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THE GRAPEVINE

The President’s Message

Love Thy Neighbor – Life Matters

Domestic violence is a hidden plague on our families and communities.

Those who are victimized often keep it a private matter for various reasons:

fear, shame, well-intended efforts to preserve the family. Aggressors, if

they even recognize their problem, are not likely to have it addressed. Yet it

touches many, and knows no boundaries of race, social class, ethnicity,

creed or age (most victims are first abused as teens). Statistics suggest one

in four women experience domestic violence in their lifetime, and three in

four Americans are reported to know a victim, though most episodes are not

reported to the authorities. Although the majority of victims are female, an

estimated 15% are males.

Domestic violence and emotional abuse are typically used together in a rela-

tionship to control the victim. Persons may be married, living together, or dating.

Examples of emotional abuse include name-calling, putdowns, restricting contact

with family or friends, withholding money, preventing a partner from working,

actual or threatened physical harm (hitting, pushing, shoving), sexual assault,

stalking, and intimidation. How vital it is to understand how to keep family

members safe from violence in their homes, and how to heal and reunite families

where violence has occurred, when possible. Continued page 2

WHERE: St. Francis’ Church 509 South Rosemont Rd. Virginia Beach, Virginia 23452 WHEN: May 19, 2018 TIME: 9:30 A.M. Registration & (Coffee & etc.) COST: $20.00 MEETING: 10:00 A.M. Guest Speaker: To Be Announced (Domestic Abuse) Please respond if attending by May 12th. Please let us know if your have special dietary requirements.

Tia Morings, 2031 Indian Point Road ,

Suffolk, VA 23434 757-934-6108 (home)

Back Row, L. to R. Tia Morings, Dr. Angela Parker, Laura L. Manigault,

Helen Sharpe-Williams, Deborah Austin and Louise Boss.

Front Row, L. to r. Nancy Smith, Stephanie H. Kendall, Maureen Fuster,

Ronda Toll, Sharon Goforth and Rose Parker

Episcopal CHURCH WOMEN Spring 2018

Episcopal Diocese of Southern Virginia

Inside This Issue

• President’s Message continued

• Getting to Know Board Members

• The Treasurer’s Report

• Women-to-Women

• First Vice President’s Report

• Church Periodical Club News’

• Women’s Lenten Retreat

• United Thank Offering News

• Scholarship Application Form

• ECW Calendar

• New ECW at St. Aidan’s

The deadline to apply for the

Elise Holladay and Beverley D.

Tucker Scholarships is April 26,

2018. Use the same form to apply

for either scholarship available at

diosova.org, and on the Page 9.

ECW At Council

2018 Yearbook & Directory Available

The 2018 ECW Yearbook and Directory is now available. To receive

your copy, contact the Diocesan Communications Officer, Ann Turner,

aturner@diosova.org or 757-213-3388. (The ECW directory is not posted on

the diocesan website due to privacy concerns.)

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The President’s Message continued from the Front Page

Ann Allen, Prayer and Worship Chair

Ann Allen said yes when Helen Sharpe-Williams

asked her to join the ECW Diocesan board aa Prayer

and Worship Chair. Ann was installed at the Fall Annu-

al Meeting, Nov. 4.

This is Ann’s first term on the ECW Diocesan

Board. She has been a member of Grace Church since

1972. She is a past president of the Grace Church ECW,

she has served on the church’s breakfast team and is a

member of St. Julia Guild.

Ann is single and has two children, Michael and

Michelle.

Deborah Austin,

Deborah Austin was installed as the nominating

committee chair at the Fall Annual Meeting, Nov. 4.

Deborah also serves as the Church Periodical Club

Chairperson.

At St. Mark’s she accompanies the priest to homes

to administer communion to the sick or shut ins; assigns

lectors to read and assigns hymns for Sunday services.

She is also the parish life coordinator, a lay reader, eu-

charistic minister, choir member, co-chair hospitality

and keeps the bulletin boards and décor in the parish

hall up-to-date.

Previously, on the ECW Diocesan Board, she has

served as Prayer and Worship Chair and Student Work

Chair on the ECW Diocesan Board.

