sexual desire checklist

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Sexual Desire Checklist I created this checklist in an attempt to find similar desires with my partner, and realized more people

may need a tool that opens up the mind and allows you to ask questions you may not normally ask. This

checklist is also something you can take on your own to figure out some of the things you might desire

by looking closely at each item and really thinking about how they make you feel.

This checklist will cover everything from your missionary style love making to the intense world of BD !.

"hile I have done my best to cover most everything I can think of, there are always new things coming

up the line in the wonderful world of se#. o if you have a fetish, a kink, or something as simple as a

position or place that I may have missed, please leave a comment so I can update the checklist.

The checklist is going to start at the most basic and move its way to the more intense in a series of

sections. $ou may want to do this with your partner over a few different nights, crossing into the more

difficult questions after you see how you do with the less . . . shall we say . . . taboo questions.

This e#ercise did wonders for me and my partner, but please, if you do this, do it with an open mind%

There is nothing worse than undermining your partner &s fantasies or desires. There is not right or wrong

when it comes to se#. "hile some things may be undesirable to you, to someone else it may be the thing

they love the most about a se#ual encounter. o try to be understanding.

Try not to shout out answers that shoot down the item you&re discussing. If you&re not into 'addles or

(lectricity that is your right, but your partner might find it intriguing. If you shoot something down

quickly, they may not feel comfortable answering the rest of the questions. )lso, remember you may not

agree on everything, which is okay% It doesn&t mean you have to do everything your partner wants you

to* it +ust brings you closer to understanding your partner.

!ost importantly )-( /0, and T)12 to your partner about each Item you feel comfortable talking

about. !y partner and I spent hours and days discussing each thing, and we had a blast, it&s a fun

e#perience, where you are sure to learn something new about your partner and yourself.

3kay let&s get started%

ere is the 2ey for how to label your answers. $ou can ad+ust the key to fit your relationship or use what

I have here, anyway you answer is fine, this is +ust a guide to get you started.

NA No Answer Not applicable due to sex, or ability. You simply do notwant to answer the question. You do not understand theQuestion.

? Curious You may not be sure you will like it or not, have not tried itand are Curious about it. It’s something you would like to


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learn more about.

W Wanted This is something that you want very mu h and may have ahard time without it.

! Love You love doing this.

" En oy You en#oy doing this, or would like to try this.

N Neutral You don’t dislike, or like this, but i$ your %artner likes it,you will do it. &r you may be willing to give it a go.

' !isli"e You dislike doing this, or you don’t think you would likethis, but are willing to do this $or your %artner i$ they!oved or "n#oyed it.

( #ate You hate doing this, or think you would hate it, but arewilling to give it a try, or do it $or your %artner i$ they!oved or "n#oyed it.

) $o%t Limit This may be something you do not see yoursel$ en#oyingnow, or doing now, but you might entertain it in the $uture.

* #ard Limit This is something you will never be able to do, and wouldnot ever see yoursel$ en#oying.

Section one . . . The basics

Sexual Item Have

doneto you

Do to

yourpartner

Stipulations ~ Here you want to

make any comments that you mightwant to bring you later when going over

answers

Intercourse ~ !aginal


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Intercourse ~ "nal

Hand #obs

$ingering ~ !aginal %&ingers no &ist'

$ingering ~ "nal %&ingers no &ist'

(ral ~ )ale

(ral ~ $emale

(ral ~ "nal

Sucking %in stipulations say where'

*icking %in stipulations say where'

*ight +ibbles %in stipulations say where'

,reast play

,ody )assage %with or without oil'

-se o& lubricants

Sensation lubricants %hot cold'

-se o& condoms

-se o& birth control ~ $emale


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ith the lights on

ith the lights o&&

During the day

(nly at night

During menstruation %this should beknown in any relationship'

/#aculation %&emale or male'

Swallowing /#aculations

/#aculation on $ace

/#aculation on body

Section two ~ 0laces$or this section saying what you are willing to do in each o& these places under stipulations is a good idea. Since

this is not something you do to or have done to you there is only one answer column here.

