the art of forgiveness

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Study Series

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“A disciple is not greater than his teacher, but everyone when fully trained will be like his teacher”

Luke 6:40

Discipleship Series

Lesson Author K.Brady

Series Part 1 & 2

Forgiveness

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Topics below to be discussed (06/13/12)

What is Forgiveness? Understanding Forgiveness Can We Withhold it? Forgiving Self Forgive and Forget? What happens if I don’t Forgive

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What is forgiveness?

Forgiveness

General Definition - give up resentment of or claim to requital for an insult to grant relief from payment of a debt to cease to feel resentment against (an offender) : pardon …forgive one's enemies

According to the Bible – it means to remit, release, let go or send away.

Also means Freedom, Pardon, Remission, Relieve, Release (aphiemi),(apoluo)

In Bible appears 7 times.

Word “Forgive” appears 56 times.


While non-Christians may have their own steps and formulas on how to forgive, from a Christian perspective it should be easy to understand.

Quite simply, the Bible teaches that if we won’t forgive other people, then God will not forgive us.

Read Matthew 6:14-15 This Seems like a very straight-forward concept, yet many Christians don’t get

this and even when they hear it, they don’t believe it. Forgiveness is pretty black and white. Fundamental Christianity 101; if you don’t understand forgiveness

you don’t understand Christianity.

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Understanding Forgiveness


Two types of forgiveness appear in the Bible:

1. (Divine Forgiveness) - God's pardon of our sins. Conditional upon repentance.

2. (Human Forgiveness) - Our obligation to pardon others. Commanded and Non-Conditional.

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Understanding Forgiveness (Cont)


Read Matthew 18:21-35

Jesus talks about forgiveness by relating a parable about a servant who owed his master a lot of money—let’s say the equivalent of a million dollars. The master comes to collect and the servant begs to be let off the hook because he can’t repay it.

So the master reconsiders, shows mercy and lets him off; erasing the considerable debt that the man owed. But then that very same servant turns around and finds another guy who owes him some small amount let’s say $100. He starts choking the guy, demanding his money, then throws the guy in jail till he pays him what he owes.

When the master hears what the servant did, he calls him back and rebukes him,.

Lets discuss the dynamic between the two.

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The Wicked Servant Parable


You are fooling yourself if you think you can remain bitter and unforgiving toward someone else and have that be okay with God. The Bible warns not to “deceive yourself” and I truly think this is one of the areas that people are full of self-deception.

As Christians one thing that is totally non-negotiable for us is forgiveness.

As Christians we do not have the luxury of remaining bitter, vengeful, unforgiving and holding grudges. I laid out the scriptural commands that instruct us on forgiveness and showed the gravity of the situation when we do not forgive others. Knowing that God will not forgive us if we don’t forgive others is a pretty sobering thought and should be all the motivation we need. Yet we often have difficulty with forgiving those who have transgressed against us and hurt us.

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Lets Not fool Ourselves


The Bible teaches us that God withholds forgiveness towards people who are not repentant.

Read 2 Kings 24:4, Lamentations 3:42, Luke 13:3-5, Acts 17:30, Romans 2:5.

God is able to do this because of His very nature:

He is sinless. He is perfect. He is holy.

God will not tolerate sin.

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God can withhold his Forgiveness, can We??


As Christians we are commanded by Christ to forgive others who sin against us when they are repentant if we are to expect God to forgive us when we sin against Him.

Read Matthew 6:14-15; 18:23-35; Mark 11:25, Luke 17:3-4, Ephesians 4:31-32, Colossians 3:13).

We do NOT nor has God authorized us a license to withhold forgiveness!!!

For us to play God by refusing to offer forgiveness is an act of judgment on our part, and Jesus tells us that God will judge us according to the way we’ve judged others (Matthew 7:2).

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God can withhold his Forgiveness, can We?? (cont)


• Matthew 6:14-15 does not teach that our eternal destiny is based on our forgiving other people; however, it does teach that our relationship with God will be damaged if we refuse to pardon those who have offended us. The Bible is clear that God pardons sin by His grace based on Christ’s work on the cross alone, not on man’s actions.

To be sure, an unforgiving spirit is a sin and should be confessed to God. If we have unforgiveness in our hearts against someone else, then we are acting in a way that is not pleasing to God, making our prayers and a proper living relationship with Him difficult. God will not hear our prayers unless we also show ourselves ready to grant forgiveness.

We should forgive others because God, through Christ, has forgiven us. |

We cannot possibly walk with God in true fellowship if we refuse to forgive others.

