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• SERVICE: STORIES FROM GUAM’S SUPPORT GROUPS • JUDY’S STORY: HOW GRATITUDE KEEPS YOU AFLOAT• EXPERT ADVICE: HOW TO COOK A PERFECT TURKEY

I still have vivid mem-ories of my childhood vacations to Iloilo, my parent’s province in the Philippines. I remember strolling to the beach behind my grandmoth-er’s home on an over-cast day. The way the sun peeked behind the clouds in orangey-grey tones created a visu-al spectacle that made it feel like I was walking into a hazy dream.

Several villagers were crouched over dark sand, gath-ering dozens of mussels. The green shellfish lay in clumps connected by a wiry material, so that when picked up they dangled like grapes on a vine.

Every time I come back from my trips, I expect to reflect on such mental images, but as I’ve matured, I instead return with a deeper sense of grati-tude for my life on Guam.

My late father lived on a very modest farm. On one trip, I arrived with a box at his old home. The contents were to be distributed to relatives in most need. It was humbling to hear how the pants and shoes I sim-ply got tired of would be used to clothe my kin and treats like coffee grounds and candy were going to be divided and sent to family in surrounding towns.

OppORTUNITY SHORTAGE

A lack of opportunity, not ini-tiative or hard work, has pre-vented my relatives, even those with college degrees, from im-proving their lives.

As I conversed with my cous-ins, I noticed how their eyes

reflected a firm resolve to sur-vive, developed from a life of hardship. Lazaro worked as a janitor to support his parents while putting himself through college. His sister Elvira said they sometimes forgo medical attention. When needs arise, however, she pointed out that

they depend upon each other to shoulder the necessary ex-penses.

I realized how my kin’s sup-port system reminded me of the mussel harvest I witnessed in my youth. The shellfish were held together by a wiry bond. If one gets tugged away, it wouldn’t go alone because of its attachment to the cluster.

Similarly, my relatives en-dured their trials by remaining a cohesive unit. Their bonds exemplify how family members should be ready to support one another through thick and thin. Although my financial limita-tions prevent me from help-ing them more than I have, I remain consoled. While my relatives may be poor in ma-terial possessions they’re rich in genuine faith, love and per-severance — qualities that no amount of money can buy.

In closing, we hope you enjoy our gratitude-themed issue. In it you’ll find a wide variety of features from photo highlights of the American Red Cross Red Ball, to inspirational sto-ries about second chances.

On behalf of our team, I want to thank you once again for taking The High Road! Your interest and support contin-ues to be a driving force for us to share community news, in-formative resources and pho-tographs that promote family values and healthy living.

Happy Thanksgiving to all!

Sincerely,

definition: the high road also high·road n. The most positive, diplomatic, or ethical course.

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True riches don’t fill your bank account

By Norman Analista

WHILE MY RELATIVES

MAY BE pOOR IN MATERIAL pOSSESSIONS

THEY’RE RICH IN GENUINE FAITH,

LOVE AND pERSEVERANCE

— qUALITIES THAT NO

AMOUNT OF MONEY CAN

BUY.

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4 | Rides: The new Ford Mustang

6 | Relationships: A Marriage for Three

7 | Community pulse

8 | Dining In:prepare a great holiday turkey

10 | Ask Dave:Financial advice fromDave Ramsey

12 | Fitness

17 | Style:High fashion at theRed Cross Red Ball

22 | On Gratitude:Living a life without despair

24 | Reflections:How the Salvation Armychanged a life

26 | Reflections:Habitat for Humanitymakes a dream come true

28 | Reflections:OASIS helps clients survive addiction

30 | parenting:Being a great dadduring the holidays

32 | Home & Garden

34 | Live Easy: A Time for Gratitude

36 | physically Fit

36 | An Autumn-Themed Floral Arrangement

38 | See Clearly: What is a Lazy Eye?

39 | Social Studies: Islanders talk Thanksgiving

40 | Bright Ideas:Raising a Thinker

Melony Hope James, Francis Earl Garrido, Kristopher (13), Bryce (12), Giana (7), Gravis (4). Sundays are reserved for “family day” in this unit. Whether it be a day at the beach or simply staying at home, the goal is to find the opportunity to do things together. Photography by Rob Tenorio, Expressions Studio.

GROWING HOpE

NEW HOMES. NEW LIVES. NEW OUTLOOKS.

STORIES OF pEOpLE WHO GIVE BACK

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LEARN ABOUT

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Send your questions to Dr. Dave at [email protected] or visit his website www.doingfamilyright.com for tons of great relational help. Get Dr. Dave’s daily marriage and family tips by following him on Twitter - www.twitter.com/doingfmilyright

We know the advice above is true. Two people can succeed better, can help each other, can keep each other warm and can defend each other. What a pow-erful picture of what a strong marriage can be like.

Yet, it’s the braided part that caught my eye.

I can remember when my moth-er first taught me how to braid. I still remember being intrigued how the cords stayed together – how they wrapped around each other and how they were so much stronger than one or even two strands alone. Two cords can’t be twisted together like three can. It’s just not possible. To braid is to weave together three into one. What a concept.

What if there were three in a marriage and not two? Relax, I am not talking about a “three-some.” I am talking about what I have seen work over and over in so many strong marriages. I have

observed a husband and wife agree to braid God into their mar-riage. The couple plus God equal three.

A CORRELATION

At the risk of being controver-sial, I want to address this aspect of marriage because of the signif-icant bearing it has on the suc-cess of the relationship. I want to explain the impact that includ-ing the spiritual dimension in your life as a couple has on the strength and satisfaction within your marriage. Many people have a nostalgic faith — it doesn’t real-ly affect their daily lives and rela-tionships. That shallow inclusion of God doesn’t make their re-lationship stronger. Some have a genuine faith that affects who they are and how they treat oth-ers — especially their spouse. This authentic inclusion of God is when the threefold cord creates a strong and lasting bond.

Stay with me. This commen-tary about the spiritual dimension in marriage is as much a profes-sional opinion as a personal one.

Braiding God into your mar-riage appears to be a good thing. Research is showing that cou-ples with a shared faith and com-mon spiritual values are amongst those that enjoy a longer, more satisfying marriage (see John Gottman et al). Of couples that pray together daily, a mere 1% of them have a chance of ever expe-riencing divorce. How’s that for a statistic? It’s a powerful motivator for braiding God into our primary relationships. If that’s so — why are there still so many marriag-es ending in divorce – even from those with a faith tradition? Re-search also reveals that 92% of couples don’t pray together. Well, that’s the whole picture.

Conclusion: A genuine faith where husband and wife braid God into their lives and pray to-gether daily makes the couple al-most immune to divorce.

WHY IT WORKS

There are many reasons why. A strong and sincere faith is an-chored in truths that shape a marriage. Spiritually committed couples are called to be faith-ful to their vows. Among other things, they should forgive freely, love unselfishly, speak honestly, live faithfully, encourage lavish-ly and clearly put their spouse’s needs before their own. They are warned toward moderation in

drinking and challenged against angry outbursts. What an incred-ible difference just these truths applied would make in a home!

MY EXpERIENCE

On the personal side, I can’t deny God makes the non-ne-gotiable difference in my mar-riage. It was our faith that kept us together when we were on the verge of marital breakdown.

The closer to God you get as in-dividuals, the closer you get to each other.

I also can’t deny what I have observed in decades of counsel-ing. I have yet to see a marriage fall apart when both husband and wife have soft hearts to-wards God. To be sensitive to God means you are sensitive to people – especially those closest to you. So, at virtually every wedding I perform, I challenge the starry-eyed newlyweds that the great-est gift they can give their new life partner is to keep a soft heart to-ward God.

If you want a marriage that is strong and lasts long, you would be wise to look closer at how you might braid God into it. Many have said that our most important relationship is the one with our Creator. Why? Because when sur-rendered to what God wants in a relationship, you become a better partner, parent and person. That was God’s plan from the start. You’ll never regret putting your marriage and family first. ■

A MARRIAGE FOR THREEMAKING ROOM FOR GOD IN YOUR RELATIONSHIp

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“Two people are better off than one, for they can help each other succeed. If one person falls, the other can reach out and help. Someone who falls alone is in real trouble. Likewise, two people lying close together can keep each other warm. How can one be warm alone? A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken” (King Solomon – relational wisdom from 950 B.C).

If you have a positive photo of community interest, send it to [email protected] and we might include it in a future issue of The High Road.

