Sometimes People Can't Handle Success

Average:

Your rating: None Average: 3 (1 vote)

"I tried 1000 different ways to find asolution, but 1001st was the bestsolution" - Thomas Alva Edison, whenasked about his experience in inventingthe light bulb.

The first question is "What is Success?" :The dictionaries provide various definitions of success as 'an occurrence that accomplishes itsintended purpose' or 'a state of prosperity or fame' or 'a realization that a person is successful', butsuccess is broader than what we define. Achieving success means you became famous; you can haveenough money to buy the luxuries you longed for so many years, you are being a darling of themasses.

Anybody can achieve success, however for that one has to have the self belief within him that he can,this is the primary step towards success. If you do not believe in yourself, then creating that feelingis your first assignment. Secondly, we have to focus on what we are going to do to achieve success,something we already have and something we have to attain from others.

There are many factors that contribute to success or failure, the most important of which is aperson's mindset. One can not create and sustain success, if his thoughts, beliefs and emotions arenot adjusted to success. If one believes in oneself, money or what success means for them are indissimilarity to a successful life, he finds it difficult or impossible to create one.

Some of the key factors for people, who want to be successful are determination, decisiveness,continuous learning, constructive planning, hard-work, relentless practice (regain the mettle evenwhen things are going against his wishes), have to have the ability to recover and learn fromfailures. One requires a strong vision of his future, his planning; setting achievable goals all can playimportant roles in becoming successful.

There is no need to worry, If one does not have all the above characteristics, think success is not aheavenly fruit, as if one can only dream of it, everybody can achieve it with various techniques. Onecan set goals and objectives, which may be inherited qualities, however learning some advancedtechniques for success, which can only be learned from schools/people. You have to develop mentalstrength to succeed, which will enable you to recover from setbacks more easily.

There is another side of this coin that lot many people, famous personalities, they can not handle thesuccess suitably - can say success is an catastrophe for them - a bad experience. How to handle thesuccess depends upon the person as an individual i.e. it is a very individual matter. To somebodysuccess is an unexciting aspect, but to somebody it is an energizing factor to achieve more. We

surprise when we hear news about famous people, who suffer from alcoholism, drug abuse andserious emotional problems, we see that success can bring different kinds of discomfort alongwith it.Diego Maradona, Mike Tyson, Princess Diana are perfect examples, facing serious problems whenthey are famous, as if people think they have everything, but suffered at different levels and they feethey are alone in the midst of fame.

First Example Diego Maradona. He is former caption of Argentine football team. He played in fourWorld Cups, won a world cup in 1986, received FIFA Player of the Century and voted in 2000 byFIFA, the best football player of all time surpassing the great footballer ever PELE.

Since the 1990s, Maradona has been battling cocaine addiction, which included spells in Swiss andCuban clinics. After retirement, Maradona spent most of his time in Cuba (can say in hospital), andafter returning to Argentina suddently he suffered a major heart attack following a cocaine overdoseand was admitted to intensive care in a Buenos Aires hospital. After he showed improvement,Maradona was taken off the respirator on April 23 and remained in intensive care for several daysbefore being discharged.

Second example : Diana, Princes of Wales, from the time of her engagement to the Prince of Walesin 1981 until her death after a car accident in 1997, Diana was one of the most famous women in theworld, a pre-eminent celebrity of her generation. During her lifetime, she was often described as theworld's most photographed woman. To her admirers, the Princess of Wales was a role model; Afterher death, there were even calls for her to be nominated for sainthood, while her detractors,consider her to have been suffering from a mental illness; it has been suggested that Diana was,according to one biographer, possibly suffering from Borderline personality disorder. Diana herselfadmitted to struggling with depression, and the eating disorder bulimia, which recurred throughouther adult life.

Third Example is of Mike Tyson. At the height of his fame and career in the late 1980s andthroughout the '90s, Tyson was one of the most recognized sports personalities in the world. Apartfrom his many sporting accomplishments, his outrageous and controversial behavior in the ring andin his private life as well as the drug and alcoholic abuses has kept him in the public eye than hiscareer.

Tyson retired from competitive boxing in 2005. He has since engaged in a series of exhibition boutsin a tour across the US to pay his numerous debts. Despite receiving over US$30 million for severalof his fights and $300 million over his career, Tyson declared bankrupt in 2003. now, Tyson appearsin countless popular media in either cameo appearances or as a subject of parody or satire.

So why these people addicted to drugs, alcohol and suffering from various disorders? And theanswer is "Sometimes people can't handle success" the reasons may be they fear the success andself sabotage their lives, that's what happened to Maradona, Mike Tyson and Princes Diana, therewere throwing the fame away. No one has been able to break through this massive self sabotage. Nowonder that people are afraid of success. To achieve success means need of a lot of self-examinationalong with chances in lifestyle and facelift of our behaviors.

We are NOT just talking about some personalities here; we are talking about every successfulpeople, including you. Success is like a hard rock, not everybody is able to crack or pull it downeasily. Chances are that anybody who tasted the success in any field can face such problems at anymoment of time; it is not a fault of us, but a phenomenon people around the world face.

Satisfaction is an important ingredient of success. For becoming successful, you have to learn to get

satisfied. This often means giving up wanting and longing, two feelings that don't go withsatisfaction.

Let us hope we will not be addicted to the drugs and alcohol like Maradona did, but almost everyoneis limiting his lives because part of him is afraid of success. If it applies to us, then we shouldretrospect that what receding factors and soul searching to know what pulled us back, so that wecan rectify the wrongs and find the rights.

Success requires discipline, determination and a strong belief in oneself. It's a whole lot easier tostay where you are than to move into a new state of being.

Author's Bio:Â

Working with a MNC in India assecretary, a Commerce Graduate,proceeding for MBA (HR) interested inlearning and sharing self improvementarticles among various recepients