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The first detailed and intimate study of Irish attitudes to dating, relationships,
love and marriage.
Authors Grainne Barry, Managing Director, AnotherFriend.com
and Sara Kate Hurley, Community Manager, AnotherFriend.com
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Executive Summary
At AnotherFriend.com, we are celebrating in 2011 our 10th birthday, since we set out as one
of the pioneers of Online Dating in Ireland. Today, we are pleased to be the market leaders
in Ireland, with the largest member base from all over the country and abroad. To mark our
10th birthday, we decided to embark on a research project to learn more about current
opinions about love and dating in Ireland. The result is the 2011 AnotherFriend.com
‘Love:Uncovered’ Dating Report, which is the largest and most comprehensive report on
Irish attitudes to dating love and romance in Ireland today.
For most Irish people, dating is not an activity that comes naturally, nor is it a part of our
culture as it is in some other countries. At AnotherFriend.com, we have a curious interest in
the How, What, When & Where of the changing face of love, dating and romance in Ireland
in both these economically-challenging times and in the digital age. The findings of this
report show some very interesting findings and a few surprises too! We hope you enjoy it.
Finally, a very big thank-you to our hundreds of AnotherFriend.com members, who gave up
their time to take part in our survey and give us their valued opinions.
Many thanks,
Gráinne Barry
Managing Director, www.anotherfriend.com
Contact:
For additional information, questions or discussion of findings of Love:Uncovered 2011
contact:
Sara Kate Hurley, Community Manager, AnotherFriend.com
Email: [email protected]
Mobile: +353(0)876559387
Copyright
©Copyright WebDev Ltd, t/a AnotherFriend.com 2011. All rights reserved.
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Introduction
Love: Uncovered is the largest and most detailed report on attitudes to dating,
relationships, love and marriage in Ireland today.
Love: Uncovered provides an in-depth analysis of the minds of Irish singles, and is a primary
source of information on contemporary Irish attitudes to all things love and romance. As the
first report of its kind in the country, it serves as the definitive guide to the love lives of
Ireland's population, and will help to inform both the media and general public about the
trends and tendencies that guide our everyday attitudes to romance.
Love: Uncovered explores a wide range of topics related to the dating industry, including...
Short-Term Dating:
o What do Irish people look for in a date?
o What traits do we find most attractive?
o Are we looking for casual flings or commitment?
Long-Term Romance:
o What does the average Irish love life look like?
o Who are we most likely to stay in a relationship with?
o Are we a nation of cheaters?
Happily Ever After?
o Just how romantic are we, really?
o Are we looking for marriage, or something different?
o Do cultural traditions still hold sway over our love lives?
Love: Uncovered was conducted by AnotherFriend.com, Ireland’s largest dating site, who
have been in business ten years and have extensive experience in the dating world. This
report draws on information collected from a survey of over 1700 men and women from
across the country, and offers an unprecedented insight into the way we think about love
today.
AnotherFriend.com's position as the country's largest dating site means that Love: Uncovered is based on data gathered from a huge user demographic, and reflects the opinions of a broad range of Irish singles. The findings of this report confirm certain ideas that already permeate our culture and more interestingly, uncover other less well known interesting facts, and ultimately create an invaluable resource for media professionals, cultural commentators, and the general public alike. The report consists of nine different chapters, with each chapter concluding with a summary of the key findings by Sara Kate Hurley, Community Manager, AnotherFriend.com.
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Gráinne Barry is the co-owner and Managing
Director of AnotherFriend.com. Gráinne and her
business partner Kevin Greene have grown
anotherfriend.com over the last 10 years to
become Ireland’s largest online dating site, with a
membership base of almost 500,000, and ranking
as one of the busiest websites in Ireland.
Sara Kate Hurley is the Community Manager at
anotherfriend.com, with responsibility for the
company events, public relations and social media.
Sara Kate’s is the face most members would know
in our community from member events through to
Facebook and Twitter.