She has served as president and secretary of St.

Mark’s ECW.

Deborah is married to Kenneth Austin. They have

two sons - Brad and Kyle; and four grandchildren—

Noelle, Trey, Kendall and Kai.

Deborah is also a dedicated Daughter of the King.

(DOK). “I decided to serve on the ECW Board because

I am a servant for the Lord.,” she said. “I also try to

abide by the DOK motto.”

The DOK Motto

For His Sake...

I am but one, but I am one.

I cannot do everything,

but I can do something.

What I ought to do

by the grace of God I will do.

Lord what will you have me do?

Getting to Know Board Members

This is especially true because as abused persons

they are often plagued by feelings of shame, fear, and

depression, and have lost sight of the essential fact of

their dignity and worthiness to be loved. At times they

may also make decisions that cause an observer (family

member or friend) to question their judgement, or be-

come frustrated with them for remaining in what seems

to be an obviously dangerous or hopeless situation.

It is commonly accepted that domestic violence is

rarely an isolated incident, but is a pattern of behavior

aimed at establishing and maintaining power and con-

trol over another. The pattern is typically described as a

“cycle of violence,” and the seriousness escalates with

each occurrence. The “cycle” begins with a “set-up”

phase: The abuser creates a situation in which the vic-

tim has no choice but to react in a way that, in the abus-

er’s mind, justifies the abuse. After the violence, the

abuser may fear being held accountable, and so may

apologize or make excuses for his or her behavior,

pledge to never do it again, or use gifts as a way of cop-

ing with guilt or preventing the victim from telling.

Next, however, the abuser may excuse the incident as

the victim’s fault, or resume “life as usual” as if nothing

happened. The abuser expects that the victim will par-

ticipate in the cover-up.

If you believe someone you know may be in a trou-

bled situation, you should call a hotline number for as-

sistance, or encourage the person to do so themselves.

“Offer forgiveness and receive peace…. I know

well that it is hard, and sometimes even appears to be

impossible to forgive, but it is the only way, because all

revenge and all violence give rise to further revenge and

violence. It is certainly less difficult to forgive when

one is aware that God never tires of loving and forgiv-

ing us… Let us never forget that everything passes, and

only “the eternal can fill the heart.”

Helen Sharpe-Williams,

ECW President, Diocese of Southern Virginia

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United Thank Offering (UTO) $ 791.00

2017 Council Collection

Church Periodical Club (CPC) $ 529.00

Miles of Pennies (CPC) $ 409.28

Dos Santos $ 72.50

Parish/Individual Contributions

Holy Cross Anglican School, Belize $ 652.00

Endowment Interest

Malawi Scholarship $ 2,000.00

Women-to-Women Scholarship $ 2,200.00

Bishop Tucker Memorial Fund

Jackson Field Homes $3,398.00

Little Roses—Honduras $ 4,307.00

Louisa Taylor Letcher Endowment

Elise Holladay Scholarships $9.,400.00

Flora A. Penick Fund

Parish donations

Book of Remembrance

Boys Home Graduation Gifts $ 500. 00

Jackson Field Graduation Gifts $ 1,000.00

God Bless the Children

Chanco Scholarship $ 570,00

Women—to –Women $11,684.00

Donations and Savings

2017 ECW Diocesan Budget $1,313.00

Dues Donations to 2017 Diocesan Budget

in the adjacent column.

TOTAL Donations—$38,576.75

Sixteen churches across the Diocese submitted dues during 2017 for a total of $1,717. Of that total, one third, or,

$568, was credited to Administrative Expenses. Two thirds, or $1,131, was distributed through the ECW Diocesan

Budget. as recommended by the Finance Committee and approved by our membership at the Fall Annual Meeting.

See the budget in the left column. Special donations funded by parish contributions and our endowments for 2017

are shown in the right hand column.

ECW Diocesan Budget Diocese

$169.65 15% Chanco on the James —

$169.65 15% Department of College Ministries

This commission helps guide ministry initiatives for college-

age persons in Southern Virginia, manages the Bishop Vaché

Scholarship Fund and provides peer support for the campus

chaplains and Canterbury Club programs of the diocese.