Sexual *ocation Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might

want to bring you later when going over

answers


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"t home ~ bedroom

"t home ~ kitchen

"t home ~ *iving room

"t home ~ Dining room

"t home ~ 1arage

"t home ~ ,athroom

"t home ~ *aundry room

"t home ~ basement

"t a &riend2s house ~ 0rivate

"t a strangers house ~ 0rivate

In the car ~ parking lot

In the car ~ Driveway

In the car ~ )oving

In the car ~ street or garage

In the car ~ 0arking spot

In the Shower at home


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Shower at a &riend2s3relative

Shower in a hotel

In a hotel

In a bed and break&ast

In a public place %,DS) Clubdungeon bath house etc.'

(utside ~ yard or patio

(utside ~ Camping or woods

(utside ~ 0arking lot street

0ublic transport ~ ,us

0rivate Transport ~ limo

Tailgating ~0rivate

0arties ~ 0rivate

Stadium events ~ stands

0ublic ,athrooms

ork or o&&ice


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Section three ~ ClothingSexual Clothing Have

done

to

you

Do to

your

partner

Stipulations ~ Here you want tomake any comments that you might


answers

*ingerie ~ so&t &abrics

,aby dolls ~ so&t &abrics

,ooty shorts and tanks ~ so&t &abric

1owns ~ so&t &abrics

0# pants with or without a tank

,oxers ~ silk #oke cotton

4umpers ~ so&t &abrics

Corsets

,ra and panties sets

*ingerie ~ leather


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,aby dolls ~ leather

,ooty shorts and tanks ~ leather

1owns ~ leather

Chaps ~ leather

*atex ~ *ingerie

*atex ~ ,aby dolls

*atex ~ 4umpers

*atex ~ 1owns

*atex ~ Spanking Skirts

*atex ~ Stockings

*atex ~ bra and 0anties

*atex ~ Costumes

Costumes So&t $abric ~ +urse

~ )aid

~ 1overnment

~ )ilitary


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~ 0rison

~ School girl 3 pro&essor

~ super hero

~ vampire

~ itch

~ movie or book character

~ "nimal

~ ,eer girl

~ bartender3waiter

~ "dult baby

~ &ire &ighter

~ Cop

~ Dirty 0rincess3 &airy tail

~ Cook

~ cowboys

~ Indians


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$ull Hoods

)asks %gas &ace'

High Heels

Thigh high boots

5nee high boots

1arters

Thigh High stockings

$ishnets

,allet heels

0lat&orm Heels

$lat shoes

)ary 4ane2s

Section $our ~ Shower and ,ath time &un.


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Sexual Item Have

done

to you

Do to

your

partner



answers


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Intercourse ~ !aginal

Intercourse ~ "nal

Hand #obs

$ingering ~ !aginal %&ingers no &ist'

$ingering ~ "nal %&ingers no &ist'

(ral ~ )ale

(ral ~ $emale

(ral ~ "nal

Sucking %in stipulations say where'

*icking %in stipulations say where'

*ight +ibbles %in stipulations say where'

,reast play

,ody wash

1enitals wash

"nal wash

$oot scrub


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Hair wash

Shaving ~ *egs

Shaving ~ "rmpit

Shaving ~ 1enitals

Shaving ~ "nal

Shaving ~ chest %men'

Shaving ~ back %men'

ater )assage ~ removable head

During )enstruation %this is a good place to

have sex during this time'

Section $ive ~ Toys6%,asic toys will be discussed here. Toys with a more direct purpose will be discussed with their sub#ect. There are "

*(T o& toys out there so I2m sure I will miss some discuss some you know o& with your partner as well.'