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Contents
Executive Summary.............................................................................................................................2
Introduction........................................................................................................................................3
1. Dating .............................................................................................................................................6
1A: Which traits make someone the 'ideal date'?............................................................................7
1B: Where do Irish singles like to go for dates? ...............................................................................7
1C: Are Irish singles willing to go long-distance for love ..................................................................8
Sara Kate says .................................................................................................................................9
2. Attraction ..................................................................................................................................... 10
2A: What creates attraction between two people ......................................................................... 11
2B: What kills attraction straight away? ........................................................................................ 11
2C: How far will Irish singles go on a first date .............................................................................. 12
Sara Kate says ............................................................................................................................... 12
3. The Search for Commitment ......................................................................................................... 13
3A: What are Irish singles' reasons for dating? .............................................................................. 14
3B: Does 'The One' exist, and can you fall in love at first sight ....................................................... 14
Sara Kate says ............................................................................................................................... 16
4. Relationship History ...................................................................................................................... 17
4A: What's a 'normal' number of past relationships ...................................................................... 18
4B: How long is 'long-term' ........................................................................................................... 18
Sara Kate says ............................................................................................................................... 19
5. Defining Relationship .................................................................................................................... 20
5A: What kind of long-term partner do Irish singles want? ............................................................ 21
Sara Kate says ............................................................................................................................... 22
6. Staying Faithful ............................................................................................................................. 23
6A: Have many singles cheated in the past? .................................................................................. 24
6B: Will people cheat in the future? .............................................................................................. 25
Sara Kate says ............................................................................................................................... 26
7. Love .............................................................................................................................................. 27
7A: Have Ireland's singles been in love before? ............................................................................. 28
7B: Can people be in love more than once? .................................................................................. 29
7C: What is love? .......................................................................................................................... 29
7D: When do Irish singles say 'I love you' for the first time? .......................................................... 30
Sara Kate says ............................................................................................................................... 31
8. Marriage ....................................................................................................................................... 32
8A: Have many singles been married in the past? ......................................................................... 33
8B: Do many Irish singles want to marry in the future? ................................................................. 33
8C: What are the main reasons for getting married? ..................................................................... 34
Sara Kate says ............................................................................................................................... 34
9. Tradition ....................................................................................................................................... 35
9A: Is marriage important any more? ............................................................................................ 36
9B: What are people's reasons for getting married? ..................................................................... 37
9C: Is the church too heavily involved in marriage? ....................................................................... 38
Sara Kate says ............................................................................................................................... 38
Appendix: Survey Questionnaires
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1. Dating
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1A: Which traits make someone the 'ideal date'?
Traits Female Male
Personality 96.6% 90.9%
Similar interests 76.9% 59.0%
Looks 66.8% 74.5%
Most people chose personality as the most important trait in a date, with looks and similar
interests following quite close behind. This makes a lot of sense, considering their attitudes
to commitment (see section 3.A):
Irish singles are eager to settle down with a serious, long-term partner and therefore
take a practical attitude towards the search for 'the ideal date.
Looks are less important than a compatible personality, which is generally a more
significant factor in the ultimate success of a relationship.
Interestingly, it seems that there's some truth in gender stereotypes when it comes to
dating.
Men place more emphasis on their date's looks, as evidenced in the table above,
while women placed less emphasis on appearance.
At the same time, over 50% of women consider their date's job and financial
position to be important, compared to just under 20% of men.
1B: Where do Irish singles like to go for dates?
First Date Ranking: Women Ranking: Men
Meet for coffee 1 1
Few casual drinks 2 2
Lunch 4 3
Dinner and drinks 3 4
Cinema / bowling 5 5
Double date 6 6
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Despite their desire for serious commitment, the ideal Irish date is a relaxed, informal affair.
It is interesting to note that men and women chose the exact same dates!
Say goodbye to the traditional evening of dinner and drinks, as it features just half-
way down the list of favoured first date locations.
