stronger relationships men’s staff retreat. welcome welcome
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Exercise 1: Retreat Check In___________________________________ 1. Greatest personal accomplishment this past year?
2. One thing you’d like to learn in this session on strengthening relationships.
at·ti·tude ˈatiˌt(y)o͞�o͞d/ noun
1. a settled way of thinking o͞r feeling abo͞ut so͞meo͞ne o͞r so͞mething, typically o͞ne that is reflected in a person's behavior.
“But be do͞ers o͞f the wo͞rd, and no͞t hearers o͞nly…”
- James 1:22
pos·i·tive ˈpäzətiv/ no͞un
1. a go͞o͞d, affirmative, o͞r co͞nstructive quality o͞r attribute..
Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are no͞ble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lo͞vely, whatever things are o͞f go͞o͞d repo͞rt, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praisewo͞rthy—meditate o͞n these things. - Philippians 4:8
1. Nonverbal Communication___________________________________
1. Emotional response determined nonverbally: * Albert Mehrabian Studies:
Nonverbal 93% Vocal - 38% Face, Gestures, Body – 55%
Verbal 7%
2. Most replication studies vary, but same results:Nonverbal 60%Verbal 40%
3. Face, voice, and body positioning most impact Face (eye contact, smile) Voice (easy pace, caring) Body (open, relaxed)
Exercise 2a Nonverbal Communication___________________________________
Pair Up: A & B How would people know you were a Christian if you could not speak?
Exercise 2b Nonverbal Communication___________________________________
Pair Up: A & B Talk back to backFace to face without talkingTalk face to face without eye contact Talk face to face with eye contactTalk without smiling / smilingTalk standing / sittingImitate voice of partner “B”
Meta-Communicate
2. Verbal Communication___________________________________
Language of Heaven: “Adds & Multiplies”Language of Hell: “Subtracts & Divides”
1. Acknowledge others:Thank you for…I appreciate your…I admire the way you…I remember the time you…You’ve changed the way I…You’re a Godly example of…
Exercise 3: Appreciating Others___________________________________Group Circle UpEach person will receive a statement. Select one of the following for each brother as he prepares to ask:
“May I receive my statement?”
Thank you for…I appreciate your…I admire the way you…I remember the time you…You’ve changed the way I…You’re a Godly example of…
2. Don’t say negative things about people/work Stick up for others during gossip“That doesn’t sound like the Jason I know…”“May I quote you as the source?”“Get thee behind me, Satan.”
3. Reframe negatives: Changing negative interpretations into positive interpretations:“Mark, another way of looking at this is…”
4. Asking for forgiveness: Admit, Apologize, Ask “I was wrong and I’m sorry. Would you forgive me?”
Exercise 4: Life Line Support ___________________________________
Pair Up: A & B Fill out life line handout.
A shares, B supports / increasesB shares, A supports / increases
Meta-Communicate
Exercise 5: Forgiveness ___________________________________
Asking for Forgiveness: AAA Technique
Admit (“I was wrong…”)
Apologize (“I’m sorry…”)
Ask (“Would you forgive me?”)