Jean Macalinao has one more reason to be thankful for this Thanksgiving! She is the proud winner of a 2011 Ford Fiesta. Through a series of weekly raffles which started September 4, Macalinao along with 24 other contestants won the opportunity to pick one key from a bowl. It was Macalinao who picked the correct key which opened the door to the Fiesta, on the giveaway date of November 6. Pictured from left to right were officials from Triple J Enterprises, Inc.: Bob Jones, President & CEO, Jay Jones, Vice President, Macalinao, Jeff Jones, Executive Vice President. Back row: Craig Phipps, District Manager, South Pacific, Ford Motor Company, and Mike Temerowski, Sales Manager, Triple J Ford. The promotion was also sponsored by IT&E and Shell.

As part of “Get Smart About Credit Day,” Paul Cruz, Bank of Hawaii Technical Support Analyst speaks to 12th Grade students from Okkodo High School about “Unsecured Credit.” This is an annual event sponsored by the American Bankers Association Education Foundation where local bankers visit classrooms to teach young adults and share with students the “credit facts of life.”

The Guam Parent Information Resource Center (PIRC) celebrated, “National Parent Involvement Month,” In October with a Governor’s Proclamation Signing, Family Conference, Leadership Conference, and Open House. Front (L-R): Bertha Diamond, Parent Mentor; Rhonda Rekdahl, Parent Mentor; and Maryanne Riano, Staff Support. Back (L-R) Marie Wusstig, Resource Coordinator; Louise Camacho, Parent Mentor; Pauline Camacho, PIRC Director; Jenielle Meno, Staff Support; Ashley Babauta, Staff Support; and Iosindo Fuppul, Parent Mentor.

Chef Josef Budde has been the Executive Chef at Grand Hyatt Tokyo for the past eight years and is now a part of the Hyatt Regency Guam. Chef Budde has over 30 years of ex-perience throughout the cu-linary world of Hyatt. He’s credited with managing some of Hyatt’s most respected restau-rants in Hong Kong and Tokyo.

Chef Budde received exten-sive culinary training in his homeland of Germany where he earned certifications in Kitchen Apprenticeship, Military Service Training and a completion of Certification for Master Chef Di-ploma. He successfully opened three Hyatt hotels consecu-tively, Hyatt Regency Cologne, Grand Hyatt Hong Kong and Grand Hyatt Tokyo; all of which continue to be market leaders and profitable.

TECHNIqUE

Whether you use your favor-ite family recipe or perhaps one you can find online, these uni-versal tips will go a long way.

• Use a 14-16 lb turkey which is easier to manage and pre-pare.

• Begin defrosting your turkey for at least two days in the re-frigerator, which will require you to plan ahead.

• Before you start any cook-ing, have a plan in place and ensure all ingredients, tools, and so forth are in “ready to use” form.

• A good brine is essential to baking a moist and flavorful turkey. In cooking, brining is a process similar to marina-tion in which meat is soaked


0 ALL IN THE pREpARATION A great turkey dinner is as much about preparation as it is about cooking, Start preparing your turkey and your cooking area as much as two days before.

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TURKEY DINNERS MADE EASY

A THANKSGIVING MEAL jUST WOULDN’T BE THE SAME WITHOUT A pLUMp, jUICY, TASTY TURKEY. IF THE THOUGHT OF pREpARING ONE SOUNDS INTIMIDATING, DON’T GIVE Up ON THE IDEA. WE SOUGHT THE ASSISTANCE OF A CULINARY EXpERT WHO WAS GRACIOUS ENOUGH TO SHARE A FEW TIpS SO YOU COULD BAKE THE pERFECT TURKEY!

LEARN FROM THE EXpERT 1 Chef Josef Budde of the Hyatt Regency Guam shares his tips for great turkey.

in brine - water saturated or nearly saturated with salt before cooking. Brin-ing makes cooked meat moister by hydrating the cells of its muscle tissue before cooking.

• During the baking pro-cess, be sure to baste the turkey continuously as often as every 30 min-utes.

• When the turkey is done, remove it from the oven, cover it with foil and let it rest for 10-15 minutes before carving, to avoid the loss of moisture.

• When carving, be sure to have a sharpened carving set. Less meat is wasted if the bird is cut properly, and well-cut slices can be neatly arranged on a serv-ing platter. ■

ONLINE ASSISTANCEDon’t get stressed out. Information on preparing a holiday turkey is abundant on the Internet. Here are a few sites where you can find more detailed information on safe turkey handling, cooking tips, carving, and recipes:• http://www.eatturkey.com/• http://www.butterball.com/• http://www.foodnetwork.com/• http://tlc.discovery.com/


DEAR DAVE,

Would you agree that pride is our biggest problem when it comes to debt? — Brian

DEAR BRIAN,

That’s a really interesting question. I think pride is defi-nitely toward the top of the list, but I’d say the biggest cause of debt is immaturity.

One really good definition of maturity is learning to delay pleasure. When you can’t wait to buy the video game, or the car, or the iPhone, then that’s a sign of immaturity. It’s like a four-year-old fussing and whin-ing, “I want it right now!” Give me a break! That kind of stuff makes me sick.

However, pride may be the biggest reason people keep debt. People who walk around worrying about what everyone else would think if they got rid of the big house or the fancy car — worrying that everybody else would think they’re broke — now that’s pride. — Dave

DEAR DAVE,

What’s your rule of thumb about how much your car should be worth in comparison with your income? — Madea

DEAR MADEA,

Great question! My rule of thumb is that all of your vehi-cles—I’m talking about cars, trucks, boats and their Sea-Doo sisters, motorcycles, and any-thing else like this—should not total more than half your annu-al income.

Why? It’s because all of these kinds of things go down in value. You never want half of your income going into things whose value is dropping like a rock. You don’t need a $20,000 car if you’re making $30,000 a year. That’s just stupid. Think about it this way. If you’re mak-ing that kind of money, and I walk up and tell you I’ve got an investment opportunity that will turn $20,000 of your hard-earned income into $12,000

in just three or four years, are you going to take me up on the offer? If you’ve got a brain in your head, the answer’s no!

Now, I’m okay with it if you make $300,000 a year and buy a $20,000 car if you pay cash. That’s like most people running out and buying a Happy Meal. It’s just not a big deal! — Dave

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DEAR DAVE,

I just married a wonderful woman with two children. We’ve talked over our financial situa-tion, and we’re determined to get out of debt within two years. This will mean some big chang-es in our teenager’s lifestyles. How can we break this to them gently? — Dan

DEAR DAN,

Having your wife – who is also their mother – on board with the plan makes a big difference. I think all of you need to sit down and have a frank but loving discussion about the chang-es that are going to come with this marriage for everyone. The kids have to adjust to a step dad being on the scene, just like you have to adjust to a marriage sit-uation where teenagers are part of the package.

Let them know you don’t want to be the bad guy, but that you and mom have been looking at the money situation and things just don’t add up. It also wouldn’t be a bad idea if mom did much of the talking. Let her tell the kids that you’ve both decided it’s time to make the money behave, and this will mean some lifestyle changes.

Listen to reasonable sugges-tions from them, and let them know their thoughts and feel-

ings matter. However, they also need to understand things are going to be different, and this part needs to come from mom. Otherwise, they’re likely to see you as the wicked step dad! — Dave.

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DEAR DAVE,

I just got engaged, and al-ready people are telling us that premarital counseling is a good idea. What is your opinion? — Bradley

DEAR BRADLEY,

It doesn’t necessarily mean that someone thinks you aren’t right for each other when they suggest you think about pre-marital counseling. In reality, I think it’s a great thing, a smart thing, and something every couple should do before mar-riage.

There are four areas in which you and your fiancé should agree before you walk down the aisle. These are; religion, children, parents, and money. Studies show that couples who agree on these issues before marriage have a much better chance of experiencing a suc-cessful marriage and spending long, happy lives together. — Dave ■

Dave Ramsey is a personal money management expert, popular na-tional radio personality and the au-thor of three New York Times best sellers – The Total Money Make-over, Financial Peace Revisited and More Than Enough. In them, Ramsey exemplifies his life’s work of teaching others how to be finan-cially responsible. For more infor-mation visit www.daveramsey.com.

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THE EMOTIONAL COMpONENTS OF DEBT

pRIDE MAY BE THE BIGGEST

REASON pEOpLE KEEp DEBT.


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CLASSICAL STYLE 1 Caroline Sablan, Vice President/Relationship Banking Manager, Bank of Guam, looks lovely in a deep purple, satin, off the shoulder, Roman-style gown.

A. Marilou Lacson, a realtor with Jose Realty showcases a grey evening ensemble with pleated bodice and gem accents.

B. Businessman Jeff Moylan and MaeFe Muyco, Social Worker for Child Protective Services display classic looks. MaeFe is wearing a long, elegant, off-shoulder, evening gown layered with tassels.

