SPEECH THAT

PROSPERS

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor

your father and mother"-which is the first commandment with a promise - "that it may go well

with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth."

EPHESIANS 6:1-3

Matt. 12:34 …how can you who are evil say anything good? For out of the overflow of the heart the mouth

speaks.

1. Submit your old goals to the Lord

2. Ask him to give you a heart that wants toPlease him more than impress othersBless others in the moment, not just look out for

yourselfProtect the right things rather than damage

them

RIGHT SPEECH COMES FROM A RIGHT HEART

WRONG GOALS1. Basic: to please

myself2. Get what I want at the

expense of others3. Make people think I

am exceptional & impress others by my…

IntelligencePrestigePower of

personality

RIGHT GOALS1. Basic: to please God2. To build up others

who hear my wordsAccording to their

needBenefitting them

3. To prosper my stewardships: to…

Protect themDo well to them

GOALS FOR MY SPEECH

Eph. 4:29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building

others up according to their needs,that it may benefit those who listen.

1. Think before I speak – Prov. 16:23

2. Select my words – don’t simply let them fly

3. Choose to say only what will benefit those who listen

Build them up – strengthen and grow themIn line with their needs

THE FUNDAMENTAL GUIDELINE:

BUILD UP THOSE WHO HEAR YOU

1. The wise man man’s mouth is a follower, not the leader (Prov. 16:23)

2. We tend to let words gush out, which…Mark us as a fool (Prov. 15:2)Result in sin (Prov. 10:19)Damage us (Prov. 21:23)

3. Stopping the gush improves our reputation(Prov. 17:28)

THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK

1. Ask yourself: Is this occasion a time for…Silence? (Eccl. 3:1,7)Listening? (Prov. 18:13)Giving space? (Prov. 27:14)Letting the other person shine? (Prov. 15:23)Chit-chat? Then encourage (Heb. 10:24)Business? Then operate in truth (Prov. 21:6)Celebration? Don’t instruct, brag or talk tragedySadness? (Prov. 12:25, Rom. 12:15)

SELECT OUR WORDS: WHAT IS FITTING?

1. When you speak, bless.Refresh people (Prov. 10:11)Give them something valuable (Prov.

10:20)

2. Choose words that are a blessing in…Content: words whose meanings fit the

needPackage: in a form that is pleasing (Prov.

25:11)

SAY ONLY WHAT WILL BENEFIT

The Usual Approach

1. Judge2. Instruct3. Probe4. Clarify5. Support

The Wise Approach

1. Support2. Clarify3. Probe4. Instruct5. Judge

RESPONSE PARADIGM

SPEECH THAT

PROSPERS

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