the core dynamics of common problems in parenting! adriana bacelis presenter:
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The Core Dynamics of The Core Dynamics of Common Problems in Common Problems in
PPAARREENNTTIINNGG!!
Adriana BacelisPresenter:
When Parenting doesn’t seem When Parenting doesn’t seem to be a gift but a struggle…to be a gift but a struggle…
Notice what you are thinking… You will Notice what you are thinking… You will discover that there is a reason for your stress:discover that there is a reason for your stress:
You get angry because ___________You get angry because ___________ You worry about ____________You worry about ____________ You feel guilty because ____________You feel guilty because ____________
If you allow yourself, you will notice that it is If you allow yourself, you will notice that it is not really about being a parent… and not really about being a parent… and sometimes it is not about your kids at all.sometimes it is not about your kids at all.
What is it all about?What is it all about?
It is about our background of It is about our background of unresoloved inner conflicts. unresoloved inner conflicts.
An Inner Conflict occurs when we An Inner Conflict occurs when we have a Natural Intention that have a Natural Intention that becomes mixed with our Conditioned becomes mixed with our Conditioned Responses. Responses.
Natural IntentionNatural Intention
Is the expression of our essential Is the expression of our essential nature, of our true self, of who we nature, of our true self, of who we really are.really are.
Conditioned ResponsesConditioned Responses
Are the behaviors that are the Are the behaviors that are the expression of what we have learned expression of what we have learned through our experiences in life, through our experiences in life, they are pre-verbal and pre-they are pre-verbal and pre-cognitive. cognitive.
They have become a part of who They have become a part of who we “think” we are and how we we “think” we are and how we perceive things.perceive things.
Identifications – Identifications – sometimessometimes getting getting the sense of who we are from what we the sense of who we are from what we think we are… and that becomes self think we are… and that becomes self defining. defining.
Unresolved Emotional Pain - Unresolved Emotional Pain - It is It is held in the body because of incomplete held in the body because of incomplete experiences in the pastexperiences in the past
Conditioned Responses are barriers that come from two
basic categories…
This is how it looks like…This is how it looks like… When a desire comes from a Natural When a desire comes from a Natural
Intention, it is valid from the origin… you Intention, it is valid from the origin… you don’t have to justify it or be right about itdon’t have to justify it or be right about it
When a desire comes from a Conditioned When a desire comes from a Conditioned Response, it needs to be validated or Response, it needs to be validated or justified – We have the need to be on the justified – We have the need to be on the “RIGHT” side of a conflict… There is “RIGHT” side of a conflict… There is where we find strugglewhere we find struggle
Just a thought…Just a thought…
““Children seem rebellious because Children seem rebellious because they enjoy breaking arbitrary rules… they enjoy breaking arbitrary rules…
This helps them reconnect with the This helps them reconnect with the truth that authentic power lies not in truth that authentic power lies not in the rules but in themselves.”the rules but in themselves.”
From: The Daily Groove by Scott NoelleFrom: The Daily Groove by Scott Noelle
For a Deeper UnderstandingFor a Deeper Understanding
When we are very little before we When we are very little before we even acquire language, we make even acquire language, we make decisions about ourselves and about decisions about ourselves and about our experience of the world around our experience of the world around us at the level of feeling… This is us at the level of feeling… This is why we call it pre-verbal why we call it pre-verbal conditioning.conditioning.
The Core Dynamics of Common Problems
Trying to Force
An Outcome
Looking forYourself Where
You Are Not
Resisting FeelingThings Fully
Illusions
Struggle Isolation
Frustration
Excluding OtherPerspectives
ManufacturingInterpretations
Over-reactingTo Circumstances
Ignoring YourIntuition
BeingJudgmental
AvoidingThe Present
Mistaking NeedFor Love
ResistingChange
Limiting Self Expression
The Core Dynamics of Common Problems
Trying to Force
An Outcome
Looking forYourself Where
You Are Not
Resisting FeelingThings Fully
Illusions
Struggle Isolation
Frustration
Excluding OtherPerspectives
ManufacturingInterpretations
Over-reactingTo Circumstances
Ignoring YourIntuition
BeingJudgmental
AvoidingThe Present
Mistaking NeedFor Love
ResistingChange
Limiting Self Expression
Need
validation
Ignore our
intuition and
act from fear
of the past or
future…
Need to control
Afraid
to correct
them
My story,
My way
They
push
my
buttons
Guilt
PARENTING!