C. Patrick Bulaon, Area Manager - Retail & Commercial for Mobil Oil Guam, Marianas & Micronesia is debonair in his tuxedo while his wife Jennifer looks stunning in a plum-colored gown.

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D. Nita Baldovino, President, Rambies Corp., looks like royalty in this sea-green, flowing gown which compliments her skin tone.

E. Agustin Davalos, Citigroup Chief Country Officer for Guam looks suave in a tuxedo while his wife Silvia is in a refined white dress. Chita Blaise, executive director, American Red Cross Guam Chapter is wearing a pink, attention-getting, beaded gown.

F. Lou Leon Guerrero, President, CEO and Board Chair, Bank of Guam is in a sophisticated, satin and lace top paired with a long, black formal skirt. Her husband Attorney Jeff Cook is in a timeless tuxedo.

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A. Mary Macalde, co-owner, 3M Apartment & Housing Rentals, shimmers in a black minimalist dress.

B. Rolly Tomada, Operations Manager/Management Consultant, and his wife Joyce Tomada, Office Manager, of A.T. Tomada & Associates, were all smiles in matching black & white ensembles.

C. Rudy Perez, Creative Editor, KUAM, looks dashing in his tux, while his wife, Suzanne Perez, assistant real estate manager, Guam Premier Outlet, and writer for The High Road has on a black masterpiece.

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She was first diagnosed with the disease in 1992 when she was just 17 years old. Since then, the former Agat resident’s life has been filled with peaks and valleys, gains and deep losses, yet through it all she continues to find solace, happi-ness, and gratitude. This is Ju-dy’s Thanksgiving story.

“I was preparing to go to col-lege and needed a physical exam, that’s how I found out. Initially, I was in denial about having diabetes. For the most part, I kept it a secret because of people’s misconception that you get diabetes from eating too much sugar, but it’s from your pancreas not functioning prop-erly,” she said.

As a result of her diabetes, Judy has had to have laser sur-gery in both eyes for neuropathy and a procedure on her left eye called a vitrectomy. She has also had her fingers operated on to fix a condition called trigger fin-ger release. Unfortunately, her challenges didn’t end there.

TRIALS

In June 13 of last year, Judy experienced one of the happiest moments of her life. She and her fiancé David Vigil exchanged wedding vows before hundreds of family members and friends. “David is a gift from God. It’s like he walked into my life out of nowhere and captured my heart instantly. I cannot imag-ine spending my life with any-one else,” said Judy.

After just a few months of mar-ital bliss, however, Judy was hospitalized for diabetes-relat-ed issues later that year in Oc-

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LIFE WITHOUT DESpAIRGRATITUDE IN THE FACE OF ADVERSITY

By Norman Analista

Those who know Judy Ocampo Vigil can attest to her strong faith and determination to make the most out of life despite the many challenges she has endured from her bout with diabetes.

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“FOCUS ON THE pOSITIVE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE. IN MY LIFE, I THINK

IT’S A GIFT TO LIVE ANOTHER

DAY WITH MY HUSBAND.

ALTHOUGH IT MAY SEEM LIKE THINGS AREN’T

GETTING BETTER, THERE’S ALWAYS A SILVER LINING

BEHIND THAT DARK CLOUD.”

- jUDY OCAMpO VIGIL

tober. At that time, David was deployed to Afghanistan. “The doctors told me that my kid-neys were functioning at 80 percent,” she ex-plained. The military has what’s known as the “Exceptional Family Medical Program” which relocates military families to bases where med-ical care is accessible if their present base doesn’t have the proper facilities. The Vigils were asked to choose a place where they had family and ended up at Nellis Air Force Base in Las Vegas, NV. It was there that the couple received unsettling news. “I underwent further tests for my kidneys, I was in total shock — I had only left Guam for about a month and the functioning went down from 80 to 22 per-cent,” said Judy.

EXpECTING

Amidst all the health issues, in April of this year, the couple was excited to hear that Judy was pregnant — but her pregnancy came with high risks. “The pregnancy went well until the progression of my kidney disease escalated.

We were warned about the complications and the possibility of my kidney function loss being permanent,” Judy explained. “But, David and I were committed to seeing this through. She was the baby we had prayed for and wished for.”

Then on September 7, three days shy of Ju-dy’s sixth month of pregnancy, they lost their baby girl, who they named Dawn Franches-ka Ocampo Vigil. Judy remained hospitalized for her failing kidneys and since then, she has been undergoing dialysis three times a week. And now, Judy must receive a kidney trans-plant. She will be evaluated at the University Medical Center in Las Vegas, NV to be placed on the transplant list.

EMOTIONAL TOLL

The former U.S. probation officer admits that she has felt a wide range of feelings from anger to sadness from her ordeal, but she has learned to cope. “All these emotions have led me to the ultimate feeling of acceptance. I can

only make the most of my situation and contin-ue to pray that it only gets better. I don’t know how I could have ever gotten through this challenging part of my life without the grace of God. Prayer is a powerful tool. I know God will never leave us alone or give us anything we cannot handle.”

Judy offers advice to those who feel they’re going through unbearable hardships. “Focus on the positive things in your life. In my life, I think it’s a gift to live another day with my hus-band. Although it may seem like things aren’t getting better, there’s always a silver lining be-hind that dark cloud. Keep faith and trust in Him.”

Unfortunately, Judy and David will be cele-brating Thanksgiving apart this year. David will be in military training. So, Judy had this mes-sage to share with him and other loved ones. “I am most thankful for my wonderful husband and the life we have together, I’m also thank-ful for the unyielding support of my family and friends. I managed to get through this whole ordeal because of my faith and trust in God and the unending support of my husband. We endured everything together.”

Judy’s dream today remains simple - to grow old with her husband and despite it all; she still has faith in the possibilities. “This dream is a driving force for me to continue to work hard to stay healthy and to live longer,” she said. ■

“I MANAGED TO GET THROUGH THIS WHOLE ORDEAL BECAUSE OF MY FAITH AND TRUST IN GOD AND THE UNENDING SUppORT OF MY HUSBAND. WE ENDURED EVERYTHING TOGETHER.”

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When Anthony Steven McKee finished at 21:13, at a local 5K race, it was good enough to earn him a third place medal in the masters division. “When they called my name, I couldn’t be-lieve it,” McKee says. “That was the first medal I ever received.”

It’s quite an achievement for McKee, who only a few years ago never saw himself partici-pating in any community event, let alone a 5K race. He was con-victed of drug and alcohol-relat-ed charges and served time at the Department of Corrections. He left behind his family, includ-ing his then two-year-old daugh-ter.

While at DOC, he met Dennis Penaflorida who visited the cor-rection facility on behalf of The Salvation Army (TSA). Penaflori-da offered life skills courses and other rehabilitation courses for inmates. Once McKee served his time and was released from the facility, he looked up Pena-florida to ask about The Salva-tion Army’s Lighthouse Recovery Center, which he heard about during one of Penaflorida’s vis-its. McKee felt he wasn’t fully ready to integrate himself back into society and sought Pena-florida’s help through the orga-nization.

“I’m so thankful for The Salva-tion Army, with the staff at the Lighthouse Recovery Center in particular,” McKee says. “They showed me the person who I re-ally am. They took the fear out of me and opened a door for me. Without their help, I don’t think I’d be where I am at today. I probably would still be out on the streets or back in jail.”

After completing a year of vol-untary service for the organiza-tion, McKee found out about a job opening for a Support Spe-

cialist at the facility. Without question, he wanted to work for the same group that helped him get through one of the most dif-ficult times in his life.

Volunteering his time and later working for the organization opened his eyes to the reality of life outside of drugs and alcohol. He has since reconnected with his formerly estranged children. One of his daughters and two of his grandchildren currently live with him. He also was able to buy a vehicle on his own. Most importantly, McKee has been able to stay away from drugs and alcohol completely for sev-eral years.

While on one of TSA’s outreach missions in an underprivileged local neighborhood, McKee felt sympathy for the first time. “We saw families living in houses that were falling apart and chil-

dren that were running around with sores all over their bodies. For the first time in my life, I felt this hurt in me for them. I actu-ally teared when I saw them —

I never teared from that feeling before.”