Sexual Toy Havedone

to you

Do toyour

partner



answers


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Dildos ~ 7ealistic

Dildos ~ 1lass

Dildos ~ 0lastic or 4elly

)ale )asturbators %eggs &leshlights'

Dildos ~ !aginal

Dildos ~ (ral

Dildos ~ "nal

"nal 0lugs

"nal ,eads

!ibrators

Strap on vibrators %&or sel& butter&ly'

,ullets

!ibrating 0anties ~ private

,en a ,alls

Double penetration Dildos3!ibs

Double Headed Dildos3vibs


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,reast pumps

!aginal pumps

0enis 0umps

+ipple Clamps

1enital Clamps

!ibrating nipple Clamps

!ibrating genital clamps

Strap on Harness %&or others'

Dolls or penetrable body parts

Cock rings

Ticklers

)echanical tongue

$ucking )achines

Tools with dildo attachments


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Section Six ~ $antasy and 7ole playHere we will talk about some o& the role plays you can have during sex or &antasies you can play out again these

will be basic or more run o& the mill. )ore speci&ic types o& roles plays will be discussed in their sections.

7ole play or &antasy Have

done

to you

Do to

your

partner



answers

+urse30atient

)aid3)aster

Secretary3,oss

Hooker34ohn

Stripper3Client

0aramour3married 0artner

5night3Damsel in distress

*ittle 7ed3,ig ,ad ol&

1ender reversal

Teacher3Student

0hysiologist3mental patient


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"ge 0lay

,abysitter30arent

Insets

0risoner31uard

Cop37obber

"bductor3"bducted

0uppy 0ony 0et

!ampire3)aiden

Super Hero3rescue

$ire &ighter3rescue

Cheerleader34ock

$armers Daughter 3 $arm Hand

7eligious

Interrogation

Debutant or )ermaid30irate

7ich30oor


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Cook 3 0atron

Service man3Housewi&e %can switch'

Salve3)aster %play basic'

Section Seven ~ $etishThis does not include some ,DS) that will be broken down into each section a&ter this. 0lease remember to be

sensitive to your partner when learning about &etishes and try to understand that while you might not en#oy itthey do and that is okay. 0lease remember to always stay sa&e no matter what your &etish.

Sexual fetishism or erotic fetishism is the sexual arousal a person receives &rom a physical ob#ect or &rom a

speci&ic situation.

$etish Have

done

to you

Do to

your

partner



answers

$oot %*icking sucking worship'

$oot %i& not above describe in stipulations'

High heels

!oyeurism

/xhibitionism

)edical


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,ody 0iercing

Tattoos

Shaved or -nshaved

,estiality

,ig and ,eauti&ul

,ody ,uilders %muscle worship'

-rine

0anties

Stockings

Scat

Diapers3 "dult ,aby

Insertions

"mputee $etish

"galmatophilia Statues manne8uinsand immobility

)I*$ %younger men and older women'


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"sphyxiation or Strangulation

Chronophilia %widely di&&ering ages'

!omit

Crush $etish %s8uashing animals &oodor ob#ects'

$ormicophilia %being crawled on bybugs'

$rotteuism %rubbing against non9consenting persons'

1eriatric

/nemas

,reast &eeding

)achines

Dirty Talk

+asophila %noses'

+avel $etish

0ornography


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Sleeping

$ood3!egetables

Section /ight ~ ,ondageBondage means using restraints &or the sexual pleasure It may be used on its own. 0lease keep in mind ,ondage

should only be used with trusting partners that have consented be&ore it begins. ,/ S"$/ have a pair o& /)T

scissors available and some cream &or robe burn to apply a&ter the scene. I& you use cu&&s or other locking bondage

have extra keys and make all the locks have the same keys. +/!/7 leave your partner alone. "lso sa&e words are a

good idea. "void positions that will cause asphyxiation and change them at least every hour to avoid circulation

problems. /at be&ore and keep &ood around i& your partner gets weak easy. Stay S(,/7. ,ondage does not need

to included domination discipline or sadomasochism. :ou can still play around with light bondage i& you are not

interested in the rest. Certain ,ondage items that are high risk will be le&t out i& you are doing them you don2t

need my list.

