You only can keep onethought in yourhead at a time. This is one ofthe

most powerful yet under publicized insights in psychology.


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This is one oftheeasiest ways to keep negativethoughts out of your mind. You crowd

them out. After all, if you keep thinking positive, optimistic and uplifting thoughts, you

cannot simultaneously focus onnegative, depressing or upsetting thoughts.

Second, do random checks on your thoughts. A few times during your next fivedays, occasionally pause. Check to see if you are thinking pessimistic or

optimistic thoughts. If you are thinking negative thoughts, you now know what

-Set goals, work towards them

As stated in the introduction, sometimes it's not acquiring or achieving something which

brings happiness. Working towards a worthwhile endeavor in life often brings as much, if

not more satisfaction, than it's attainment..

Working towards a goal can also keep us thinking about the positive aspects of our future.

Setting a goal eliminates the stress associated with indecision. When there are too manyoptions available to us, it causes hesitation. Thinking about lost opportunities, or other

options, keeps us caught in the past. It's what psychologist Barry Schwartz calls the

"Paradox of choice".

.: Expect the Best

Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, "A man is whathethinks about all day long."

Generally as you begin your day or a project, your frame-of-mind proves extremely

important. It is this simple:

If you start a day ortask with a

* positive beliefthat you will succeed, you increase your

chances that you will figure out ways to assure a

successful outcome

* negative beliefthat you may fail, your belief makes it

muchharderto build up your motivationto succeed The moralthat what you expect

will materialize inreality.

-Call a friend

Positive psychologist Chris Peterson says that building strong personal relationships should

be one of your highest priorities. But I'm sure you already knew that. Which is why the


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suggestion to call a friend has already put a smile on your face. Connecting with someone in

a meaningful way provides rewards on many levels. Sharing what you really think will give

you a chance to listen to another point of view. Usually when a friend shares their

perspective, situations seem less daunting. If you have a friend with a good sense of humor,

all the better.

Build a social circle of positive people. The uplifting spirit is contagious. Surrounded by

people who see opportunitues, rather than difficult times, is a sure way to change your

perspective.

-Let go

Letting go can feel as if a weight has been lifted off of your shoulders. Every moment can be

new again when we learn to let go. The decision lies within yourself to begin the process.

Often a practice of meditation can help you develop this ability. Some people may be

capable of recognizing their negative mental processes, and simply shutting them down.

Letting go does not have to mean leaving a conflict unresolved. Instead it allows us to

resolve this conflict with all of the resources at our disposal. Try resolving a conflict when

you cannot let go of a particular thought process. Chances are that you will end up in a self

defeating circle. Dropping all of the mental chatter which is distracting you from your goals

will give you clarity.

"We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinkingwe used when we created them" - Albert Einstein

Choose to free yourself from circular patterns of thought. Freeing up your mind to move

forward in the moment will give you a chance to live each moment happily.

: Strong Ambition

Wishy-washy people do not go very far get swayed by whatevercrosses their paths..

They Incontrast,the people who move mountains, people who getthings done, are

people who feel a profound sense of mission. They dive into their projects with gusto. I

believethatevery highly successful person is a maniac on a mission.


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The finest way to develop strong ambition is for you to think about your goals,

ambitions and things you want many, many times each day. Again, think about

what you want and specifically what you need to do to get it. This is like

adding logs to a burning fire. Your intense dwelling on what you want builds

incredibly strong ambition in you

-Live your values

Living your values will put a smile on your face each and every time. I would also place this

suggestion under the category of character building. It may come easier for some

individuals and can also be dependent on individual circumstances. Regardless of present

circumstances, it's still well worth the effort to ensure that you are acting in a way which is

inline with your self-image.

There may be times in life which cause us to act in a way that does not fall in line with

correct action. Some of these situations involve things which we never envisioned taking

place; such as losing a job or someone causing harm to a family member. In difficult times

it might be easy to rationalize an incorrect course of action. In cases like this, it's best to

remember that you are not your thoughts or actions. They are transient experiences, which

must be learned from, if you are going to change in a positive direction.

-Accept things as they are - Especially yourself

Self-acceptance can be a profound step towards realizing your happiness. I say realizingyour happiness, because it lies inherently within, always waiting for a chance to be brought

out.

We all spend a great deal of our time attempting to live up to standards of society. Whether

it's the standards which your parents or friends set for you, we are constantly trying to

make others happy. Doing this sets us up to live a life which is not our own. Reclaiming

your life is one of the most powerful things you can choose to do, in order to assure your

own happiness.

As much effort as you place into making others happy, you will never be able to fulfill all of

their expectations. It is up to them to assure their own happiness. So the best thing you cando for them, is to live your life while helping them realize their own inherent beauty.

"Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it." - SalvadorDali

An excellent way to grow the habit of self-acceptance is to practice metta meditation. This

meditation is also known as "loving-kindness meditation". It will allow you to truly accept


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things as they are, while extending the same compassion to others. This practice will help

you build strong personal relationships which is important to living a life full of happiness.

: Persistence

Persistence is a key to feeling happy. Fascinating research done at Stanford Universityproves that persistent people achieve morethantheirless persistentcolleagues

In a large study they found thatchildren who had exhibited the ability to persist and

delay gratification, stood out as much morecompetenthuman beings thanthechildren

who grabbed the marshmellows. Thechildren with persistence were more

* assertive

* confident

* likely to pursuechallenges

* ableto handle frustrations

* likely notto give up whenencountering obstacles

* willing to start and complete projects

It shows that impulsive people areless likely to succeed inlifethan people who delay

gratification. Or,to put it another way, people who persist achieve morethan people

who wanttheirrewards beforethey finish a project.

-Doodle

I love to draw. It calms my nerves and clears my mind. Sometimes though it can become

frustrating. It only becomes frustrating though, when trying to create something which must

live up to a critical judgment. Thats why I recommend doodling. Not only is it great practice

for training visual memory, but also, anyone can do it . Chances are pretty good that you

doodled through most of your boring classes in school.

Doodling is fantastic, because it allows you to really let go. There is no particular aim with

doodling, so there is no judgmental voice. Whether you scratch out a few squiggly lines, or

draw a stick figure army, it's going to release stress.

The more you focus on what you're doing then the more you will forget about you worries.

Have fun, and draw something crazy. How often do you get to exercise your imagination

during the work day? This could be just the mental stretch you needed to help you express

your inner child.


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watch a comedy

listen to comic legends just to get a hearty laugh though. Whether you like lighthearted

humor, or a clever play on words, you should be able to find what you are looking for

online. Just do a quick search on youtube for your favorite comedian. You might not find the

routine you were looking for, but it's possible that you'll find material which you never knewexisted.

Laughing is a good way to take a mental break. There is a reason that people say laughter

is the best medicine. Humor is at the heart of what it means to be alive. When we take life

too seriously we become worn out. Humor is a quick way to inject a bit of happiness in your

life when you need it most. When you wake-up inthe morning do you say: Oh God...its

morning or do you day Thank God its morning and I look forward to today. Why are

some people so happy and optimistic and other so unhappy and pessimistic?

* dwell on positivethoughts of what you want-- and

avoid dwelling onnegativethoughts of what you do not want

* expectthe best

. Remember: "Happiness is a choice,not an automaticresponse."

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