This year will be McKee’s sixth year assisting TSA. He has par-ticipated in many outreach pro-

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SECOND CHANCESGRATITUDE FOR A NEW LIFE

By Jill Espiritu

HOW THE SALVATION ARMY HELpED ANTHONY MCKEE RECLAIM HIS LIFE

“WE SAW FAMILIES LIVING IN HOUSES THAT WERE FALLING ApART AND CHILDREN THAT WERE RUNNING AROUND WITH SORES ALL OVER THEIR BODIES. FOR THE FIRST TIME IN MY LIFE, I FELT THIS HURT IN ME FOR THEM. I ACTUALLY TEARED WHEN I SAW THEM — I NEVER TEARED FROM THAT FEELING BEFORE.”

McKee

TAYLOR

grams and other community events, including the organization’s annual Thanksgiving feast.

“We are an agency of second and third chances,” says Captain Thomas Taylor, Guam Corps and Micronesia coordinator. Taylor, along with his wife Christina, oversee the Sal-vation Army ministry in Guam, Saipan and the rest of Micronesia.

TSA in Guam provides assistance during emergencies and natural disasters, counsel-

ing for those in financial crisis and for those facing eviction or are homeless. They also as-sist members of the community transition from

homelessness, substance abuse or recent in-carceration. The organization also runs a thrift store and participates in many outreach pro-grams.

Capt. Thomas Taylor also has benefited from the work of TSA before becoming a Corps Of-ficer. As a young boy living in the U.S. main-land, he remembers first learning about the organization when he was in the fourth grade. His parents were recovering alcoholics and unfortunately relapsed, resulting in Taylor and his two brothers being ordered to move to an orphanage. While there, TSA visited the chil-dren, took them to camps and encouraged them to join youth programs.

“They made sure children like me weren’t forgotten,” Taylor says. “I know a lot of plac-es in my life where it could’ve taken a turn, but TSA was there and got me into band, scouting and Boys and Girls clubs, which kept me from doing destructive things.

“My life would be vastly different if not for The Salvation Army,” he adds.

Taylor has a degree in software engineering and business, along with decades of service in the U.S. Army, but has chosen to dedicate his time to the organization.

“There are a lot of things I could do, but it wouldn’t be as fulfilling as the work I’m doing here,” Taylor says.

In addition to his work with TSA, Taylor also is the Assistant Musical Director of the Guam Territorial Band. He is an avid trumpet play-er. Similarly, McKee began running because of TSA. As a client in the organization, one com-munity event he was assigned to was a local 5K where he was tasked to distribute water to runners at a designated water stop.

“Before then, I didn’t know what a 5K was,” McKee says. “When I was there at the water stop, I saw the big group of runners just com-ing by and some getting water. I thought to my-self, wow, maybe I can do that, too.”

At 40 years old, McKee first put on his run-ning shoes and ran in a local race — clocking in at 45 minutes and some seconds – he can’t really remember exactly. He trained for about six months, and shaved his time to about 36 minutes. Another three months of training went by and he was down to 31 minutes. He continued to pour in time for training and com-peting in races of varying distances, including the 13.1-mile Hafa Marathon. With training and more race experience, he then achieved his fastest 5K time – 21:13. That he remem-bers!

For more information, visit www.salvationar-my-guam.org or call 477-9872, or email [email protected]. ■


In order to make ends meet, Gogo, his wife Sue Ann, and their five children had to live in a cramped three-bedroom place. It was a roof over their heads, but it didn’t provide the best liv-ing conditions for their grow-ing children. Even with all the money they would put up to pay for rent, they knew they wouldn’t ever actually call it their own place. Looking to improve their living conditions, they sought assistance from Habitat for Hu-manity.

Many families on Guam live in unsafe, overcrowded or oth-erwise inadequate housing, in-

cluding homes which cannot sustain the typhoons and earth-quakes which are common to the region. To help alleviate this problem, a group of local resi-dents formed the Habitat for Hu-manity of Guam affiliate in 1996, and completed the first house in 1998. Currently, Habitat for Hu-manity of Guam has completed 21 houses, and is working on number 22. These houses are simple, decent, and equally as important, affordable.

MAKING CONTACT

“We heard about Habitat for Humanity over the years through

friends,” Glenn Gogo said. “One day, after taking my wife out to lunch for her birthday, we stopped by to see how we could work together for a house. I re-member telling my wife, there are really only two things that they can say — yes or no. While there, we found out that we were eligible for a Habitat house and after that, things just started to fall in the right places,” he adds.

After assisting with the con-struction of the organization’s 20th house in Yona, Gogo, along with several volunteers, start-ed to construct his family’s Yigo home.

“I’m really grateful for the op-portunity. I never thought that we’d ever build a home … even now I still can’t believe it,” Gogo said.

A NEW HOME CAN MEAN A NEW LIFE

Helping families in need attain their goal of home ownership is one of the many reasons why Christine Gordon, Executive Di-rector of Habitat for Humanity of Guam, chooses to stay involved with the organization.

“When I am driving around the island I see so many families liv-ing in tin shacks and danger-

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HEARTS & HOMESGRATITUDE BUILDS ON HUMANITY

By Jill Espiritu

RAISING ROOFS AND RAISING SpIRITSA couple of years ago, if you told Glenn Gogo that he would be a proud owner of a home, he wouldn’t have believed you. Today, thanks to Habitat for Humanity, he’s living proof that hard work and selflessness can mean no dream is beyond belief.

ous housing conditions,” Gordon said. “Habitat is a way that I can help build com-munities and help families in need. It is very gratify-ing to know that at the end of each day more fam-ilies in need of decent housing on Guam will be on the path of attaining their goal of home ownership.”

One of Gordon’s most memorable encounters with Habitat for Humani-ty was in Alabama over a decade ago after her grandmother passed away. Gordon and her parents decided to donate her grandmother’s property to Habitat for Humanity, knowing that her grandmother would approve in helping a low-income family achieve their goal of home ownership, Gordon said.

Now in Guam, she’s in a position to assist local families in need of ade-quate and affordable housing, like the Gogo family. She also has been afford-

ed the chance to learn more about the island through her work with the or-ganization.

“Habitat has given me an opportuni-ty to learn the rich history and culture of Guam and share in the lives of peo-ple I might not have otherwise. I am truly blessed to be part of Habitat for Humanity for its impact on the island, its people and the Christian founda-tion,” she adds.

A NEW DAY

The Gogo family’s home was com-pleted in December of last year and by mid January of this year, they first turned the key to enter their new home. In the months that the family has lived in their new home, it has re-ceived some personalized touches.

“My wife is a planter now,” Gogo said. “She’s planting flowers, hot pep-pers, vegetables. She’s really enjoying the house. Even my kids — they really love it.” It’s a proud accomplishment for Gogo and his family, who now have a home to call their own.

For more information about Habitat for Humanity, visit www.habitatguam.org email [email protected] or call 647-4667.■

WHAT IS HABITAT FOR HUMANITY INTERNATIONAL?

A nonprofit, ecumenical Christian housing ministry. We seek to eliminate poverty housing and homelessness from the world and to make decent shelter a matter of conscience and action.

To accomplish these goals, we invite people of all back-grounds, races and religions to build houses together in part-nership with families in need.

Habitat for Humanity was founded in 1976 by Millard Fuller, along with his wife, Linda.

Today, we have built over 350,000 houses around the world, providing more than 1.75 million people in 3,000 communi-ties with safe, decent, affordable shelter.

HOW DOES IT WORK?

Through volunteer labor and donations of money and mate-rials, Habitat builds and rehabilitates simple, decent houses alongside our homeowner (partner) families.

Habitat is not a giveaway program. In addition to a down payment and monthly mortgage payments, homeowners in-vest hundreds of hours of their own labor (sweat equity) into building their Habitat house and the houses of others.

Habitat houses are sold to partner families at no profit and financed with affordable loans.

The homeowners’ monthly mortgage payments are used to build still more Habitat houses.

Source: http://www.habitat.org/how/factsheet.aspx

Gordon


“I am so thankful for this pro-gram (at Oasis),” said a client who spoke on the condition of anonymity. “I felt so convicted, yet they’ve accepted me back and are helping me seek treat-ment and teaching me about re-lapse, guilt and shame … I don’t know where I’d be if it weren’t

for Oasis.”

According to the U.S. Depart-ment of Health and Human Ser-vices, close to 7,000 residents of Guam are reported by the local Department of Mental Health and Substance Abuse to be in need of alcohol and/or drug treatment. This roughly trans-

lates to one out of every 28 resi-dents. Although the majority are men, the number of women is not too far behind. Oasis oper-ates a residential recovery cen-ter particularly for women.

Renee, whose last name was withheld to protect her privacy, fell into the web of drug and al-cohol abuse. Through Oasis’ program, she was able to re-connect with her family and live through challenging days with-out having to turn to drugs or al-cohol.