Instead, Irish singles favour a coffee date or a few drinks in the pub, so it would
seem that keeping it casual is the key.
Be careful not to confuse 'casual' with 'childish', though:
Respondents didn't like the 'Cinema / bowling' option, preferring instead to pass the
time in less juvenile surroundings like a café or a bar.
They also disliked immature behaviour, citing double dates as the worst type of first
date.
Singles evidently prefer a partner who is willing to spend some one-on-one time together,
and they don't appreciate those who try to hide their nerves or insecurities behind friends.
1C: Are Irish singles willing to go long-distance for love
Irish singles may be picky about where their dates take place, but they're actually quite
willing to travel for a romantic encounter.
Less than 20% of respondents would restrict themselves to their own city for a
date, while a slightly larger number would be willing to travel nationwide in their
search for the perfect match.
In general, men are happier to travel greater distances for a date – 32% would go
anywhere in the country, compared to just 20% of women.
Similarly, men are more likely to date someone from a different country: 43% said
they would be open to dating people of any nationality.
However, most people said that they'd prefer to have an Irish partner, suggesting that this
flexibility doesn't really extend far beyond national boundaries.
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Sara Kate says:
26% of Irish singles would travel nationwide for a date.
But 64% of them would prefer to date an Irish person.
94% of singles cite personality as the most important trait in a potential partner.
In online dating, personal information and details of what a person is looking for in a date/partner are the most important aspects of an individual's profile.
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2. Attraction
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2A: What creates attraction between two people
Attraction plays a huge part in the success of any first date, but Irish singles can't seem to
agree on what creates this attraction.
Many of them agree on their top 'turn-on's: chemistry and physical attraction.
This suggests that most Irish people are looking for a 'spark' to let them know that
their date is going well.
However, a lot of respondents chose different things as their top turn-ons:
18% chose conversation flow as a top turn-on, and 15% chose flirting.
It seems that attraction is a very individual feeling, and that there is no way of defining it for
everybody.
2B: What kills attraction straight away?
When it comes to turn-offs, on the other hand, people were mostly united in their opinions.
Most people chose lack of personal hygiene, inadequate conversation, and poor
mannerisms as complete attraction-killers on a first date.
Irish singles value maturity and responsibility in a partner; somebody who cannot
look after themselves, or who lacks basic social skills, is unlikely to contribute
positively to a long-term relationship.
Certain things were also bigger turn-offs for one gender than the other:
Women despise being asked to pay for everything.
Men hate dates who talk about past relationships.
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2C: How far will Irish singles go on a first date
46% of women would go no further than a kiss on the lips.
Only 6% would go 'all the way', if the opportunity presented itself.
On the other hand, 38% of men would go as far as they could.
Only 28% would stop at a kiss on the lips.
While men and women clearly have different attitudes to this aspect of dating, the survey
gave no definitive result that sets a standard for first-date behavior.
Sara Kate says:
9% of singles would go no further than a hug on the first date.
70% would kiss on cheek or lips.
20% would do “more, if the opportunity presented itself”.
Just 6% of men would stop at a hug on the first date.
Only 6% of women would go further than a kiss on the lips.
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3. The Search for Commitment
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3A: What are Irish singles' reasons for dating?
While more men than women are looking for casual relationships online,
spontaneous flings don't interest most people.
The majority of single people using online dating sites are actively seeking a
meaningful relationship, disproving many of the preconceptions that surround
online dating.
3B: Does 'The One' exist, and can you fall in love at first sight
Although a large number of people are hoping to find 'The One', Irish singles have mixed
views on the subject in general.
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While a majority do believe that 'The One' exists, a large number of people were
uncertain or dismissed the concept entirely.
Of those who do believe that “the one”, it is interesting that more men believe in “the
one”.
The figures change a little on the subject of love at first sight.
Fewer people believe that you can fall in love with someone the first time you see
them, but the believers are still in the majority.
Interestingly, the number of people who said 'not sure' remained very similar. Maybe those
who aren't sure if soul mates exist are also on the fence about love at first sight.