$67.86 6% Jackson-Feild Homes - Jackson

Feild Homes provide at-risk adolescent youth ages 13—21

with basic human services, counseling and education in a

caring residential environment.

$79.17 7% Boys Home of Virginia - Provides

positive role models and a supportive quality of life. Show-

ing each boy that each day is a step toward their success.

$135.72 12 % Dos Santos—This food pantry program

serves the Latino/Hispanic immigrant and migrant farm

worker population on the Eastern Shore of Virginia.

$135.72 12% Mission of the Holy Spirit -This

program offers spiritual, educational, and psychosocial ser-

vices to at-risk, inner-city children, adolescents, and their

families in Norfolk, VA.

Nation

$79.17 7% Washington National Cathedral

Preservation Fund—Supports Cathedral ministries, pro-

grams, and all the work of restoration and renewal that takes

place at the Cathedral.

World

$113.10 10% “With These Hands” Holy Cross

Anglican School, Belize—provide meals for students.

$113.10 10% Episcopal Relief & Development—The

international relief and development agency of the Episcopal

Church.

$67.86 6% Women-to-Women - A ministry

linked with efforts being made by the national Episcopal

Church to help the Anglican Church of the Province of the

Democratic Republic of Congo rehabilitate women who are

victims of the war-related violence in their country.

The Treasurer’s Report Betty Mariner, ECW Diocesan Treasurer

Special Donations—2017

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2017 ECW Diocesan Budget

Diocese

15% Chanco on the James

15% Dept of College Ministries

12% Dos Santos

12% Mission of the Holy Spirit

6% Jackson-Feild Homes

7% Boys Home

Nation

7% Washington National Cathedral

World

10% Episcopal Relief & Development

10% Holy Cross Belize

6% Women-to-Women

2018 ECW Diocesan Budget

Diocese

15% Chanco on the James

15% Dept of College Ministries

12% Dos Santos

12% Mission of the Holy Spirit

16% Love Thy Neighbor

7% Boys Home

Nation

7% Washington National Cathedral

World

10% Episcopal Relief & Development

6% Women-to-Women

2018 ECW Diocesan Budget

The Finance Committee prepared the 2018 Diocesan

Budget. The budget was presented at the Fall Board

Meeting and the board voted to accept the new budget.

See below.

Treasurer’s Report continued

2017 Donations as of 12/31/17

Apply Now for

ECW Scholarships The deadline to apply for the Elise Holladay and

Beverley D. Tucker Scholarships is April 26, 2018.

Use the same form to apply for either scholarship avail-

able at diosova.org, and on the Page 9.

Convocation I $69.00

All Saints, S Hill $60.00

Christ & Grace, Petersburg $697.00

Christ Church, Danville $100.00

CPC $85.00

Dos Santos Contribution $72.50

Eastern Shore Chapel $125.00

Emmanuel, Jenkins Bridge $257.00

Goodwin Bentley, Williamsburg $100.00

Grace, Norfolk $520.00

Redeemer, Midlothian Dues $105.00

St Cyprian's, Hampton $649.00

St Georges, Pungoteague $75.00

St James, Portsmouth $80.00

St Monica, Richmond $60.00

St. Augustine's, Newport News $334.00

St. Anne's, Appomattox $60.00

St. Christophers, Portsmouth $104.28

St. James, Warfield $146.00

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Women-to-Women for Congo: Congo Guest for PIRD By Susan Broaddus, Women-to-Women

This year W2W is supporting PIRD, an indigenous

NGO or non-governmental organization, which stands

for the Program in Ituri for Rehabilitation and Develop-

ment. It was founded ten years ago by Mme Esperance

Kungoza who holds a degree in economics and works in

the US Embassy in Kinshasa where she oversees the fi-

nancial side of an AIDS program. We just learned that

she will be in the States in April and she has blocked off

April 14 – 16 to visit us!!! She will speak at the Adult

Forum at Christ & St. Luke’s at 9 AM on April 15th.

Do plan to come!