“I am thankful for Oasis and how it helped me grow spiritu-ally,” Renee said. “I am thankful for the second chance God has given me, to better myself and to better my life. I am thankful for my family.”

She adds, “Today, I love myself more and I am more confident to go forward in my life.”

Across the United States, re-covery centers specifically for

women are increasing in num-ber. In a study by the Nation-al Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, fewer women than men drink, but among the heaviest drinkers, “women equal or surpass men in the number of problems that result from their drinking … Female al-coholics have death rates 50 to 100 percent higher than those of male alcoholics, including deaths from suicides, alcohol-related accidents, heart disease and stroke, and liver cirrhosis.”

Although many of Oasis’ cli-ents are recovering drug addicts or alcoholics, the organiza-tion also operates the Second Chance Shop and Ready-2-Work job training center that provides supported employment services for the disabled.

For more information, call 646-4601 or email [email protected]. ■

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NOBODY WALKS ALONEGRATITUDE HELpS RECOVERY

By Jill Espiritu

SURVIVING ADDICTION WITH OASISWhen one feels powerless over a destructive addiction, the road to recovery is harrowing. For those who seek professional help at recovery centers like the Oasis Empowerment Center, they may find that they’re not alone in their struggle to overcome addiction.

“I FELT SO CONVICTED, YET THEY’VE ACCEpTED ME BACK AND ARE HELpING ME SEEK TREATMENT AND TEACHING ME ABOUT RELApSE, GUILT AND SHAME … I DON’T KNOW WHERE I’D BE IF IT WEREN’T FOR OASIS.”

Hafa Adai Norm,When we fi rst met and you described the concept of The High

Road (THR), the concept seemed too good to be true. Then, when it was printed and distributed, it proved to be even better, based on its high-quality design and interesting content! The inspirational and informative articles are great resources for all those who think outside the box and want to be positive and feel good about themselves and those they care about.

The fi rst ad Mandara Spa ran in THR triggered interest in our services, in various demographics we don’t normally reach. Like most businesses, Mandara Spa has a set advertising budget for the year, but I knew I had to fi gure out a way to make sure we were included in the next issues of THR.

THR is a quality publication that sparks interest in a wide variety of readers who will either pass it on to their family and friends or keep it for future reference. It’s great to read a magazine where we all can relate and benefi t in some way. It feels good to always take The High Road!

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1 THE KIDS COME FIRST!

The holidays are for the kids, not you. This does not mean you have to give in and do ev-erything that your ex wants. The most important objective for you to remember is that you are rais-ing children who are going to become adults; you’re not rais-ing children to remain children. They are only going to be little for a few years, and even though it’s hard to imagine, most of their lives is going to be spent as adults. What you and your ex do now will have an impact on them when they are 30, 40, 50 and for the rest of their lives. Every deci-sion you make should be to pro-mote your goal of raising happy, well-adjusted, emotionally stable young men and women.

Now, with that in mind, how do you handle the holidays? Start with a couple of simple guidelines:

• Accept what is so ... or as I like to say, “Done is done.” It’s a simple concept, but we all struggle with it. You are di-vorced. You live in separate households. You may or may not be happy about that, but it is what it is, so now what? Usually it means you are not going to have the kids for every holiday. That’s the way

it is. For some people that is a painful thought, but you can’t change it, so getting upset about it will only make mat-ters worse.

• Accept that you are going to have to divide up the holidays in some fashion. It may be Christmas Eve with you and Christmas Day with the ex, or vice versa. If you live in sepa-rate towns, it may mean that this year the kids will spend the holidays with you and next year they will be with their other parent. Always keep in mind what is best for your

children.

• Recall your fondest memories of the holidays when you were growing up. What did your parents do for you that you still cherish? Why not recreate some of those memories for your children? Perhaps you don’t have the best memories of the holidays. If that is the case, then don’t do what your parents did. Instead, do what you wish they had done.

Here’s how I applied these guidelines to my situation. When my kids were little we simply al-

ternated Christmas Day. I got the kids on the even years and their mom got them during the odd years. It would have been easy to be discouraged on those odd years when I didn’t see the kids on Christmas Day, but that was the agreement and based on the situation, it was fair, so there wasn’t anything I could do about it. Instead of being in a bad mood, we simply celebrat-ed our Christmas on Christmas Eve. On the morning of Christ-mas Eve at my house, when the kids woke up it was just like Christmas morning -- they opened their presents, we had

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A SINGLE FATHER’S GUIDE TO THE SEASON

BE A GREAT HOLIDAY DADBy Len Stauffenger, Esq.

The holidays are here. You love your kids, and you want to be with those little rascals. You want to share all the wonderful experiences that the holidays promise, but you’re divorced—or you are getting a divorce—and you don’t want to share them with your ex. What to do? Here are three tips that will help get you through the holidays:

Christmas breakfast, and we celebrated just as if it was Christmas Day.

Don’t try to match up your family life with the fantasy of “the perfect family.” It’s never per-fect.

2 START SOME TRADITIONS

Start a tradition that they will look forward to year after year. It could be something really easy. For example, we have a silly little ritual in my family that on Father’s Day we make ham-burgers with brown sugar in them. That may not appeal to everyone, but we’ve been doing it for years and the day would not be the same without it. But truly, it’s the little, simple things that make your kids feel special and secure.

Whatever you decide, whether it’s cooking

something unique or something else, make sure to have the kids participate in the pro-cess. It could be as simple as stuffing the tur-key. My kids thought that was “gross,” but in the end they had fun doing it. The key here is to do something with them and be totally with them. Turn off the cell phone and the com-puter; don’t worry about your boss or your re-sponsibilities at work, or the bills, or anything else. Just spend time completely devoted to interacting with them. See if you can find out something about them that you never knew before. Let them see a side of you that they didn’t know before. Tell them stories about you growing up. You can make it fun and meaning-ful by interacting with them.

If you have the energy, I highly recommend a tradition of doing something to recognize how lucky you are. You want your kids to devel-

op an attitude of gratitude. This is one of the most important things you can do to develop a sense of well being and happiness in a young person.

Find out what local charities give out free meals on Christmas and volunteer as servers. You will be amazed at the positive effect it will have on your 12-year-old son when he is pass-ing out mashed potatoes to, “the poor people.” You just need to make a couple of phone calls to find out where these events will be held, then make the arrangements to be there.

• You and the kids help a family in your town that’s in need. Maybe the kids can contrib-ute part of their allowance. What’s important is that they participate. They have to know who it is you’re doing this for. Maybe put the money in a jar. Set a goal that you are going to buy certain things for that family. Just about every city in the country has an orga-nization that collects money and gifts for un-

derprivileged folks during the holidays. Talk to the people who run that charity and find out how you can be a part of it. It doesn’t take any time at all; you just want to set it up in advance so your kids know how they are helping. It makes your kids feel grateful for what they have, and it teaches them some very valuable lessons.

• Recruit your entire extended family into the process. I have a big family. A long time ago we decided we had way too many presents under the tree. We now do something differ-ent. On Thanksgiving we draw names out of a hat, then buy one present -- and one pres-ent only -- for the person whose name we drew. The rest of the money goes to a needy family or a charitable cause.

3 BE AT PEACE.OK, this one’s kind of a cliché, but think

about it. The holidays get really hectic. If pos-sible, do this before the holidays engulf and overwhelm you. Set things up ahead of time so that you and your children genuinely enjoy the holidays. Figure out the schedule of where your kids are going to be, when they are going to be there, and who they are going to be with.

Are you going to have the kids on Christmas Day? Plan what you want to do, plan your little traditions or your big traditions. Make the day a memory that your kids will always cherish. Most importantly, if you are spending the day with them, spend it with them. Don’t let your thoughts go elsewhere. Don’t be distracted by other things in life.

If you don’t have the kids on Christmas Day, celebrate it with them on a different day, and then do something special for yourself on the actual holiday. This will help you to feel OK about the situation.

You are never going to get to do this partic-ular holiday season over, so commit yourself to enjoying it. Whatever your religious affilia-tion is, I am sure your “good book” did not emphasize “shopping.” Don’t let the world tell you what to do. If there is a certain gift that you want to buy and it’s important to you, great! Even the shopping experience itself should be enjoyable, not frantic. Just remember, it is not things that make people happy, it is relation-ships.

Make the holidays what you want them to be. Yes, there are restrictions. You may not have the kids as much as you want; you may not have as much money as you want. That’s simply what is so. Don’t fight the things you have no control over. Remember the “Serenity Prayer,” which goes like this:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”

In other words, if you can’t change it, accept it, and make the best of everything else. ■

Len Stauffenger is an author,

Success Coach and an Attor-

ney. He wrote the book Getting

Over It: Wisdom for Divorced

Parents. Find out more on his

website http://www.wisdom-

fordivorcedparents.com/

DON’T TRY TO MATCH Up YOUR FAMILY LIFE WITH THE FANTASY OF “THE pERFECT FAMILY.” IT’S NEVER pERFECT.