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On both, accounts, however, men seem to be a little more romantic than women.
A larger percentage of men believe in 'The One' and love at first sight.
Whether or not one perfect person exists for everyone, it's clear that Irish singles are looking
to share their lives with someone – they're in it for the long term.
Sara Kate says
65% of people looking for something meaningful are hoping to find 'The One', while only 35% would settle for a 'serious relationship'.
86% are interested in having a long term relationship in the future, while 6% say they have no desire for one.
Just 8% of people are looking for “no strings attached fun” or a “casual relationship” online.
More men than women believe in 'The One' and love at first sight.
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4. Relationship History
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4A: What's a 'normal' number of past relationships
While 57% of people surveyed claimed single status, 43% said that they were separated,
divorced, widowed, or even married. Their long-term relationship histories are just as varied:
Long Term Relationships Female Male
0 5.80% 9.20%
1 24.70% 27.30%
2 37.20% 35.20%
3 24.60% 17.70%
4 4.80% 6.50%
5 3.00% 4.20%
Most people have had either one, two, or three long-term relationships.
A minority have had none, four, or more than five.
A slightly higher number of men have never been in a long term relationship in the
past.
Using these results, it's difficult to define an 'average' number of relationships. It all depends
on the individual, really.
4B: How long is 'long-term'
Irish singles seem to be a little confused over the definition of a 'long-term relationship'.
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When asked what makes a long-term relationship, the most popular answer was
two years, followed by one year. The least chosen option was six months.
Men seem to be eager to commit to a long term relationship earlier than women.
40% of women would only consider their relationship 'long-term' after two years,
while only 33% of men agree.
More men than women also think that a relationship becomes long-term after just
one year.
Sara Kate says:
7% of Irish singles have never had a long-term relationship.
3% have had more than five long-term relationships.
83% of people using online dating services have had between one and three long-term relationships.
3% of men and 1% of women would consider a relationship to be long-term after just six months.
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5. Defining Relationship
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5A: What kind of long-term partner do Irish singles want?
The table below lays out the nation's ideal relationship partner, in order of top attributes:
Trait Rank
Personality 1
Faithfulness 2
Sexual compatibility 3
Education 4
Financial position 5
Profession / job 6
Personality, faithfulness, and sexual compatibility are key.
These are followed by education, financial position, and profession.
Personality was chosen as the top attribute in a long-term partner by 96% of
respondents.
Irish singles are evidently looking for someone that they can spend quality time with,
rather than a person they are just physically attracted to.
Physical attraction is not to be dismissed, however, as faithfulness and sexual compatibility
came close on the tail of personality:
Faithfulness and sexual compatibility were chosen as top traits by 95% and 92% of
people respectively.
Other attributes were less unanimously admired:
Education was deemed important by 51% of singles, financial position by 45%, and
profession by 38%.
Once again, there was a clear difference in opinion between the sexes:
A partner's job is much more important to women – 51% of them said it was an
important factor in a relationship, compared to just 24% of men.
The same goes for a partner's financial position, which 65% of women and 27% of
men consider important.
Education was valued by 63% of women and just 40% of men.
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Sara Kate says:
54.3% of singles claim that a partner's financial status is not important in a relationship.
62.5% ranked a potential partner's profession as the least important factor in deciding whether or not to enter into a relationship.
Women consider more factors to be important than men, including a partner's job, financial position, and education.
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6. Staying Faithful
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6A: Have many singles cheated in the past?
Faithfulness plays a huge part in the success of any relationship, and its importance is
reflected in Irish attitudes to cheating.
When asked if they had ever cheated in the past, most people answered 'no'.
However, 24% of people (men and women combined) have cheated on their
partners in the past.
A slightly larger number of men have cheated than women, but the gender split is
generally quite even.
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6B: Will people cheat in the future?
It seems that even people who have been untrue to their partners in the past value
faithfulness in the long run.
