Smoking And a Young Husband

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Question: • I am getting married and want to

give up smoking • My fiancé thinks my smoking is

romantic • I don’t want him to start smoking

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• I am much older than him and don’t want to be a bad influence

• We are very happy despite the age difference

• Our Christian faith is very important to us

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• We are saving sex for marriage • I have only had sex with my late

husband • My fiancé has never had sex • What if our expectations are not

met?

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Answer: • You are hiding behind the

smoke screen because you don’t want to confront the issues

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• You have made rules to regulate the things you don’t want to deal with

• Your rules are failing • The absence of cigarettes does

not guarantee love

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• Sex is always meaningful with a person you share love with

• Sex is not a test that you can fail

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• You blame the cigarettes for your other doubts

• You need to face your doubts before you get married

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Scenario 1: • You marry your soulmate and

want to share your life with him • You are emotionally and

mentally on the same level despite the age difference

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• He is mature enough to make his own decisions

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Scenario 2: • You are marrying a boy half your

age because it feels good • You want to be a good parent and

wife and help him grow up

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• Which scenario applies to you? • You need to get clarity before

marrying him

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• You don’t need to prove love by giving up cigarettes

• Be honest with yourself and then you can give up smoking for your own health

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• Face your deepest fears, whether you get married or not

• You will survive

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