PIRD focuses on women and girls, survivors of gen-

der based violence in the region of Ituri who need coun-

seling and education. Some choose to finish their

schooling, others prefer to learn a trade such as tailoring

or hairdressing. Of the 15 young women we are help-

ing, those who are in school are assured of their school-

ing through June. Many are asking to be supported in

the coming years so that they might earn their diplomas.

We have raised almost all of the $5,125 we committed to

and need only $791 to complete the first amount.

We are asking individuals, small groups, and parish

outreach committees for gifts ranging from $200 - $350,

but any amount will be gladly accepted! Please have

checks made out to the ECW and sent to Susan Broad-

dus, 1323 Lafayette Blvd., #1, Norfolk, VA 23509.

In northern Ituri Province near the Uganda border

fighting has broken out causing masses of internally dis-

placed persons to run to safety. Last week the number

in already exhausted Bunia doubled to over 85,000 with

more coming. Churches and NGOs are scrambling to

feed, clothe and house them. Rainy season has just start-

ed. Hospitals and health centers have depleted their re-

sources. The fighting continues, and when it ends, these

people have burned-out houses and villages to return to

minus their family members and friends who have died.

Above all, pray! And where you can, please contribute.

– Susan Tent City in Bunia, Ituri, Democratic Republic of the Congo. Some-times eight persons live in a 2-meter square shelter.

News alert : March 11, 2018

Mme Esperance Kungoza Will Speak at Christ and St. Luke’s at 9 a.m. April 15.

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Church Periodical Club Report Deborah Austin, CPC Chairperson

The following churches contributed to the Church

Periodical Club since our Fall meeting: St. Cyprian,

Emanuel, Jenkins Bridge, St. James, Warfield, Christ

& Grace, Petersburg and Grace, Norfolk.

Available for distribution are brochures and other

Church Periodical Club materials. May is nationally

known as CPC month in most Episcopal Churches.

• Attended Women Retreat December 2, 2018 at

Chanco. It was an uplifting experience as well as

informative to be there among our sisters in Christ.

• Hosted the Convocation V pre-council meeting on

January 23, 2018 at St. Cyprian’s Episcopal Church.

• Attended Absalom Jones Day services at Grace

Episcopal Church, Norfolk VA on February 10,

2018 to an inspirational service by Rev. John T. W.

Harmon along with a symposium on Violence and

Church Safety which has become necessary because

of the conditions our society is at present. It stimu-

lated many suggestions that we could institute in my

parish. We, however; have already installed panic

buttons strategically around the church and plan to

along with the Junior Warden conduct fire and panic

drills for the parishioners soon.

• Attended the 126th Annual Diocesan Council Meet-

ing- theme “Fear and Love in a Divided World” on

February 16-17, 2018. in Williamsburg, VA. Key-

note speaker was Scott-Bade-Saye, the theme was

“Following Jesus in a Culture of Fear” It was indeed

a new approach to looking at life as we continue in

our spiritual journey; to look at love as our priority

in life for all instead of our personal safety. Our

president delivered a dynamic, heartwarming and

inspiring presentation, leaving us with challenges for

the future of ECW.

• I plan to attend the 99th Province III ECW Annual

meeting in Martinsburg, West Virginia May 6-7,

2018. Theme “Go! Share the Word: Every day Co-

municamos, Everywhere.”

Chanco on the James is proud to offer Women’s

Retreat Day in Lent. This year’s theme, Spiritual

Disciplines as a Path to Joy, explores some of the rich

offerings of the monastic tradition and how these tools

of prayer and spiritual development may open new ave-

nues for personal growth and celebration. The retreat

will offer an arts workshop and plenty of opportunities

for reflection and fellowship. Open to all women ages

18 and older who would seek to enhance their experi-

ence of Lent, the event will take place on Saturday,

March 24, 9:00 a.m.-4:00 p.m. The cost for the day is

$35, which includes luncheon and an afternoon

tea. You may also choose to arrive on Friday, March

23 at 7:00 p.m. to take part in additional programs at

our Overnight Retreat for $95, which includes accom-

modation in our retreat lodges, breakfast on Saturday

morning, as well as the Saturday program.

