supporting the journey: 2012 after school conference
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Supporting the Journey: 2012 After School Conference. Supporting Healthy Relationships Through Conflict Resolution and Lifeskill Development. Laurie Frank, GOAL Consulting. Agenda . INTRODUCTION PREVENTION INTERVENTION INVENTION CLOSING. - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
Supporting the Journey:2012 After School Conference
Laurie Frank, GOAL Consulting
Supporting Healthy Relationships Through Conflict Resolution
and Lifeskill Development
Agenda
• INTRODUCTION• PREVENTION• INTERVENTION• INVENTION• CLOSING
Think about young people with whom you work.
What skills, qualities, and attributes do you want them to have 20 years from now?
VISION•HONEST • CREATIVE•EMPATHETIC • RESPECT•RESPONSIBLE • MOTIVATED•SELF RESPECT • RELIABLE•LITERATE • EMPLOYED•CONFIDENT • HEALTHY•SELF SUFFICIENT•SENSE OF HUMOR•INDEPENDENT•PERSEVERENCE•RESOURCEFUL•PROBLEM SOLVERS•GOOD COMMUNICATOR
•LOYAL • RESILIENT•CARING • PATIENT•HAPPY • AT PEACE•INTEGRITY •
RESOURCEFUL•SUCCESSFUL • CONTRIBUTOR• FORGIVING •GOOD PARENTS•POSITIVE ATTITUDE•WELL-INFORMED•GET ALONG W/ OTHERS•GOOD SELF ESTEEM•CRITICAL THINKER•COMPASSIONATE•PRODUCTIVE CITIZENS
The Container Concept
Not all Containers are Alike
We Have Choices…We have Influence…
What are the qualities of the container in your program?
Between Teacher and ChildI have come to a frightening conclusion. I am the decisive element in the classroom.It is my personal approach that creates the climate.It is my daily mood that makes the weather.As a teacher I possess tremendous power to make a child’s life miserable or joyous.I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration.I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis will be escalated or de-escalated, and a child humanized or de-humanized.
Haim Ginott, 1922-1973
Clinical psychologist,
Child therapist,
Parent educator, and author
PII: Prevention, Intervention, Invention
PII
• Prevention is anything we do to prevent conflict in our programs or to prepare for it before it happens.
• Intervention is responding when conflicts do happen.
• Invention is creating something new and constructive out of the situation.
PREVENTION
INTERVENTION
INVENTION
PBIS Continuum and PII Approach*
* Positive Behavior
Interventions & Supports and Prevention,
Intervention , Invention
PREVENTIONStaff Conversation & Reflection
• Doing some constructive thinking about where conflicts are likely to occur and what can be done to prevent them;
• Setting up ways to handle conflicts when they do occur;
• Consistency – speaking with one voice
PREVENTIONCreating a Safe Container
• Establishing procedures, routines, and norms for common activities;
• Creating a feeling of community and caring;
• Building relationships and a sense of trust;
The Morning Meeting Book, Journey Toward the Caring Classroom,
TRIBES
From Lake View Elementary School, Madison, WI
PREVENTIONSkill Building
• Teaching skills for: - Life Skills- Cooperation- Communication- Expressing Feelings- Appreciating Diversity- Conflict Resolution
Supports Social Emotional Learning (SEL)
See www.CASEL.org
An Incomplete list of Lifeskills… Asking for Help Attentive Listening Caring Choice and Accountability Citizenship Cleanliness Common Sense Communication Conflict Resolution Conservation Cooperation Courage Curiosity Diversity Effort Empathy Endurance
Flexibility Forgiveness Friendship Goal Setting Health Honesty Imagination Inclusion Integrity Initiative Justice Kindness Leadership Loyalty Making Mistakes Mixing Organization
Patience Peacefulness Perseverance Perspective Taking Pride Problem Solving Purpose Relationships Resourcefulness Respect Responsibility Risk Taking Safety Self-Discipline Sense of Humor Trust/Trustworthiness Wisdom
INTERVENTIONDealing with the conflict in ways that: • Solve problems;• Help students to be more independent in their
conflict resolution;• Help students learn from their experiences;• Improve relationships among students as well
as between students and staff.
SEE: Adventures in Peacemaking by Kreidler & Furlong
Reacting
Acting without thinking
Responding
Thinking before we act
PROACTIVE INTERVENTION
• Staying Calm: Resist emotional flooding (using the prefrontal cortex)
• Defusing Anger• De-escalating Conflict• Resolving Conflict
Rather than short-circuiting it
A Problem Solving Process
• A = Ask what is the problem?
• B = Brainstorm possible solutions
• C = Choose one
• D = Do it
• E = Evaluate
Adapted from the Mediation Center, Asheville, NC
INVENTIONUsing conflict productively to:
• Help students learn;• Mobilize support and structure for individual
students• Identify problems, weaknesses and areas of
concern in the classroom;• Identify skills individual students need to
develop in conflict resolution.
Key Invention questions
Is the conflict:• A sign that something is wrong with the program;• A sign students need more skills;• A sign that the program is not well-planned;• A sign that we need to look outside of the program
to address the conflict?
Key Invention questions
• Are there new procedures we need to establish in the program?
• Do we need to revise our procedures or schedules?
• Is our program meeting students’ needs?• Are we planning in a way that prevents
conflict?
“People and environments are never neutral, they are either summoning or shunning the development of human potential.”
Purkey & Novak, Inviting School Success
Laurie FrankGOAL Consulting1337 Jenifer StreetMadison, Wisconsin 53703USA
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