What Stresses me out listWhat Stresses me out list ImpatienceImpatience Crying and whiningCrying and whining All kind of WorriesAll kind of Worries
Getting in troubleGetting in trouble Low Performance in Low Performance in
school school Negative InfluencesNegative Influences SicknessSickness
Sibling Rivalry Sibling Rivalry
I feel I am invisibleI feel I am invisible My kids seem to be My kids seem to be
deaf they don’t obeydeaf they don’t obey Dealing with boundariesDealing with boundaries
I can’t get them to go to I can’t get them to go to bedbed
My kid wants to skate My kid wants to skate without a helmetwithout a helmet
Free Time ManagementFree Time Management
Why does this work?Why does this work?The Program acts on both… The Program acts on both…
Level of Understanding, Level of Understanding, not just with not just with your intellect but to really be clear “under” your intellect but to really be clear “under” where you are “standing”where you are “standing” Learn what is really causing the problemLearn what is really causing the problem Make a clear distinctionMake a clear distinction between our between our
Conditioned Responses and our Natural Conditioned Responses and our Natural intentionsintentions
Dismantling the habitsDismantling the habits We are conditioned to think that habits are We are conditioned to think that habits are
just there… and that it is very hard to end just there… and that it is very hard to end them or replace them… them or replace them…
What if you could learn THE POWER OF HOW to What if you could learn THE POWER OF HOW to dismantle them through great Techniques that dismantle them through great Techniques that will allow you to act from your “inner knowing” … will allow you to act from your “inner knowing” …
What if you could also be able to teach your kids What if you could also be able to teach your kids how to solve the basis of their own anger, how to solve the basis of their own anger, frustration and fear.frustration and fear.
PARENTING PROGRAM PARENTING PROGRAM PART 1PART 1
Deep understanding of the Core Dynamics Model.Deep understanding of the Core Dynamics Model. Resolve The main conditioned responses that we come up Resolve The main conditioned responses that we come up
with when raising our kids… with when raising our kids… ““My Way” , “Frustration”, “Need external validation” “Ignoring My Way” , “Frustration”, “Need external validation” “Ignoring
my intuition”, “Control Freak” , “Overreaction-Guilt” my intuition”, “Control Freak” , “Overreaction-Guilt”
All sorts of fears and identificationsAll sorts of fears and identifications
Presentation and Practice of The Pure Awareness Presentation and Practice of The Pure Awareness TechniquesTechniques
Will be covered in 8 / 1 hr webinar once a weekWill be covered in 8 / 1 hr webinar once a week
PARENTING PROGRAM PARENTING PROGRAM PART 2PART 2
PPAARREENNTTODDSODDSKids up to 6 years oldKids up to 6 years old
PPAARREENNTKIDSTKIDSKids from 6 – 11 years oldKids from 6 – 11 years old
PPAARREENNTEENSTEENSKids from 12 – 16 years oldKids from 12 – 16 years old
The group will be divided according to kids ages
Coaching Group SessionsWill be covered in 16 / 1hr webinar sessions, 1 session a week for four months
How much does the program How much does the program cost?cost?
Part 1Part 1
$ 295.00 dls.$ 295.00 dls.
Include:Include: 8 - 1 hr. webinar 8 - 1 hr. webinar
sessionssessions
Part 2Part 2
$100.00 dls. a month $100.00 dls. a month
For 4 monthsFor 4 months
Include: Include: 16 – 1 hr. group 16 – 1 hr. group
coaching sessions coaching sessions
When does it start?When does it start?
Morning SessionsMorning Sessions Monday, May 11Monday, May 11thth 11 am to 12 pm PT11 am to 12 pm PT
Evening SessionsEvening Sessions Monday, May 11Monday, May 11thth
8 pm to 9 pm PT8 pm to 9 pm PT