Scholarships (sponsored by the ECW of the Diocese

of Southern Virginia) are available. To register: https://

chanco.org/event/womens-lenten-retreat. For assistance

with your registration and information about the schol-

arship, please contact Ronda Toll at 757-869-8873 or

rtoll@cox.net.

First Vice President Report Laura L. Manigault, First Vice President

Women’s Retreat Day in Lent Chanco on the James

Welcome to St. Aidan’s, VA Beach New ECW

Last year, thanks to

Kathy Benson, the

women of St. Aidan’s

began meeting for lunch

once a month. Now we

have restored ECW to

life at St. Aidan’s.

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Province III

Navajoland Pilgrimage Several members of the UTO Execu-

tive Board, in addition to members of The Episcopal Church organizations, are work-ing together to organize a fall 2018 pil-grimage to Navajoland. This pilgrimage will be open to the entire Episcopal Church. “The planning group will review TEC’s presence in Navajoland and the ministry efforts made thus far and visit the people of the Diocese as well as UTO grant sites.” More information and de-tails will be presented at General Convention.

Events at Triennial Much is being planned for Triennial in Austin, TX,

from July 4-11. Workshops, raffles, giveaways, and many other UTO materials will be available. Please visit the UTO website to see an array of items promoting UTO; however, many new items, such as the Julia Chester Emery crosses, stress cubes, and prayer cards, will not be available until Triennial. Ronda Toll, dioce-san UTO coordinator, will be selecting materials based on your prior orders to her.

Ingathering Eucharist

One of the traditional events at Triennial and Gen-eral Convention is the Ingathering Eucharist. Each dioc-esan coordinator will present an accounting of the amount of UTO Ingathering funds collected during the Triennium (2015-2017). Then, a total amount for each province will be announced. At the 2015 Triennial, Province III came in a close second to Province IV.

Province III ECW and Synod In preparation for Triennial and General Conven-

tion, Province III ECW and Synod will meet at the Holi-day Inn in Martinsburg, WV, May 6-8. ECW’s meeting will adjourn on Monday after a business meeting and elections. The schedule for Synod has not been an-nounced, but “election of officers and other key posi-tions will occur at the Provincial Synod,” which will adjourn on Tuesday, May 8, at 3 p.m.

Joyce E. Haines

Province III UTO Representative

Diocese of Southern Virginia Many Thanks for Your Contributions The ECW sends out a heart-felt “thank you” to everyone who donated to the United Thank Offering in 2017. A total of

$31,154.78 was collected for UTO in 2017. $26,890.98 was collected in the Spring and $4,263.80 was collect-ed in the Fall. Here’s more happy news……donations for 2018 have already started coming in! $2,940.44 has been collected for 2018. This number includes $959.97 collected in the Blue Boxes at February’s Annual Council in Williamsburg. This number is up from $791.83 collected at Council last year. Again, thank you!!

Donations collected during April and October 2018 In-gatherings throughout the Diocese may be mailed as follows:

Ronda Toll, UTO Coordinator 42 Cherbourg Drive Newport News, VA 23606 Contact Ronda at 757-869-8873 or rtoll@cox.net

with any questions or requests for UTO materials. Do-nations are collected for UTO throughout the year. 2018 donations will be collected until December 10, 2018.

Blue Box Offering Prayer The National UTO Board has created a simple

prayer (memorable and easy enough for children to recite) that can be said when making an offering in a Blue Box. Here’s the 2018 prayer:

Almighty God, I give you praise

for blessing me in many ways. Create in me a grateful heart and with this gift, a blessing start. Amen.

Save the Dates

March 23 – 24 Women’s Retreat in Lent at Chanco on the James.

See page 6 for more information. April 14 (Open House from 11 am to 4 pm)

Rev. Kathie Price’s “Peacock House” Home Tour to benefit the Campaign for Chanco April 15 at 3 pm

Celebration Concert at Emmanuel, Hampton to benefit the Campaign for Chanco

Contact Ronda Toll at 757-869-8873 or

rtoll@cox.net for more details on any of these events.