GARDENS ARE MORE THAN jUST A COLLECTION OF GREENERY, THEY CAN ALSO BE AN ISLAND OF TRANqUILITY IN A HECTIC LIFE.

Superintendent Nerissa Bretania Un-derwood, Ph.D. has her hands full as the leader of the Department of Educa-tion. She’s charged with ensuring that the needs of over 30,000 students at 41 schools are met. Despite her busy sched-ule, Dr. Underwood recognizes the im-portance of finding the time to recharge from the demands of her heavy workload. What’s her choice of therapy? None other than gardening!

The High Road paid a visit to her resi-dence in Tamuning where she proved she had two sets of “green thumbs.”

Dr. Underwood was happy to show us her flowering shrubs and home-grown foods including eggplant, basil, and pep-pers. The pride and joy of her quaint gar-den, however, were her papaya trees which were abundant with fruit. She nur-tured them since they were tiny seedlings and they began to bear fruit after about a

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“pLANTS ARE LIKE pEOpLE, THEY NEED CARE AND ATTENTION TO GROW”

year. Some of them had over a dozen pieces dangling over each of their tree trunks.

Dr. Underwood planted papaya because she enjoys eating them in a variety of ways. When they’re still young and green, they can be cooked in a traditional Filipino stew and when ripe, they can be eaten chilled and sliced. She also planted basil which she loves to use fresh in her pasta sauces. And, to add color to her lawn, she added several flower-ing shrubs.

The superintendent’s mom was an avid gar-dener who enjoyed tending to fruit trees and flowering plants. When Dr. Underwood was younger, her mom often tried to convince her to take up the hobby. But, she always shied away from working outdoors where the heat sometimes became unbearable. Over the years, she found the pleasure of connecting with the natural environment and eventually decided to grow her own plants - but under her own terms. She gets up at 4 a.m. to water her plants and pull weeds while the weather is still cool!

Dr. Underwood had this to say about her experience with gardening. “Plants are like people, they need care and attention to grow. But, if you give too much of that, you can smother them. There’s a time and a season for everything.” ■

HOW TO GROW pApAYAS

You too can enjoy a fresh supply of papayas – whether you intend to pickle them, put them in a stew, or eat them ripe and chilled. All you have to do is make the effort to grow your set of trees, wait about a year, and you’ll be ready to go!

FOLLOW THESE STEpS:

• Gather the seeds from a ripe papaya and wash them thoroughly. There is a jelly bag that covers each seed that must be removed completely in order for the seeds to grow.

• Dry the seeds in a cool place.

• Plant five seeds to a hole with no compost or manure. Make sure they are planted in loamy soil in a well drained area. Fertilizing the seeds this early will kill the seedlings. Be sure to keep the plants moist as they grow.

• Separate the male plants from the female plants. The male pa-paya plant bears no fruit. Determining the male papaya from the female can only be done when the plants begin to flower after

several weeks. Female flowers are larger and grow closer to the branch than male flowers. If you are growing multiple plants save a few males for pollination, if not, discard them.

• Fertilize the growing plant with a bucket of compost or manure every other month. Do not apply chicken manure to trees young-er than two years. It will burn young papaya trees.

• Prune the plants as they grow so they do not become too tall. This also encourages branching. In about one year they will be mature enough to begin bearing fruit.

TIpS & WARNINGS

• Papaya trees grow best in hot weather with a lot of sunlight so plant seeds in an area free of shade.

• Keep a succession of plants to ensure a steady crop because papayas are a short lived plant and the younger ones produce more fruit.

• Papaya plants are susceptible to rotting if they’re over-watered. So, plant them in a well-drained area.

Source www.ehow.com

SURROUNDED BY pLANT LIFE 1 Dr. Nerissa Bretania Underwood and Dr. Robert Underwood, President of the University of Guam, enjoy spending time in their garden. The UOG president recently planted a soursop sapling in their yard as well.

I think with all the stresses of this season, and the expec-tations of our society, we often feel that we must give expen-sive gifts and throw lavish par-ties and cook up incredible amounts of food and drink.

It’s easy, with all this going on, to forget the true spirit of this season.

I had a talk with my kids about how we shouldn’t think the hol-idays are all about getting gifts. How we should try to find other ways to celebrate, and get more into the spirit of giving. I’ve been reflecting on this a lot re-cently, and while none of this is anything original, I thought I’d share a few of my thoughts.

A TIME FOR GRATITUDE

Thanksgiving often becomes a day of overeating more than anything else, but what I love about it is that I get to get to-gether with my family. I see grandparents and parents, cousins and aunts and uncles and nieces and nephews and half-siblings — people I see only intermittently throughout the year, not enough to be hon-est.

We get together and catch up and share our joys and sorrows. Yes, we overeat. What should Thanksgiving really be about besides family and friends? It’s about giving thanks, and too often this fades into the back-ground of the holiday.

So I’d like to take a moment to give my thanks, briefly:

I am deeply grateful for my wife, Eva, and my kids (Chloe, Justin, Rain, Maia, Seth and

Noelle) … I love them all, and everyone else I’m lucky enough to call my family.

I am truly, truly grateful to all of you, my readers, for your con-tinual encouragement on my blog, for making my dreams of doing something I’m passionate about come true.

I am blessed to be healthy, to have a great job, to have all my needs and desires fulfilled, to live a simple and joyful life.

What are you grateful for? Take this time and all through the holidays, to cultivate the gratitude habit. It can change your life.

A TIME FOR REFLECTION

I also like to remember to take this time to reflect on my life, the year so far, and the direc-tion I’m headed in. It’s a great time to take assessment, to ad-just as needed, to figure out what you want to do in the up-coming year. I like to use this time, also, to simplify my life. To remember what’s essential, to eliminate the nonessential. I like to get rid of stuff that’s ac-cumulated throughout the year. Eva and I also help the kids go through their closets to make room for the crazy amounts of stuff they’ll be getting in De-cember.

A TIME FOR CELEBRATION

While I know some of you are not Christian, for those of us who celebrate Christmas this season is really about celebrat-ing Christ, as well as all that He stands for. The rest of you, I know, have other reasons for celebrating, religious or not.

I think this act of celebration is important, because it helps us to remember what’s important, and brings joy into our lives. It spices up life, and who doesn’t need a little merrymaking in their life?

I think it’s important to find ways to celebrate without hav-ing to spend tons of money. Christmas and the other holi-days you might celebrate are not about getting deeply into debt. If your family usually spends a lot of money to cele-brate the holidays, it might be

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By Leo Babauta


The holidays are a time of celebration for many — good food, lots of parties, gift-giving, family and friends, but they can also be a time of mass consumption and hyper-consumerism.

TAKE THIS TIME AND ALL THROUGH THE HOLIDAYS,

TO CULTIVATE THE GRATITUDE HABIT. IT CAN

CHANGE YOUR LIFE.

a good time to have a talk and see if there are other ways that you can be merry without a cred-it card.

SOME IDEAS:

Volunteer for charity. We do this with our kids, from Salvation Army bell ringing (plenty of fun because you sing carols and give people candy) to cooking and serving food for the homeless. It teaches the kids a lot about giving, and warms your heart to help others.

Do something nice for peo-ple you love. Wash their car, do chores or errands for them, baby sit so they can go on a date, cook them their favorite dish or treat,

help them with a project.

If you have money to burn, give it to someone who needs it more. Donate to a good cause.

ON CONSUMERISM AND ALL THAT jAzz

I’ve mentioned consumerism a few times now and I think I should say a few words about it. First, let me start by saying I am in no way immune from con-sumerism — I am a part of it just as much as anyone else, and so I criticize it from within the sys-tem, not the outside.

What’s consumerism? Essen-tially, it’s equating happiness with material goods. Buying to

bring happiness and solve prob-lems. Spending more and more — and earning more and more to support the spending — in order to realize the dreams given to us by advertising and a con-sumerist society. It’s good for the economy but bad for the in-dividual. We end up in an end-less cycle of spending and debt and working more and more, and end up with lives filled with goods but empty of meaning and happiness.

Well the simple solution is to stop spending, to find other ways to give and to celebrate. But often that requires some changing of deeply-held tradi-tions, and some uncomfortable discussions among families and

friends. It means agreeing to do things differently, and perhaps being seen as a weirdo for doing so.

