shaadi 7 ways to tell if your love last
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7 Ways To Tell IfYour Love Last
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7 Ways To Tell If Your LoveLast
Love is a highly variable sentiment. It may be superficial and trivial or it
may be splendid and deep. Love may be a transient appeal that disap-
pears after a few heavy dates, and again it may foster a relationship
which will become stronger with the years. It would be folly to decide whether
or not to marry by the quality of the love sentiment at a given moment. In some
instances the very intensity of the feeling may be a danger signal. How can you
know that it's the type of love on which happy marriages are based? One of the
first steps is to distinguish between love and infatuation.
There is no magic daisy petal test by which you can measure the extent or the
depth or the permanence of your love feelings. Yet, if you are going to try to
base your marriage upon your love for each other, you must have some criteria
by which to judge whether yours is the kind of love that may be expected to last
in marriage. Here are some ways of Bharat Matrimony to help you.
1. LASTING LOVE . . .
has many facets: tender, passionate, comradely, protecting, highly specific in its
focus, widely general in its diffusion.
2. is outgoing:
radiating out in its values, concerns, and interests to others' happiness and well-
being.
3. is motivating:
releases energy for work, is creative, brings an eagerness to grow, to
improve, to work for worthy purposes and ideals.
4. is sharing:
what one has and what one is strive to be shared;
thoughts, feelings, attitudes, ambitions, hopes,
interests, all are sharable.
5. is a we-feeling:
thinking and planning are in terms of "we"; what we want, how we feel, what we
will do, rather than "I" centeredness.
6. is realistic:
faults, weaknesses, and problems are faced together as part of reality; willingness
to work on building the relationship.
7. changes and grows with time:
time is the surest test if the relationship has grown through many emotional cli-
mates, further association, developing interests, and deepening feelings, the
chances are that it will continue to grow as long as the persons do.
By gaining insight into ourselves and into the nature of our past and present in-
volvements, we may learn in some measure how to appraise the depth and the
strength of a particular relationship. If we can love another deeply enough to
subordinate ourselves to the relationship and lose ourselves in values common to
both of us, we have love enough to marry on.