Just 2.5% of respondents said that they would cheat on a long-term partner in the
future.
88.4% gave a definitive 'no'.
9% of people replied that they were 'unsure' whether or not they would cheat, if
given the opportunity.
Once again, it is interesting to look at the results by gender:
Men are much more likely to consciously cheat in the future.
Most women are determined to stay faithful.
However, even though there are those who aren't bothered by cheating, most people
consider it to be entirely off-limits.
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In response to the question, “Is cheating ever acceptable?” the vast majority said
'no'.
80% of people think that it is never okay to cheat on a partner.
2% of people think that cheating is acceptable.
15% feel that the cheating could perhaps be considered all right on occasion.
A greater number of men answered 'maybe' or 'not sure' — they seem to be less
opposed to cheating in general.
Sara Kate says:
Approximately one-quarter of Irish singles have cheated on their partners in the past.
But just 3% say they would do it in the future.
80% of people think that cheating is never acceptable.
19% think that cheating is okay sometimes, or are 'unsure' whether or not it is ever acceptable.
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7. Love
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7A: Have Ireland's singles been in love before?
Most Irish singles have been in love in the past:
Ireland’s singles are now looking for love again – with over 80% of both men and
women stating they have been in love in the past.
Luckily, the majority believe that it is possible to be in love more than once – an
interesting fact, considering that they also believe in the existence of 'The One' quite
strongly.
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7B: Can people be in love more than once?
Men are slightly less inclined to believe that you can be in love on more than one
occasion, suggesting that they have a romantic side that often goes
unacknowledged in our culture.
Most Irish people think that there is more than one person out there with whom
they can fall in love.
7C: What is love?
When it comes to defining what love is, there are three statements that were strongly
agreed with:
Love is about being caring and understanding (96% agreement)
When you love someone, it might take work, but it will always be worth it in the
end (87% agreement)
Being in love means wanting to spend the rest of your life together (84%
agreement)
While both sexes agreed with these statements, women were much clearer about what they
believe love is not.
When you love someone, everything is perfect (18% agreement)
Love should be full of surprises and gifts that show me how much the person loves
me (27% agreement)
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Men were much more inclined to agree with the above statements:
33% of men believe that love is perfect.
46% believe that love should be full of material expressions of affection.
Despite this, it's clear that most people believe that love is:
A strong emotional bond, which is expressed through a willingness to be “caring and
understanding” and to work through any rough patches together.
7D: When do Irish singles say 'I love you' for the first time?
Opinions are varied on when it's acceptable to say “I love you” for the first time.
Almost 50% would say it a few months into a relationship.
But the opinions of the other half are significantly different:
20% of people would wait a full six months to tell their partner that they love them.
22% would wait longer than that – some even more than a year.
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On this subject, the male romantic side shows through once again:
4% of men would say it after a few weeks, which is more than double the number of
women who would do the same.
Women are inclined to wait longer to express their love; 45% of them would wait six
months or longer, compared to just 39% of men.
Sara Kate says:
81% of Irish people have been in love before.
Just 2% of singles believe that you can only be in love once.
More men than women believe that you can only love one person.
Fewer women than men believe that love should involve lots of presentgiving.
Most Irish singles would say “I love you” within six months of entering a relationship.
42% of people would wait six months or longer to tell their partner that they loved them.
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8. Marriage
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8A: Have many singles been married in the past?
A large number of men and women using online dating services have been married in the
past, and many of them are looking to marry again in the future.
The majority, however, have never been married before, and this is the case for more men
than women.
8B: Do many Irish singles want to marry in the future?
Almost half of Ireland's singles would like to marry in the future.
Most of the other half are 'unsure' of what their intentions are.
Both genders expressed roughly the same opinion regarding their plans for the future.
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8C: What are the main reasons for getting married?
Faithfulness plays a huge part in the success of any relationship, and its importance is
reflected in Irish attitudes to cheating.