It can be done. We just need to realize that this season is not about buying stuff. It’s about cel-ebrating, giving, spending time with family, reflecting, and grat-itude. ■

Leo Babauta is the author of The Power of Less and the creator and blogger at www.zenhabits.net, a Top 100 blog with 175,000 subscribers — one of the top productivi-ty and simplic-ity blogs on the Internet. It was recently named one of the Top 25 blogs by TIME magazine. Babauta is a former journalist and freelance writer of 18 years, a husband and father of six children.

THIS ACT OF CELEBRATION IS IMpORTANT, BECAUSE IT HELpS US TO REMEMBER WHAT’S IMpORTANT, AND BRINGS jOY INTO OUR LIVES. IT SpICES Up LIFE, AND WHO DOESN’T NEED A LITTLE MERRYMAKING IN THEIR LIFE?

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The list of athletes and or-ganizations that use the elas-tic therapeutic tape is long and impressive; Lance Armstrong, David Beckham, Serena Wil-liams, participants in the NFL, NBA, and MLB. As shown on Olympic broadcasts, the major-ity of the teams attending both the Winter and Summer Games use it.

Kinesio tape is a flexible tape applied directly to the skin that moves with the body. It can be used several ways.

HOW IT WORKS

When applied over a mus-cle spasm or a strained mus-cle, the tape can be stretched so that it will either relax or stim-ulate the affected area. Kinesio tape can be applied over areas of swelling to gently lift the skin to allow for rapid drainage to the lymphatic system. The de-creased pressure on the pain sensitive nerve endings has been said to help reduce the pain. This allows the athlete or patient to avoid the use of pain medication and anti-inflamma-tory drugs.

Kinesio tape is waterproof and can be worn over several days to give continuous relief. It’s being utilized outside the sports world as well. Kinesio tape has been shown to provide some benefit for common conditions such as; lower back pain, carpel tunnel syndrome, whiplash, and other common injuries. The tape is cut into strips and applied to the

skin in a spiderweb-like design to disperse swelling away from the injured area.

I often will use Kinesio tape on my achilles tendon after a long run and the relief is felt within 10 minutes. If I’m going to be in a longer race such as a half marathon I will tape my lower leg muscles to inhibit the muscles so they don’t pull on my achilles tendon during the race.

Kinesio tape was developed in the 1970s by Dr. Kenzo Kase a chiropractor practicing in Japan. He designed the tape with a tex-ture and elasticity that is very close to that of human skin to allow for support but not re-strict the range of motion like the common white sport tape used in the US. The end result of years of research and testing was a tape that is used for the following:

• Re-educate the neuromuscu-lar system

• Reduce pain

• Enhance performance

• Prevent injury

• Promote circulation

To be certified to apply Kine-sio tape a practitioner must first attend three symposiums and then pass a final exam.

Dr. Gregory Miller is a chiro-practor with 28 years of experi-ence and is a Certified Kinesio Tape Practitioner. He can be contacted at 637-7926. ■

DEAR DR. FITzSIMMONS,

When I was a kid, my mom told me that if I stretched im-mediately after I woke up, it would promote growth in my body so that I could get taller. It sounds like it could be a Fili-pino superstition, but if there’s some truth to it, I want to know so I can get my kids into this practice. Thanks!

– Renee

HI RENEE,

Bone growth comes from a part of the bone called the growth plate. Stretching does not make the bone grow any faster or longer. The best way to ensure growth is for children to eat a healthy diet that in-cludes fruits, vegetables, lean protein, and dairy products. This will give all of the vitamins and minerals that the growth plate requires to grow effec-tively.

Impact exercise (such as sports with jumping) can in-crease bone strength, but will not cause an increase in height. The increase in bone strength may be particularly helpful in young females. The bone a young girl makes is the bone she will have for the rest of her life. If a girl is able to make stronger bone when she is younger this could the-oretically prevent hip fractures

when she is older (elderly fe-males are at a higher risk of hip fracture than males).

Stretching is helpful in other situations. It is most useful be-fore participating in sports to help prevent injury and po-tentially improve performance. There is evidence that pre- participation stretching is ben-eficial for reducing muscle strains, such as a pulled ham-string. Because of this I would recommend a warm up with stretching before participating

in athletic events.

Thank you for your question,

Dr. Sean Fitzsimmons ■

Sean Fitzsimmons, M.D. has com-

pleted an orthopaedic surgery resi-dency at Mount Sinai Hospital and an orthopaedic sports medicine fel-

lowship at Lenox Hill Hospital, both in New York City. Dur-ing his fel-lowship he worked with the New York

Jets, New York Islanders, and Division I and II college soccer and basketball teams. He has training in the latest arthroscopic treatments for shoulder problems and knee ligament recon-structions. His office is in the Guam Medical Plaza in Tamuning.

If you have any questions for Dr. Sean Fitzsimmons, you can send them to [email protected]

By Dr. Gregory Miller

TApE MIGHT HELp SpORTS RECOVERY

CAN STRETCHING MAKE A CHILD GROW TALLER?

ASK THE BONE DOCTOR

THANKS TO ITS WIDE EXpOSURE DURING THE BEIjING 2008 SUMMER OLYMpIC GAMES, KINESIO TApE IS NO LONGER jUST KNOWN TO THE ELITE STARS OF INTERNATIONAL SpORTS.

“THE BEST WAY TO ENSURE GROWTH IS FOR CHILDREN TO EAT A HEALTHY DIET THAT INCLUDES FRUITS, VEGETABLES, LEAN pROTEIN, AND DAIRY pRODUCTS.”

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YOU WILL NEED:

• A medium sized pumpkin.

• An assortment of flowers. You can use your favorites, but the ones shown in this arrange-ment include: Hydrangeas, orange and deep red roses, zinnias, hypericums and red berries.

• All flowers were chosen because they compli-ment the bright orange hues of the pumpkin vase.

• Assorted foliage. We used cypress and mag-nolia leaves.

• A round container and foam

INSTRUCTIONS:

Step 1: Carve out a hole from the top of the pumpkin that will fit the size of your tray.

Step 2: Secure the foam to the tray and begin arranging the foliage and flowers in order of size. So, Hydrangeas go first, followed by the roses and so forth.

Step 3: Fill in any gaps with the smaller flow-ers and foliage wherever accent color is needed.

Step 4: Place the arrangement on top of the pumpkin hole.

Step 5: Display this arrangement on your feast table, mantle, receiving room or anywhere you want to make an instant holiday impression. You can add additional accents like small gourds or candles.

Floral arrangement by Jojo Sy-Quimsiam of Diana’s florist.

Photo Credit: Eugene C. Herrera

AN AUTUMN-THEMED FLORAL ARRANGEMENT WILL BRIGHTEN Up ANY HOLIDAY FEAST! IN THESE SHORT AND SIMpLE STEpS, WE’LL SHOW YOU HOW TO CREATE A pIECE THAT YOUR FAMILY AND DINNER GUESTS WILL AppRECIATE.

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In August I dis-cussed screening for various eye condi-tions in children, one of which was strabis-mus, when the eyes are not aligned with one another. Again, if this is seen in chil-dren, an immediate referral to an ophthal-mologist is warranted.

Adults can also be affected. In lay terms, this is often referred to as having a, “lazy eye,” or being, “cross-eyed.” Either eye or both eyes may be affected, and the eye may turn inwards towards the nose, or out towards the temple.

Strabismus in adults has many causes. Up to 4% of adults may be affected to some degree, and often times it’s not ever notice-able or only noticeable at cer-tain times. Medical illness such as diabetes or cardiovascular disease, head trauma, and pre-existing strabismus from child-hood are all contributing factors. If strabismus develops as an adult, the individual may expe-rience double vision. If the mis-alignment started in childhood, it’s common for the individual to have developed a compensato-ry, “on and off,” switch to one eye or the other.

THE LAzY EYE

In one form of adult eye mis-alignment, commonly referred to as “lazy eye,” one eye will in-termittently drift outwards. With attention and effort, the indi-vidual can correct the misalign-ment, but it can be worse at the end of the day, or with eye fa-tigue. While it may only happen infrequently at first, as years go by it can occur more frequently and start to become a nuisance to the individual. Eye “exercis-es” may be helpful in this form

of strabismus, and in more se-vere cases, surgery is a treat-ment option.

IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH INTELLECT

There is a social misconcep-tion or assumption that a per-son who is cross-eyed may have an intellectual disability. I cannot stress enough: strabismus has absolutely nothing to do with a disability of intellect. However, living with strabismus can have noticeable effects on the individ-ual as the condition can interfere with normal social interactions. As such, they may be treated differently by others. They may avoid eye contact and be per-ceived to have low self-confi-dence. Because this can be a barrier to good communication, it can also affect occupational opportunities or advancement.