It is inconceivable that someone who has truly experienced God's forgiveness could refuse to grant forgiveness to others.!!!!!

Read Ephesians 4:32

ForgivenessWhat Happens if I Don’t Forgive


• When we ask for God’s forgiveness based upon Christ having already paid for our sins and our having trusted in Him as Savior and Lord, He forgives us. Read 1 John 1:9.

• However, even though we are released from the bondage to sin we can still choose to wallow in it and act as though we are not freed from it. Likewise with guilty feelings, we can accept the fact that we are forgiven in Christ, or we can believe the devil’s lie that we are still guilty and should therefore feel guilty. Free Yourselves….Read Romans 8:1

• The Bible says that when God forgives us, He “remembers our sins no more" Jeremiah 31:34. This does not mean that the all-knowing God forgets because He forgives us. Rather, He chooses not to bring up our sin to Himself or others. When our former sins come to mind, we can choose to dwell upon them (with the resulting guilty feelings), or we can choose to fill our minds with thoughts of the awesome God who forgave us and thank and praise Him for it.

• Forgiveness can set you free.

• You may not forget the pain, but forgiveness can break the wall that has been blocking you in life, providing you with more opportunities for love and friendship.

• Read (Philippians 4:8) - Thought Replacement

• Sadly, there are people who don’t forgive themselves because they really don’t want to forget their former sins or they allow the spirit of guilt to take hold and disrupt their connection with the Lord.

ForgivenessForgiving Yourself

How should a Christian deal with feelings of guilt regarding past sins?


Forgiveness is NOT tied to EMOTION!!!!

Many times people have trouble forgiving because they believe that it’s tied to emotions or memory and they think they have to stop feeling or stop remembering in order to forgive. Not true.

The first thing you have to understand about forgiveness is that is has nothing to do with your emotions. You may feel the emotional pain of what that other person did to you till the day you die—it has nothing to do with forgiveness.

Second, forgiveness has nothing to do with erasing your memory. You may remember what that person did to you till the day you die. Forgiveness is simply this: a decision to let it go.

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Forgive and Forget Let it Go! Give it to God in Prayer!!


The Greek word that translates to “forgiveness” is aphieeme,” literally “to send off,” “to release,” or “to let go.” This means forgiveness is the act of sending away incidents that cause offense to brew in us. It means we can’t keep focusing on the wrong done to us.

Forgiveness is an act. This is an example of forgiveness: ‘I forgive you. I will never use it against you in the future. I will never speak of it again to you or to anyone else.”

When you forgive, you decide to release the person from his or her guilt, period. You may remember the offense repeatedly at first. That’s okay. The commitment to forgive a person is a commitment to “send away” the incident every time it reappears in your mind.

Once the apostle Peter asked Jesus, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”

That’s 490 times.

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Forgive and Forget Let it Go! Give it to God in Prayer!!


When a person does something that really hurts you, you will naturally think about it over and

over again. Practicing the principle of forgiving someone 490 times a day means every time you think about what that person did to you, you prayerfully give it to God. The choice to forgive means we keep forgiving. Over time you will find the incident losing strength.

Read Amos 1:3-13 for background on Peters Question.

The Jewish rabbis at the time taught that forgiving someone more than three times was unnecessary,

citing Amos 1:3-13 where God forgave Israel’s enemies three times, then punished them. By offering forgiveness more than double that of the Old Testament example, Peter perhaps expected extra commendation from the Lord. When Jesus responded that forgiveness should be offered four hundred and ninety times, far beyond that which Peter was proposing, it must have stunned the disciples who were listening. Although they had been with Jesus for some time, they were still thinking in the limited terms of the law, rather than in the unlimited terms of grace.

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Forgiveness is NOT tied to EMOTION (Cont.)!!!!


Refusing to forgive another doesn’t make right the wrong, nor does it even the score or supply vengeance. It only hurts the one who refuses to forgive. Unforgiveness is liketaking poison in hopes that the other guy will die. And it is literally like a toxic poison in your body. It will make you sick and destroy you, your life and your relationships Jesus taught that without forgiveness, your very relationship to God is doomed. And I can assure you that without forgiveness, your marriage is doomed.

See, you don’t have to erase your feelings or memories. Forgiveness is not amnesia; it’s intentionally choosing to let the offense go. When God forgives us He never brings it up again. The Bible says he throws it in the sea of forgetfulness.

Do you really think that God can’t remember?

ForgivenessYou have to Let it Go!!!

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