Top reason for marrying? Female Male
Want to spend rest of life with partner
74.8% 71.3%
The overwhelming majority believe that the top reason for getting married is
wanting to spend the rest of your life with your partner.
The second most popular reason for marriage, “To strengthen the relationship”,
gained only 9% of votes.
The third, “Want children, and should be married to their mother/father”, was
selected by just 7% of respondents.
Just 10% of voters chose any of the options which ranked below this.
Sara Kate says:
43% of people using online dating services have been married in the past.
38% of Irish singles don't know if they'd like to marry in the future.
73% of people would get married because they want to spend the rest of their lives together.
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9. Tradition
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9A: Is marriage important any more?
Even though a large number of people would like to get married in the future, it seems that
marriage is no longer the institution that it once was. Voters were asked if they thought that
marriage was important, and most were quite unsure.
Even though a large number of people would like to get married in the future, it seems that
marriage is no longer the institution that it once was. Voters were asked if they thought that
marriage was important, and most were quite unsure.
Men were slightly more likely to think that marriage is 'important' or 'very
unimportant'
Women favoured the 'very important' or 'unimportant' options.
This shows a more positive attitude to marriage on the part of women, who are more likely
to agree strongly with it ('very important') or to disagree non-emphatically with it
(considering it simply 'unimportant'). Men, on the other hand, are more likely to put
emphasis on their negative opinions ('very unimportant'), or to indicate less enthusiastic
approval (just 'important').
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Overall, 42% of respondents said that marriage is 'neither important nor
unimportant' to them, making it the single most-chosen option.
They are, however, outnumbered by the 45% of people who think that marriage is
either 'important' or 'very important'.
Just 16% think that marriage is 'unimportant' or 'very unimportant'.
9B: What are people's reasons for getting married?
People's reasons for marrying also indicate a change in traditional attitudes.
73% of people would get married because they want to spend the rest of their lives
together.
Three of the four least popular options were aligned with tradition:
Reason for marrying Female Male
Religious beliefs 1.20% 1.60%
Parents/family expect it 0.70% 1.50%
Peers & friends doing it 0.30% 0.40%
Just 1% of singles would marry for religious reasons.
Ireland's singles are no longer concerned with being joined 'in the eyes of the Lord', but are
more interested in making a personal, emotional decision to spend their lives with the
person they love.
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9C: Is the church too heavily involved in marriage?
Irish people think that the church is too heavily involved in marriage. When asked if the
church should continue to be involved in marriage, the answer was a resounding 'no':
More than half of the voters believe that church involvement in marriage should
stop.
29.1% of total respondents are unsure of their feelings.
Just 17.6% of people think that marriage should continue to be a religious
institution, in direct opposition to Ireland's strong Catholic traditions.
Sara Kate says:
42% of Irish people think that marriage is 'neither important nor unimportant'.
More women than men think that marriage is 'important' or 'very important'.
Only 1.3% of people would marry for religious reasons.
Just 17.6% of people think that the church should be involved in marriage.
AnotherFriend.com would like to gain your insights and opinions on dating, relationships, love and marriage in Ireland!
The findings of this survey will be used to develop a national report, entitled 'Love: Uncovered', which will provide useful information about what single people out there think!
It will take approx 5 minutes to complete the survey.
Thank you in advance for your time
The AnotherFriend.com Team
1. Introduction-Section 1 of 5
1. Gender
2. Which age category do you fall into?
3. In which Province do you live?
4. In which Irish County do you live?
5. What is your Maritial Status?
6. Are you in a relationship?
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Connacht
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Leinster
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Ulster
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Single
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Separated
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Divorced
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Widowed
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No
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7. Do you have any children?
8. Are you interested in?
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If yes, how many?
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2. Dating- Section 2 of 5
1. What was your main reason for joining AnotherFriend.com?
2. When viewing an individual's online profile, please indicate the importance of the each of the following:
Very Important ImportantNeither Important
nor UnimportantUnimportant Very Unimportant
Information on type of
person they are
interested in/looking
for
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3. In looking for potential dates, how important are the following?