,ondage Have

done

to you

Do to

your

partner



answers

*ight ,ondage~

~Headboard ,ondage

~+eck Ties

~!elcro Cu&&s

~-nder )attress Straps


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~ Door Cu&&s

7ope ,ondage

,reast ,ondage

)aterials ~

~+ylon

~Hemp

~Silk

~Chains

~Cable ties

~0lastic wrap

~Tape

~Collars

~Spreader ,ars

~Stocks

~Crosses


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~Horses

~*eads

~)anacles

~Harnesses

~Straight 4ackets

~Chairs

~Cages

~Sleep Sacks

,eing tickled while tied

,eing teased while tied

Intercourse while tied

"nal while tied

(ral while tied

1iven an orgasm while tied

4ust tied and undone no sex


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1ags ~ ,all Cleave 7ing ,it

1enital ,ondage

Section +ine ~ D3S ~

Discipline Domination ; Submission Sadomasochismhile we covered ,ondage it can play a big role in D3S. "gain this is something that should be done with a

partner you can trust. :ou are not only testing physical limits here but also mental. " sa&e word is a good idea

incase a mental or physical line is crossed unintentionally. The mind is a &ragile thing and something you agreed to

may not be so good when it2s actually happening. D3S can be something simple like a light spanking or a way o&

li&e. Here we will discuss some things that may happen D-7I+1 a scene that may give you ideas. It Is up to you

what you do with the in&ormation but do it sa&ely please.

Discipline Domination orSubmission.

Havedone

to you

Do toyour

partner



answers

Spankings by hand

~ ,ottom

~ ,reast3Chest

~ $eet


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~ ,ack

~ *egs

~ 1enitals

,eatings with ~

~ Crop

~ 0addle

~ Hairbrush

~ $loggers

~ hips

~ Cane

~ ,elt3Straps

,eatings with implements ~

,ottom

~ ,ack

~ $eet

~,reast or chest


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~*egs

~1enitals

Spanking3 ,eating Intensity

~+o marks

~ Slight )arking

~Temporary )arking

~ ,raking skin bruising cuts

~ 0ermanent marking

$ace Slapping

,iting ~

~ hard leaving marks

~ )edium +o marks

~4ust a nibble

,reath control 3 play

Clothes pins ~

~ *ist body parts okay with


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~ or &ull body

Clothing chosen &or

Clothing earned as reward

Clothing lost as punishment

Collars ~ in public3private

Crawling3 5neeling

/nema punishment

$ood chosen &or

$ood earned as reward

$ood taken away as punishment

$ood &rom bowl

$ood &rom hand

$ood &rom body

-sed as &urniture

-sed as latrine

,ladder control


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"uctioned o&&

*ent out to others

Humiliation 0rivate

0ublic Humiliation

!erbal Humiliation

*eash public

*eash 0rivate

0ositive rein&orcement

+egative rein&orcement

(rgasm denial

(rgasm on command

$orced (rgasm %with consent'

*ecturing or lessons

$orced )asturbation %with consent'

+ipple31enital 0lay ~

~ Clamps


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~ eights

Scratching

Ice 0lay

$ire 0lay

Hot ax

Hair pulling

Suction

+eedle play

$isting ~ "nal

$isting ~ !aginal

Dilation ~ vaginal

Dilation ~ "nal

Double penetration

Triple penetration

Threesomes ~ any sex

1roup sex


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0ublic sex

0ublic ,ondage

0ublic discipline

Housework

Cooking

"ctivities chosen &or

Told when to speak

Called by titles only

Dominate

Submissive

/lectricity 0lay

Speculum play

$orced oral %with consent'

ell I hope you en#oyed my checklist and that you and your partner had &un doing it. I hope you learned a lot

did a lot and plan on doing even more6 *eave comments i& you think I need to add or ad#ust the list or i& you #ust


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have something you want to say. I& its rude &eel &ree to keep it to yoursel&. This was all done &or &un and to

educate yoursel& and your partner on what you might like sexually.

Thanks "gain . . . Darling0

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