“WHICH EYE AM I SUppOSED TO LOOK AT?”

It can be very disconcerting when you interact with a per-son with misaligned eyes. Mak-ing eye contact with someone is an automated interaction which we do hundreds of times a day without thinking about it. In re-

ality, people are very sensitive to other individual’s eye posi-tions, particularly when the eyes are not looking in the same di-rection. We often recognize im-mediately that something looks different, but sometimes are un-able to figure out what it is. Peo-ple often wonder, “Which eye am I supposed to look at?” but are very afraid to bring anything up with the person. There’s also a curiosity factor – the natu-ral inclination is to want to look without being disrespectful.

It should not be an anxiety-pro-voking experience. Remember, the individual has probably been dealing with this for a while, and the best thing you can do is not act abnormal. If it helps, pick one eye to look at, or look be-tween the eyes or at the person’s nose or mouth. Alternatively, it may help to simply ask the in-dividual.

TREATMENT

Some people with strabismus do not know there are surgical treatments available to them. By operating on the muscles of the eyes, they may be partially or completely adjusted to achieve a normal alignment. At one time it was thought surgery to correct strabismus was only effective in

children. Recent studies have determined this is not the case. There are both functional and psychosocial benefits to surgical correction.

Functional benefits include improvements in depth per-ception, stereopsis, and visual fields. Perhaps more important-ly, studies have shown patients feel surgical correction signifi-cantly improves how they per-ceive their social interactions, job-related concerns, and the future potential limitations that may have been caused by their condition.

As with any surgical proce-dure, there are risks and poten-tial complications. The decision for surgery should be made with the patient’s ophthalmologist. Most general ophthalmologists can perform straightforward strabismus surgery, but more complicated cases may require a referral to a strabismus spe-cialist.

In adults, this is generally not considered a cosmetic proce-dure, but patients should verify with their insurance companies if this would be covered. ■

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UNDERSTANDING AND CORRECTING A CURABLE CONDITIONWHAT IS A LAzY EYE?

By Peter Lombard, M.D.

Peter Lombard, M.D. comes from a family with strong medical ties to Guam. He is a Lieutenant Commander in the

US Navy and was recently assigned to Naval Hospital Guam as the only military ophthalmolo-gist on the island. He attended the US Naval Academy for undergradu-

ate training, and completed medical school at Johns Hopkins University. The statements expressed here are his own and do not necessarily represent the views of the US Navy or US Government.

Q: Besides turkey or ham, what is a “must-have” item on the Thanksgiving menu?VALDEz: My sister’s famous baked sweet potato. It takes time to prepare this dessert and we only get to eat this once a year so it is a treat for everyone and we all look forward to it. She makes it so special with all the trim-mings on top such as cheese, brown sugar and marshmallow. The aroma is really inviting as the toppings melt when she takes it out of the oven. Yummy!

MALAGA: Our thanksgiving meal isn’t complete unless we

have dessert, so we make a va-riety of ice cream pies. Everyone takes a part in making their pies with their preferred ice cream flavor. We even have a contest on whose looks and tastes best and then that person gets brag-ging rights for the whole year!

SABLAN: Well, I would say that Bisteak Chamoru with peas and achote are must haves! You can’t forget about the spicy Kim Chee noodles, and Beef Kelaguen too!

VALDEz: In our family, this celebration lasts all day long until it is time to go to bed! The best part about it is the entire family does things together like preparing the food, praying, celebrating and cleaning up when it is over. My whole family and I cherish this occasion. We believe the real and true mean-ing of this day is to thank the Lord for all the good things and blessings He has given us.

MALAGA: I think the best and unique part of our Thanksgiving celebration are the games we put together for the children. We actually incorporated Easter traditions into the celebration

and have a Thanksgiving Egg Hunt. The adults have great laughs seeing all the kids com-pete with each other to look for the eggs with money and candy

in them. Just watching how the children are so carefree and enjoying themselves make us remember how blessed and thankful we are. After all isn’t

this what Thanksgiving is all about?

SABLAN: Well, growing up, it was taboo not to attend the three to six family gatherings in one day! All the food was made from scratch, real soul food, which made it even more delicious. Nowadays people are becoming more modern-ized and make reservations to go to a hotel or restaurant, and all the family members would just meet up. It’s less hassle for all, but also less meaningful. I prefer the home-cooked meal. It’s easier to mingle with each other and the food tastes so much better!

SOCIAL STUDIES: THANKSGIVING EDITION

OUR PANELA. Alma Valdez SungaBusiness Manager, Triple J Auto Group.

B. Liza MalagaCo-Owner, Video Queen Café in Agat.

C. Marc SablanMusic, Band and Choir Teacher, Oceanview Middle School.

EVERY MONTH, we invite everyday islanders to have an unfiltered conversation about the topic of the day.

Here’s what they said.

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“All the food was made from scratch, real soul food, which made it even more delicious” - Marc Sablan

“Everyone takes a part in making their pies with their preferred ice cream flavor.” -

Liza Malaga

This is often called critical thinking. Too often in school, children are expected to dic-tate answers and not question or think about what is taught. As a teacher I have had many stu-dents at all grade levels that did not know how to express their own ideas and instead wanted to express mine. When I asked them to write what they thought or felt, they would become very uncomfortable about expressing their opinions. They would often ask for my ideas or opinions, as if I had the only right ones. Part of the blame for this should go to the schools. Traditional educa-tion does focus on rote memory more than analysis and synthe-sis. However, as parents we play a huge role in how our children learn to think and express them-selves. To have a strong soci-ety, we must have a community of thinkers. Many atrocities have occurred because no one ques-tioned authority. Whereas, all innovation has come through ex-ploration of ideas, thoughts, and feelings. As parents the steps to developing a critical thinker are quite easy and simple to imple-ment even with young children.

RESpECT

First respect your children for the individuals that they are. They are not mere extensions of you. They have their own likes and dislikes, as well as their own experiences. Respect their opin-ions and give them opportunities to express them when appropri-ate. Children who are confident are much less likely to be affect-ed by peer pressure. Let them decide (within reason) what is right. Give them room to make their own decisions and own mistakes. With my own chil-dren even as toddlers I would

give them the opportunity to make some decisions. For instance, I might ask, “Do you want to use the blue cup or red cup?” or “Do you want to wear your pink shoes or white?” These little things give the child a sense that he can make decisions and his opinions matter.

END CRITICISM

Second, don’t criti-cize. Chil-dren who are criti-cized as a form of pun-ishment tend to shut down and feel they have failed. Criticism invites low self esteem and does noth-ing to foster learning from mistakes. For instance if my son fails a test and I say to him that he is lazy and that I don’t know how I raised such a lazy boy, I have done nothing to help him learn from his mis-takes. Instead of criticizing him, I can use this as an opportunity to ask him: “Why does he think he did poorly?” and “What can he do next time to get a higher score?” We can brainstorm solu-tions and then after the next test

discuss if they worked.If the solu-tions didn’t

work, we can then

formu-late new

ideas for ac-com-

plishing the goal.

This goes for opinions

as well, when

you disagree, don’t criticize or put the other person down. In-

stead, explain why you dis-agree and give your child a

chance to do the same.

UNDERSTANDING

Next, teach your children to re-spect diversity. As we celebrate Thanksgiving, we are reminded

of the original colonists and their struggle to make it through the harvest. Still, we often forget it was the help of the Native Amer-icans that led to this first sup-per. We are all very different and children need to be taught that different is not better or worse, only different. If we encourage our children to learn about other cultures and ethnicities, then our well informed children will re-spect other people’s values as well as their own.

A NURTURING HOME

Lastly, establish a nurturing environment. Children thrive in homes where they know they are loved and respected. Re-mind them every day that you love them and support them. Give them praise when warrant-ed. Encourage children to be responsible and to think for themselves, and to consid-er the reasons for the rules. Not just the rules. Don’t be afraid to apologize when

you make a mistake. Let your children see that you too are human and can learn from your mistakes. By nurturing critical thinking in our children, we help them to become confident in themselves. This confidence prepares them as they enter adulthood to make good choic-es, because you have taught them how. ■

Deane Jessee-Jones lives with her husband, Jay and three children: Jake, Jenna, and Jeremy in Mangilao. She works as an Educational Thera-pist and Consultant for Brain Builders Guam and Saipan. Send questions or comments to: [email protected]. For more information on training programs available in Guam and Saipan go to: http://guam.processing-

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