United Thank Offering News

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2018 ECW CALENDAR

Feb. 16-17 Diocese of Southern Virginia 128th Annual Diocesan Council Williamsburg Lodge, Williamsburg, VA

March 10 Diocesan ECW Spring Board Meeting Christ Episcopal Church

The Rev. Michael Stone

16401 Court Street

Amelia, VA 23002

804-561-2441

April IN GATHERING: UNITED THANK OFFERING, UTO

May IN GATHERING: CHURCH PERIODICAL CLUB, CPC

May 19 Diocesan ECW Annual Spring Meeting St. Francis Episcopal Church The Rev. Conor Alexander 509 South Rosemont Rd. Virginia Beach, VA 23452

757-340-6884

Louisa Taylor Letcher Observance will be held at Annual Spring Meeting

September 8 Diocesan ECW Fall Board Meeting

Grace Episcopal Church

The Rev. Harold James Cobb, Jr.

1400 East Brambleton Ave.

Norfolk, VA 23504

757-625-2868

October IN GATHERING: UNITED THANK OFFERING, UTO

October 20 Diocesan ECW Fall Annual Meeting St. Cyprian’s Episcopal Church The Very Rev. Dr. Ronald E. Ramsey 1242 West Queen St. Hampton, VA 23669-0065

757-723-8253

Weekly Enews—Sign up online at diosova.org and

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from around our diocese in weekly newsletters.

Diocesan Enews distributed on Wednesday, includes

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Turner, aturner@diosova.org.

Parish Enews distributed Tuesday

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newsletter available for individuals and churches to

receive via email. If you have news you would like

included in the Diocesan Connection, or would like to

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Turner, aturner@diosova.org. The next deadline is

June 1, 2018

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ter available for individuals and churches to receive

via email We appreciate your help sharing the news.

If you have news you would like included in The

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Where to Find & Share ECW News

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Elise Holladay Scholarship Application

For young men and women who want to further their education.

Beverley D. Tucker Scholarship Application For men and women who seek education in an accredited Episcopal Church training school.

Requirements for application:

The applicant must be a communicant of the Diocese of Southern Virginia. The applicant must have at least a “B” or 2.75 cumulative GPA on a 4.0 scale. The student must be enrolled full time for the coming year.

Complete the following:

Full Name of applicant ___________________________________ Date of birth _______________________

Telephone number _______________________ E-mail address ____________________________________

Home/mailing Address _________________________________________________________________________________ (Street address, City, State, Zip code)

Name of parish_____________________________ Priest _________________________________________

Parish address ____________________________________________________________________________

Priest’s e-mail ____________________________ ECW scholarship received before? When ______________

Name of high school /college/seminary attended last semester ______________________________________

Last semester’s Grade Point Average______ Year in high school/college/seminary____________________

Number of adults & children in family ______ Number in college (including parents and self)_______________

College (applied to or returning to) ____________________________________________________________

EFC from FAFSA Student Aid Report (SAR) ____________________________________________________

Parents’ Gross Adjusted Income (IRS) (signed) ____________________________________________________

Student’s Gross Adjusted Income (IRS) (signed) ___________________________________________________

Signature of Applicant ______________________________________________ Date ___________________

Signature of Parent/Guardian _________________________________________ Date __________________

The following must accompany this form:

---a letter of reference from the church Rector or other clergyman (give referees plenty of time!)

---a letter of reference from the school guidance counselor or a teacher

---a letter of reference from a third party not in the family

---an official transcript of grades

---a copy of page 1 of the SAR letter

---a (SSN blacked out)

---an essay explaining (a) why the applicant seeks the scholarship and (b) his/her educational goals

---a list of school, church, community activities and jobs including the hours devoted to these activities ---if this is the second Elise Holladay Scholarship, up-date the letters of reference including priest at campus ( (college town) chapel (church) and up-date the official transcript showing the college courses ---a list of other scholarships received for the coming year including amounts

Only complete applications will be considered and must be postmarked by Thursday, April 26, 2018 for the student’s appli-cation to be considered for the fall semester. A student may receive funds twice. Questions? Call (757) 650-8809

Send the complete package to the attention of: Tia Morings ECW Scholarship 2031 indian Point Rd. Suffolk, VA 23434