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4. When asking for a date, who should ask?
5. Please state your preferences for a first date, where 1= Most Suitable and 6= Least Suitable.
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6. What Nationality would be your preference when choosing a date?
7. In your opinion, what is the biggest turn off when on a date?
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Talking about previous dates/relationships
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Leaving you pay for everything
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Poor mannerisms e.g. texting, on the phone
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Lack of conversation/date being too quiet
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Lack of personal hygiene e.g body odour
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Other (please specify)
8. What is the biggest attraction for you when on a date? i.e. would encourage you to go on a second date with the person?
9. How far would you go on a first date?
10. How far would you be willing to travel for a date with another person?
Complimenting you on your appearance/looks
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Your date showing interest/flirting with you
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Personal Hygiene e.g. clean and well groomed appearance
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Physical Attraction/Chemistry between you both
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Constant flow of conversation
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Offering to pay or split the bill
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Other (please specify)
Hug
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Kiss on cheek
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Kiss on lips
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More (if the opportunity presented itself)
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Same area e.g. North Dublin
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Same city
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Town or city nearest to you
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Within the region e.g. Munster
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Nationwide e.g. anywhere in Ireland
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3. Relationships- Section 3 of 5
1. How many long term relationships have you had in the past?
2. What length of time would you consider to be a long term relationship?
3. Are you interested in having a long term relationship in the future?
4. When considering a long term relationship with someone, how important are the following:
Very important ImportantNeither Important
or UnimportantNot Important Very Unimportant
Approval from my
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Location (live relatively
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Personal
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Physical
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5. Have you ever cheated on a partner in the past?
None
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Yes
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No
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Not Sure
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Yes
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No
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6. Do you think you would cheat on a partner if you were in a long term, serious relationship?
7. Do you think cheating is acceptable?
Yes
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No
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Not Sure
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Yes, as long as nobody knows
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No, definitely not
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Maybe, it depends on the situation/circumstances
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Not Sure
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4. Love-Section 4 of 5
1. Do you believe that you have been 'in love' in the past?
2. How long should you be with someone before telling them you love them?
3. Do you think it is possible to be 'in love' more than once in your life?
4. Do you believe in the 'One'/Soulmates?
5. Do you believe in 'Love at 1st Sight'?
Yes
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No
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Not Sure
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A few weeks
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A few months
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Over 6 months
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Between 6-12 months
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1 year +
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Other (please specify)
Yes
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No
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Not sure
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Yes
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No
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Not Sure
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Yes
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No
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Not Sure
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6. Please describe your beliefs about love by stating your agreement or disagreement with the following statements:
Strongly Agree AgreeNeither Agree nor
DisagreeDisgaree Strongly Disagree
Being in love means
wanting to spend the
rest of your life with
that person
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If you love someone
you will overcome any
barriers (financial etc)
you may face
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Love is about being
caring and
understanding
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Love should be full of
surprises and gifts
which show me how
much the person loves
me
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When in love you will
do anything for that
person and give them
anything they want
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When you are in love
with someone the
romantic 'chemsitry'
will always be there
between you
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When you love
someone everything is
perfect
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When you love
someone it might take
some work sometimes
but it will always be
worth it
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5. Marriage- Section 5 of 5
1. Have you ever been married?
2. Do you think you would like to marry in the future?
3. How important is marriage to you?
4. If you were to marry, what would be your main reason for doing so?
5. Do you think the church should be involved in marriages?e.g. pre-marriage courses, choice of songs during ceremoney etc
Yes
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No
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If yes, how many times?
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No
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Not Sure
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important nor
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Financial Stability/Security
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It would strengthen the relationship
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Friends/Peers are married
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I want to have a Big Day out!
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I want to spend the rest of my life with the person
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Parents/Family members would expect it
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Religious beliefs
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I want children so feel I should/must be married to the father/mother of my child/children
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Legal entitlements
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Yes
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No
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Not Sure
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